just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[sixthson]

Had a bad week this week. Nothing went as planned as usual, but it's twice and actually thrice as bad as usual.
Decided to chill with friends and played some tarot (as we are in a book cafe). Usually I don't really buy these type of things but a few predictions are so true! Dang !!! I picked a lot of bad omen cards and good cards with reversed signs I am starting to think it's my fate to be very unlucky

Your fate is not in the cards. It's in your hands. You have had a couple of bad weeks. Everyone does. Don't get discouraged and down about yourself and don't believe in this tarot foolishness.

[borg69unimatrix]

Had a bad week this week. Nothing went as planned as usual, but it's twice and actually thrice as bad as usual.
Decided to chill with friends and played some tarot (as we are in a book cafe). Usually I don't really buy these type of things but a few predictions are so true! Dang !!! I picked a lot of bad omen cards and good cards with reversed signs I am starting to think it's my fate to be very unlucky

This is the only sign you really need to pay attention to:

[xbuzzerx]

The Millennials brought in a completely different mindset. I see it as the biggest change of paradigm in at least a century.

You grew up with technology, and have begun to think in binary code. Yes, it's true that Millennials often lack empathy, due to binary thinking.

But at the same time, you can look at situations completely objectively, without prejudice from religious or political blinding.

Evidence of this has already been seen. Razzie, I just watched Mann Coulter get eviscerated by some Millennial Libertarians. Just 20 years ago, this would have been unthinkable. You toed the party line or else.

I only hope I live long enough to see the Millennials get into power, when they age into their 50s. I believe Millennial thinking will pursue a path that actually works, instead a path that's either "stock-Republican" or "stock-Democratic". We may see monumental changes in the way our government works.

In my book, you guys walk on water.

Hah, that's not how I see it at all. Millennials are largely politically uninformed, but tend to speak in libertarian platitudes, which is a shame since it's probably socialist democracy that works best. But Millennials have been indoctrinated by all the "Amurrkah is great - embrace Reaganomics!" bullshit. It'll be another century or two before we finally get national healthcare at this rate.

If I can interject here as I've seen JohannBessler comment on the millenials before, I think the middle ground between what you two are saying is that young people, or people of x generation, are not necessarily "less apathetic", "more active", "more intellectual" or anything else on the whole than they were before, but younger people today are still a product of their times, and being a product of the times today embraces ideas like gay tolerance and support of gay equality in a way totally unmirrored in the older demographics (even when they were younger) and that is what JB is happy to see. (If I understand it correctly.) It's not necessarily saying (to Razor) that they're all more enlightened and intelligent-- but they did all grow up in a more enlightened time, with more enlightened ideas.

[RazorzEdge88]

I'd take "unenlightened" and opposed to gay equality over apathetic and allowing the economy and the planet to get destroyed any day.

If having to live in some gay ghetto meant a better healthcare system, cleaner environment, and more job opportunities, I'd take the trade-off.

Granted, baby boomers are much worse about this stuff (brainwashed Reagan generation), but their offspring have chosen to do nothing about it.

[xbuzzerx]

I'd take "unenlightened" and opposed to gay equality over apathetic and allowing the economy and the planet to get destroyed any day.

If having to live in some gay ghetto meant a better healthcare system, cleaner environment, and more job opportunities, I'd take the trade-off.

Granted, baby boomers are much worse about this stuff (brainwashed Reagan generation), but their offspring have chosen to do nothing about it.

You should watch Shark Tank, Razor. It's pretty much gospel in the business world that anything "green" right now sells like absolute hotcakes, and will generally outsell something "not green" other factors being comparable. We could have a totally different discussion about how many actual "green" products are really, in fact, net "better" for the environment, but the fact remains that people do want more ecologically friendly choices. We can't "blame" people in the U.S. individually for something like: "you're still using fossil fuels", because people much older and much richer than today's young people have made the decision for us that we should not have other options. You can't go out and vote with your wallet "against" things like fossil fuels as far as say-- transportation-- because you do not have any other options, unlike in places like Brazil or Iceland.

[RazorzEdge88]

You should watch Shark Tank, Razor. It's pretty much gospel in the business world that anything "green" right now sells like absolute hotcakes, and will generally outsell something "not green" other factors being comparable. We could have a totally different discussion about how many actual "green" products are really, in fact, net "better" for the environment, but the fact remains that people do want more ecologically friendly choices. We can't "blame" people in the U.S. individually for something like: "you're still using fossil fuels", because people much older and much richer than today's young people have made the decision for us that we should not have other options. You can't go out and vote with your wallet "against" things like fossil fuels as far as say-- transportation-- because you do not have any other options, unlike in places like Brazil or Iceland.

You can vote with your actual vote against legislators who continue to oppose crucial public transportation measures, but apathetic young people have managed to let screechy, NIMBY baby boomers strong-arm everyone into accelerated sprawl.

