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    Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    When you are in a long term relationship with someone do you prefer it to be monogamous or a open relationship?

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Couldn't do a monogamous relationship. I'd get bored.


    Seriously, I've had open relationships. It was fun for the time being. I'm ready to go back for a monogamous relationship.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Monogamous without a doubt, couldn't imagine it any other way.

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    an open relationship is just another way of saying "you will do until something better turns up........"

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I'm shocked at the results. I thought this was way more common in the gay community.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I would not be in an open relationship!!! Just for the chance of std's.....

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    I haven't got the energy for more than one partner at a time.

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    Can't survive an open relationship.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    It is my belief that open relationships are dishonest at their core. The couple may be sexually open to others and they may have a relationship of sorts, like roommates, but what they do not have is true love. I do not believe it is possible to completely give someone your heart while withholding your body for your own selfish purposes. True love, romantic love, is an exclusive thing. It includes only two and excludes all others from this very intimate, unique part of our lives.

    For everyone who claims to know a couple who have successfully had open relationships, I wonder how many more relationships have been destroyed by them.
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I blow my nose at your petit-bourgeois notions of sexuality (and bill-paying)!

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    ^ Are you sure it's not because of your wide open anatomy?

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I would prefer Monogamous but I have such low sex drive. I think If I had a boyfriend would get really bored of me and go find sex some where else. I don't mind open relationships though.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Couldn't do an open relationship, I'd get jealous.
    Quote Originally Posted by Misaki View Post
    Monogamous without a doubt, couldn't imagine it any other way.
    What they said. Anything outside of monogamy opens you up to a whole bunch of nasty and hurtful things...


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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by genthree View Post
    an open relationship is just another way of saying "you will do until something better turns up........"
    A monogamous relationship is just another way of saying "I can only keep this relationship alive by making sure you don't fuck anyone else"....

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I've never been in an open relationship, so I'm not sure how I'd react.
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    When you would give your life for someone, it changes your priorities somewhat. It implies you would leave no stone unturned in a quest for his happiness. If there were a threesome under one of those stones, so be it.

    I have yet to discover, or even really imagine, a situation where after thinking things through it would actually serve his happiness, mine, and the other guy's. I don't see it happening.

    But when I got to know my guy, I wasn't just attracted to him "as a possibility." I felt compelled to let him know he was the one, and the place in life at my side was his for the taking. It was a necessity to at least make him that offer, regardless of whether he wanted to accept it or not. I felt I would have been committing an injustice if I had not let him know my feelings unconditionally.

    So like all matters with my guy, if something seems necessary, then yes, I'd consider it without a second thought. But really, monogamy is working very well for us.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I remember reading about a study from San Fransisco on open relationships for gay males. The results was about 50/50 if I remember correctly.

    You could argue that the culture of the area makes it higher than in other places. But I have a hard time believing the difference can be as high as 10 times between areas.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Open relationships are a cop out IMO. People open the relationship because they can't make the relationship work and it is findamentally deficient. So...just no to them!

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I prefer the idea of an open relationship, but I don't think it really counts as a proper relationship. I have been in a monogamous relationship with the other gender briefly. Got bored very easily, open relationship would've been much better.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    ^I disagree because an open relationship is by definition a form of relationship. I wouldn't say it's proper or improper. But the point is in most cases it fails. Sooner or later one of the original persons gets pissed off and it ends the original relationship. My thinking is that 99% of the time it could have been avoiding by better vetting the boyfriend for ltr potential during the dating process. Saying that people open the relationship because "they need sexual stimulation" doesn't cut it. They just didn't do the work in the first place to fix the problem and now they will just use others as a sexual band aid. Flimsy!

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by tombastep View Post



    It may be your "belief" that it is dishonest at its core, but it is not when both of the people in the relationship are honest about wanting it. There is no deceiving when both people agree to it.
    YOu missed my point. I was talking about love, you are talking about sex. The dishonesty is not that they don't hide the outside sex but that they pretend they have true love.
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I prefer an open relationship for me and a monogamous one for my boyfriend....

    But I have certain other requirements as welll.....

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    So I'm guessing not many JUBbers here will be making use of the marriage laws when the activists have finished harrassing the lawmakers to legislate for gays to get married.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    So I'm guessing not many JUBbers here will be making use of the marriage laws when the activists have finished harrassing the lawmakers to legislate for gays to get married.
    So twenty five to two for monogamy which is typically a marriage type thing... that monogamous stuff... yet some how you translate that to lack of desire for marriage? can you give me another translation please cause that one doesn't compute.
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    @ JayHawk

    I wasn't just tallying the poll numbers, I was reading the sentences and reading between the lines.

