Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

[72-Jay]

wanna se ma pussy?

wait ... that was almost readable?
The real question is: Is sloppyseconds a...
...guy?
...girl?
...or some sorta bot/computer?
LOL

I think I'd be a fugly girl.

Best to stay as a cute guy then

[justdra]

This is so surreal. Yesterday I went to help my neighbor out and we went over to his parents house and were were talking about her living out in the country and I said it was too quiet, etc and she was like "girl blah blah", "girl this that and the other" and I'm dying laughing inside because this fucking thread popped in my head. On the way home, I told her son, my neighbor about it and he said oh thats show she talks to gay people because her brother (his uncle) is gay and that's how they talk to each other. It just cracked me up.

[Audio Tech]

I think I'd punch someone's teeth out if they called me Girl after the first warning.

There's nothing "girl" about me. Probably why I have only straight friends... we get along much better.

[GiancarloC]

so i can't joke around? geez, get a sense of humor. you seem like the type of person that goes to a comedy show with an angry face wondering why everybody around you is laughing.

like there's people actually dedicating pointless essays about me joking around about biting someone's hand off because i don't like being called girl then going to say that i'm the one that needs help.

Wow at your avatar! If that isn't misogynist then I don't know what is. You're not joking around... you've crossed several lines into downright offensive behavior. I'm not writing up essays about what I think of your behavior. Unlike others, I keep things simple and to the point.

[refujiunderground]

Wow at your avatar! If that isn't misogynist then I don't know what is. You're not joking around... you've crossed several lines into downright offensive behavior. I'm not writing up essays about what I think of your behavior. Unlike others, I keep things simple and to the point.

you are one sorry ass dude, you know that?

for real, even at times when i'm obviously joking around or being sarcastic, you have to ruin it. it's like dayum, do you know how to joke around or even laugh @ times? do you even smile? i'm really getting tired of having to explain every single thing that comes out my mouth to you. i'm offended at your need to be serious every single thread you make. it's the INTERNET for crying out loud.

and i got no ma'am from married with children (a show that i like to this day and as a kid, i watched religiously every sunday along with the simpsons). it doesn't hurt but to ask, man, if you're curious. it was based on a JOKE. you like to argue just to argue. you probably argue with your boyfriend too over which side of the bed you guys are going to sleep on at night or what station to watch. being that you argue over everything in here even the things that are about nothing.

[GiancarloC]

It's evident enough. I don't care for that show. It's still misogynist. I'm not the one that is a sorry ass dude. Not here.

[refujiunderground]

It's evident enough. I don't care for that show. It's still misogynist. I'm not the one that is a sorry ass dude. Not here.

it's a JOKE. it's not meant to be taken seriously.

for real, if i ever meet you, i'm taking you to a comedy show because you seem uptight and serious about everything.


this is for you.

[GiancarloC]

Here is something you should listen and try to stay away from this erratic behavior:

[ravenstar]

I find being called girl offensive frankly. I always have. I may be gay, but I don't have a vagina or a uterus or boobs so therefore I'm not a girl. Mind you I find a lot of things offensive lately. Like mangina and boy pussy, those terms irritate me. Maybe I'm just turning into a grumpy old man.

[refujiunderground]

Here is something you should listen and try to stay away from this erratic behavior:

that's different. mel gibson is crazy. i'm NOT. i'm probably one of the most sane people on this board believe it or not. do not let my posts fool you. you seem a bit off though with your anger/oversensitivity issues.

i can joke around with you over something and you'll get all serious talking about "i don't like furby, he's a pedophile made as a kid's toy". relax.

[Kien]

that's different. mel gibson is crazy. i'm NOT. i'm probably one of the most sane people on this board believe it or not. do not let my posts fool you. you seem a bit off though with your anger/oversensitivity issues.

No offense, but I don't really see much sanity in "pretending" to be insane through your constant negative and aggressive posts, which usually turn out to be you just ranting about everything in life. You even asked me if I would "diagnose" you with a mental illness, unless you were "joking" about that too.

If you don't want people thinking you're insane, then stop acting like you are insane.

[GiancarloC]

that's different. mel gibson is crazy. i'm NOT. i'm probably one of the most sane people on this board believe it or not. do not let my posts fool you. you seem a bit off though with your anger/oversensitivity issues.

i can joke around with you over something and you'll get all serious talking about "i don't like furby, he's a pedophile made as a kid's toy". relax.

Wait... I'm the one with anger and over sensitivity issues lol? i might be rough around the edges because of my growing up, but I'm not an angry individual. People can say that about your behavior on here.

Mel Gibson kinda reminds me of you.

[refujiunderground]

No offense, but I don't really see much sanity in "pretending" to be insane through your constant negative and aggressive posts, which usually turn out to be you just ranting about everything in life. You even asked me if I would "diagnose" you with a mental illness, unless you were "joking" about that too.