[xbuzzerx]

You can vote with your actual vote against legislators who continue to oppose crucial public transportation measures, but apathetic young people have managed to let screechy, NIMBY baby boomers strong-arm everyone into accelerated sprawl.

I think your comment implies that viable, aggressively green platformed candidates are all over and would have won strong holdings in government except for young voters siding with old status quo dinosaurs. I'm not entirely sure if that's an accurate picture of the political landscape. You and I have had some discussions about California politicians and as much as I do feel many of them aren't progressive enough on the right issues, I can't even pretend we'd be further along with Republicans in those seats instead.

[RazorzEdge88]

Eh, you're making a faulty assumption when you say "aggressively green." I guess something like bus rapid transit would mark a substantial change, but I don't see its inclusion in a political platform as markedly radical or something that would be odious to most moderate voters. Would someone like Debbie Stabenow, for instance, sink her campaign if she were to hypothetically support earmarking just a little extra money for improved urban transit in Detroit? Doubtful.

And I'm not really accusing young voters of siding with status quo dinosaurs on this particular issue. While I think they tend to embrace a flawed "America can do no wrong" sentiment, I think their positions on specific issues are more progressive. It's just that they're so apathetic that they don't get out and vote/participate. They're not siding with the dinosaurs - they're enabling them.

[JohannBessler]

If I can interject here as I've seen JohannBessler comment on the millenials before, I think the middle ground between what you two are saying is that young people, or people of x generation, are not necessarily "less apathetic", "more active", "more intellectual" or anything else on the whole than they were before, but younger people today are still a product of their times, and being a product of the times today embraces ideas like gay tolerance and support of gay equality in a way totally unmirrored in the older demographics (even when they were younger) and that is what JB is happy to see. (If I understand it correctly.) It's not necessarily saying (to Razor) that they're all more enlightened and intelligent-- but they did all grow up in a more enlightened time, with more enlightened ideas.

That's exactly right, Buzzer, but it isn't just gay rights. They seem to look at every issue with an unvarnished light.

One thing I absolutely despise about my generation--and older ones--is that political party has become an Identity. If you vote Republican, you ARE a Republican, and you must accept everything the party bosses feed you. The Democrats do it, too, although not to such a degree.

I despise this kind of thinking,because it becomes a religion, really, and when it comes to political figures, you might as well just put a monkey in office; it's OK as long as he's a Republican monkey.

But the Millennials won't have any of that. They think for themselves in a way that no other generation before them can even imagine.

[thatgirl]

After waiting for so long to see it, I was finally able to watch The Master. Now, I'm pissed off that Joaquin Phoenix didn't win Best Actor at the Oscars this year. Actually, why didn't this film win all of the awards. And the complaints that it was boring/it had no storyline...erm. What.

[RazorzEdge88]

That's exactly right, Buzzer, but it isn't just gay rights. They seem to look at every issue with an unvarnished light.

One thing I absolutely despise about my generation--and older ones--is that political party has become an Identity. If you vote Republican, you ARE a Republican, and you must accept everything the party bosses feed you. The Democrats do it, too, although not to such a degree.

I despise this kind of thinking,because it becomes a religion, really, and when it comes to political figures, you might as well just put a monkey in office; it's OK as long as he's a Republican monkey.

But the Millennials won't have any of that. They think for themselves in a way that no other generation before them can even imagine.

That's an interesting angle, and I think it's valid to some extent.

But having seen some anti-Obama Millennials, I can say that many are just as myopic as their parents.

[RazorzEdge88]

I'm ready...to give up on men. :c)

[borg69unimatrix]

I'm ready...to give up on men. :c)

Bend over and take it like a man.

[Huntneo(PT)]

You know...I have such deep-seated bitterness, resentment, etc. about my time in school, that to this day...just the sight of a school bus makes me angry.

I wonder if I should see a therapist or something.

[borg69unimatrix]

You know...I have such deep-seated bitterness, resentment, etc. about my time in school, that to this day...just the sight of a school bus makes me angry.

I wonder if I should see a therapist or something.

Only if the sight of one gives you a hard on...

[Huntneo(PT)]

Only if the sight of one gives you a hard on...

LOL No.

[Huntneo(PT)]

Oh, and that moment when you spot a really good thread on JUB that you don't have time to read, because you're headed out to work.

[Kien]

Understand me.

[loki81]

Understand me.

Dear Friends,

Please walk single-file and don't monopolize the sidewalk.

Sincerely,

The Guy Trying to Rush to the Train Stuck Behind Your Dawdling Asses

[xbuzzerx]

Understand me.

They're not making you walk behind them because the sidewalk isn't thick enough, Kien.

[bankside]

Dear Friends,

Please walk single-file and don't monopolize the sidewalk.

