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    How to rebuild my social life

    when I started working, my hours have shifted.

    I find myself in a cycle of sleep - work - home (do nothing or mindless stuff) - sleep
    I get up around 7 or 8am, go to bed at 11pm.
    most bars are happening from 11pm to 2am, and afterhour bars are happening till 3am to 4am.

    if I want to meet people to get laid, while keeping my work schedule, I am slightly at a disadvantage.

    What are my options?
    Option 1: alter my sleeping schedule, take naps, so that 11pm to 3am time block is more accessible and I can go to bars, dance, meet people and hook up.
    Option 2: find alternative to the bars when meeting people and hooking up
    Option 3: re-examine my desire to get laid, possibly finding other hobbies

    what would you do/suggest?

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    That's what weekends are for.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    Getting laid is a hobby? Is sleeping?

    That's a stretch.

    What real hobbies do you have? You are implying you think you are obsessed. Let's run with it.

    Maybe it would be easier to transition to relationships if you developed real hobbies and found guys with like interests.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    Welcome to every day life for most of us....

    But there's always the weekend. And if you think this is bad, try being married with kids. I lost all my friends to marriage. They are LOCKED DOWN!

    The rest of us live for the weekends!

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    This is exactly why God invented happy hour.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    Quote Originally Posted by chrisdobro View Post
    when I started working, my hours have shifted.

    I find myself in a cycle of sleep - work - home (do nothing or mindless stuff) - sleep
    I get up around 7 or 8am, go to bed at 11pm.
    most bars are happening from 11pm to 2am, and afterhour bars are happening till 3am to 4am.

    if I want to meet people to get laid, while keeping my work schedule, I am slightly at a disadvantage.

    What are my options?
    Option 1: alter my sleeping schedule, take naps, so that 11pm to 3am time block is more accessible and I can go to bars, dance, meet people and hook up.
    Option 2: find alternative to the bars when meeting people and hooking up
    Option 3: re-examine my desire to get laid, possibly finding other hobbies

    what would you do/suggest?
    ummm after midnight isn't really a social life.
    Social life can be during the day or early evening.


    NEVER LISTEN TO A ONE SIDED STORY AND JUDGE.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    I suggest/would do: just keep working, and sleeping. Forget social life, you'll make more money, and save a lot of money that way. This really does work, I've done it for the 33 years I've been working full time. The money will come in handy when I die. I'm going to take it with me and buy ice water, and maybe even a air conditioner! I'll need it, I just know I'll be firing the boiler down there...

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    okay thanks

    lol I see

    well .. so I am living a typical life here

    uggghh... I have tasted a different life tho than this and I am hungry!
    but I see. How I am supposed to fold my life into 2 days on weekends. Not cool!!

    I'll have to make it work somehow. I'll see.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    Quote Originally Posted by chrisdobro View Post
    okay thanks

    lol I see

    well .. so I am living a typical life here

    uggghh... I have tasted a different life tho than this and I am hungry!
    but I see. How I am supposed to fold my life into 2 days on weekends. Not cool!!

    I'll have to make it work somehow. I'll see.
    Perhaps your expectation is too high. Not saying you have to settle for crap, but is partying and going out practically every night really what you want? Do you not realize that overly frequent celebration and partying only serves to lessen its thrill or joy?

    There is value in looking forward to a good thing. The idol rich (whoever they are) often face the inevitable boredom that results from having pleasure too readily available.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    Welcome to reality, bro. Not all of us get the privilege to party our days away. I'm running nonstop from 6am to 11pm (later some evenings), driving here, driving there, working 8+ hours a day, coming home, crunching bills, cleaning house, refereeing my siblings, making dinner, laundry, showers, dishes, store runs, gas runs, chasing the fucking dog down the street because he got out runs. I have the life of someone twice my age, and I'm only 21. Add that fact that I'm always broke, it's been nearly 6 months since I've seen one of my best friends because our schedules conflict so badly, and even when I lose my job in less than two weeks, I'll still be in the same exact boat with my new job.

    Enjoy what little bit of freedom you may have to be bored enough to reexamine your social life, dude. Have a drink for me.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    Hmm, yeah. It doesn't seem like you are asking how to keep a social life, but rather, how to keep a nightlife.

    I ran into this same problem the past year as well. During my university years, unless it was midterms or finals, I could go out anytime I wanted - usually 2 nights a week, sometimes 3. Once I graduated and started working full time, I could still go out during the week occasionally, but had to watch how much I drank, and how late I stayed out. As long as I got at least 4 hours of sleep, I could be functional at the office the next day - just with some extra coffee. Drink a lot of water before going to bed and try to eat something. You don't need to nap after work to pull it off, just stay out until 2:30 or so, and only do it once or twice a month and you'll be okay. I don't know how physically demanding your job is, though - mine was office work.

    And then, of course, there are the weekends. But usually by Friday I was so tired, Saturday's end up being more fun - even if my friends started to rag on me about it. Whatever.

    Some advice, though - try not to center your 'going out', as you get older, on getting laid. I mean, if that's what you want, whatever. But you could probably get laid without going out (manhunt, grindr, etc.). If you want to go out to keep a social life after work, which I think is totally reasonable, then try to make it more about who you are going out with, who you will see, or meet, etc. And then, when you meet someone - instead of going home together right away - just get his number. Text a bit. Maybe you'll end up dating, which will probably be more fulfilling than a one night stand. Try going out to meet people, but then don't go home with them. It can also be really nice to go home with them and not fuck. Just sleep together. It's cute.

    Another idea, although I found this hard to implicate myself while working full time because so much social life is, admittedly, centered around going out... is to try and meet with your friends in non-party settings. Go see a movie, go to a cafe, go hang out with them in a park. Someone mentioned happy hour, I dunno - some people get really into that, so give it a shot - personally, socializing with people right after a long day of work never really did it for me.

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    let it go, man. you're doing it all wrong.
    one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

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    Re: How to rebuild my social life

    Option 3: re-examine my desire to get laid

    not only that but other things as well. But most importantly: WHAT..you really want in life?

    be a minimalist a bit and throw every unnecessary baggage/waste...only you can unlock.

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