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    The fact that I had to get fifteen stitches in my pinky finger after cutting it on the back gate of my building. I'm very upset about it...and the way it happened. That is my vent. I could go on about how fucked up my Sunday was...but that was the worst of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kulindahr View Post
    No, it would just turn loose the trolls to invite their friends from places like Stormfront and the liberal counterparts to bury the place in even more lies, and call names, and end any possibility of actual expression.

    A bit more moderation needs added -- like, when people repeat a lie that has been shown by multiple contributors to be false, and a mod has warned about perpetuating that lie, they should have to pay $50/month or fifty cents a word to post at all.
    It's that, and more. The uneven moderation is what I'm pissed off about. Some get away with breaking the CoC, some don't. They look away from some people's posts but press the delete button on others, even if it says the exact same thing.

    And I've found out a long time ago it doesn't do a bit of good to even try and discuss it with the so-called "staff". They have an Us vs Them mentality where they're believe they're correct every time. Questions and comments are either ignored or deleted. And they always.... always ..... watch each other's back.

    There even was a staff member who trashed me and called me names in private messages and in the same sentence asked how he can earn my respect.

    That's what we're dealing with so it's best not to even bother.

    Just needed to vent.
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    Fucking school won't answer the phone.

    Must be on a lunch break.
    Why would anybody need to go to school, to learn how to do that?
    "All legal U. S. residents who are 18 years or older, shall have an unconditional right to vote." - 28th Amendment, US Constitution?
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    Re: just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

    Quote Originally Posted by frankfrank View Post
    Why would anybody need to go to school, to learn how to do that?
    Thanks for that.



    I just meant regular college. I'll have to try on Monday.

    Another vent: I took my clothes to the Landry mat to clean and they didn't dry, but I didn't have enough money to dry them again so I have to hang them up and hope they air dry.

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    Re: just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

    Quote Originally Posted by CowboyBob View Post
    It's that, and more. The uneven moderation is what I'm pissed off about. Some get away with breaking the CoC, some don't. They look away from some people's posts but press the delete button on others, even if it says the exact same thing.

    And I've found out a long time ago it doesn't do a bit of good to even try and discuss it with the so-called "staff". They have an Us vs Them mentality where they're believe they're correct every time. Questions and comments are either ignored or deleted. And they always.... always ..... watch each other's back.

    There even was a staff member who trashed me and called me names in private messages and in the same sentence asked how he can earn my respect.

    That's what we're dealing with so it's best not to even bother.

    Just needed to vent.


    This is what I'm thinking, don't hesitate to tell me I'm crazy, others have.
    You guys know you can't let loose and say what you want without getting shown the door?
    How 'bout this.... you all make up a list of public sites, that anyone can join, and when you need to take it up a notch, you invite the opponent(s) to step outside? Eventually these sites will ban you, but so what, you just move to the next site. You can say your piece, and remain a member in good standing.
    But leave a link so the rest of us can follow and watch.
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    I love how this one guy called me a prude because I wouldn't use poppers with him. Sorry, but even if I was gonna have sex with said guy, it would be drug free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yeahright1991 View Post
    The fact that I had to get fifteen stitches in my pinky finger after cutting it on the back gate of my building. I'm very upset about it...and the way it happened.....
    How could that happen????

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    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    How could that happen????
    I was wondering the same. As one who has dealt with landlord-tenant issues, I'm speculating as to whether the landlord is responsible for the medical bill.

    "Thirty-one* states allow all qualified citizens to carry concealed weapons. In those states, homosexuals should embark on organized efforts to become comfortable with guns, learn to use them safely and carry them. They should set up Pink Pistols task forces, sponsor shooting courses and help homosexuals get licensed to carry. And they should do it in a way that gets as much publicity as possible. "

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    Re: just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Another vent: I took my clothes to the Landry mat to clean and they didn't dry, but I didn't have enough money to dry them again so I have to hang them up and hope they air dry.
    Summer always helps me with the cost of laundry.

