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    What to say to guys on Grindr?

    I just tried using Grindr for the first time about a month ago. Haven't spent much time there but I keep getting messages from guys, some of them I'm interested in. I haven't got anything besides "hey" or "hi". What am I supposed to reply back to that? "Hey...wanna fuck?" Seems a bit forward...but...it is Grindr...

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    OMG! I now exactly what you mean, man! I hate those one word messages of "hey" or "hi". Be smarter than that. Reply back, "yo, s'up?" There are two words in that sentence!

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    Goober sez "hey!"

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Just reply with Hey, how you going? That should be fine

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    I would say : wanna fuck? -just to the point. Guys unlikely making friendship over Grindr..so a blatant sexual invitation would be ok.

    -----if that's ur first intention

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    "hey, how's it going?" seems standard. Though loads of guys will go for "fuck?", "hung?" or just a picture of their gaping black hole. Those messages will NOT receive an answer.
    ."We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."
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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    I usually stick with the Mark Twain quote "Hey yourself, and see how you like it. "

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    you can respond by saying something like 'you looking?" they will either elaborate on what they want or not reply.

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Quote Originally Posted by secondmonkey View Post
    I haven't got anything besides "hey" or "hi".
    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    I hate those one word messages of "hey" or "hi".
    Quote Originally Posted by treanir View Post
    Though loads of guys will go for "fuck?", "hung?"

    I'm not on Grindr but if anyone ever sent me a message like that, I'd SOOO be tempted to reply:

    "Thankyou for your fleeting and temporary interest in my sexual situation, you may be rest assured that I will inspect your profile with all due diligence and will offer you a reply within the next while, albeit with the caveat that suspicious or creepy activity will most likely garner no response. Have a pleasant day."

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChickenGuy View Post
    "Thankyou for your fleeting and temporary interest in my sexual situation, you may be rest assured that I will inspect your profile with all due diligence and will offer you a reply within the next while, albeit with the caveat that suspicious or creepy activity will most likely garner no response. Have a pleasant day."
    Tl;dr. Dtf?

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Wow - is that the only social app for gays?????

    If you can call it social?

    The jerkoffs from gay.com gaydar etc went to grindr I guess!

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Things that I've actually said to guys:

    - You think the good idea to use your name? [He wasn't using his name. He made it up. We know talk casually

    - I don't know if you know this but it looks like there's a feather on your head. I thought you might be so close the situation that he didn't realize it looked like he had a feather on it. You're so hot

    - I like your photo and (then describe something about the photo that you like)

    - It says that you are 800 feet away from me. Can I ask where abouts you are located?
    (This question has failed when I have asked it three times)

    - I know I don't fit your profile but I just wanted to say hi. I like your photo.

    - You may not know this but the distance text covers our mouth. I Photoshop the photo for him and he has a better photo where the numbers dont cover his mouth

    - Are you on your looking to hook up.

    - I have seen you on here and I think you look friendly in your photo. Im not trying to hit on you in case you think that.

    - Are you here for fun or friendship?.


    - It says that we are 38 miles apart. I'm sorry to hear that they think you're cute.

    - Do you play together? (asking a couple)

    - I thought I let you know that I know that you are using a photo of a porn star and I have reported you (He was using Tom Katt's photo but I dont tell him that. He may not know his name)

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Quote Originally Posted by cgymike View Post
    Wow - is that the only social app for gays?????

    If you can call it social?

    The jerkoffs from gay.com gaydar etc went to grindr I guess!
    These are old photos.

    Now, I use Growlr, Grindr, Scruff, Mister, Recon, Jackd, GuySpy, plenty of fish












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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    These are captures of things Ive said. Yes, I said "for a long time" ugh
    Yes, I was direct and to the point sometimes. Why not. Its a gay hook up app.

    This is the photo of Tom Katt (ex porn star) that was being used . . .

    . . .


















    /////////////////////////////////////////////////////





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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    ^Wow.

    Life must be kicking some of you in the nuts repeatedly.
    "As anarchism rears its face,

    They are answered by an iron fist..."

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    Guys on Grindr are stuck-up, shallow, and unable to carry actual conversations!?!?


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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    I usually say "Hello" back and wait to see where the conversation goes from there.

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    The reason all these apps suck is because of the small talk. No one downloads an app, picks out a nice photo and sets up a profile to get stuck in a perpetual limbo of "Hey sup?"/"Hi there"/""How ya doin'?"/"How was your day?"