Sincerely,

The Guy Trying to Rush to the Train Stuck Behind Your Dawdling Asses

Yup. This

[maxpowr9]

Understand me.

Fuck you and I mean that sarcastically.

I have to deal with asshole bikers [not the motor kind, the pedal one] all the time and they think they rule the road and I love to fucking tailgate the fuckers when they are not in single file. Fuck, even joggers in the morning are free-range targets when they are running against traffic, especially when they run in the street and not the sidewalk. If I haven't had my coffee intake, I will swerve to give them a scare because it is in fact illegal to run in the street when there is a crosswalk.

Lots of road rage against those two groups but it isn't my fault if they don't know the rules of the road.

[thatgirl]

You know...I have such deep-seated bitterness, resentment, etc. about my time in school, that to this day...just the sight of a school bus makes me angry.

I wonder if I should see a therapist or something.

That sucks. I've heard that really bad experiences with bullying can lead to PTSD, sometimes it never goes away. If it's really bothering you, yeah, go ahead and see a therapist. Besides, you never know how the resentment or bitterness that stems from your time in school may be effecting your quality of life in other ways. Maybe therapy would help you confront these emotions and move on.

I'm ready...to give up on men. :c)

[pat grimshaw]

…don't monopolize the sidewalk…

We have the same problem in my country. You have to walk with your hands out to stop them.

[Huntneo(PT)]

I am so disappointed in myself right now.

It's one thing to be let down by someone else...but to let yourself down is one of the worst feelings ever.

[maxpowr9]

I am so disappointed in myself right now.

It's one thing to be let down by someone else...but to let yourself down is one of the worst feelings ever.

Hun, I am an INTJ. Feeling good about myself is an anomaly. Right now, I see myself as "overweight" at 6'4" 180lbs.

[glasvegas]

Putting a positive note in this thread,

I am happy that my two best Aussie JUB members have found someone they like/love. I hope everything goes well with them and soon, I will be attending one of their weddings (provided Australia pass the law.)

[maxpowr9]

Putting a positive note in this thread,

I am happy that my two best Aussie JUB members have found someone they like/love. I hope everything goes well with them and soon, I will be attending one of their weddings (provided Australia pass the law.)

Not with the cunt PM Gillard you will but hopefully your people have the sense to kick her out.

[glasvegas]

Not with the cunt PM Gillard you will but hopefully your people have the sense to kick her out.

I don't think it is going to happen with Tony Abbott as well. It's really weird living in a open-minded country but yet holding such a conservative view.

[loki81]

the worst thing is when people stand side-by-side on the escalator... that makes me rage, and I frequently end up nudging one aside.

there's an unspoken rule on the escalators.. if you're going to stand there, stand on the right and allow people who are walking down to pass on the left. never block the entire escalator unless there's literally no one else around.

[Huntneo(PT)]

Putting a positive note in this thread,

I am happy that my two best Aussie JUB members have found someone they like/love. I hope everything goes well with them and soon, I will be attending one of their weddings (provided Australia pass the law.)

lol good for them. I hope it works out.

I'm starting to believe love is a fucking farce.

[loki81]

when I'm single, there's not much that annoys me more than happy couples.

bitter and sad, I know.

[maxpowr9]

when I'm single, there's not much that annoys me more than happy couples.

bitter and sad, I know.

Couples hate single people too as I have learned that first hand.

[Kiwils]

I am so disappointed in myself right now.

It's one thing to be let down by someone else...but to let yourself down is one of the worst feelings ever.

/comfort Feel like talking about it?
I feel you. I still haven't fully gotten over one of my biggest self letdown, even when I partially made up for it.

Hun, I am an INTJ. Feeling good about myself is an anomaly. Right now, I see myself as "overweight" at 6'4" 180lbs.

I just did that the other day! Someone had sent it to me. I got an ISFJ.
Aww, definitely far from overweight though. Let's have some cheesecake.

[JohannBessler]

Couples hate single people too as I have learned that first hand.

I don't think I can agree with that one at all, Max.

[JohannBessler]

I just did that the other day! Someone had sent it to me. I got an ISFJ.
Aww, definitely far from overweight though. Let's have some cheesecake.

<hugs Kiwils>

Kiwils, ISFJs have hard lives. In my experience, most of them turn into enablers.

[Axxess]

Oh, and that moment when you spot a really good thread on JUB that you don't have time to read, because you're headed out to work.

That, plus when you actually do get time to read it you find it's been deleted.

the worst thing is when people stand side-by-side on the escalator... that makes me rage, and I frequently end up nudging one aside.

there's an unspoken rule on the escalators.. if you're going to stand there, stand on the right and allow people who are walking down to pass on the left. never block the entire escalator unless there's literally no one else around.

You walk down escalators? Doesn't that defeat the purpose?