    The activists are out in the streets demanding marriage but I want to hear their wedding vows. Will they be vowing to 'love honour and obey till death do they part'. And will they open up joint bank accounts? I think not.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    There is a reason why Mormon polygamous cults are fucked up. Open relationships there don't workout as smoothly as they want us to believe. There is constant jealousy, infighting and power-struggles. Serious relationships are best left at monogamous level. Everything else is just people wanting fun without a lot of hard work that goes into serious relationships.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    @ JayHawk

    I wasn't just tallying the poll numbers, I was reading the sentences and reading between the lines.

    The activists are out in the streets demanding marriage but I want to hear their wedding vows. Will they be vowing to 'love honour and obey till death do they part'. And will they open up joint bank accounts? I think not.
    My (heterosexual) parents have separate savings accounts... I don't see how that's a defining part of marriage.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Open relationship = Jerry Springer show in the making.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    @ JayHawk

    I wasn't just tallying the poll numbers, I was reading the sentences and reading between the lines.

    The activists are out in the streets demanding marriage but I want to hear their wedding vows. Will they be vowing to 'love honour and obey till death do they part'. And will they open up joint bank accounts? I think not.
    Actually I know of quite a few folks myself included who have joint accounts, medical power of attorney, wills and all other sorts of legal protections since the mere existence of a relationship fails to guarantee that for me. I see many more folks with quick and short monogamy answers. the folks who seem to have something to say are those who want a open relationship.

    All of that aside if you look at JohnBessler he is typifying the kind of long term security that would still have room for a young tryst. The youngster wouldn't get a damn thing but a proper spanking every now and again... in that situation i can easily see Johan and his mature lover marrying and agreeing to open sex. I think it much more likely you would like to see marriage come along and then no one use it so you could say "Aha!! I am correct"

    Now back to more important things... Bendy... you were asking about a bad touch or two?
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by RaKroma View Post
    There is a reason why Mormon polygamous cults are fucked up. Open relationships there don't workout as smoothly as they want us to believe. There is constant jealousy, infighting and power-struggles. Serious relationships are best left at monogamous level. Everything else is just people wanting fun without a lot of hard work that goes into serious relationships.
    I perhaps should have made it clear that I meant open when it comes to sex, not romantic relationships.

    Comparing that with having multiple wives or husbands is comparing apples and oranges.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayHawk View Post
    …I think it much more likely you would like to see marriage come along and then no one use it so you could say "Aha!! I am co…
    No I'm just comparing it to previous years of activism which was over important life-and-death issues like Aids and decriminalisation.
    I think activism over a vacuous lifestyle issue like gay weddings isn't very good political strategy.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    How about monogamish? I have one female partner and one male partner, and that's all I want. Works just fine.
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    ^ does it works just fine for all three people? Do you have a shared bank account?

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by Geiri85 View Post
    I perhaps should have made it clear that I meant open when it comes to sex, not romantic relationships.

    Comparing that with having multiple wives or husbands is comparing apples and oranges.
    It really doesn't make a big difference--issue of jealousy and mistrust will always linger. I've seen these open relationships in action. Taking your boyfriend out to a club and then that same night hooking up with random guys while telling your boyfriend to get home couple hours later (to give them time to do their thing) does not sound like a model for healthy, lasting relationship to me. They might feel like at least it's not cheating since they're honest about it, but to me one of the person is always hurt on some level with jealousy or tolerates such open relationships for X amount of reasons when they would prefer not to.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Well it is very important for both to agree with what the rules are (and yes there needs to be rules). Also that both are seeking it from the start, not one pressuring the other one to agree with it.

    One of the rules should obviously be that when you go to events together you don't leave with someone else. Another good rule is that you can only have one night stands (not friends with benefits) and that people you you have relations with (friends, co-workers, ex-lovers...) are off limits.

    Im not really speaking for this as a better choice. Personally I only want to be in a monogamous relationship. But I can still see how a open relationship might work better for some. Some simply cant stay monogamous and cheat in every single relationships. Wouldn't it be better for them to simply admit that they cant force themselves into that box and find a partner which has the same needs?

    Perhaps open relationships don't last as long on average. But perhaps the people who seek those relationships dont have a better track record when trying to be monogamous.

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    Monogamous Monogamous Monogamous
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    ^ does it works just fine for all three people? Do you have a shared bank account?