    "Thirty-one* states allow all qualified citizens to carry concealed weapons. In those states, homosexuals should embark on organized efforts to become comfortable with guns, learn to use them safely and carry them. They should set up Pink Pistols task forces, sponsor shooting courses and help homosexuals get licensed to carry. And they should do it in a way that gets as much publicity as possible. "

    --Jonathan Rauch, Salon Magazine, March 13, 2000

    *the number is now forty

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    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    How could that happen????
    Well...one person was pulling the gate open (me) from one side and the person I was with didn't realize I still had my hand on the gate when they decided to push the gate from the inside. My finger got caught in one of the bars and a metal sign affixed to the gate (condo association sign about report any suspicious activity, please don't slam gate, etc)... It was very messy. And I already had a terrible day and had just left the damn hospital. Just to turn around to go get stitches.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kulindahr View Post
    I was wondering the same. As one who has dealt with landlord-tenant issues, I'm speculating as to whether the landlord is responsible for the medical bill.
    It would be an association issue. And I'm not suing my condo association. Period. Besides...I have one of the best PPO's like EVER. I think i'm paying like...20 bucks for the entire affair.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yeahright1991 View Post
    The fact that I had to get fifteen stitches in my pinky finger after cutting it on the back gate of my building. I'm very upset about it...and the way it happened. That is my vent. I could go on about how fucked up my Sunday was...but that was the worst of it.
    No one did that to your "Sunday" but yourself! Stay focused!!!!!!

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    There's some serious fucking drama going on at work, and while I intended to not get dragged into it, there came a point where I really had to.

    One of my coworkers (let's call him Bob) has a really petty vendetta against another coworker (let's call him Tom). It's been going on for six months, and while they've both told me horror stories about each other, I'm sure the truth is somewhere in the middle.

    So, Bob is leaving soon, and he thinks I'm "on his side" in this purse fight (as I said, I've been trying very hard to steer clear of this, but I smile and nod whenever he talks shit about Tom). I didn't have a lot of respect for him because of the way he goes on about Tom, but this really made me lose all respect for him. He asked me straight-up if I wanted to go over to Tom's house and set off gunshot fireworks behind his house.

    Normally I wouldn't really give a shit about this kind of petty bullshit, but Tom has a wife and a kid, which really pushed me over to Tom's side of the spat. If it was just Tom being affected by Bob's little intimidation games I wouldn't have gotten involved, but the fact that there are two innocents in this really got my goat. So I phoned a couple of my close family members, asked what I should do, and they both told me to tell Tom about it (I was originally going to tell our boss about it, which I now realise would have been a bad idea; I'm glad I asked). So, I informed Tom. It's really in his hands right now, but as the situation is extremely charged at the moment, I told Tom that if he needed me to have his back on it I'd be happy to help. Time will tell if that was a bad choice.

    The good part about this now is that I've gained a fairly powerful friend in the company (he's very knowledgeable about the products and services we provide, so it'll be a very good thing to have him on my side); as far as I can see, there's not much of a downside, aside from Bob maybe making my life hell for the last two weeks he's there. I'm just glad he's quitting; I'd much rather not deal with his petty bullshit any more.
    I hope that when the world comes to an end, I can breathe a sigh of relief, because there will be so much to look forward to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by silentalk View Post
    No one did that to your "Sunday" but yourself! Stay focused!!!!!!
    Actually yeah....someone did. That's why I had to press charges on them. This happened after that. So..My Sunday was fucked up and that was the icing on the cake. So I would advise you ask for facts before making a generalization.

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    I just got to San Francisco for a week vacation... I am totally not used to this much traffic compared to where I live and work.

    I was white nuckling it it big time, and quite near an anxiety/panic attack.
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    I can't believe my friend's cunty racist wife unfriended me on facebook this week... tbh, I more annoyed at my own annoyance than anything else.

