Being older, is it the end?

[JP.]

I notice most of us becoming more and more frustrated in mating when we get older..
majority.
Is getting older is the end?
When is your age limit? The age when you think your game is over?

Im thinking 35, I'll be dead in dating game.
I planned to castrate myself and go to monastery..
and you?

[TRITON]

Im 74 and still active got cut when 69 improved sex .rock on

[Corny]

Definitely not. Just yesterday we were at a gay party and there was this AWESOME old couple. I would have guessed they were at least in the middle of their 60s. But instead of trying to still look as young as possible, they did their hair very neatly and orderly and one was dressed a bit like Ian McKellen in this pic



and this other one a bit more plain, with grey linen pants, white shirt, black suspenders and a flat cap. This one was next to me at the bar and I told him that they are the most awesome couple here tonight. I hope it made his day/night

[Hard-up1]

Bravo, Corny!

Thanks for posting.

As for whether sex continues to the center of the world for someone, that would be more likely to change if it were ever the center of the world for that person.

Many of us have self-esteem and purpose and value aside from sexuality.

[alister]

^ well said Hardup. We've got many examples of couples like the one Corny mentioned here on JUB. I know Lube is in a wonderful relationship for one example. He's no where near as old as the couple corny described I don't want to offend him that way.

[FPNY]

How old is old these days anyways? I need to know before I comment. I might not even be old yet.....

[HoodedRat]

17+ seems to be considered old these days.

[CupidBoy]

I hope not, I plan on living a long and colorful life, until I die.

[Essex Boy]

When I started my first job at the age of 16 my boss was 30. I felt embarrassed calling him by his first name because he was a Grown-up. He seemed very mature. Now I think of anyone under 35 as a young whippersnapper.

[G-Lexington]

Hell no. If I were single, I think I'd really enjoy dating and hooking up and all that. As it is, I'm really enjoying being in a relationship. And lots of people seem to think we kick ass.

Lex

[Beachguyj]

30 is a senior citizen in the gay community.

[DanikShade]

Dating an older guy has advantages. We have a hell of a lot more money, a lot more talent, and experiences that teach us to enjoy the moment I was just catching my stride at 30

[ozguy]

When I was in my teens & twenties, I used to think that once you got past 40 it probably was the end. Well, I'm in my late 50's now and guess what .... it's not the end at all! Still living and loving life to the full (and getting my fair share of cock, too)!!

[Orlandude]

30 is a senior citizen in the gay community.

Only if you're 18 or 19.

[Beachguyj]

How do you find an old man in the dark?

It's not hard.

[DanikShade]

Listen for the dentures to clink in the glass? Listen for his joints to creak? Listen for labored breathing? Lol the list goes on and on. Look for the glow of his pace make power pack? Find the squishy lump under the covers...

[cabsterman]

Late 40s here and in great shape!!.... and having a great time with guys younger and older too. Safely of course! Not in the "older" bracket until your around 85. Can still have sex at that age too. Still have a tongue to eat out ass and enjoy life.

[Spiff]

Im thinking 35, I'll be dead in dating game.

Well if that's what you are thinking, that's what will likely happen. Only you can live your life.

[TheFallenAsexual]

LOL at "the dating game."

The fact that it's a "game" is exactly why I want nothing to do with it.

Living your life and being open to compatible men that come into your life? Awesome. Playing silly "games" to attract people? Fucking dumb.

[Scealle]

Depends, but I would say not really. We learn more things as we grow older anyway.

[bw92116]

Yes, it's the end.

The end of waking up with a hangover.
The end of being controlled by your hormones and desires.
The end of worrying about paying the rent.
The end of frantically looking to get laid.
The end of stolen street signs used as decor.
The end of late-night phone calls to try and fix something.
The end of having to buy the latest pop diva album.
The end of "tricks" and hookups.
The end of injuries due to taking silly risks.
The end of leftover issues from your childhood.
The end of that clunky used car you've been driving.
The end of irresponsibility.

But the end of your sex life? That ends when you no longer have a penis.

[loveguys72]

LOL at "the dating game."

The fact that it's a "game" is exactly why I want nothing to do with it.

Living your life and being open to compatible men that come into your life? Awesome. Playing silly "games" to attract people? Fucking dumb.

