just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[Kiwils]

Couldn't sleep, so catching up on you lovely people. Just one of those days where it feels like no one cares about you. I'll get over it, I just hate losing sleep over it. I love mah sleep! If only I could force myself to sleep at any given time.

[G-Lexington]

New month, almost spring, feeling like spring cleaning. And I'm about to go walkabout from JUB again. Presumably not permanent - it never is. But I'm not enjoying it as of late. When I sign into JUB, I'm looking to have good conversation, fun interaction, and maybe get the libido a bit of a workout. On a good day, I get all three. But lately I've been striking out every day. My attempts to engage folks in any of the above have been only marginally successful at best. When it becomes more a chore than a pleasure, it makes sense to step away.

And no, I don't know if this was worth posting. Yeah, it's nice to be told you'll be missed, but whether fifty or zero people say so (or whether fifty or zero say "thank God" or call me an attention whore) doesn't change the issue. And if you don't post this sort of thing, threads pop up wondering what happened.

Keeping JUBbing, JUB, and I'll see if it's more in line with my mindset when I get back.

Lex

[Scealle]

I like Doctor Who, but not so much that I want to spend my entire day listening to these two fucks argue about who their favorite Doctor is, how regeneration changed between the 1970's shows and todays, which are the best/worst movies, are they going to make an American version, which Doctors are coming back for the anniversary special, etc.....

I like DW but much prefer Torchwood. Hot boys, eye candy and gay superheroes. The production quality has also gone up

[pat grimshaw]

.... When it becomes more a chore than a pleasure, it makes sense to step away. ...

Was it me? Was it those CE&P people leaking into Hot Topics?

[xbuzzerx]

Was it me? A CE&P person hiding in Hot Topics?

Corrected.

[refujiunderground]

i gotta get this off my chest real quick since this is really pissing me off.

ever since my junior year of high school, i've been looking for employment to work. you know, i've noticed something with these motherfucking employers. i don't know what it is. is it the way i come off or the way i look or whatever BUT i feel like these employers are treating me like an ex-con. what makes me even more upset is that i don't even have a criminal record. NONE. no offenses. never been locked up. none of that. it upsets me that when i was in high school and my early years of college, these employers weren't even trying to give me a chance. they were like "we're not fucking with you. you can apply but we're not going to fuck with you." this was before and after i had a high school diploma. i've been to spots and seen other people who i'm just wondering how the fuck they even got the job to begin with because they're not even doing that shit right. here i am applying, getting denied some decent jobs WITH a college degree to my name 10 years later and these motherfuckers are like "you don't have enough job experience", "you aren't this", "you're too anxious", "we'll call you back", "we don't know if you have what it takes." WHAT THE FUCK, MAN!!!!! for real, you know, then i have to go apply to some wack shit again where i'm barely getting paid enough money to last me for the week. then i called for unemployment and they said that i wasn't qualified because at my last job, i didn't meet the minimum yearly total (see that's how shitty my job was. i was making that little money where i can't even meet 7,000 dollars and if you look at the yearly wage total, i was making less than 10,000 dollars a year. more like 6,000 dollars. the lady said that i could go to social services and apply for welfare. fuck that shit. i can see why some people end up doing illegal things to get by. can't blame them especially when these people don't even want to give you a shot. after awhile, you get tired of trying and knocking on doors because they're like "fuck you. we're not going to help you." it's already hard enough to get a job where i'm competing against 100 other people which have been given the chance to work.

you know, i'm trying to be cool and all that for the moment. maybe it's the zoloft which is keeping me back from saying some shit that i really don't mean BUT yo.... at this point where i'm seeing how my mother is struggling, my brother is struggling, and how we're barely getting by. how i don't have a job and am being offered shitty jobs that i can't even live off of until i get a real job (the same situation that i had at my last job. stick with your job til you get a better opportunity even if they reject you because you're working at a fast food restaurant or some place that they don't take seriously since it's a job that anybody can do.) man, it's enough to make me want to snatch up one of these employers and put a gun to their mouth telling them to stop fucking around with me and to act right. don't make me have to commit a violent felony to show you that i mean business now. i don't want to hurt somebody or do something just to get a point across BUT if it gets to that point just to make some progress, then so be it.

