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    Misunderstandings

    Do you give them the benefit of the doubt?

    My room mate just did something to her ketchup bottle just now that can be interpreted as an insult. I'm not sure really what to say and whether or not what she did to it was meant for me. In situations like this, where you are not sure, do you give people the benefit of the doubt or do you take offence. I know this sounds like a dumb question, but I want your opinion. I've developed of habit of taking offense to these misunderstandings; I'm trying to correct this negative thinking pattern.


    Now, there's not way this could not be interpreted as an insult.

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    Your roommate insulted you with a ketchup bottle? Wow. I think we need more details before answering the question.



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    When you are not sure, give people the benefit of the doubt.

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    "You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person"
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    I cannot say I have ever been in a contentious situation regarding ketchup catsup ketchup catsup ketchup catsup screw you it's ketchup! nice try asshole, it's catsup and you know it. FUCK U! No; Fuck YOU, which, incidentally, U can't even spell either.
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

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    Re: Misunderstandings

    This thread was worth it for the gif alone.

    now, kindly, tell us what the fuck she did.

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    It's her bottle of ketchup, unless you tell us what she did you sound bat shit crazy.

    and yes, if it's someone you care about always give them the benefit of the doubt.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BENDERBOY View Post
    No! No! NO!

    Let the mice live ... live, I tell you, ... LIVE! ... and the rats too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HoodedRat View Post
    No! No! NO!

    Let the mice live ... live, I tell you, ... LIVE! ... and the rats too.
    And at least don't poison them. A poisoned mouse on its little mousey death march into the middle of the street is now just a poisoned dog treat. So don't kill your neighbours' pets with poisoned mice.
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

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    I'm sorry your roommate is a cunt Cotton.

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    She marked the ketchup. Like she drew a black line on the ketchup bottle at the level that divides the ketchup and the empty space above it. I couldn't help but wonder if she did so that she could monitor whether or not someone used the ketchup. I've heard of this been done before. In my first year of college, a friend told me that his roommate made a mark on the ketchup to see whether or not he used it. I just can't help but wonder.
    Last edited by CottonBolus; October 5th, 2012 at 06:37 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    I'm sorry your roommate is a cunt Cotton.
    Thanks CupidBoy .

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    Re: Misunderstandings

    Is that insulting because now she'll see that you used the ketchup, and now you have to buy your own?





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    ^ Did you use her ketchup without asking?

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    Re: Misunderstandings

    Cotton,
    That's indicative of someone with trust issues. Perhaps she was in a situation before where someone didn't respect "her" stuff, and she's "nipping any chance of a repeat in the bud".

    If you have done nothing to warrant her anger, chalk it up to HER issues and ignore it.
    She's your roommate, and it's early in the year - you have a LONG way to go.
    It's just not worth it to even begin to worry about it.

    Feel free to do similarly with your stuff, quietly, discreetly.
    Then you are on the same basis - you understand her concerns, respect them, you know she'll respect yours.
    That's what your reciprocity says, whether you think it's a bit small minded or not.

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    Re: Misunderstandings

    If she paid for the ketchup and is for her private use, then she can do whatever the fuck she wants with that bottle...including marking it or as a sex toy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nishin View Post
    ^ Did you use her ketchup without asking?
    No, I never once used any of her stuff. In the beginning, she liked to take my stuff and never asked. The only time she's ever given me stuff was yesterday; she cooked like 2 meals for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HunterM View Post
    If she paid for the ketchup and is for her private use, then she can do whatever the fuck she wants with that bottle...including marking it or as a sex toy.
    But don't you feel a little offended. She's basically saying that I may be a thief.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DonQuixote View Post
    Cotton,
    That's indicative of someone with trust issues. Perhaps she was in a situation before where someone didn't respect "her" stuff, and she's "nipping any chance of a repeat in the bud".

    If you have done nothing to warrant her anger, chalk it up to HER issues and ignore it.
    She's your roommate, and it's early in the year - you have a LONG way to go.
    It's just not worth it to even begin to worry about it.

    Feel free to do similarly with your stuff, quietly, discreetly.
    Then you are on the same basis - you understand her concerns, respect them, you know she'll respect yours.
    That's what your reciprocity says, whether you think it's a bit small minded or not.

    Hakuna Matata. No Worries.
    You are right. I'm not going to let it bother me, and from now on, I'm doing the same to my stuff. No offense to her, of course.

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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    Is that insulting because now she'll see that you used the ketchup, and now you have to buy your own?