    Like get to the motherfucking point already! Jeez! If I wanted unnecessary small talk that goes nowhere, I'd move to a small town and strike conversation with mall employees.

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Go Wendy Williams on them. Always works!

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Just respond back with your address and a specific time when your bed wont be occupied.....


    OR

    Say hey whats up... then follow up with

    that sure is a huge grin you got going on....

    OR

    I see you like to hike... i did a great trip last weekend down to the ozarks... whats your favorite spot?

    or

    I am typically looking for sex... you down?




    the point is just talk......so many people dont know others or dont get laid for lack of just ebing themselves... people will like you and others will reject you... just go live....


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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Wanna fuck?

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    I don't quite understand why this such an issue with guys. I feel like greeting someone with "hi" is a fairly well-established social convention. They say "hi", I say "hello, how are you?"/"good morning, handsome, I liked your profile", conversation ensues.

    Having said that, I never start with just "hi". I'm more likely to comment on their pic or something they've written.

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Quote Originally Posted by M10000 View Post
    These are old photos.

    Now, I use Growlr, Grindr, Scruff, Mister, Recon, Jackd, GuySpy, plenty of fish










    Thanks - that's helpful and good to see some the apps are not simply mobile versions of the old web sites.



    Thanks - that's helpful and good to see some the apps are not simply mobile versions of the old web sites. But all those apps and you are still single?
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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Quote Originally Posted by NaughtyArousal View Post
    The reason all these apps suck is because of the small talk. No one downloads an app, picks out a nice photo and sets up a profile to get stuck in a perpetual limbo of "Hey sup?"/"Hi there"/""How ya doin'?"/"How was your day?"

    Like get to the motherfucking point already! Jeez! If I wanted unnecessary small talk that goes nowhere, I'd move to a small town and strike conversation with mall employees.
    Yes and that sort of gets to the nub of the issue...if it's all small talk then how can you ever meet your next bf through these? You are better off with other meeting options????

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Mike,
    Those are old captures
    Some of those are gay related and not social apps as we think of them.

    I had better captures but couldnt find those. Ill look again because I think many of those might be a waster of time. I would rather put my name behind the other captures I have posted in the past.

    I cant list off what Ive used because I have misplaced my Ipod with the better 'layout' of apps.


    Why isnt there no Growlr on Ipad?
    I use Ipad now
    It may be bear related but many guys on there are not bears, they are just hot

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Quote Originally Posted by treanir View Post
    "hey, how's it going?" seems standard. Though loads of guys will go for "fuck?", "hung?" or just a picture of their gaping black hole. Those messages will NOT receive an answer.
    Quote Originally Posted by ChickenGuy View Post
    I'm not on Grindr but if anyone ever sent me a message like that, I'd SOOO be tempted to reply:

    "Thankyou for your fleeting and temporary interest in my sexual situation, you may be rest assured that I will inspect your profile with all due diligence and will offer you a reply within the next while, albeit with the caveat that suspicious or creepy activity will most likely garner no response. Have a pleasant day."
    I had this theory that it might have a social non-hook-up uses that would perhaps permit my guy and i to socialise overseas. Hah!

    It has been deleted for a while.

    If I got a picture of a giant gaping hole, I doubt I could stop myself from saying "I wonder if a duck's quack would echo in there…" Can't help myself.
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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    I realized that I could go to Itunes to get all the apps.

    Here is my revised list of social apps;
    Grindr, Grindr Xtra, Growlr, Scruff, Jackd, Dlisted, POF, Gaydar, Boyahoy, Mister, Guy Spy, Recon (Leather), Gfindr, U4bear, Maleforce, FindFred, Bender
    - there are some that have paid version (like Grindr Xtra)

    I dont know much about these other social apps:

    Gayvox, gay men's social network, Idate, Planet Romeo, Flurv (?), Skout, Gay connections (?), Nearox, GR Mobile (?)


    Have I found a guy? The guy I like is on Facebook

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Quote Originally Posted by M10000 View Post
    I realized that I could go to Itunes to get all the apps.

    Here is my revised list of social apps;
    Grindr, Grindr Xtra, Growlr, Scruff, Jackd, Dlisted, POF, Gaydar, Boyahoy, Mister, Guy Spy, Recon (Leather), Gfindr, U4bear, Maleforce, FindFred, Bender
    - there are some that have paid version (like Grindr Xtra)

    I dont know much about these other social apps:

    Gayvox, gay men's social network, Idate, Planet Romeo, Flurv (?), Skout, Gay connections (?), Nearox, GR Mobile (?)