[pat grimshaw]

I think those CE&P people should be kept back in their own filthy pig-pen

[xbuzzerx]

You're just mad because Eugenics viewpoints aren't very popular there.

[JohannBessler]

i gotta get this off my chest real quick since this is really pissing me off.

ever since my junior year of high school, i've been looking for employment to work. you know, i've noticed something with these motherfucking employers. i don't know what it is. is it the way i come off or the way i look or whatever BUT i feel like these employers are treating me like an ex-con. what makes me even more upset is that i don't even have a criminal record. NONE. no offenses. never been locked up. none of that. it upsets me that when i was in high school and my early years of college, these employers weren't even trying to give me a chance. they were like "we're not fucking with you. you can apply but we're not going to fuck with you." this was before and after i had a high school diploma. i've been to spots and seen other people who i'm just wondering how the fuck they even got the job to begin with because they're not even doing that shit right. here i am applying, getting denied some decent jobs WITH a college degree to my name 10 years later and these motherfuckers are like "you don't have enough job experience", "you aren't this", "you're too anxious", "we'll call you back", "we don't know if you have what it takes." WHAT THE FUCK, MAN!!!!! for real, you know, then i have to go apply to some wack shit again where i'm barely getting paid enough money to last me for the week. then i called for unemployment and they said that i wasn't qualified because at my last job, i didn't meet the minimum yearly total (see that's how shitty my job was. i was making that little money where i can't even meet 7,000 dollars and if you look at the yearly wage total, i was making less than 10,000 dollars a year. more like 6,000 dollars. the lady said that i could go to social services and apply for welfare. fuck that shit. i can see why some people end up doing illegal things to get by. can't blame them especially when these people don't even want to give you a shot. after awhile, you get tired of trying and knocking on doors because they're like "fuck you. we're not going to help you." it's already hard enough to get a job where i'm competing against 100 other people which have been given the chance to work.

you know, i'm trying to be cool and all that for the moment. maybe it's the zoloft which is keeping me back from saying some shit that i really don't mean BUT yo.... at this point where i'm seeing how my mother is struggling, my brother is struggling, and how we're barely getting by. how i don't have a job and am being offered shitty jobs that i can't even live off of until i get a real job (the same situation that i had at my last job. stick with your job til you get a better opportunity even if they reject you because you're working at a fast food restaurant or some place that they don't take seriously since it's a job that anybody can do.) man, it's enough to make me want to snatch up one of these employers and put a gun to their mouth telling them to stop fucking around with me and to act right. don't make me have to commit a violent felony to show you that i mean business now. i don't want to hurt somebody or do something just to get a point across BUT if it gets to that point just to make some progress, then so be it.

I know that it gets frustrating, RJ, but please remember that these are hard times, and you have a LOT of people to compete with. One or two job postings might become available and have one or two hundred people competing for them.

It will take some patience. I know you can do this.

[JohannBessler]

Couldn't sleep, so catching up on you lovely people. Just one of those days where it feels like no one cares about you. I'll get over it, I just hate losing sleep over it. I love mah sleep! If only I could force myself to sleep at any given time.

Kiwills, I haven't had the pleasure of meeting you yet. ("How do you do?")

A lot of us have suffered from insomnia and other problems here, so if you feel like you want to talk about them, this is the place. You'll have people willing to listen.

[maxpowr9]

I was watching The Colbert Report during lunch and Jon Favreau dinged my gaydar. Not to mention it looks like he has a very nasty tan line. It looks like he wore a sleep mask to the tanning salon.

[Huntneo(PT)]

It's really annoying (to me) that one of my friends from high school has practically MADE HER ENTIRE personality center around having children/being a mother. It's like that's who she is now.

Sorry...but I just can't relate, and I get that she's in the 'awesome mommy/parent' mode--but it's like she's lost her identity completely. Maybe I just don't understand.

[Kien]

It's really annoying (to me) that one of my friends from high school has practically MADE HER ENTIRE personality center around having children/being a mother. It's like that's who she is now.

Sorry...but I just can't relate, and I get that she's in the 'awesome mommy/parent' mode--but it's like she's lost her identity completely. Maybe I just don't understand.

I think it's pretty typical.