[glasvegas]

I am going stop being nice. Everyone takes me as granted as if I am supposed to do their shits. No. Go fuck yourself.

[alister]

I give up. I've spent the last year trying to make a long distance relationship work. I can't do it any longer, it's not worth the stress and heartache.

[BENDERBOY]

I give up. I've spent the last year trying to make a long distance relationship work. I can't do it any longer, it's not worth the stress and heartache.

Sorry to hear that alister, i know you put everything into it.

[loki81]

You walk down escalators? Doesn't that defeat the purpose?

walking down an escalator is faster than walking down the normal stairs

(and it's a long staircase)

[Scealle]

^ Such long staircase. My car is parked on the 6th floor and every time I go our I had to walk the 6 stairs and drive down the 6 levels of spiral parking. Times like that I wish I had lifts in the parking or live in ground houses.

when I'm single, there's not much that annoys me more than happy couples.

bitter and sad, I know.

lol Str8 couples annoy me to no end. Gay ones makes me happy and gives me hope haha that I can someday be like them

[Lefty]

[RazorzEdge88]

Holy fuck

I officially have a stalker

[Huntneo(PT)]

lol Str8 couples annoy me to no end. Gay ones makes me happy and gives me hope haha that I can someday be like them

Oh, that makes me feel so much better. I was thinking it was just me. lol

Straight couples always/usually irritate me on sight. Gay couples, on the other hand...make me all happy and intrigued.

[Kulindahr]

the worst thing is when people stand side-by-side on the escalator... that makes me rage, and I frequently end up nudging one aside.

there's an unspoken rule on the escalators.. if you're going to stand there, stand on the right and allow people who are walking down to pass on the left. never block the entire escalator unless there's literally no one else around.

Heck, I don't even block an escalator with my service dog.

Of course, that's because he's pulling me up the steps because he wants OFF!

[Kiwils]

<hugs Kiwils>

Kiwils, ISFJs have hard lives. In my experience, most of them turn into enablers.

Thank you, Johann.
I confess, I'm very much an enabler, mostly with family.

I am going stop being nice. Everyone takes me as granted as if I am supposed to do their shits. No. Go fuck yourself.

I feel this way at times, but the world doesn't need more people like that. With all the cynics in the world, it's refreshing to meet kind hearted souls every now and then. Probably why I prefer to be around kids and animals. With that said, it's ok to say no. You shouldn't have to feel badly about it. It's ok to put yourself first sometimes. We all have our own things we want/need to get done.

I give up. I've spent the last year trying to make a long distance relationship work. I can't do it any longer, it's not worth the stress and heartache.

I've done the long distance thing. It didn't work out, but we're still friends. It's definitely a lot more work. It's not for everyone or even most.

[JohannBessler]

Holy fuck

I officially have a stalker

This sounds interesting, Razzie.

Tell us more, please.

[JohannBessler]

BTW, thank you, Razzie.

You helped me bring closure to the BB episode.

[refujiunderground]

when I'm single, there's not much that annoys me more than happy couples.

bitter and sad, I know.

you're keeping it real. you have every right to be annoyed. i feel the same exact way. being single and a virgin my whole entire life, i feel like i'm on death row kinda. watching people who are way younger than me go to the "other side", get laid, get into relationships before me while i'm still waiting, contemplating about letting things happen naturally where i just so happen to find someone or someone finds me or i'll just say fuck it and give it up to whoever to get things over and done with. sometimes, it just pisses me off. so far, 26 going on 27 this year. it also doesn't help when the issue doesn't go away because someone's always bringing it to your face 24/7 talking about it. you come on the forum, someone talks about it. you turn on the tv to watch your favorite tv show, it's there. you go to sleep and then the issue is right there in your dreams. sometimes, i miss being a kid where issues like this didn't exist.

but speaking of which, i was irked the fuck out today. i was getting so annoyed of being alive, being in this body where i can feel everything happening in my body from my skin touching the sheet to my heart beating the blood in my veins, i just wanted to pull the plug on me for a second. i just wanted my heart to stop. i just wanted to be dead for a moment of time where i just didn't feel a single thing around me, not even myself. just allowing myself to simply not exist where i would get a chance to rest in peace because even when i'm sleeping and dreaming, i don't feel like i'm resting. i still feel alive. i'm still alive where i could feel my insides working and i'm like damnit. stop working for a minute. just stop. i know i can't make time stop BUT it would be cool if i could just stop forever and then start when i feel like it. i wasn't suicidal or depressed, at that moment, but i just got a bit annoyed when i woke up like why the fuck am i still here to basically face the same shit that i want to run and get away from period. after i feel like i'm well rested and have the energy, strength and willpower to go back to life, i would just turn myself back on or plug myself into the wall and come back to life. i wish i could do that. basically have the ability to let myself die and then come back to life when i feel like it.