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    Quote Originally Posted by JWaggy View Post
    Earlier this week, I went out to the gay bar with some friends. Enjoyed drinks, talking shit with the bartender, listening to music, etc. I ended up playing a few rounds of pool with this guy, flirting my ass off. As the night goes on I'm getting drunker (and obviously more charming) .

    We're kicking ass at pool and we're getting along great. There is friendly touching, which at this point in my drunkenness, calls for me to sport a semi--and I decide to ask him about his relationship situation. Oh, he's straight.

    And my mind can't seem to grasp this fact, so for about five minutes I'm constantly asking him, "Wait, you're straight?", "Are you sure you're straight?", etc. Felt like a fool. Finished the last game, I'm heading out and he says he'll see me around and we should play pool again.

    Most frustrated I've felt in a while--which is why I usually never go beyond a buzz when I'm out at the bar--I need the clarity to keep the conversation coherent and pick up on signals that may, or may not, be there.
    You know I have to say this is something that always amazes me. I know times are changing and it's 2013, but IS there a big straight male crowd at gay bars?

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    There is at the one I can go to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    There is at the one I can go to.
    Actual straight guys who just hang out there or.... 'straight guys' who hang out there?

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    Quote Originally Posted by xbuzzerx View Post
    You know I have to say this is something that always amazes me. I know times are changing and it's 2013, but IS there a big straight male crowd at gay bars?
    There isn't much of a straight male crowd at the bars I go to, which isn't to say they don't show up every once in a while, either with women or as a larger group of people. But the thing about this guy was that he was there alone and I was all but ready to take him home by the time I realized he was straight. Which may say more about my state of mind at the time, rather than him. But it was a bit frustrating nonetheless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JWaggy View Post
    There isn't much of a straight male crowd at the bars I go to, which isn't to say they don't show up every once in a while, either with women or as a larger group of people. But the thing about this guy was that he was there alone and I was all but ready to take him home by the time I realized he was straight. Which may say more about my state of mind at the time, rather than him. But it was a bit frustrating nonetheless.
    Tbh it's kinda hard to put the blame on you in the story you told. Anyone at a gay bar who was playing pool with a tipsy guy flirting with him and didn't realize he was sorta leading people on would be kinda dense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xbuzzerx View Post
    Actual straight guys who just hang out there or.... 'straight guys' who hang out there?
    They're actual straight guys.

    The one I go to is interesting, though. It's in a kind of blue-collar suburbia setting, so it attracts a lot of random straight people who see it as a sufficient regular watering hole. But then you go there on bear night and it's teeming with burly, sexually-charged gay men.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    They're actual straight guys.

    The one I go to is interesting, though. It's in a kind of blue-collar suburbia setting, so it attracts a lot of random straight people who see it as a sufficient regular watering hole. But then you go there on bear night and it's teeming with burly, sexually-charged gay men.
    What's the reasoning they hang out there? I've heard (not seen) the rumor that some straight people feel gay clubs are better-- better atmosphere, better music etc. But I have to imagine straight guys intentionally hanging out at gay clubs solo enjoy the attention as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xbuzzerx View Post
    Tbh it's kinda hard to put the blame on you in the story you told. Anyone at a gay bar who was playing pool with a tipsy guy flirting with him and didn't realize he was sorta leading people on would be kinda dense.
    I suppose you're right. I really wasn't looking to blame anyone for the situation though, just looking to vent a little.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xbuzzerx View Post
    But I have to imagine straight guys intentionally hanging out at gay clubs solo enjoy the attention as well.
    This would be my thought on the whole issue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xbuzzerx View Post
    What's the reasoning they hang out there? I've heard (not seen) the rumor that some straight people feel gay clubs are better-- better atmosphere, better music etc. But I have to imagine straight guys intentionally hanging out at gay clubs solo enjoy the attention as well.
    I suspect that theory is generally true, but at this particular bar, I don't think it has anything to do with it. I think it's because it's one of the very few (maybe the only?) bars in this town, the drinks are strong, the food is great, and the atmosphere is pretty good.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    Ugh, I hate how overly analytical I am sometimes. I need to stop over-thinking shit and just make a decision.
    indecisiveness, huh? at least, you're thinking about it deeply from a "what if" perspective so it can't be that bad. not to be nosy but is this over dropping your class?
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    No man, I already dropped that class, and I'm damn glad I did. It wasn't that it was overly hard, but I just realized I fucking hate winter classes. I just don't function well this time of year.