Motherhood is a huge...thing. And a strong identifier for women. I don't think she lost her identity, but just made a transition and adjustments. She has to take care of this new entity and live with the constant thought that her actions and behaviors will somehow affect her baby. If something goes wrong, I don't think men who don't have children can even begin to imagine the distress that a mother goes through. But it's better that a mother adjusts her personality to meet the needs of her child than to not adjust and inadequately meet the needs, right?

So yes, I think it's just that you don't understand and can't really relate

[thatgirl]

^ Wow, Kien. For a guy, that was really spot on. I'm impressed. It makes sense that a lot of men-- especially one's who don't have children-- wouldn't understand the intense bond that typically forms between mother and child from the womb and beyond. It's a pretty big deal and it would be odd if someone's identity didn't go through some big changes as a result.

It's a huge transition to make. But eventually, as the kids get older, parents (especially mothers) get to have more "me time" and things start to balance out.

[Huntneo(PT)]

So yes, I think it's just that you don't understand and can't really relate

thank you. I knew that, smartass.

And I was clearly just 'venting' about it.

[xbuzzerx]

thank you. I knew that, smartass.

And I was clearly just 'venting' about it.

I understood Neo! I feel the same way. I 'get" that when you're a parent, it has to be "all about being a parent." But at the same time, I can't personally relate to it. I feel awkward trying to relate even to the life of people I was very close with in h.s., but are now moms and dads. Their whole worldview is just so different compared to when I knew them.

[bankside]

^ Wow, Kien. For a guy, that was really spot on. I'm impressed. It makes sense that a lot of men-- especially one's who don't have children-- wouldn't understand the intense bond that typically forms between mother and child from the womb and beyond. It's a pretty big deal and it would be odd if someone's identity didn't go through some big changes as a result.

It's a huge transition to make. But eventually, as the kids get older, parents (especially mothers) get to have more "me time" and things start to balance out.

I think that is kind of dismissive of men's capacity for parenting. I don't think it "makes sense." I'm not sure where you're going with that. And "for a guy?" Please.

[Huntneo(PT)]

I have to apologize to Kien for my somewhat bitchy response. See? that's the problem with tone and such becoming lost in 'text'.

Kien!

[thatgirl]

I think that is kind of dismissive of men's capacity for parenting. I don't think it "makes sense." I'm not sure where you're going with that. And "for a guy?" Please.

I mentioned the "bond that typically forms between mother and child from the womb and beyond." Last I checked, men don't have wombs. Pregnancy, childbirth and nursing typically creates a unique bond between the mother and child. This doesn't mean that men lack the capacity for parenting.

And my last sentence was inclusive of both men and women. Not sure where you are getting the dismissive thing from.

[bankside]

Yes the womb is not the point though. I would think men would relate the intense bond women experience to their own intense bond, and vice versa, and thereby have a good mutual understanding.

[sixthson]

Every stage of life brings change. Single people feel left out when their friends begin to marry and make a life together.
It's not until they do the same they can understand it's just how life is. The same goes for becoming parents. It's all consuming. It changes you, your priorities change. Bonding is not exclusive to the mother. While the father cannot experience all that the mother does, since she is carrying the baby in her body, the father is bonding with his child long before birth.

[maxpowr9]

Every stage of life brings change. Single people feel left out when their friends begin to marry and make a life together.
It's not until they do the same they can understand it's just how life is. The same goes for becoming parents. It's all consuming. It changes you, your priorities change. Bonding is not exclusive to the mother. While the father cannot experience all that the mother does, since she is carrying the baby in her body, the father is bonding with his child long before birth.

That reminds of one of my favorite episodes of Family Guy: "I am Peter, Hear Me Roar".

PS: That random quote JP which I said, comes from that episode.

[sixthson]

That reminds of one of my favorite episodes of Family Guy: "I am Peter, Hear Me Roar".

PS: That random quote JP which I said, comes from that episode.

I don't watch that show, so I don't know what that means. Who is JP?

[Kien]

Yes the womb is not the point though. I would think men would relate the intense bond women experience to their own intense bond, and vice versa, and thereby have a good mutual understanding.

I think she has a point though. Just having a life grow inside of you...that's intense as it is. But a pregnant woman having to change her diet/eating habits, behavioral habits, etc for the sake of the child is, in my opinion, creating a strong bond in itself(if the woman chooses to do so). Whereas men don't necessarily have to.

