I like to master guys. So does my housemate who lives with me.
I am more submissive primarily and my housemate (R) is not.
When I slave guys, I would describe myself more as a gentle Master, and as R put it once, I like to "make friends" with my slaves, in a sense that I talk to them in a more friendly matter of fact, manner, and gently slave them overall, and in a way push only when I get their permission in a way. I can push them quite hard though, if I sense that they let me.
R, on the other hand, is, or can be, quite a bit more forceful in domination. He does not care if he pushed slaves too hard or too fast that they have to use a safe work to get out.
So one particular question I have is this:
about a year ago, there was this slave who replied to my scat ad. he was interested, but nothing came out of that. Now, he emails me again and I recognized him! This time he was interested in all sorts of things but no mention of scat. Anyway, I invite him over, ask him for his limits and he says "anything that will not kill me". I probe more -- what about body marks? He tells me "it's really my first time, let's hold off on those". I say okay and away we go into the tieing to the bed.
I had to shit really really really bad by the way and knowing that he was interested in scat at some point before, I though I would break him into it. One of my fantasies once was to have a guy shit on me after I licked that guy's ass.. Anyway that was my fantasy and I though I would try to see if this slave would have a similar one.
So I had this slave smell my ass and was going to ask him to rim me. Guess what I hear? Slave says "I can't, Master". Why not? "it's not hygenic, dirty and I am scared of diseases". So I think oh.. and ask him if he can do if it I wash up. He says yes. I wash up and he licks my ass. Then I ask him about using him as a toilet. He says no. We talk a little more and I have a feeling (don't know right or wrong) that he will not be up for me taking a shit on him. So I skip that experience entirely. And I beat the hell out of him for not pleasing his Master, he sobs, scream-groans and cries from pain and shame.
Now ... R tells me that I could just shit on him without asking him about it. Like at that point where I asked him if he could be my toilet, instead just shit on him right there. And if he safewords-out of that, then so be it. He did not list scat as one of his limits, so just do it on him.
That's where I want some advice. Can I just do that and force myself on someone like this?
My gut feeling told me to not to proceed with this based on all the information I had at the time. But I also see the value of just forcing the guy into a new experience as well, without asking, but although maybe with some kind of a warning, and even if he says no, there room to do it anyway. What do you say?