    Instead I'm hemming and hawing over whether to go on a vacation or not, and if so when to take it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    No man, I already dropped that class, and I'm damn glad I did. It wasn't that it was overly hard, but I just realized I fucking hate winter classes. I just don't function well this time of year.

    Instead I'm hemming and hawing over whether to go on a vacation or not, and if so when to take it.
    Where are you going?

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    I might go to Florida while it's fuck-cold up here.

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    Sometimes--I really miss the 90s.

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    Netflix is trolling me hard. I don't buy many movies at all but I have been buying some. Every one of them I have got in recent months appears on Netflix within the next 2 weeks. Did it was Drive, did it with American Horror Story season 1 and now I got V/H/S for Christmas and it is on there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT) View Post
    Sometimes--I really miss the 90s.
    I miss them pretty much everyday.

    Quote Originally Posted by tombastep View Post
    Netflix is trolling me hard. I don't buy many movies at all but I have been buying some. Every one of them I have got in recent months appears on Netflix within the next 2 weeks. Did it was Drive, did it with American Horror Story season 1 and now I got V/H/S for Christmas and it is on there.
    Netflix trolls me hard constantly. It did the same thing to me right after I bought the season sets of Walking Dead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xbuzzerx View Post
    I miss them pretty much everyday.
    yeah. outside of going to school--it was a pretty good decade for me. lots of great memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT) View Post
    yeah. outside of going to school--it was a pretty good decade for me. lots of great memories.
    The music!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tombastep View Post
    Netflix is trolling me hard. I don't buy many movies at all but I have been buying some. Every one of them I have got in recent months appears on Netflix within the next 2 weeks. Did it was Drive, did it with American Horror Story season 1 and now I got V/H/S for Christmas and it is on there.
    Netflix is giving me headaches for an entirely different reason, lately.

    It keeps messing up over the holidays. They've added a bunch of new stuff but I keep getting error messages, some telling me that there are too many devices logged in when I'm certain that I'm the only one using it in the house. Then I have to keep reinstalling it to get it working. But, I keep reminding myself that at 7.99/month I'm still satisfied with it, Netflix Canada has improved A LOT since it was introduced here. lol

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    I have had random issues like that as well, where for one reason or another it just can't play a specific episode of a show. It just comes up as an error and I had to exit the app on my xbox and then come back on then it worked. Had random errors with it on my friends ps3 as well.

    But yeah, I do get a lot out of it. Especially when it comes to the TV show selection.

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    ^ Yeah, that happens often, too. Or I go to play a certain episode and a completely different one plays but the issue somehow resolves itself after logging in and out or waiting it out. There are various glitches, but, yeah, it is especially worth having a subscription for the TV shows. Although when I access the U.S. Netflix you guys are still kicking our ass in terms of content.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JWaggy View Post
    I did have a good time at the bar. That is the positive way of looking at it. Then again, I don't go out to the gay bar to make straight friends usually.
    Sometimes nice surprises can happen in the most unexpected places. There's nothing wrong having a platonic and straight-type friendship with a cool guy. I have these (including some with - gasp! - women) and I wouldn't give them up for anything. Pick up that ball and run with it.

    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    I suspect that theory is generally true, but at this particular bar, I don't think it has anything to do with it. I think it's because it's one of the very few (maybe the only?) bars in this town, the drinks are strong, the food is great, and the atmosphere is pretty good.
    From now on, whenever I make the RARE trip to Toronto, I definitely intend to stop off at Woody's on Church Street. That place is NOTHING LESS than, perhaps, the most famous gay bar in that entire NATION. And I'll probably be there for only about half an hour.
    Why? They have some of the best soup that I have ever had anywhere!
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    I play Words With Friends on and off. Mainly with my boyfriend and maybe one other person, but someone used "ID" on me today when I remember trying it long ago and it didn't work (and it shouldn't). Stop changing god damn rules. -_-

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    ID like this?



    Totally a word.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tombastep View Post
    I play Words With Friends on and off. Mainly with my boyfriend and maybe one other person, but someone used "ID" on me today when I remember trying it long ago and it didn't work (and it shouldn't). Stop changing god damn rules. -_-
    There was a time when "ID" was another name for Brain, or Thought... I believe.

    I remember a science fiction movie when I was a kid called, "Monsters from the Id".

    I would have allowed it.


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    Someone here just ignored one of my compliments.