    Actually my wife chose him for me. She adores him and he her, so yeah, it works for all three involved. I don't need access to his money.
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    No I'm just comparing it to previous years of activism which was over important life-and-death issues like Aids and decriminalisation.
    I think activism over a vacuous lifestyle issue like gay weddings isn't very good political strategy.
    I see i think you are missing the forest for the one tree in your way. The right to file joint taxes, equal right and responsibility for our belongings and our debts, medical decision making rights (although after Terri Schivo a person would be a fool to not have a medical power of attorney spelling out their own wishes), joint insurance rates, discounted auto insurance rates, couples offers from companies, Social Security survivor benefits, the list goes on and on and on... EQUALITY sums it up nicely. I am as equal as the next person just because he licks pussy and I lick dick.
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    I'm not here for open relationships.



    Honestly, and I'm not trying to be judgey but there are going to be a lot of lost and broken people in this world (In addition to those already out there) I have seen first hand those that were a part of "hook up" culture try and assimilate with a more "coupled" and "Family" type culture just crash and burn.



    It's so funny to me how I hear about those who had open relationships/Casual hookups/Mindless fucking then talk about how they want the "real thing".


    For their sake I hope they find a guy who likes the fact that they took wild and young to a new level.


    I doubt many men look at a husband and think "Hmm, fourteen gangbangs, yeah, father material"




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    Hmmm were these fourteen gangbangs Daddy/Son fetish type things?
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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by tombastep View Post
    Also, I'd like to add that of course there are people who try to do open relationships and get jealous or they didn't really want that, maybe they were trying to salvage the relationship and make the other person happy. At the same time there are guys who say they want relationships, get into it with a guy then end up cheating on him anyway because that isn't what he really wanted.

    It's not open relationships that are the problem, it is that there are people who just can't handle any sort of relationship or just doesn't want any sort of relationship at all. I think a lot of problems in relationships tend to be because people aren't completely honest in what they really want in a relationship. Or people hop into relationships because being in a monogamous relationship is such a social sigma that is what people think they should be trying to achieve.
    I can sum up my position on it... there's a reason you don't see a whole lot of stable, well adjusted 3-party marriages/living situations among settled people.

    "Can it work".... sure maybe. Will it ever be a major viable option for any big chunk of people to put as a category right alongside single, married, etc.? I doubt it and I think human nature is the reason.

    In your post you said open relationship isn't the problem, but the fact that some people can't handle any sort of relationship. I think you got it part-right. I think people who push most for open relationship ARE people who (for whatever reason) can't handle *a* relationship (singular.) It scares them, it makes them feel trapped, it makes them feel bored, it makes them constantly grass is greener about something they believe they must be missing out on. Something. But ultimately you can chaulk most of them up to "someone who doesn't mix well with a stable long term relationship."

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    Quote Originally Posted by DigitalFudge View Post
    It's so funny to me how I hear about those who had open relationships/Casual hookups/Mindless fucking then talk about how they want the "real thing".


    For their sake I hope they find a guy who likes the fact that they took wild and young to a new level.


    I doubt many men look at a husband and think "Hmm, fourteen gangbangs, yeah, father material"
    Just because you have wild years behind you it doesn't necessarily mean you are incapable of having a monogamous, loving and stable relationship.

    You are being judgmental.

    But sure for some people a past behavior like that can ruin it for them. But its their problem being stuck on their high horse.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    ^ Basically what I was saying was, in short: the rarity with which you see this scenario working is my casual case in point for why I would tend to view it more as a phase, or a way to avoid a breakup, or a way to deal with not really being fulfilled in a relationship rather than doing the actual legwork to either fix that relationship or move on from it.

    I don't disagree that maybe in theory it's possible, but I also consider it an academic point when I really never see it work for anyone in reality. At that point saying it's the open relationship that doesn't work or the wrong kind of people tried to have an open relationship is all kinda moot.

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    A complex question; I love my boyfriend, and the odds of every convincing him to expand our little relationship is next to none. However, I have gone on the record as being slightly in favour of polygamy. I don't like the idea of either of us having our own 'dirty little secrets' that we go to when the other isn't around, but I do like the idea of there being a person or persons that we both spend time with and treat as an equal in the relationship.

    I don't know, perhaps I'm a little odd; I know the boyfriend certainly doesn't agree with that viewpoint.

    However, that said, I don't feel that I'm missing anything either. If we reach a point where he wants to try something like that, then I'm fine with it. If not, then I'm fine with it remaining just us as well.

    I'm sorry to have kept you waiting, but I'm afraid my walk has become rather sillier recently...

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    Re: Which do you prefer? Monogamous or open relationship?

    Never been in any sorta relationship, but would only be interested in Monogamous...

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