    Lex
    But that's why I found it insulting. I have NEVER used her ketchup bottle. I wouldn't be insulted, if I had actually used it. In the beginning she used my stuff without permission.

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    Ah, the classic - SHE did it to YOU, therefore you (will) do it to her.
    As I said, it's all about what's in HER head.

    Maybe the meals were her peace offering for helping herself to your stuff w/out asking.

    My earlier statement stands - keep it light, casual, and mark your stuff, too.
    Or not, if you don't care if she uses your stuff - but that could get expensive for you over the long haul.
    Not so much if she cooks for you enough to offset her helping herself to your stuff.


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    Cotton.

    I DARE you to buy the same brand of catsup and add an inch to hers.

    Double dare you.

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    Re: Misunderstandings

    Or add a bunch of lines above AND below the current one.

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    Or just spit in the bottle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CottonBolus View Post
    But don't you feel a little offended. She's basically saying that I may be a thief.
    No. I wouldn't feel offended. This is where confidence comes in. I KNOW I didn't steal. My conscience is clean. Why would I want this issue to stress me out? It is her property. Clearly, she is paranoid; that's her problem...not mine.

    Be a man
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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Lexington View Post
    Or add a bunch of lines above AND below the current one.

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    Or just don't worry about it...>_>

    You guys are trying to start a war. It's the little things that set people off.


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    You are an instigator, yes you are. (Lex)

    (Sounds like something I'd do back in the day, lol)
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    oh pls just leave those poor dykes from hell alone, they mean no harm.

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    oh pls just leave those poor dykes from hell alone, they mean no harm.

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    geez you guys sound worst than the girls lol.

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    Add more ketchup to the bottle so she can feel stupid about herself.

    But really, I don't think you should be taking offense to this at all...even if she may be a bitch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CottonBolus View Post
    No, I never once used any of her stuff. In the beginning, she liked to take my stuff and never asked. The only time she's ever given me stuff was yesterday; she cooked like 2 meals for me.
    If she cooked for you, maybe she has plans to marry you Cotton!


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    Or you could ask her. If she is particular about her ketchup, that don't touch the ketchup whore's bottle no more.

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    Cotton..sometimes
    being a gigantic dinosaur which felt the pain after 30 minutes tail crushed by fallen tree, it's no fun

    It depends on what kind of person you are..if you're analytical and your mind ticking every second, then fast response is better for you Tell her right away of what you feel about that. Pause 1-2 minutes, dont just blurt but better if it's done right away

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    This is why I live alone..

    I'm sorry that you have to live with her Cotton. She sounds like a pain in the butthole. And not a good one.
    Keep your head high.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hard-up1 View Post
    Cotton.

    I DARE you to buy the same brand of catsup and add an inch to hers.

    Double dare you.
    The problem with that is she wouldn't know what had been added to the container. And in her paranoid mind, she might suspect urine, sperm, poison, etc. Consequently, it's conceivable she could end up filing a police report, accusing him of tampering with her food by adding an unknown substance to it. As her objective would be to get the police to test it in order to save her the cost of expensive lab tests.


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    My advice: watch the movie Single White Female. Start mimic her behaviors...dress like her...and steal her boyfriend!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CottonBolus View Post
    No, I never once used any of her stuff. In the beginning, she liked to take my stuff and never asked. The only time she's ever given me stuff was yesterday; she cooked like 2 meals for me.
    Looks like you need to talk about it.

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    What exactly are the food/toiletries arrangements between you too?

    Who pays for what? Who shops for it ?
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    Now knowing that this thread is all about a line on a ketchup bottle, I'd say it's kind of offensive/insulting. There really is no reasonable explanation for the line other than to insinuate that you are stealing her food and she's trying to catch you in the act. That passive aggressive approach of hers...ugh...it's bait. What's next? Is she going to start counting squares of toilet paper/charging you by the sheet? Good grief.

    If the two of you do not have an agreement already about sharing/paying for food and other common household items, then I suggest you talk to her about it and agree on some kind of system so that it doesn't all turn into some big issue later on.

    As for misunderstandings...I tend to clear the air with people as soon as I suspect there may be one. Misunderstandings have a way of festering if they are not dealt with in a timely manner.
    Bad decisions make good stories.

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    This is clearly her way of saying:




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    Thought this was going to be something more in the lines of Three's Company.

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    Coton, you're obsessing over nothing. Let it go.

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    I sense maturity and perspective issues. COMMUNICATE!!!!!

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