    I usually just skim over her posts, but this week she posted this ridiculous anti-Muslim, anti-Obama tirade on Facebook and I couldn't help but call her out on it. like, seriously? with all the brown people Obama's killed via drone attacks, you really think he's in the pocket of the Muslim religion? (ignoring the fact that there is no real monolithic Islam any moreso than there's a monolithic Christian church)

    that family is so fucked. the wife is a total shut-in with no friends outside of her family... their son is homeschooled and I'd be genuinely shocked if he had any regular interaction with other children outside of family events (since the mom is a shut-in and he's home schooled... not like he's making friends at school or his mom is taking him to the park to play). I bet that Aryan fucker is going to bomb a Planned Parenthood in 10 years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by borg69unimatrix View Post
    I just got to San Francisco for a week vacation... I am totally not used to this much traffic compared to where I live and work.

    I was white nuckling it it big time, and quite near an anxiety/panic attack.
    Were you able to enjoy the hills? I "had fun" on those upward hills that end at a traffic light, and you feel your car roll backward each time you let go of the brake when the light turns green again (and before you get your car moving forward). The oh-so considerate driver behind you of course is basically tail-gating you the whole way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dereperez View Post
    Were you able to enjoy the hills? I "had fun" on those upward hills that end at a traffic light, and you feel your car roll backward each time you let go of the brake when the light turns green again (and before you get your car moving forward). The oh-so considerate driver behind you of course is basically tail-gating you the whole way.
    Haven't really been here long enough to experience the hills yet... but I can imagine what you mean. Parts of Seattle can be like that. I'm in Daley City, CA - it was considerably cheaper than downtown San Francisco. I guess Pride is this/next week too- which I didn't know, and there's some kind of "Bart" train strike going on... Who knows what traffic nightmares might be ahead.
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    Why buy bandages for $3-5 when I can literally buy the same thing as in a drugstore
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    So far San Francisco has been culture shock. I saw a black woman shoplifting in Dollar Tree. A Hispanic was openly speeding in the parking lot. Way more homeless beggars and mentally challenged than I thought would be running around. I'm thrilled by all the ethnicity represented here. Back home is predominantly white and Hispanics.

    ... and I've still mostly been in the suburb of San Francisco, and not been in down town proper yet. I'm amazed at how all the houses are row houses attached to one another. San Francisco seems larger, dirtier, and "stranger" than Portland OR Seattle.

    Went to two Goodwills. They were smaller than the ones back home.

    Culture shock aside, I'm having fun.
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    OMG y'all!

    I'm in McDonald's right now with my friend I housekeep for. There's this guy who just walked up to the counter and asked for a manager. Turns out, the guy's got a job interview.

    Thing is, he's dressed in a T-shirt and those really long nylon street/basketball shorts.

    I'm sorry - ha ha ha, NO! Just no. I would die of shame before I waste a manager's time by showing up inbasically house lounging clothes.

    BRO, REALLY?! ARE YOU FRIGGIN KIDDING ME?!

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    "Bart" is on strike. San Francisco is pretty much shut down in a grid lock.
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    My newest addition is wearing out my last fucking nerve. She is now fifty pounds of leash jerking, kitchen floor soiling, whiney noise making what-the-fuck.

    I may have purchases a pair of very soft and fluffy house slippers if this shit keeps up. I know she is smart enough, so it is choice.
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    I am so discouraged. My mother is living with me and my family because she is ill and has no where else to go. She is in the final stages of cancer and needs lots of care. The problem is, lately she has become such a homophobe. Every time she sees something related to Pride on TV, she goes off on a foul rant. It goes against everything we stand for and it really hurts. No, she doesn't know about me but I'm ready to spill the beans now. I just don't understand where this hatred comes from. Any suggestions anyone?
    Inspired - but too tired.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    I am so discouraged. My mother is living with me and my family because she is ill and has no where else to go. She is in the final stages of cancer and needs lots of care. The problem is, lately she has become such a homophobe. Every time she sees something related to Pride on TV, she goes off on a foul rant. It goes against everything we stand for and it really hurts. No, she doesn't know about me but I'm ready to spill the beans now. I just don't understand where this hatred comes from. Any suggestions anyone?
    You really should tell her, it's not as though she can throw you out of your own house.
    I know we all have obligations to family and you seem to be fullfilling yours, but putting up with that kind of nonsense isn't on.
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    ^ Yeah, but I can't throw her out either if she starts to flip. It's just way too messy. I have to learn to walk away or discuss in a third party type of conversation.
    Inspired - but too tired.

