Bit of history first, sorry it's long but need your advice
My honey has been the Estate Trustee for his parents estate since 05', both have since passed-mom in 05' dad in 10'. During that time he was embroiled in a legal war by a half and step bro's trying to gain control of the entire estate. My honey's sister, him and I were the only ones to help and care for the parents 24/7. My honey spent about 75k in attorney fee's and in the end won and remained the trustee, all allegations of abuse, theft, co-mingeling were prove false and the other 2 bro's had to pay fines for hararssment/defamation.
The father, wanted the sister to have their main home and my honey had no problems with that, but the condition was that she had to refinance the home and out of the trust cuz the trust has to be closed after a 2 yr period allowed by probate regulations.
The sister lost her job caring for the dad after he passed away this month 2 yrs ago, she used all her unemployeement funds and use 3 extensions, my honey helped her out many times over the yrs, even b4 this and continued to up until Jan 2012, when she ran out of benifits. everyone had been telling her to get a job or think about moving in order to rent the house out and save it for her.
She is in deep w/Jehova witness and said her church came 1st then a job, yet she wanted my honey to foot the house payments, he refused. They met with the estate attorney w/sister, her son and honey, he told them all only way to save the house is to move and rent it out, they ALL agreed and signed a agreement which also incl the need to refi the house asap, she agreed. She has know for 2 yrs the the refi need to be done asap in order for honey to sign over the deed to home.
She got pissed that she had to move, her,son and honey agreed to he would foot the payments 1 more time and expences to get home in rental condition if he was paid back, again they agreed. But as the move time came she left the home as if she got evicted a complete mess, it took him and me 7 days str8t just to clean the back yard, in all 5 weeks and 5200.00 later. when we had appt's to show house she locked doors and lied that she lost keys. He lost 2 good app's due to them not seen entire home and had to pay another months payment. Did get rented in end , but he had to pay 3 payments more.
When he sent her all copies of expenses cuz she wanted proof, asking to get paid back and only asking for 1500.00 back she refused, he then asked her son, and he said he did not remember he talked about it. She has bad credit, and live with daughter babysitting/nanny so no money.
Now the niece/nephew who my honey has always help anytime they need help/money upto 4k given and never paid back, they all are giving cold shoulder, don't call, no facebook comments, emails, like he is no longer related any longer. Through rumor mill we heard she has told numerous lies about him and is part of why niece/nephew no longer talk to him.
My honey is the most caring, giving, helping, you need help he is there in minutes type guy, yet the shit on him that makes me so mad. Although he is furious, he maintains his cool. He just drafted a letter saying she has 21 days to refi the home or it will be sold in order to close trust, or he faces fines for not closing the trust in the 2yr window- up this month. He still cares about his family and is worried that they will get more pissed at him, and is stressing over it. We are just getting ready to go on vacation for 2 weeks and he says he is not in the mood.. Talk about disrespect.......
sorry this was long.....thanks guy's, just had to get that out...