That coupled with the societal pressures for a woman to strive to "be a good mother" by creating stronger emotional bonds and emotional support. Where as societal pressures for a father is mainly to be the bread winner. I'm not discrediting any father, of course, but I do think sex roles and gender expectations do present women with greater pressures and more opportunities to bond with their children.

These roles and expectations are changing, but still do exist.

[maxpowr9]

After Huntneo's monologue, I now think of him when watching this blooper...

[Huntneo(PT)]

^ OMG! ...and did she really say that? wow.

[glasvegas]

I need to tell someone this.

Remember the guy I was telling you all, the one who still lives with his ex? I developed some feelings for him and he said the same as well. Well today, he told me that he likes other guy. I have a hunch that he's seeing another guy, someone posted a photo on Facebook and he replied all my messages with a one liner. I am so stupid you know. I know he's trouble but yet I choose to walk right in. And I was so nice to him, he didn't wanted to hang out even he knows I am in the city just because to meet him, he brought his ex to see a doctor and I was waiting for him about 2 hours sitting in a park, I followed him to get some supplement for his gym for our date, he took off the good luck bracelet I bought for him from Malaysia the next day I gave it to him. And what do I get? After he's telling he's seeing another guy, he told me their issues. How this guys doesn't trust him and he's looking for my advice, when I tell him that the longest message he typed to me was talking about another guy, he went ape shit about me. And you know what, I said sorry. I fucking said I am sorry. Why do I say that? Yea, right, I let everyone walk over me, spit on my face and I say thank you.

I was planning to make him a special birthday gift next week and take a bus to visit him. Screw him.

[Huntneo(PT)]

^ I repeat. Don't do it. (well, you did)

But it's not too late to walk away. It really makes me feel bad to see someone so available to be treated poorly. Leave him be, and find someone who wants you completely.

[borg69unimatrix]

I agree with NEO, Glasvegas...

You're a great guy. Walk (run) away. You deserve so much better than this loser.

[JohannBessler]

I wish the Moderators would come back. You don't appreciate the water until the well runs dry.

I was always the teacher's pet at school (an aspect of my personality you can't necessarily see on JUB). I really do prefer a classroom with a teacher in it.

[borg69unimatrix]

They're missing ??

[JohannBessler]

AWOL.

^ Quasar, for example, hasn't logged on since Feb. 14th.

I wonder why?

Did they get tired of all of our melodrama?

[StickShift]

I have a few things that have been pissing me off as of late.
I suppose I'll start with the topic of job hunting.
I graduated from a local tech school with an ASE certification in Automotive AC systems, and a diploma. I can't get any dealer, even some sleazy backlot place to give me a second glance. They tell me They're not looking when they put an ad out, or that they're looking for someone with more experience. I have many interviews and these buttmunchers keep jerking me around.
"We want someone with more experience."
"Well how do I get that experience?"
"You have to work for such and such place"
"That's what I'm trying to do!"
Everyone wants someone experienced, but no one wants to give that experience. I applied at one place for a job as a Lube tech 6 months ago where I KNOW I'm over-qualified. but the application system sucks so bad that I got a call from career placement last week telling me to apply there. 6 months and no one's filled the position. Gee I wonder why? Picky bastards. It's just fluid and filter changes. Any moron with half an inkling of car maintenance knows how to do it. Tomorrow I have an interview for a sales job at Subaru and hopefully that goes much more smoothly.

The other thing that's been pissing me off as of late is moronic Honda and Toyota owners. "Oh you should buy a Honda/Toyota". How about no. Aside from my high maintenance Chevy Monte Carlo Z34, my American cars have never let me down and always been reliable. "Oh but Honda/Toyota are the most reliable cars..." No, They aren't. I looked at the figures. Do you know who tops the reliability charts? Buick. Behind them? Jaguar. Behind them? Ford. Admit it. You're just a brand whore who doesn't do any research and buys anything with such and such badge on it. I'm not brand loyal either. My next car is going to be an import, because I want a cheap car with manual transmission and AWD, which is something no American company offers. Do you know which companies offer that in a car that meets my tastes (OHC engine, aftermarket support, performance potential)? Just two. Subaru and Suzuki. Everyone keeps telling me go Subaru cuz Suzuki makes crap cars. Really. When did you own a Suzuki? Oh never? That's right. You were too busy being a badge-flaunting whore to even research any other car. So guess what my next car'll be? That's right. A used Suzuki SX4 AWD hatchback with a 5 speed stick.