This. Live your life as you wish, enjoy the life you have, and take whatever comes in stride.

[mikey3000]

I prefer guys my age and up (i'm 43). They are much more skilled and more sensual. I've found that the younger guys just want random, anonymous fucking. No thanks.

[TheFallenAsexual]

Yes, it's the end.

The end of waking up with a hangover.
The end of being controlled by your hormones and desires.
The end of worrying about paying the rent.
The end of frantically looking to get laid.
The end of stolen street signs used as decor.
The end of late-night phone calls to try and fix something.
The end of having to buy the latest pop diva album.
The end of "tricks" and hookups.
The end of injuries due to taking silly risks.
The end of leftover issues from your childhood.
The end of that clunky used car you've been driving.
The end of irresponsibility.

But the end of your sex life? That ends when you no longer have a penis.

So even in this economy, age guarantees financial stability?

And now the effect of traumatic childhood experiences come with an expiration?

When did this all happen?

[Beachguyj]

Whatever age your are you can find guys your own age. Hopefully they are looking for the same thing. Too many idiots out there 60s and up looking for 20 year olds.

[DanikShade]

So even in this economy, age guarantees financial stability?

And now the effect of traumatic childhood experiences come with an expiration?

When did this all happen?

Not all of us suffer trauma, some of us worked damn hard and are financially stable. Some of us, young and old, rolled with the punches and moved on. That cheesy old expression is true... That which does not kill us makes us stronger

[DanikShade]

Whatever age your are you can find guys your own age. Hopefully they are looking for the same thing. Too many idiots out there 60s and up looking for 20 year olds.

The opposite is true as well.

[Lefty]

What a load of crap.

Being older is what happens when you get up tomorrow.

Being old is what will happen in another 10 years

And in 20 you will be really fucking old...

everybody should know this...

And Corny, if you had said something like that to me...

I'd have caned you proper

and then run over your ass

with my wheel chair.

[refujiunderground]

What a load of crap.

Being older is what happens when you get up tomorrow.

Being old is what will happen in another 10 years

And in 20 you will be really fucking old...

everybody should know this...

And Corny, if you had said something like that to me...

I'd have caned you proper

and then run over your ass

with my wheel chair.

pretty much. cosign what you said. there's nothing wrong with getting older. as long as you're alive, it's NEVER too late to enjoy life. it annoys me whenever i hear my mom talking about as soon as you reach my age (she's in her late 50s), that your life is finished and you can't enjoy life as you did at your age. people really don't appreciate life as they claim they do because they're ready to stop living it at a certain point. things might not be as exciting as they were before because you're used to them but as long as you're living, it's never too late to enjoy life or live out your dreams. i'm a late bloomer/learner so i guess i'm cool with the idea of growing old.

[TheFallenAsexual]

Not all of us suffer trauma, some of us worked damn hard and are financially stable. Some of us, young and old, rolled with the punches and moved on. That cheesy old expression is true... That which does not kill us makes us stronger

I'm not saying we all did. What I'm saying is that his post makes it seem like being older automatically equals financial stability and escaping childhood trauma. I don't agree, and I'm not aware of any findings that support what he said either.

[HoodedRat]

But the end of your sex life? That ends when you no longer have a penis.

I think most women would probably disagree with that.

[Telstra]

Yes most people dies at 70 plus, 80 plus, 90 plus ... ?
So i hope you live well to that age.

[Vannie]

God damned kids! Get the hell off my lawn!

[DanikShade]

I'm not saying we all did. What I'm saying is that his post makes it seem like being older automatically equals financial stability and escaping childhood trauma. I don't agree, and I'm not aware of any findings that support what he said either.

So your response to a generalization is... a generalization. Hmmmm. There is the slightest possibility you're over thinking this. Its a minor thread on an internet web site populated by people who for the most part have never met and freely spout opinions just to see what reactions they can get. It's not worth getting upset over. If you try to find 'findings" to support every opinion you're going to wear yourself out.

Another advantage to age and maturity, you learn when to drop something as insignificant or irrelevant Give it a try sometime.

[armastus4all]

after reading this i feel depressed

I notice most of us becoming more and more frustrated in mating when we get older..
majority.
Is getting older is the end?
When is your age limit? The age when you think your game is over?

