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    Are you happy being single?

    I'm 27 now, and I've finally come to the conclusion that I'm happy being single - maybe forever. I don't want a boyfriend. Is that weird? Anybody else feel like this? I really love my friends, but after a night with them I've had enough. I need my alone time. I definately don't want to share my bed with anybody. Sex...well, that's why god made porn and craigslist. I'm satisfied. My friend is getting married soon and I can't even fathom spending that much time with somebody.

    Am I the only one?
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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    YES. A resounding yes.

    Wait for it: the barrage of posts saying single people are not "complete" and are "missing" this or that or whatever.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Yes. Currently I am quite content to be single. I did the long-term-living-together-relationship thing several times during my 20s and 30s; nowadays, in my 50s, I much prefer being single. I haven't totally ruled out the idea of some sort of relationship if it should happen to occur in the future, but I would never live with anyone again.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    It would be interesting to know what ratio of men, straight or gay, want to be partnered vs. single.

    I'm 51, and have a full life other than the partner thing.

    That said, I know lots of happy couples, and am saddened that I have been either unable to find a guy, or incompatible.

    To the snarky remark about some of us not being complete or missing part of life, then what of it? If I want that in my life, that isn't being put upon you, is it? Was there really a need to invite discord in a simple thread about being single?

    JUB is just becoming more and more a bitchfest.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    I'm currently in a happy relationship, but I'm such a solitary person that I don't mind being single when I am.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Nope I definitely do not want to be single for the rest of my life.

    But currently, I don't think I'm ready to fully commit myself to a serious relationship. I'm only 19 so I'm quite happy staying single... for now.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by Hard-up1 View Post

    To the snarky remark about some of us not being complete or missing part of life, then what of it? If I want that in my life, that isn't being put upon you, is it? Was there really a need to invite discord in a simple thread about being single?

    JUB is just becoming more and more a bitchfest.
    Wow, a little bit of an overreaction here on such a fine day, I must say. You know damn well that single people (gay OR straight) are looked down upon in general and here as well. Single people are viewed as lacking and looked at with suspicion by some. If you have never experienced societal pressure to couple then you are an exception, especially at your age.
    Having said all that, I fully realize being single is not as easy or desirable for me as it is for others; I'm 54 and love the gift of being single.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    I don't know. I haven't been into a relationship despite I am 21, but I rather wait for the right one than many of the wrong ones. However, I been alone for a long time, I mean, I am not close with my family besides my cousins and I am currently living abroad, it'll nice if someone comes along, someone that I share my life with.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    not happy, not sad, not angry. just completely indifferent about it at the moment. i was happy being single some months back over the spring and summer. then in the late summer and early fall, it started to bother me. now i'm like completely cool with it again. don't want to be with anybody at the moment. more concerned about finding a job.
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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by bendted View Post
    Wow, a little bit of an overreaction here on such a fine day, I must say.
    Well, seems like you were looking for a response when making that comment in the first place.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    I had a thread about this. Many people are happily single including myself.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by secondmonkey View Post
    I'm 27 now, and I've finally come to the conclusion that I'm happy being single - maybe forever. I don't want a boyfriend. Is that weird? Anybody else feel like this? I really love my friends, but after a night with them I've had enough. I need my alone time. I definately don't want to share my bed with anybody. Sex...well, that's why god made porn and craigslist. I'm satisfied. My friend is getting married soon and I can't even fathom spending that much time with somebody.

    Am I the only one?
    I suspect that this is an individual relationship factor. I spent 33 yrs, since we were 17, with my guy and my alone time included him. I felt this was my alone time when it was just he and I. Now that he is gone and I am single it took awhile for me to enjoy my alone time, as just me, but I do. I certainly would prefer to spend it with him but thats not possible. I felt so completely like myself when he was with me. I don't mean all that he completes me bullshit because he didn't complete me, he anchored me to our world, which we both enjoyed immencely.

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    Yes!

    I'm very open to possibilities and the chance that someone special may be a part of my life, some day. But it's not something I need to be happy, at all. There are times in which I prefer to be single. I'm a bit of a loner.

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    Yes

    I can have happiness with or without a relationship, but I'm definitely enjoying tapping into my inner slut for now.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    I'm 27 too and I've never had a boyfriend.

    I would love to have one but if it's not possible I'm ok like this.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by NaughtyArousal View Post
    Yes!

    I'm very open to possibilities and the chance that someone special may be a part of my life, some day. But it's not something I need to be happy, at all. There are times in which I prefer to be single. I'm a bit of a loner.
    Ditto on that! I wouldn't mind a FWB, but I'm not out there hunting. In the end, I like my alone time.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    Yes

    I can have happiness with or without a relationship, but I'm definitely enjoying tapping into my inner slut for now.
    Interesting. Details? Address?

