Who do you bareback with?

[Laufey]

Who do you bareback with?

Please vote 3 times, once in each category.

Poll is anonymous so please don't lie.

[loki81]

never have.

if I were in a long-term, exclusive relationship with someone and we'd both been tested, I would consider it... but it would require having been exclusive for some time (6+ months, minimum) and obviously I'd have to trust them completely.

I've only ever been in one relationship where I really could have seen it happen, but that boyfriend had no interest in anal sex on either end. (of course, his low sex drive is also what made it easy to trust him... he spent so much time in his office he barely had time for me, much less picking up a stranger at a bar)

[Speeds]

No one.

You shouldn't even bareback with your boyfriend unless you trust him 100%.

[BENDERBOY]

No one............

[Laufey]

No one.

You shouldn't even bareback with your boyfriend unless you trust him 100%.

If you have been in a relationship for months and both gotten tested then it's pretty much a declaration of distrust if you can't bareback at the point. That's how I see it and I'm not sure if I could continue being with someone who couldn't share that trust with me.

In my opinion one of the pro's of a monogamous relationship is that you can have natural skin to skin sex. I can't imagine not doing that ever in my entire life.

Using a condom in one night stands is worth it because of the risks but to be honest it's just not as good as doing it without it.

Of course it is possible to catch HIV from a disloyal partner but I don't wanna live my life expecting something like that and not be able to trust my lover.

[AshyPhoenix]

Only my boyfriend. We're monogamous and neither of us has any desire to boff other guys. Plus, just to be safe, we get tested at least once a year.

[Laufey]

That's cool but why do you get tested if you are monogamous?

[cgymike]

Two people so far voted for one night stands sometimes...this is shocking unless they just voted that on purpose to skew the poll.
Please folks practice safe sex. There is another thread about HIV neg to pos and it isn't a pretty discussion. I believe the official position of this site also advocates safes sex.

[lucky7]

If you have been in a relationship for months and both gotten tested then it's pretty much a declaration of distrust if you can't bareback at the point. That's how I see it and I'm not sure if I could continue being with someone who couldn't share that trust with me.

In my opinion one of the pro's of a monogamous relationship is that you can have natural skin to skin sex. I can't imagine not doing that ever in my entire life.

Using a condom in one night stands is worth it because of the risks but to be honest it's just not as good as doing it without it.

Of course it is possible to catch HIV from a disloyal partner but I don't wanna live my life expecting something like that and not be able to trust my lover.

Why is it so important to you to bareback?

[Coward92]

Why is it so important to you to bareback?

The sensation is different without a condom.
I find it more pleasurable for one, but safety is more important than that.

[AshyPhoenix]

That's cool but why do you get tested if you are monogamous?

That's a good question. I'm not really sure why we do it, but it's something we agreed upon early in our relationship when we started talking about barebacking, so it's just kind of stuck around. I think it has more to do with us being in an open relationship when we first started going out. I never barebacked with any of my fuckbuddies, ever, but I still don't want to risk having something latent coming up and infecting him.

[Laufey]

Why is it so important to you to bareback?

Because the sensation is 10x better.

Something I can settle for with one night stands. But for life? Not a chance.

And even if it wasn't that important to me... the distrust would still strain the relationship.

[medic1]

My Hand...................

[cgymike]

Because the sensation is 10x better.

Something I can settle for with one night stands. But for life? Not a chance.

And even if it wasn't that important to me... the distrust would still strain the relationship.

You see a little too focused on BB...there are so many other things in sex.

[lucky7]

Because the sensation is 10x better.

Something I can settle for with one night stands. But for life? Not a chance.

And even if it wasn't that important to me... the distrust would still strain the relationship.

It's not distrust. It's smart.
And the feeling isn't THAT different

[refujiunderground]

My Hand...................

beat me to it. was trying to learn how to use my finger. even though the beginning part of my asshole felt like i had to take a shit, my middle finger didn't feel as bad as i expected. it didn't help while i was jerking off though.

[Laufey]

You see a little too focused on BB...there are so many other things in sex.

Sure but for me fucking is the main thing and it's not as good with a condom both physically and mentally.

I won't settle for fucking rubber my entire life.

It's not distrust. It's smart.
And the feeling isn't THAT different

You are using a condom for life just in case your lover cheats on you. How is that not distrustful?

And yes it IS THAT different. The sensation of rubber and flesh are very different.

I'm all for safe sex but I think some of you are way too paranoid and taking it too far.

[cgymike]

Sure but for me fucking is the main thing and it's not as good with a condom both physically and mentally.

I won't settle for fucking rubber my entire life.



You are using a condom for life just in case your lover cheats on you. How is that not distrustful?

And yes it IS THAT different. The sensation of rubber and flesh are very different.

I'm all for safe sex but I think some of you are way too paranoid and taking it too far.

Fine...I understand your priority in sex. I don't share your opinion. I can't/won't/don't speak for anyone else on this. Oh yeah and in my view a condom is plenty enough sensitive during penetration though a tad less so than without. But the difference is not significant for me (notwithstanding the risks involved). Again IN MY OPINION.

[CupidBoy]

I wouldn't risk it,, the thought is unappealing to me anyway.

[Just_Believe18]

Boyfriends I have always. Some established FB, and only a couple of mistakes with hook-ups. I've said no to many other hook-ups where the bottom wanted me to top them bareback. It amazes me how bare crazy so many of them get just because I naturally precum enough where I can slide in without any lube.

[TheFireGod]

No one. Not even if my bf is proven to be HIV- and hasn't cheated.

[cgymike]

I would bareback with a fleshjack...no problem...