    ...fuckin' bitch! At least, say thank you.

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    I wouldn't ignore you even if it was a diss.

    On that word matter, there was a 'Wizard of Id' cartoon years ago.

    Then there is always this old rock of ages ...

    Id, ego and super-ego are the three parts of the psychic apparatus defined in Sigmund Freud's structural model of the psyche ;

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    Really tired of being the first to say hi to people. I sometimes wonder why do I put so much effort into being nice to people. Most don't even greet back anyways.

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    UPS Mail Innovations, Fedex Smart Post, DHL Global Mail... horrible shipping services. Basically these three shipping companies gives the box/package to USPS and it takes several extra days. I ordered an Optical Audio Cable and it was shipped on Jan 2nd. Fedex Smart Post isn't going to get it to me until Jan 11th. Ridiculous. It's not even coming from far. Stick to ground if you want to be cheap with shipping... these methods are not even worth being free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xbuzzerx View Post
    You know I have to say this is something that always amazes me. I know times are changing and it's 2013, but IS there a big straight male crowd at gay bars?
    I run into them. I was talking with one guy when his girlfriend came up, and jokingly I asked her, "You know if he comes to a gay bar, he's subject to being groped, right?"

    I had to fish my jaw out of my drink when she said, "Sure. He's fair game."

    "Thirty-one* states allow all qualified citizens to carry concealed weapons. In those states, homosexuals should embark on organized efforts to become comfortable with guns, learn to use them safely and carry them. They should set up Pink Pistols task forces, sponsor shooting courses and help homosexuals get licensed to carry. And they should do it in a way that gets as much publicity as possible. "

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    Quote Originally Posted by AWP82 View Post
    Someone here just ignored one of my compliments.

    ...fuckin' bitch! At least, say thank you.
    People can be really stuck-up here.

    Quote Originally Posted by GiancarloC View Post
    UPS Mail Innovations, Fedex Smart Post, DHL Global Mail... horrible shipping services. Basically these three shipping companies gives the box/package to USPS and it takes several extra days. I ordered an Optical Audio Cable and it was shipped on Jan 2nd. Fedex Smart Post isn't going to get it to me until Jan 11th. Ridiculous. It's not even coming from far. Stick to ground if you want to be cheap with shipping... these methods are not even worth being free.
    UPS is a frickin' nightmare. They royally screwed up delivery of one of my textbook rentals, so I swore them off (and the rental company for using UPS).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kulindahr View Post
    I run into them. I was talking with one guy when his girlfriend came up, and jokingly I asked her, "You know if he comes to a gay bar, he's subject to being groped, right?"

    I had to fish my jaw out of my drink when she said, "Sure. He's fair game."
    I can't even believe you asked that Kul lol. Getting such a different image of you now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AWP82 View Post
    Someone here just ignored one of my compliments.

    ...fuckin' bitch! At least, say thank you.
    remember, if they're not attracted to YOU...don't look for any recognition.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    UPS is a frickin' nightmare. They royally screwed up delivery of one of my textbook rentals, so I swore them off (and the rental company for using UPS).
    These services basically act as a middle man for the USPS and is even worse... it takes forever. I had this audio cable shipped from City of Industry, CA... which is only 40 minutes away from me. I should have drove and did a pick-up.

    But yea I hate UPS too. My building has a gate code and no matter how many times they have been told the gate code, they never seem to have it.

    I actually like the Post Office more... because if I miss a box the post office is nearby for pick up. They are cutting service though because of budget shortfalls.

    Amazon may essentially render this all moot... as they initiate their Amazon Locker service.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT) View Post
    remember, if they're not attracted to YOU...don't look for any recognition.
    Point taken.

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    Just a blank entry instead of buying into that energy. It was what it was but it isn't and won't be. That sums it up anyway. Oh...now to delete your number from my phone...oh wait your name never was in there...LOL
    Your post comments are forwarded to the CIA.

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    My vague new year resolution was to "get back on track" on a few things - to wit, exercise and household chores. Six days in, I've already skipped exercising twice (once because I was sick with a cold, once because it was my birthday) and I still haven't caught up on the chores thing. I'm at least making progress on both.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AWP82 View Post
    Someone here just ignored one of my compliments.
    Welcome to my world.

    It's the nature of the internet, I suppose. I no longer post on the forums or even send comments and PMs with the expectation of getting a response. If somebody says something that I think is funny, clever, or wise, I'll drop them a comment, but I do that because I want them to know that somebody appreciates what they have to say, not because I want recognition.