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    ^ then why did you ask for advice?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    I am so discouraged. My mother is living with me and my family because she is ill and has no where else to go. She is in the final stages of cancer and needs lots of care. The problem is, lately she has become such a homophobe. Every time she sees something related to Pride on TV, she goes off on a foul rant. It goes against everything we stand for and it really hurts. No, she doesn't know about me but I'm ready to spill the beans now. I just don't understand where this hatred comes from. Any suggestions anyone?

    She knows. She may not know exactly, but she knows there's something you're keeping from her. She's known for a long time,but like you, was never able/comfortable talking about it.
    Alot of people would say "it's time to tell her", "it'll be freeing", "you need to be honest", blah. blah blah. Having never been in your position, I can't tell you best, But I wish you luck in whatever you decide. I do know this must be a tough time in your life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    I am so discouraged. My mother is living with me and my family because she is ill and has no where else to go. She is in the final stages of cancer and needs lots of care. The problem is, lately she has become such a homophobe. Every time she sees something related to Pride on TV, she goes off on a foul rant. It goes against everything we stand for and it really hurts. No, she doesn't know about me but I'm ready to spill the beans now. I just don't understand where this hatred comes from. Any suggestions anyone?
    She's ill, dying, dependant, vulnerable, probably in pain, and on a ton of medication. Between all that, and her age she is probably just lashing out in frustration, and desperation. She has enough of her own selfish fears, worries, and concerns to deal with.

    If you've gone this long without telling her, suck it up and keep the peace until she's gone. Stressing her out further now just because you're uncomfortable seems a little cruel.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    I am so discouraged. My mother is living with me and my family because she is ill and has no where else to go. She is in the final stages of cancer and needs lots of care. The problem is, lately she has become such a homophobe. Every time she sees something related to Pride on TV, she goes off on a foul rant. It goes against everything we stand for and it really hurts. No, she doesn't know about me but I'm ready to spill the beans now. I just don't understand where this hatred comes from. Any suggestions anyone?
    It sounds to me like your mother is suffering the greater burden right now.

    Let her be.
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    I'm stuck in limbo here, I've gone on 4 "dates" with a guy in 2 weeks and him and I really hit it off on a personal level. For example, we met up at 5:15 yesterday for dinner and kept chatting till about 8:45. On an emotional level, we mesh nigh perfectly. Sexually...I dunno. I'm gonna meet up with him Saturday for a day in Boston and gonna have "that talk" with him about where this is going.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    I am so discouraged. My mother is living with me and my family because she is ill and has no where else to go. She is in the final stages of cancer and needs lots of care. The problem is, lately she has become such a homophobe. Every time she sees something related to Pride on TV, she goes off on a foul rant. It goes against everything we stand for and it really hurts. No, she doesn't know about me but I'm ready to spill the beans now. I just don't understand where this hatred comes from. Any suggestions anyone?
    You may find that with the medications and the advance of the disease that brain function may be impaired. For some people, it can trigger off some fairly violent temper outbursts and acting out.

    She may actually be trying to provoke you into telling her the truth about yourself before she dies or she may just be lashing out to make sure that you don't waste the few days she has left by using her as mother confessor.

    You're the one who has to decide. As you say, you're not kicking her out and it isn't like she can kick you out either. Of course, she could change her will......

    If it were me, I would just steer the conversation and attention away from homo issues and celebrations and let her die with her ignorance intact.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayHawk View Post
    My newest addition is wearing out my last fucking nerve. She is now fifty pounds of leash jerking, kitchen floor soiling, whiney noise making what-the-fuck.