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    It's fine but I would like to experience no being single again some time. Dating is a challenge though! Living together with someone again doesn't bother me. I think just finding someone compatible (or even somewhat so)is the obstacle. Que sera sera as they say and I'm not going to beat myself up over it if it never happens again. What for?
    Your post comments are forwarded to the CIA.

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    No. It feels like a piece of my soul is missing. I believe I can't be truly happy as long as I am without love.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Not really if I am honest. Ya I like my alone time but I would probably do more if I had a partner.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by Coward92 View Post
    No. It feels like a piece of my soul is missing. I believe I can't be truly happy as long as I am without love.
    How old are you?

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    After 31 years I've got used to it. If I ever happen to get in a relationship it's ok but I dont see it happening any time soon.

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    I used to be happy being single back in my 20s. But now that I've turned 30, I love being not single. Will never give up my current honey.

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    I'm very happy, but it doesn't have to do with being single. I do feel if I find myself in another relationship, I would be much happier, but we'll see what happens. So I would say that I'm not happy being single, but it doesn't make me unhappy.

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    I'd trade being happily single for a loving boyfriend any day.

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    Currently happily single. I wouldn't mind having a boyfriend at all though I am not sure if I could actually handle a relationship for the time being. As sometimes I feel like the people around don't know me at all and I get really depressed for a little while but then wake up the 2nd day I feel totally fine and ready. My emotions are such a wreck

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    hi 5 to OP, for right now
    YES

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    Happy? No. Content? Yes.

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    No :/ I was until I met this guy I REALLY want... :/
    I make my bed with the stars above my head and dream of a place called home.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    For the most part YES!
    Eternal youth and endless life. I'll sacrifice everything and everyone to obtain it

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by lucky7 View Post
    How old are you?
    I doubt it matters at all.

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    Very happy.
    "You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person"
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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    I'm through with love. But I could share again if we have separate beds.

    BTW:
    Quote Originally Posted by Hard-up1 View Post
    …JUB is just becoming more and more a bitchfest.
    Perhaps there's a need for a special place within Hot Topics.

    It could be a centre for niceness. One could form a circle and just be nice and generate niceness and perhaps have a prayer or two.


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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    No! I'm sure I'll be single for life, though.

    I'd just like to experience love before it's too late. If not love, at least a relationship, or at least sex with a friend...

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    I doubt it matters at all.
    It does. I find that many young people have this romanticization of love and long for it like it is something that completes them.

    If you were 20, that's understandable. I'd check back in 5 years and you'd think totally differently. However, if you were 45 with that attitude I'd have reason for concern because that type of thinking by an adult is absurd.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Yes and No.

    Yes - I like being able to do what I want and when I want. Being drama free.

    No - Sometimes I wish I had a small silverdaddy to love

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    Quote Originally Posted by lucky7 View Post
    It does. I find that many young people have this romanticization of love and long for it like it is something that completes them.

    If you were 20, that's understandable. I'd check back in 5 years and you'd think totally differently. However, if you were 45 with that attitude I'd have reason for concern because that type of thinking by an adult is absurd.
    Oh, your concern for my well-being is touching, but fear not, I have experienced love already and while I still have illusions I am not entirely stupid about it. I know that love won't solve my problems and I am also aware that only I can fix my life, but I think I wasn't born to be alone.
    There will be much struggle and pain in the pack that carries love, but I believe it is worth it in the end. It actually gives meaning to your life if you can share it with someone very close. About romantic love? Well, why not make it romantic if we can? I am very good at that one thing even if I suck at anything else. But of course I realize that I need anoter hopeless romantic for this to work.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    i've been single my whole life... im ready to commit to someone, really. i mean, dont get me wrong -- i love my alone time. i am one who enjoys solitude but i want to experience a relationship and all its perks... soon methinks

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    Quote Originally Posted by lucky7 View Post
    It does. I find that many young people have this romanticization of love and long for it like it is something that completes them.

    If you were 20, that's understandable. I'd check back in 5 years and you'd think totally differently. However, if you were 45 with that attitude I'd have reason for concern because that type of thinking by an adult is absurd.
    Quote Originally Posted by Coward92 View Post
    Oh, your concern for my well-being is touching, but fear not, I have experienced love already and while I still have illusions I am not entirely stupid about it. I know that love won't solve my problems and I am also aware that only I can fix my life, but I think I wasn't born to be alone.
    There will be much struggle and pain in the pack that carries love, but I believe it is worth it in the end. It actually gives meaning to your life if you can share it with someone very close. About romantic love? Well, why not make it romantic if we can? I am very good at that one thing even if I suck at anything else. But of course I realize that I need anoter hopeless romantic for this to work.
    I appreciate your response. Much better than attacking me in a post comment.

    I apologize if I came off as insulting. We just have different ways of seeing things and what you said is perfectly understandable.