    I get a little disappointed if I'm having an in-depth discussion with a close friend and without explanation they don't respond, but if it's just light flirtation or casual chat, I don't allow myself to get invested in waiting for a response. I simply click reply and get on with my day.

    If I took it to heart every time somebody around here didn't respond to one of my comments or PMs, I would've necked myself a long time ago.

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    ^
    I've never ignored you.

    I am sure there are others who haven't ignored you either

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    Quote Originally Posted by tombastep View Post
    I play Words With Friends on and off. Mainly with my boyfriend and maybe one other person, but someone used "ID" on me today when I remember trying it long ago and it didn't work (and it shouldn't). Stop changing god damn rules. -_-
    ego, superego, id...I don't understand WHY it didn't work when you tried it? It should.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AWP82 View Post
    Someone here just ignored one of my compliments.
    Also possible that person doesn't even know that the comments exist, though I REALLY LIKE the Notifications tab which came in a recent JUB upgrade! Also, not all comments require a response (and the best way to reply specifically to a Comment is still rather cumbersome). I am not all that good at responding to comments, but that doesn't mean that I don't care, not at all. "Jasun frankfrank loves you all."

    Quote Originally Posted by RazorzEdge88 View Post
    UPS is a frickin' nightmare. They royally screwed up delivery of one of my textbook rentals, so I swore them off (and the rental company for using UPS).
    Gawdzz, I despise UPS. I will *NOT* give them my physical home address. NOT EVER. As soon as they start using THAT, they might deliver a package that may be found only MONTHS later, or they may leave something in the rain and it gets ruined, etc. I don't want to think about a package that comes two days after I've started a 38-day trip. I always have UPS send to a place in town that I do some business with, but they have to be careful and remember to use the "c/o" in the address or I may never see it.

    AND, TO PICK UP MY PACKAGE, I AM STRICTLY LIMITED TO THE HOURS THAT THE PLACE IS OPEN - which is never after 5 in the afternoon, and not on weekends.

    P. O. Box is so, so, so much better - there has not, to my knowledge, ever been even ONE HOUR of even one day, even once, in the past 27 years, that I WOULD NOT have had access to my Box if I decided to go there (such as 4:30 on Christmas morning or something). Of course, if something is too large or I have to sign for something, that's another issue, but the Box is much safer. (If something is merely too large - BUT NOT HUGE - they'll put a key to a nearby locker into my Box, and I can retrieve the item from the locker. Brilliant idea, but it's not all that common at Post Offices in cities as small as where I am.)

    Quote Originally Posted by GiancarloC View Post
    I actually like the Post Office more... because if I miss a box the post office is nearby for pick up. They are cutting service though because of budget shortfalls.Amazon may essentially render this all moot... as they initiate their Amazon Locker service.
    What's that Amazon thing?

    G...C, you ARE aware WHY the Post Office is cutting service, right? It's an issue which is being talked about by Bernie Sanders and ALMOST NOBODY ELSE. The Republicans, in 2006, REQUIRED giving the Post Office only TEN YEARS to pre-fund seventy-five years of retirement pensions, so the Post Office has to pre-fund retirements for some people who haven't even been BORN yet. The Republicans want the Post Office DEAD, because they're represented by a union. Goddam on them.

    If the Post Office goes out of business, so do I. Absolutely and undoubtedly.
    Quote Originally Posted by Anders123 View Post
    I no longer post on the forums or even send comments and PMs with the expectation of getting a response. If somebody says something that I think is funny, clever, or wise, I'll drop them a comment, but I do that because I want them to know that somebody appreciates what they have to say, not because I want recognition.

    I get a little disappointed if I'm having an in-depth discussion with a close friend and without explanation they don't respond, but if it's just light flirtation or casual chat, I don't allow myself to get invested in waiting for a response. I simply click reply and get on with my day.
    Pretty much an exact clone of my approach. I don't often leave Comments, but I have no expectations of a reply. If I expect a reply, I'll send a PM.
    Last edited by frankfrank; January 6th, 2013 at 07:45 PM.
    "All legal U. S. residents who are 18 years or older, shall have an unconditional right to vote." - We need a 28th Amendment to the U. S. Constitution which resembles this...NOW!

    VOTING: Just remember: "Be careful of what you DON'T wish for. You might just get it." GET OUT AND VOTE for what you DO wish for.