    I may have purchases a pair of very soft and fluffy house slippers if this shit keeps up. I know she is smart enough, so it is choice.
    Ah yes the terrible puppy years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    I am so discouraged. My mother is living with me and my family because she is ill and has no where else to go. She is in the final stages of cancer and needs lots of care. The problem is, lately she has become such a homophobe. Every time she sees something related to Pride on TV, she goes off on a foul rant. It goes against everything we stand for and it really hurts. No, she doesn't know about me but I'm ready to spill the beans now. I just don't understand where this hatred comes from. Any suggestions anyone?
    Has she always been like that? or just recently?

    I think maybe she knows and is trying to instill some kind of shame or guilt or fear into you. That is what my mother did to me...it was her favorite way of communicating. I am not saying yours in the same but it is the first thing that came to mind when I read it so thought I would put it out there. My mom had other issues...similar in nature but not homophobic... near the end of her life and I chose to confront her and I am glad that I did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rareboy View Post
    Ah yes the terrible puppy years.
    Thankfully only a few more months.... she already behaves most of the time but sometimes it all adds up and I feel like popping... so I wrote instead.

    The worst part is she also knows her power. After correcting her and then when she is near me again she always comes over, lays down at my feet, then puts a paw on my foot and looks up. I swear it is her "I'm Sowry" if that same situation happens and I am lying in bed later she comes up and puts one paw under my arm, one above and then lays her head on my chest... a doggy hug.
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    Last few days when gay marriage about to be established..it's become more obvious that my dad was getting anxious..

    he talk shit behind of me, I know..
    not for me as his gay son but the whole condemned gay movement. He kept it low volume, tho

    But one time when we were about to have family dinner, last sunday. I was in his car and we about to picked my little sister from her volunteer work at church.

    The church- has rainbow flag and welcome sign hung on it.
    He said..Jen (my mom) , look at that church hang gay flag on it..(shake his head)
    I caught that and I told him..

    "Why not? It's good that they're open minded"

    he of course, not talk back to me. However, I know my parents never can accept me as fully homosexual- as long they treat me like shadow, then Im gonna shadow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maxpowr9 View Post
    I'm stuck in limbo here, I've gone on 4 "dates" with a guy in 2 weeks and him and I really hit it off on a personal level. For example, we met up at 5:15 yesterday for dinner and kept chatting till about 8:45. On an emotional level, we mesh nigh perfectly. Sexually...I dunno. I'm gonna meet up with him Saturday for a day in Boston and gonna have "that talk" with him about where this is going.
    4 dates in 2 weeks and you're having the "where is this going" talk already??? That would scare me off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by borg69unimatrix View Post
    4 dates in 2 weeks and you're having the "where is this going" talk already??? That would scare me off.
    It's okay. You're probably a "bitter queen" who has long given up on love.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Fly View Post
    She knows. She may not know exactly, but she knows there's something you're keeping from her. She's known for a long time,but like you, was never able/comfortable talking about it.
    Alot of people would say "it's time to tell her", "it'll be freeing", "you need to be honest", blah. blah blah. Having never been in your position, I can't tell you best, But I wish you luck in whatever you decide. I do know this must be a tough time in your life.
    I never wanted to tell her out of anger. That was never my intension. And yes, she may already know. I have always countered her comments, especially when said in front of my children. thanks for the comments.

    Quote Originally Posted by borg69unimatrix View Post
    She's ill, dying, dependant, vulnerable, probably in pain, and on a ton of medication. Between all that, and her age she is probably just lashing out in frustration, and desperation. She has enough of her own selfish fears, worries, and concerns to deal with.

    If you've gone this long without telling her, suck it up and keep the peace until she's gone. Stressing her out further now just because you're uncomfortable seems a little cruel.
    Yeah, agreed.

    Quote Originally Posted by zoltanspawn View Post
    It sounds to me like your mother is suffering the greater burden right now.

    Let her be.
    Thanks.

    Quote Originally Posted by rareboy View Post
    You may find that with the medications and the advance of the disease that brain function may be impaired. For some people, it can trigger off some fairly violent temper outbursts and acting out.