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    I love being single! I've always been an introvert and I prefer my own company so I couldn't imagine having someone around all the time.

    I get to go where I want and hang out with the people I want. I really can do whatever I want

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    no - i like being co-dependant haha
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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by lucky7 View Post
    I appreciate your response. Much better than attacking me in a post comment.

    I apologize if I came off as insulting. We just have different ways of seeing things and what you said is perfectly understandable.
    No need to apologize, I found it nice
    And while we have differences I am sure we could look forward to a better future together.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    I'm 27, never been in a relationship, and have been fine alone so far but I'm starting to want a boyfriend. I went to a family dinner a few weeks ago and found out that all my cousins around my age are dating someone. Only one of them has been dating someone for a few months and it's been at least a year for my other cousins. I see their gfs/bfs at a lot of family events but it never really dawned on me until I started seeing them all together. Pair that with my best friend getting married this year and my other closest friend getting her first real boyfriend. I use apps like Jack'd to find friends which doesn't work out too well. I only list that I want friends but I think I want more than that. I'm tempted to start an Okcupid account. I like my alone time but I kind of do want a boyfriend. I'm not like some of my friends who just want somebody though. It seems hard to find someone but I don't really think about it that often although a little more often as of late.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ninjato View Post
    I'm 27, never been in a relationship, and have been fine alone so far but I'm starting to want a boyfriend. I went to a family dinner a few weeks ago and found out that all my cousins around my age are dating someone. Only one of them has been dating someone for a few months and it's been at least a year for my other cousins. I see their gfs/bfs at a lot of family events but it never really dawned on me until I started seeing them all together. Pair that with my best friend getting married this year and my other closest friend getting her first real boyfriend. I use apps like Jack'd to find friends which doesn't work out too well. I only list that I want friends but I think I want more than that. I'm tempted to start an Okcupid account. I like my alone time but I kind of do want a boyfriend. I'm not like some of my friends who just want somebody though. It seems hard to find someone but I don't really think about it that often although a little more often as of late.
    I think your way of thinking is ideal.

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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    Quote Originally Posted by Saybrooke View Post
    No :/ I was until I met this guy I REALLY want... :/
    Ahhh but sweety we are just an internet thing... it cant last...



    I am happy single but think it is often a grass is always greener argument... I was in a nine year relationship and couldn't wait to be single again towards the end but entered that relationship at 30 after running around like a slut puppy for a while..... during the slut puppy phase I wanted a partner and then with a partner I wanted my freedom again...

    Now I am just happy and take each situation as the best it can be and then move on. Love will happen for me again someday but who knows if exclusive will follow.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayHawk View Post



    I am happy single but think it is often a grass is always greener argument... I was in a nine year relationship and couldn't wait to be single again towards the end but entered that relationship at 30 after running around like a slut puppy for a while..... during the slut puppy phase I wanted a partner and then with a partner I wanted my freedom again...
    Is it fair to say you would have remained happy in the relationship if things had been going well? It wasn't just that you had a wandering eye, right?

    To those who think you give up your freedom, I would say certainly you make adjustments, but we do that in all areas of our lives.
    We sacrifice free time because we have to work. We put family and friends ahead of our own interests many times. And when you have children, your time is really not your own. But look what you gain by being in love. The scales are way out of balance on the good side there.

    You can spend a lifetime enjoying your alone time, but I think most people will eventually want to know the blessings of a loving relationship. I said most people.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    I always loved being single/alone. The problem was...it never happened for very long. The last time I was single I had totally made up my mind to BE single but fate had something else in store for me. I am very happy in my relationship and he is my best friend and we are closing in on 27 years...I got lucky....

    There is one thing to note here though...the only time in my life I was ever really lonely was when I was with this one guy....it was a nightmare.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    Is it fair to say you would have remained happy in the relationship if things had been going well? It wasn't just that you had a wandering eye, right?

    To those who think you give up your freedom, I would say certainly you make adjustments, but we do that in all areas of our lives.
    We sacrifice free time because we have to work. We put family and friends ahead of our own interests many times. And when you have children, your time is really not your own. But look what you gain by being in love. The scales are way out of balance on the good side there.

    You can spend a lifetime enjoying your alone time, but I think most people will eventually want to know the blessings of a loving relationship. I said most people.
    Well you certainly have to believe that to be happiest you should be in a relationship based on your environment. I would have stayed happy in a relationship and convinced myself it was almost the only way to be IF his eyes hadn't wandered. Now I am not looking to find anything. What happens happens and I am happy either way. I don't seek in any way to project myself onto others and insist that is reality.
    Everyone can be great, because everyone can serve.
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    Re: Are you happy being single?

    I like my independence and being able to do anything or go anywhere alone as I please, but I would prefer to be in a relationship.

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    I like my independence but I miss the snuggling.

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