    "I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires" - Susan B. Anthony

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    Amazon delivers products to lockers in certain locations (particularly 7-11).

    http://www.amazon.com/gp/help/custom...7526756&sr=1-1

    It's a concept that has been going on in Europe (Germany in partcular) since 2001. It's only starting to catch on here. Obviously you can't have a huge item sent to one of these lockers, but most orders would be available for pick-up.

    Oh and it's my experience Fedex is better than UPS. They allow delivery to local Fedex stores locations for free. UPS charges $5 for that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT) View Post
    remember, if they're not attracted to YOU...don't look for any recognition.
    Yes, I interact with some people here on JUB who are very good-looking guys.

    But it would be MUCH more accurate to say that "I interact with many people here on JUB - and, as anybody would statistically expect, some of them also happen to be good-looking guys."
    "All legal U. S. residents who are 18 years or older, shall have an unconditional right to vote." - We need a 28th Amendment to the U. S. Constitution which resembles this...NOW!

    VOTING: Just remember: "Be careful of what you DON'T wish for. You might just get it." GET OUT AND VOTE for what you DO wish for.

    "I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires" - Susan B. Anthony

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    Quote Originally Posted by frankfrank View Post
    Also possible that person doesn't even know that the comments exist, though I REALLY LIKE the Notifications tab which came in a recent JUB upgrade! Also, not all comments require a response (and the best way to reply specifically to a Comment is still rather cumbersome). I am not all that good at responding to comments, but that doesn't mean that I don't care, not at all. "Jasun frankfrank loves you all."
    It wasn't a comment. It was a post. Expecting a thank you is not unreasonable. It's just good manners. I'm not losing sleep over it, though. I was being facetious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lefty View Post
    ^
    I've never ignored you.

    I am sure there are others who haven't ignored you either
    I know you haven't, leftykins.

    The intention of my post was not to grumble about the times I've been dismissed or ignored, but to explain my philosophy regarding online interaction. There is a near infinite list of reasons why a person might not respond to a comment or a message, and I was simply emphasising the importance of not taking it personally.

    It's somewhat similar to a technique I often utilise to negate anger whilst driving. It's entirely possible that the impatient driver weaving in and out of traffic to get ahead of me is a reckless, inconsiderate twat, but it's also possible that he/she is in an emergency situation and has something incredibly important to attend to. When applied to JUB; it's entirely possible that a person not responding to a PM from me is doing so because they think I'm irritating or uninteresting, but it's also possible that they had a long day, that they feel tired, that they're not in the mood to discuss a certain topic, etc. etc.

    Instead of crumbling into a neurotic mess wondering what it is about my personality that doesn't appeal to them (as I made the mistake of doing when I first started posting actively on JUB), I simply choose to let go of expectations and self-doubt. If people are in the mood to interact with me, then that's fantastic, but if not, that's okay too.

    I have many friends here on JUB and elsewhere; there's always somebody somewhere who's happy to have a chat.

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    Ugh, this place has really depressed the fuck out of me. Time to get a life.

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    Re: just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

    even though this thread is based on venting, i do NOT feel like saying anything or expressing my true feelings because i have nothing to gain. a part of that was because i actually feel discouraged from something that was said on here awhile back.

    but you know what. personally, if that person would have said the same thing to me right now like he did then right to my face, i would beat and stomp the shit out of him. like i don't ask for a fucking audience or whatever because what can someone do besides be a bystander, you certainly aren't living my life so don't think that i'm putting on a fucking show for you. but since you feel obligated to be a part of the show, i might as well kick your ass so you don't feel left out with how i'm feeling.

    with that out the way, i'm just basically keeping to myself, not speaking to anybody for the moment because i don't feel in the mood and i don't want anybody to feel how i'm feeling. it's not good. i don't wish it on anybody BUT if you want to join in where you want to go like "shut the fuck up about your pity party" or worst off, look down on me for expressing myself, then i do have the right to fuck you up.

    man, motherfuckers is just lucky that i just don't get tired and start taking out the anger and etc out on other people where i just start robbing and beating the shit out of people. when i went to the shrink's office for that group session, i felt like it was fucking pointless to be in there, in a group, talking about how i feel damn well knowing that i'll still be the same fucking way when i leave. i always feel that i have people telling me how to live MY life and do what they want me to do. from how i walk to what should keep me happy. it's as if i'm a fucking puppet where someone wants to shove their hand up my ass and tell me that this is what i should do. no sense of freedom, no fucking nothing.