    Have I found a guy? The guy I like is on Facebook
    Facebook has a gay app? :O

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    I'm from a small town so all the local gays/closets are on every gay app. I downloaded Growlr and all i get is messages from guys from foreign countries its so nice they are not picky about looks like American guys are. The guys on Growlr crack me up one guy had a list on how he wanted his "Dream Man" to look like "blue eyes, No bears, Blonde hair, Waist size etc.

    I wish i would get attention on Grindr i get no messages on there

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    No Mike, but that is where the guy I like is.

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    M10000 has been very helpful in this thread. He's pretty much given you all the info you need to know.
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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Quote Originally Posted by cgymike View Post
    Facebook has a gay app? :O
    Facebook IS a gay app!

    *bada-PING!*


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    Oh, yeah. For sure. I dated two guys exclusively from Facebook.
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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    you say
    hi, ehy, hello (dude)

    or

    how you're doing

    or

    what's up

    or



    or

    hi there

    ..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Just_Believe18 View Post
    M10000 has been very helpful in this thread. He's pretty much given you all the info you need to know.
    Thank you Just Believe for saying that. There are pros and cons to various apps. You can add multiple photos and/or a profile on some apps. Some let you see who has viewed you. I like that feature. Many have paid upgrades for extra features. I just noticed that your message history with someone may go away.
    Maleforce has the ability to make an audio message or video file but for me, no one in my area was on that app.

    I should say that Grindr gets complained about alot. Guys dont get messages. A guy will be talking with you and he stops. That doesnt mean he is ignoring you. He might have not gotten your messages

    It is an eye opener into dealing with other people. Some has manners and others dont. Its a bumpy flight

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Something I realized is that if you don't like a guy, block them and they will be gone and you have other guys take their place. I'm going to go thru and remove guys so new guys come into the mix.

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    Spam must be bad on these apps...

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    there is no spam on them

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    No I mean fake people

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Oh, There are dumb people. I just proved that point ;-)




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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    I reply with hi and wait for them to initate the convo. When I do message people I tailor it to their info and or pic. So like if the guy has very white teeth I will be like... "Hey. You have really nice teeth. What toothpaste do you use?"

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    ^ Oh, same question goes to guys with missing teeth, "What toothpaste do you use?"

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    What's wrong with the Graigslist? There is good app for iPad,by the way.. People in here,where I am,probably wouldn't even have ever heard about it,but I have looked much of it,just for fun,to see (supposedly) real pics from real persons,in "men seeking men" sector,with truckload of guys (supposedly) looking for hookups.
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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    Craigslist. I'm downloading it now. The others are real time. Is Craiglist real time? Well see


    I was horny - remember that I'm the guy who hasn't been fucked since 1995 - so I don't want across of the app slut

    I met a guy last night in Grindr and I was horny but chats can go for awhile and I was just tired by then

    He also said his cock is 6.5 inches girth. I took out a measuring tape and that's too much for me. He says it isn't that big so I have asked him what is his measurement. He offered the dimensions propbably because this isn't te first time he's dealt with bottoms saying "you are how thick?"

    Ii was ready to tell him thick cocks are at the bottom of my list. I don't want to battle with a cock. Wel see what he says but I said "be honest because I'm not into a cock that thick"

    He showed photos and it looks about as big as he said

    Ironically the cock I want to be all over . . Is 800 meters from me but he is into younger guys.

    In my photo (several monts ago) I had a batman mask on prior to that batman shooting and if I had a dollar for every guy who said "batman" You have to say something more than that.

    It is a tough environment if you are older. I had someone call me "dad" for the first time. Ahhh!!

    Grindr is definitely for the hot young guys like I once was and I did not like older guys so I know what it's like when my puss pops up at 48 and I say hi to them

    I prefer guys my age although there a a few hotties I wouldn't kick out of bed like those guys above. I have them of favorite just so I can see them


    One Craiglist app wanted 5 digit zip code (for US) But the other one was fine. Not real time I don't think.

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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    What do you mean by realtime? There is ads,that has been added,like two minutes ago.

    http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/m4m/
    Last edited by Chrizze; November 18th, 2012 at 06:41 PM.
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    Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

    You are online, they are online =real time

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