Im thinking 35, I'll be dead in dating game.
I planned to castrate myself and go to monastery..
and you?

[DanikShade]

after reading this i feel depressed

No reason to. You don't have to crawl in a coffin on your 30th BD. You could actually break the stereotype and actually try going on. A few of us made it lol.

[Beachguyj]

The opposite is true as well.

I've never met someone in their 20s looking for a man in their 60s. I would assume some gold diggers are out there, and some guys want a daddy, I mean granddaddy.

[DanikShade]

I've never met someone in their 20s looking for a man in their 60s. I would assume some gold diggers are out there, and some guys want a daddy, I mean granddaddy.

You've never seen it so naturally its never happened right? I have a friend in NC who is 65, his partner is 24. THey've been together for 5 years. Seem pretty happy. They just started a bed & breakfast. The 24 year old busts his ass working on their business, doesn't seem to be a gold digger.

So much for fighting stereotypes lol. They're alive and well in our own ranks.

[Lefty]

Hey Armi,

One of my heroes made 84 in May.

His spouse is 20 years behind him.

Golfs 3 X a week, 18 holes each and no cart.

Bowls on a league and every other Friday

its guys poker night ...

[cgymike]

Well your sex drive goes down compared to being 18 but dating is a lot more than that anyway so you find ways to make it just as good as it was because as you get older you just find/discover new ways to improve the quality of dating rather than focusing on how many orgasms you have each day. But also in the dating process you may have fewer people to choose from than you did when young but then again you don't have all the competition either. I was rejected more when young on superficial things than now because most older guys who are looking for guys in their own age group are not going to be so judgmental about physical aspects. We all have some wrinkles or an extra kilo or 10 maybe (NOT an extra 50 kilos mind you). So that means in general your chances are not greatly reduced because of that compensation. There are of course olders looking just for younger but I am excluding those because IMO they are in the minority EXCEPT just for hookup but here we are hopefully talking about something more relationship oriented. But if we aren't then you also have to consider that when you get older you open up a whole group of younger guys (sugar daddy) that wouldn't have been interested in you as a younger guy. Again you can see the compensation.

[Harke the Boeotarch]

The end of irresponsibility.

Tell that to the geriatrics who have been 'running' my country for the last twenty years.

[star-warrior]

Everyone has a thought or two about the inevitable. But, since people die in childhood, in their teens, twenties and so on, old becomes relative.

Some wise old bird once said something like "Live each day fully as if it's your last". Make sure everyone you know appreciates the now also.

[palbert]

It will be unless you submit Gardening Pics!!

[floridaboy]

both my neighbors right now are old gay guys. I dont live in a gay community or anything, just happened to move in between two elderly gay couples

[ozguy]

It will be unless you submit Gardening Pics!!

I'm working on it!

[mikey3000]

I'm not saying we all did. What I'm saying is that his post makes it seem like being older automatically equals financial stability and escaping childhood trauma. I don't agree, and I'm not aware of any findings that support what he said either.

You never agree with anything anyone says. And I do have "findings" to support that hypothesis. Just check every thread you ever posted on.

[Audio Tech]

I think it depends on where you live and how well you keep yourself.

[mikey3000]

I prefer guys my age and up (i'm 43). They are much more skilled and more sensual. I've found that the younger guys just want random, anonymous fucking. No thanks.

On second thought, have as much sex as you want when you're young. I did, way more than my fair share too. That's what youth is all about. Have fun. As I'm getting older, I don't want that kind of sex anymore. But I sure had fun when I was young.

[JP.]

after reading this i feel depressed

It's not my intention, sincerely sorry (hug)

Late 40s here and in great shape!!.... and having a great time with guys younger and older too. Safely of course! Not in the "older" bracket until your around 85. Can still have sex at that age too. Still have a tongue to eat out ass and enjoy life.

that's hot, your avatar too



@Corny= But Im not white

[JP.]

Now I think of anyone under 35 as a young whippersnapper.

I had to go search that word online just to found negative meaning of that. Must be british slank
Is that what you think of me?

LOL at "the dating game."

The fact that it's a "game" is exactly why I want nothing to do with it.

Living your life and being open to compatible men that come into your life? Awesome. Playing silly "games" to attract people? Fucking dumb.

If the word "game" has negative connotation in your mind, cool story bro