If you don't want people thinking you're insane, then stop acting like you are insane.

well, if i went over to how many shrinks voluntarily and a majority of them said that there was nothing wrong with me and i was looking for something to be wrong with me then that says a lot more than what somebody who only knows me through a bunch of text could say about me. what it sounds like is that there's some people that are just looking for something to talk about because they have nothing to do perhaps.

i think it's foolish to assume how somebody is like you know them personally based on a bunch of text. i don't know how you can act insane on a message board. i didn't know you can tell how somebody is in real life off of what they say on a message board. the online world and the offline world is two different things. i would say silly, stupid and nonsensical but insane? i've been on message boards for about 12 years so i know how it is. it's usually the people that try their hardest to come off all proper and cool that are usually the ones you should be worried about because they're hiding something. i've seen it over and over again. i'm just treating the internet like the internet and not a job like some of you are doing it. breathe.

[Kien]

It'd take a while to quote all of your 3,335 posts.

Anyways, I think it's funny how you're allowed to judge people when you don't "know them personally," yet we can't. Perhaps insane was the wrong word, but rather emotionally disturbed.

[refujiunderground]

It'd take a while to quote all of your 3,335 posts.

Anyways, I think it's funny how you're allowed to judge people when you don't "know them personally," yet we can't. Perhaps insane was the wrong word, but rather emotionally disturbed.

i don't. i just say my piece and keep it moving. i don't make it a habit to beat a dead horse or start a feud over nothing. if you notice something, i do not follow around fetaby or giancarlo to argue with them over whatever unlike how they do with me basically repeating themselves on how they feel about me, making a whole lot of judgements or whatever then talking about me being the one that's bothering them. i don't take this thing personally unlike some people do as if they have something to prove so you're not talking to me.

[GiancarloC]

He's judged me plenty... it's funny. Also made some misjudgments about my tastes. I think I won't pay attention to him any longer.

[Kien]

i don't. i just say my piece and keep it moving. i don't make it a habit to beat a dead horse or start a feud over nothing. if you notice something, i do not follow around fetaby or giancarlo to argue with them over whatever unlike how they do with me basically repeating themselves. i don't take this thing personally unlike some people do as if they have something to prove so you're not talking to me.

But you do. You judged Frank Ocean for no reason at all. You said "his music sucks dick. Fuck him and fuck his music." Seriously, if you don't like his music, I'm fine with that cause I probably wouldn't like it either. But you always have the impulse to be so negative and aggressive and that's why you don't get along well with people.

Whatever though, I don't feel like getting into a never ending argument with you.

[GiancarloC]

But you do. You judged Frank Ocean for no reason at all. You said "his music sucks dick. Fuck him and fuck his music." Seriously, if you don't like his music, I'm fine with that cause I probably wouldn't like it either. But you always have the impulse to be so negative and aggressive and that's why you don't get along well with people.

Whatever though, I don't feel like getting into a never ending argument with you.

I wonder what he thinks of Adam Lambert or Josh Strickland... err... rather not ask lol

[refujiunderground]

But you do. You judged Frank Ocean for no reason at all. You said "his music sucks dick. Fuck him and fuck his music." Seriously, if you don't like his music, I'm fine with that cause I probably wouldn't like it either. But you always have the impulse to be so negative and aggressive and that's why you don't get along well with people.

Whatever though, I don't feel like getting into a never ending argument with you.

what's wrong with saying that? fuck him and his music. don't see what's wrong with what i said.

[elGeniuoso1721]

i didn't know you can tell how somebody is in real life off of what they say on a message board.

I mean..............you CAN tell how someone is in real life based off what they say in a message board. Text is a form of communication.....communication "communicates" things........such as personality. Whether by asynchronous text or synchronous in-person conversation....what you say communicates stuff..........that's fact...............

[fetaby]

i don't. i just say my piece and keep it moving. i don't make it a habit to beat a dead horse or start a feud over nothing. if you notice something, i do not follow around fetaby or giancarlo to argue with them over whatever unlike how they do with me basically repeating themselves on how they feel about me, making a whole lot of judgements or whatever then talking about me being the one that's bothering them. i don't take this thing personally unlike some people do as if they have something to prove so you're not talking to me.

Who's arguing? I'm just saying my piece... So now I can't go around JUB freely and say whatever the fuck I want? Only you get that privilege?

Anyway, while all this attention has been given to you, it seems this post has slipped on by...

I think I'd punch someone's teeth out if they called me Girl after the first warning.

There's nothing "girl" about me. Probably why I have only straight friends... we get along much better.

Really, Audiotech? Is it that serious?

[hotatlboi]

Not a fan of it.