Oh and hybrid drivers piss me off something fierce. You're NOT saving the planet. You're NOT "Eco-friendly". You're just another pathetic loser who bought into a fad. The batteries in hybrids are extremely un-environmentally friendly. The nickel for the batteries is mined in Canada, sent to Sweden where it's refined, then sent to Japan where it's put into the batteries and put into the car. It's so complicated that it does MORE environmental damage to make 1 hybrid, than a Range Rover SUV will do during it's entire lifetime. Oh you got it for gas mileage? Funny as there's other cars that get equally good mileage. The Chevrolet Cruze Eco for example gets 42 MPG on the highway when equipped with the 6 speed manual according to the EPA. and many owners are easily getting 50+ MPG with them. But it's not a hybrid. It uses a small 1.4L turbocharged engine, and a transmission geared for economy (not that they aren't quick either). Oh you want an automatic? You lazy bastard, you should get a VW Jetta TDI. It runs on diesel and is much more environmentally friendly than the equivalent gasoline car. VW's are unreliable? Well... I can't argue with that (ex boyfriend had one). Well then wait for the Chevrolet Cruze Turbo Diesel. It comes out this Summer and come only with an automatic and matches the Eco version for economy, and bests it in tail-pipe emissions.
Fucking moronic sheeple.

[Sparky-Sparky-Boom-Boom]

I need to tell someone this.

Remember the guy I was telling you all, the one who still lives with his ex? I developed some feelings for him and he said the same as well. Well today, he told me that he likes other guy. I have a hunch that he's seeing another guy, someone posted a photo on Facebook and he replied all my messages with a one liner. I am so stupid you know. I know he's trouble but yet I choose to walk right in. And I was so nice to him, he didn't wanted to hang out even he knows I am in the city just because to meet him, he brought his ex to see a doctor and I was waiting for him about 2 hours sitting in a park, I followed him to get some supplement for his gym for our date, he took off the good luck bracelet I bought for him from Malaysia the next day I gave it to him. And what do I get? After he's telling he's seeing another guy, he told me their issues. How this guys doesn't trust him and he's looking for my advice, when I tell him that the longest message he typed to me was talking about another guy, he went ape shit about me. And you know what, I said sorry. I fucking said I am sorry. Why do I say that? Yea, right, I let everyone walk over me, spit on my face and I say thank you.

I was planning to make him a special birthday gift next week and take a bus to visit him. Screw him.

People treat you like crap cause you allow them to, you always have a choice anthing else is just an excuse.

[JohannBessler]

@Stickshift:

Chevrolet Cruze Eco, huh?

Hmm.

EDIT:

To add to your post, we have had the technology for 50mph+ for many years now. Very few people know that the erstwhile Chevrolet Sprint got 50+.

[JohannBessler]

Rant:

Why do people with 25 or 50 items go in the Express Lane, where it very clearly reads "15 items or less"? Are you an English major who can't add, or a Math major who can't read, Dumbo?

You know what's weird? You'd think the worst offenders would be the youngest, who don't yet know the "rules". But NO! The worst offenders by far are those my age or older, who really ought to know better!

[thatgirl]

So true, Johann. That irritates me, too.

[StickShift]

@Stickshift:

Chevrolet Cruze Eco, huh?

Hmm.

EDIT:

To add to your post, we have had the technology for 50mph+ for many years now. Very few people know that the erstwhile Chevrolet Sprint got 50+.

Oh I know. The Pontiac Fiero was rated at 40 MPG. But both those cars were before airbags and other now mandated safety equipment that adds weight. Also, not to bust hole in that, but the Chevrolet Sprint was a rebadged Suzuki Cultus, a later variant of which was sold here as the Suzuki Swift and Geo Metro twins.

[Lefty]

Go with the Subaru sport.

AWD, assembled in Ohio,

I love mine and every Subaru

driver I've talked to feels the same way.

Ask Don Quixote, I think he has two.

[StickShift]

Rant:

Why do people with 25 or 50 items go in the Express Lane, where it very clearly reads "15 items or less"? Are you an English major who can't add, or a Math major who can't read, Dumbo?

