...and allow me to start this thread by saying, yes, I realize I'm a pretty promiscuous guy, so I'm not pretending to not care about sex.
But what I find different about myself from others is how often I couldn't care less about sex or a relationship in a given moment, yet people in general seem to be obsessed with it at all times. For example, I mention a guy to someone for any random reason and the question is always "is he gay?" or "is he cute?" or "is he single?" almost automatically. Like, because I'm gay, if I mention a male (for any reason), he's an automatic candidate for sexual relations or dating.
99% of the time I'm talking about some straight friend of mine who I'm not the least bit interested in and I'll be chatting about how we went to a baseball game and whatnot or how much fun we had having drinks, but if I mention a male friend I have to a female or a gay friend or acquaintance, it's always "are you into him? Is he hot?"
Furthermore, a good contingent (not all, thank god) of my straight male friends are nearly always on the prowl for chicks. Like the entire point of going out is always to get a phone number or get laid. Same with my gay friends, actually. Always out looking for a man. It's so odd to me.
Now this isn't really bothersome (I didn't start this thread to complain, I'm just fascinated by the phenomenon and how removed it is from my personality). I'm thrilled and happy to have all the loved ones I have, so if this is a quirk that comes with people, awesome. But it's still something I find rather odd and wonder if maybe one other person here can relate to being around that sort of thing and simply not "getting "it.
Currently, my best friend (straight guy who has been in my life for several years and who I love dearly) is an extreme example of everything I mentioned above. Right down to the codewords he uses to point out hot girls to others without it being obvious. But I find that even with "normal" people, it's always so often that the first response to hearing of a new person is "is he/she hot?" I can be very asexual at times, and I swear that's not even close to the first thing on my mind when folks mention meeting new people to me. I've always found it odd that most people are programmed to think that way right away.
Though I've never been one to preach that one "needs" another, there's an extent to which I appreciate friends in my life who have coupled seriously and go an extended amount of time without acting like the point of their life is finding that man or woman to date or sleep with.