    She may actually be trying to provoke you into telling her the truth about yourself before she dies or she may just be lashing out to make sure that you don't waste the few days she has left by using her as mother confessor.

    You're the one who has to decide. As you say, you're not kicking her out and it isn't like she can kick you out either. Of course, she could change her will......

    If it were me, I would just steer the conversation and attention away from homo issues and celebrations and let her die with her ignorance intact.
    Yes, I'm learning to see that point. Thx.

    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    ^ then why did you ask for advice?
    Because there are lots of people on here much smarter than me and all with great advice. Please see above comments.
    Inspired - but too tired.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maxpowr9 View Post
    It's okay. You're probably a "bitter queen" who has long given up on love.
    How presumptuous.

    Look at how quick you were to lash out with petty personal attacks. It's quite obvious where the bitterness is coming from here.

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    The past 2 weeks I have been staying over at the school lab on a daily basis from early noon till midnight and even wee morning at my classmate's place to finish up school finals It's great to finally meet up/ catch up with my classmates/ college friends since I have been hibernating away for a month or two now ; almost cutting off contact with anyone I know except my family members.

    I realized I can be easily stressed in crowded classes or noisy environments. My friends told me they can easily tell that I am stressed as I have that "I will kill ya bitch!" face when I am staring at the computer for too long lol!

    But then how can I not have that face when I keep hearing other group members backstabbing each other and or talking bad/ complaining about their team member's work ethics LOUDLY FOR HOURS! Instead of using that precious time to work/finish on their project. Time to buy me some new ear phones!

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    Quote Originally Posted by maxpowr9 View Post
    It's okay. You're probably a "bitter queen" who has long given up on love.
    It's ok. You probably didn't do any fact checking before making a stupid ass comment like this.


    If you had, you would have found out that Borg has been in a stable relationship for some time now


    Quote Originally Posted by borg69unimatrix View Post
    I lived in an apt. for over 20 years with WHITE walls, and HATED it.

    Last year, my BF and I bought a house, and I swore I'd never live with white walls again, but here it is a year later, and they're still WHITE.

    .......

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    You think you know the people you work with. Including your bosses. You see them for 9 and 10 hours a day. You stay late beyond quitting time, when they ask you to, routinely. You begin to actually trust them and have each other's back.

    Until something like this.

    One of the salaried assistant managers at my supermarket was reassigned to the overnight shift. Back in December, when I was a day and evening cashier and supervisor, this manager personally came to me and invited me to come with her to the overnight shift - said she'd hand-picked me to come with her to the overnight shift. I started on the overnight shift January 25th.

    Well, in order to reassign someone in our system, you have to temporarily reassign them to part-time status. Then, after the change is made, reassign them back to full-time status, so that the employee doesn't lose their benefits, medical and otherwise. It's that last little leap from part-time back to full time that wasn't made. And I didn't know about it until my dentist calls me the day before my cleaning appointment (Tuesday - day before yesterday), and tells me my dental insurance is supposedly no good.

    I call my company's health insurance hotline, and explain the situation, and that's how I find out why my dental insurance was cancelled. I was never put back at full time in the system. Despite working 40 hours-plus a week with overtime, sometimes even staying an extra up to 2 hours per day above my scheduled 7am time to go home after I'd put in a full 8 hour night, and in some cases even came in early the night before (at the beginning of the shift) to help out.

    I worked like a damn dog for these people, including almost putting my health in jeopardy running myself into the ground, and this is what I have to show for it? That the promise to put me back at full time was just lip service. And when I need the dental insurance I thought I had, Oh, I'm sorry, you don't have any dental insurance.

    According to company guidelines anyone getting over 35 hours a week is considered full time. And changing someone to full time is just a matter of a salaried manager going into the computer system, in MS-DOS and with a few keystrokes, and going through a few screens, the process takes literally all of 90 seconds to do.

    Wow, I seriously don't know, anymore. Just wow.

