October 3rd, 2012, 04:15 AM
Hi all. I'd describe myself as bi-curious.
A few months ago I was at a club (straight) and I started talking to this guy on the dance floor. He seemed a bit tipsy but was really friendly. Anyways, he wanted to dance with me so we danced and a bit later he introduced himself to me, he then proceeded to ask for my Facebook. He kept grabbing onto me and holding me. We talked a bit but nothing much and I ended up leaving the clubs and told him that I'd be out at another club. I never ended up going out after so I just went home.
So now months on we've been friends on Facebook and we've only spoken once about the night briefly... I'm interested in this guy, how should I approach him about it? I'm not sure how to strike up conversation
Is this worth pursuing or should I just leave it as is?
October 3rd, 2012, 05:11 AM
Invite him out for coffee or happy hour. Say something like, "Let's meet up for [coffee or happy hour]. When would be a good time for you?" Get to know him better in person.
Or invite him out to a club again.
October 3rd, 2012, 06:26 AM
I think becoming friends first is a solid first step. So many people do the opposite, starting with sex and hoping they connect on a deeper level afterward.
I echo what HunterM wrote. You guys had a fun time the first night, and there seemed to be a connection. Now you've become more acquainted through Facebook so you at least know something of what he's like. Seems like a natural next step to meet socially so you can gauge what vibe is there.
Keep us updated.
October 3rd, 2012, 07:17 AM
Do you think that might be a bit creepy though? What if he isn't actually bi/gay and was only under the influence of alcohol
I don't know.. I feel like straight up asking him out for a "coffee" or drink may seem a bit forward? Maybe that's just me.
October 3rd, 2012, 07:27 AM
What's so creepy about inviting someone out for coffee? I do that all the time meeting up with friends, straights and gays.
October 3rd, 2012, 11:39 AM
That's what coffee was invented for. That and mornings.
October 5th, 2012, 02:26 AM
Thanks for the advice guys! What do you reckon would be the best way to approach it though? Private message? Comment on one of his statuses/activities? Or just plain wall post it?
October 5th, 2012, 03:32 PM
I would never post it on his wall!! Private message is the way I would ask him. Keep us posted please!