You know what's weird? You'd think the worst offenders would be the youngest, who don't yet know the "rules". But NO! The worst offenders by far are those my age or older, who really ought to know better!

That reminds me of a funny story of when I was a kid.

My mom once went through the 15 item or less line with 16 items and got in a fight with another customer over it. My dad just stood there in the back like "I'm staying out of it". My mom then yelled at my Dad for not defending her. If you want to figure out what my home life was like growing up, just watch the Disney program "Good Luck Charlie". It's surprisingly close to my life growing up.

[StickShift]

Go with the Subaru sport.

AWD, assembled in Ohio,

I love mine and every Subaru

driver I've talked to feels the same way.

Ask Don Quixote, I think he has two.

I have nothing against Subaru. I actually really like Subaru. If I got a Subaru though, it wouldn't be an Impreza cuz everyone has one. It'd be a Legacy wagon of some sort, preferably a first generation car (1990-1994) with an Impreza WRX engine swap.

Other than that, here's my Suzuki choice:

[JohannBessler]

lol^

I can handle 16 items, that's OK.

But when somebody comes through with a cart full of items, inside I seethe. They say,"If it looks like somebody's abusing something, there's a good chance that they are."

I'll look into that GoodLuckCharlie movie..

[StickShift]

"Good Luck Charlie" is a sitcom...
Amy Duncan has the same personality as my mom did, though my mom was more into psychology than obsessing over stardom.
Bob Duncan is pretty much my Dad to the T... except my Dad isn't an exterminator, he works for a company that makes helicopters.
Teddy Duncan is my sister Terry to the T.
PJ is just like my 2 older brothers.
Gabe and Charlie are like me depending on the age range.

[Lefty]

That's not so bad Johann.

How about the fat ass that huffs and puffs in line

then goes over to the self check, waits maybe

30 seconds and demands assistance in that loud

obnoxious bitch voice?

[JohannBessler]

^ROFLcopter!

The people who go to the self-check in are often even ruder than the Express Lane wreckers--as you have pointed out. If you don't watch it, they'll jump right in front of you.

What ever happened to queueing, people? It's just plain common courtesy.

("May I help you?" clerk asks. "She was first", Mr. Bob replies, pointing to the lady who was standing there longer.)

[JohannBessler]

@Stickshift:

Anyway, welcome to JUB. It's nice to meet you.

I love hearing insider stories, such as yours. I actually listen to them. In your case, I will take what you have said into consideration when I buy a new car.

I prefer driving a manual transmission, anyway, for the same reason I miss my typewriter--you get a hands-on, tactile experience.

[StickShift]

I just hate when people follow the herd when car shopping or refuse to cross shop at all. 90 % of Toyot'a line up is outdated and overpriced when compared to competitors. A good example is the Toyota Corolla vs the Chevy Cruze or Dodge Dart. Or the Toyota Camry vs the Suzuki Kizashi or Subaru Legacy. And the ONLY good car Honda currently makes is the Fit. The new Civic was so bad it was universally panned by journalists and removed from Consumer Reports recommended buy list, which is shocking as Consumer Reports has historically been a Honda humping magazine.

I personally drive a 2004 Saturn Ion Quad Coupe (it has suicide doors in back) with a 2.2L Ecotec 4 cylinder and a 5 speed manual. I just installed a short throw shift kit and aluminum bushings for the shifter... There's over 3 grand into this car:

[Axxess]

I wish the Moderators would come back. You don't appreciate the water until the well runs dry.

AWOL.

^ Quasar, for example, hasn't logged on since Feb. 14th.

I wonder why?

Did they get tired of all of our melodrama?

Oh, they're still here. A user posted a very inappropriate thread last night, and it was taken down within minutes of my reporting it. So they're still around; They're just not being as vocal.

[JohannBessler]

^That's comforting to hear.

I've had a two or three fights with two or three Moderators, but, still, I wouldn't want a JUB without them. A JUB without a Moderator is a classroom without a Teacher.

Still, I do hope Quasar's OK, and not feeling ill. Perhaps he took a holiday.

[StickShift]

I know the moderators are here. Cuz they have to approve some of my posts before they show up. It's been a while since I was a newbie on a forum.