[Nishin]

Two people so far voted for one night stands sometimes...this is shocking unless they just voted that on purpose to skew the poll.
Please folks practice safe sex. There is another thread about HIV neg to pos and it isn't a pretty discussion. I believe the official position of this site also advocates safes sex.

I voted one night stands sometimes because it happened twice, by accident, one time I didn't realize I was actually inside of him, the other time, bottoming, I was caught in the moment... although bareback ejaculation never occurred.

[Sparky-Sparky-Boom-Boom]

I love barebacking but only in a relationship and after both party are tested.

[JWaggy]

one time I didn't realize I was actually inside of him

[G-Lexington]

I tried it with my partner once. Didn't enjoy it. Went back to condoms.

Lex

[JWaggy]

I answered never for all three. For nearly three years with my ex, we never stopped using condoms. He was faithful, I was faithful and yet it still was never an issue. Because it shouldn't be an issue.

A person's word is not some unbreakable bond and I understand when weakness causes us to fall short of our promises. Then guilt can persuade us to hide certain truths, forget that an indiscretion ever happened. And then you go back to the way it used to be. And at that point, some people's risk turns into a harsh reality.

It isn't paranoia or distrust that calls me to use a condom, it's an appreciation for my own and my partners' health and an acknowledgement that people make mistakes.

[Huntneo(PT)]

My partner.

The sensation is different without a condom.

this is subjective, apparently.

It feels no different to me. And I've had acquaintances say the same.

[Anders123]

I would bareback with a partner or husband, as I have no interest in open relationships and would never get involved with somebody I couldn't trust completely.

Outside of that, I would never.

[G-Lexington]

I guess I should point out that I never considered it a trust issue, either. I just consider it part of the process, like prepping the guy. It never seemed like some sort of awful concession. It's just "Wanna fuck?", "Sure", lube on cock, condom over lube, lube on condom, stick it in, go to town. And neither I nor my partners have ever complained about lack of sensation.

Lex

[tombastep]

I don't run around bare backing or even do it often at all, but I remember when I tried jerking off with a condom on and I didn't even like that. I also lose sensation on my penis when it comes to using lube.

[mbamike]

My best bud Bob. We have been friends for years (think double digits). We talk about every thing and anything. I know his sexual history and he knows mine.

[Coward92]

My partner.



this is subjective, apparently.

It feels no different to me. And I've had acquaintances say the same.

Well... it settles it then
I will only bareback with my husband anyways

[bankside]

I only answered the last question since I have never had a fuckbuddy or one night stand.

I don't understand how to have an orgasm with someone I don't trust. I just don't find it erotic to sleep with someone untrustworthy, and that takes time to reveal. Thus, it's not on my menu.

So yes to bareback with my guy.

[freefall]

The sensation is different without a condom.
I find it more pleasurable for one, but safety is more important than that.

Because the sensation is 10x better.

And the feeling isn't THAT different

I tried it with my partner once. Didn't enjoy it. Went back to condoms.

It feels no different to me. And I've had acquaintances say the same.

Seems we have weirdly interesting placebo/nocebo effects here.

And even if it wasn't that important to me... the distrust would still strain the relationship.

Seems like someone who cannot restrain from future sexual abuse/date rape by the partner.

[Laufey]

Ok when the categories are isolated the percentage is like this:

• One night stands - Always......... 11,5% (3/26)
• One night stands - Sometimes... 11,5% (3/26)
• One night stands - Never............... 77% (20/26)

• Fuck buddies - Always......... 3,25% (4/26)
• Fuck buddies - Sometimes... 3,25% (4/26)
• Fuck buddies - Never........... 93,5% (18/26)

• Boyfriend/husband - Always.......... 54,5% (18/33)
• Boyfriend/husband – Sometimes... 18,2% (6/33)
• Boyfriend/husband - Never............ 27,3% (9/33)

The difference between the 3rd option in One night stands and Fuck buddies is kinda strange don't you think?

[Nishin]

^
Fuck buddies = things planned and prepared
One night stands = more room for randomness and impulsiveness (and alcohol)

[Laufey]

Yeah but I would have thought it's somewhat riskier with one night stands.

Not saying it's not with fuck buddies though.

[Nishin]

Yes, statistically I would suppose that risks are higher with one night stands (complete strangers)
But sex usually doesn't work with logic, the settings where you meet one night stands are more often situations where your judgement may be clouded (alcohol, overwhelming sex drive, contextual mental conditions etc), one may not have condoms and lube in their pockets while they do at home where they meet fuck buddies etc etc

[Laufey]

Yeah makes sense.

[-Callum-]

I went with husbands/always as that's the only situation in which I would actually even do it.

[reone]

I would bareback with a partner, but I don't have sex under other circumstances, so I obviously wouldn't bareback in any other scenario.

[cgymike]

Yeah makes sense.

Why did you post this thread. Just curious not being critical or anything.

[NW007]

I just completed the poll. I would agree that during bareback where the guy cums I don't feel any real difference when he cums with or without a condom. the difference is afterwards when I feel the cum moving around in my ass as I keep it there. that is the hot feeling. The only guy I let cum in my ass was my former boyfriend who he and I were both negative and tested regularly.

[desertboi]

If I were in a long-term relationship with a guy, I would be up for barebacking sometimes. But I definitely wouldn't bareback with a stranger or a fuck buddy.

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I bareback sometimes with all of the above.

Then I get scared and hurry to the free STD clinic...

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I bareback sometimes with all of the above.

Then I get scared and hurry to the free STD clinic...

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I bareback sometimes with all of the above.

Then I get scared and hurry to the free STD clinic...