    you know, what i want out of this is a sense of living in peace where i'm happy with myself where i can live with myself. i can simply be confident to do whatever i want, whenever i please and not have anybody get in the way of that feeling. i would like to walk in the woods feeling happy, to go to fucking jazz clubs, feeling a sense of liberation in my mind and etc. it's me that's in the way of me achieving this and that's why i went out to reach help and etc to begin with.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    but back to what i just said, i feel in a sense that the person that was acting like "wanker" was basically insulting all the people such as myself outthere who geniunely have a problem where they're basically trying to have the courage to work on it and basically making fun of that struggle. i realized this when i went over to how many damn shrinks, therapist or whoever. i was already afraid that the things that the things that i say would be used against me where i would find myself in a straightjacket or be put in a background check where it will be held against me. it is NOT easy saying things such as that you're angry, you're sad, you're unhappy with your life, you have weird behavior patterns and etc because people will look down on you where they'll be like "this person is crazy. he's a terrible person" to anybody. with most people, they'll just judge you off of that without even trying to know you as a person. you can be the nicest guy in the world but because you have some issues going on, fuckers judge you and treat you like a fucking criminal. i feel that the "wanker" alias just made it harder for people such as myself who is scared of getting help look bad.

    just like the adam lanza kid or the columbine kids or the james holmes cunt or whoever else. they basically make it hard for me to say my fucking thoughts and feelings because then people will think that i'm THEM when i'm NOT. i don't want to hurt anybody nor get myself in trouble doing bullshit. when i say my feelings and how i get mad sometimes where i feel like beating somebody up, it's simply because i don't know how to manage those feelings. i also have a problem where i can't put my mind in check where i can just block all of the negative bullshit out which help keep those feelings out or whatever. i sometimes have memories of the past or thoughts that bother my emotions that suddenly pop up and before i know it, i'm angry or i'm sad as hell.

    you know, i don't really care about getting laid, finding a boyfriend, having a million dollars, having a job or whatever. i just want to have a sense of freedom with my mind where i don't feel like i'm trapped. i don't want to have some ocd related behavior, i don't want my emotions to go down south or to get really blown up because i'm in an environment where my paranoia due to my low self esteem makes me think that people are out to hurt me when they don't give a fuck about me, and etc. i also am concerned about how the world sees me BUT i also realize that that's also is what has been kicking me in the ass too because then my anxiety builds up. i end up worrying about if such and such person thinks i'm a weirdo, if i'm a loser or if they're laughing @ me behind my back. i feel that a part of that shit has to do with being around some godawful bullies and assholes when i was a kid that would just take pride in making me feel like i was shit.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    ^ You will be happy one day, 'fuji.

    Funny thing about life is things can change drastically (for the better, and sometimes for the worse), in an instant. There are a number of things that I'm not happy about these days--but I know they won't last forever. Just try to use your time to work toward change, stay positive, and most of all--have some 'fun'. Whatever brings you some sense of 'joy'.

    oh shit...I'm sounding like a broken record to you, huh?
    Last edited by Huntneo(PT); January 7th, 2013 at 10:03 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT) View Post
    ^ You will be happy one day, 'fuji.

    Funny thing about life is things can change drastically (for the better, and sometimes for the worse), in an instant. There are a number of things that I'm not happy about these days--but I know they won't last forever. Just try to use your time to work toward change, stay positive, and most of all--have some 'fun'. Whatever brings you some sense of 'joy'.

    oh shit...I'm sounding like a broken record to you, huh?
    thanks, neo.

    you mentioned a few things that i thought were really interesting that hit a lightbulb.

    one of them is moving towards change. change in itself scares me even though i know that i have to change in order for things to get better. guess a better word for it would probably be adjustment problem. my anxiety will actually work against me in that matter where i'll get all nervous when it comes towards doing something that will move me in a positive direction.

    another thing you said is about nothing last forever. you know, that's something that provides hope because a better day might be tomorrow where these issues will stop. however, i also am aware of that there are opportunities at hand that are only around for a set time and the fear of changing the way i thought patterns, actions and etc do have an effect. there's been plenty of missed opportunities because of that. probably wouldn't be in the mess that i'm in right now.

    but naw, you don't sound like a broken record. in fact, you're basically helping out think about the light at the end of the tunnel because for a second, the darkness made me forget about it. being hopeless and thinking that things will never change is a horrible feeling.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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