    I'm not going to quit the job - I need the income, and don't have that luxury. But trust and believe - When Open Enrollment comes around, in October, You better bet that I'm going to cancel my workplace-provided health insurance all together. Quit flushing my hard-earned dollars down the fucking toilet, then when I need the coverage the most, I don't have it. I'm gonna see if I can get the coverage I want on the open market, just paying for the health insurance out of my own pocket. I can get the coverage I want (medical, vision, dental, and life) with no nasty surprises like this to ever come up again.

    This is not cool. So incredibly not cool. I'm trying to make a better life for myself, and work on my health and my body with this health insurance I'm supposed to have. I honestly don't have time for shit like this. /pissed!!!!

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    ^ That is VERY NOT COOL. Can you possibly be eligible for a refund on some of the premiums you've paid in, if they were merely going for alleged, but phantom, coverage?

    And, did you start that course you needed to start, after all? That was you, right?

    Quote Originally Posted by borg69unimatrix View Post
    4 dates in 2 weeks and you're having the "where is this going" talk already??? That would scare me off.
    A lot of relationships, when being formed, go through TWO OR THREE "Where is this thing going?" stages. He is in the second stage...I think??

    1. "Where is this thing going?" - Do I even THINK that I would want anything more to do with this guy...even just more dating with no strings attached?

    2. I think I like this guy a lot, but I don't know how he feels about me yet. I'm also not sure yet that I want a relationship.

    3. I really do like [love] this guy...and he is quite fond of me himself. Are there enough things in place, also including the logistics, to possibly make a relationship work after all, and is he willing to go for it too? I know that I am ready.
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    ^^^^

    I've seen the pizza delivery guy more often than that, and the guy on the corner holding the cardboard "work for food" sign 4x that... I'm still not ready to have the talk with them. I've also had one night stands that lasted longer than 2 weeks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by frankfrank View Post
    ^ That is VERY NOT COOL. Can you possibly be eligible for a refund on some of the premiums you've paid in, if they were merely going for alleged, but phantom, coverage?

    And, did you start that course you needed to start, after all? That was you, right?
    The college course I needed, yes sir, that was me. This course can be taken at the physical campus itself, or you can take it online. I'm taking it online at home, so that hopefully, I won't have the hypercrazy 20hr/day schedule I had in the spring.

    As far as my health insurance situation is concerned, I can honestly say that part of the situation is my fault - Instead of turning around and holding my bosses, my managers accountable for doing what they said they were going to do, I just took it for granted that they would actually do what they promised.

    Lesson learned - Trust no one anymore to do what they promise. Follow up!

    After an investigation by me of my paystubs, Turns out the missing coverage hasn't ever been docked from my check and paid for.

    Per paycheck, every two weeks, I'm paying...
    Medical Insurance - $59.30
    Critical Illness - $1.86
    Accident Coverage - $1.14

    What hasn't been docked out of my checks...
    Dental, Life, and Accidental Death And Dismemberment.

    The medical insurance - that's what I've been paying on, and that IS a service that has come through when I needed it - this foot surgery. I have indeed gotten what I've paid for on that.

    It's the dental coverage that I did not know that I wasn't paying on that I was left out in the cold on. I had misread my paystubs - I though there were some line items under deductions from last year that that I was paying on, that had turned to Zero after the fiscal 2013 year began for my company in February. Turns out, that wasn't the case. The case was, I was put in the system as part time to make the transfer, and should have followed up with people to make sure that I was put back to full time status in the system.

    This was a painful, but good learning experience with health insurance.

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    Im about to post a butchery of public planters by plant vandals around my town- but it's better I put that later (with photos)

    this news demand attention first:


    BRAZILIAN REFEREE BUTCHERED BY FANS AFTER KILLING PLAYER
    http://blog.foxsoccer.com/post/54702...-after-killing

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    It's my birthday and no one remembered. I'm not low on friends or family either, so I feel like something Twilight Zone happened.
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    Quote Originally Posted by -Callum- View Post
    It's my birthday and no one remembered. I'm not low on friends or family either, so I feel like something Twilight Zone happened.
    Oh, Callum has a birthday...



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