[DigitalFudge]

My own mother mistakenly calls me "girl" sometimes when we're chatting about things over the phone. It's usually because she starts to go on and on about something as if she's speaking with her girlfriends, and in turn forgets that she's actually talking to her son.

It always cracks me up, but she feels bad about it.

My sister does the same thing (Well, one of them) it's so cute.


My dad calls me Honey, well a lot of dad's call their son sweety/honey but he is just so use to calling all his daughters that.

I think I'd punch someone's teeth out if they called me Girl after the first warning.

There's nothing "girl" about me. Probably why I have only straight friends... we get along much better.

You messy bitch



Dear lord I missed all the Refuji drama. I was just trying to read up but then I hit those paragraphs...


I ain't bout all dat.


See you girls in the next thread.

[refujiunderground]

I mean..............you CAN tell how someone is in real life based off what they say in a message board. Text is a form of communication.....communication "communicates" things........such as personality. Whether by asynchronous text or synchronous in-person conversation....what you say communicates stuff..........that's fact...............

you must not come to message boards often because anybody that has racked up a good amount of time on message boards knows that what's on the internet doesn't always translate in real life.

for example, the person that you might think is the coolest, smartest person on this website might actually be a douchebagish asshole or even an alias that's created by someone who wants to just fuck with you. i've seen it ALL and that comes with spending time on message boards. so do you think it really matters what i post as long as i'm a real person behind this shit? i can present myself anyway i want to, say whatever i want as long as it doesn't violate the community guidelines of the message board because that's what the message board designated purpose is. it is not a job where i have to present myself like how i do around my friends, my family, at my job and etc because it's supposed to be a place where you're free to express yourself in whichever way you feel like doing. it's not like anybody knows me offline on here and if they do, they probably will tell you differently about how i am on in real life than on this site. i can assure you that. the internet gives me more freedom than in real life where i can say things that i wouldn't say in person.

the problem that some of you people have is that you forget that you never know who you're dealing with on the internet. for all you know, i could be your boss and you would have no way of knowing it. you have NO idea of knowing so keep an open mind and don't judge people. you can assume that i'm such and such but the truth is YOU DO NOT KNOW so it would be stupid to go like "refujiunderground is an asshole in real life where he mistreats people." you don't know me.

[GiancarloC]

I was gonna write up some big reply to that... but... I just can't...

[refujiunderground]

Who's arguing? I'm just saying my piece... So now I can't go around JUB freely and say whatever the fuck I want? Only you get that privilege?

Anyway, while all this attention has been given to you, it seems this post has slipped on by...



Really, Audiotech? Is it that serious?

let's get this straight. i stated an opinion, you disagreed with it and decided to attack my character as if you have a personal issue with me. it's one thing if you had a problem with what i said, you could have just left it at that but to go into this whole "you're closeted, you're putting on a facade, and all this other bullshit". you're looking for something and then you have the nerve to try to push it on me like i'm the one with the problem.

and there's people in here talking about judging. giancarlo out of all people talking about me judging him yet he'll be calling me all sorts of stuff because of my opinion to jokes from violent sociopath to mysognist. only thing i ever called you was argumentative and serious in which that's what you do on the message board. i don't know if you're that way off here but for someone who likes to act like he's all innocent and whatever. i never attacked anybody in here that wasn't coming at me. may have disagreed with you guys but i don't attack anybody that hasn't attacked me so you guys are making false claims. just like you guys are claiming that i'm attacking you guys yet i never said anything to anybody here prior to me talking. it seems like the problem is you guys, not me.

[GiancarloC]

I judge by the words you post. That's all. You post enough to show me how you're like. And not for a minute am I acting innocent. I know I have a rough personality, but at least I admit it.

[refujiunderground]

I judge by the words you post. That's all. You post enough to show me how you're like. And not for a minute am I acting innocent. I know I have a rough personality, but at least I admit it.

that's fine, no problem with that.

my issue is when certain people have to follow me around voicing how they feel about me as if there's a personal beef or grudge going on. that's my prob. it's one thing if we have to disagree upon something and happens to be in a bunch of threads. that's cool but for someone to go about on tirades attacking me as a person as if they know me, how i am offline and my situation is fucked up. like there's people attacking me for being in the closet and using it against me because they can't find anything to say to counter whatever i said in my opinion. it would be cool if someone would just undermine what i stated but this bullshit where someone gotta talk about my life and me is something else. is someone that much offended at what i say where they have to go to that level? i'm wondering what's next. for someone to call me ugly in the pic thread i posted or to try to expose me to another web forum on some spiteful shit because of my opinion differing from theirs. it seems like it.

this reminds me of the other forum i go to where i state an opinion and i have random people attacking me calling me a virgin, saying i'm a loser, i'm depressed, i should kill myself and all this personal shit. all i just have to say is that it's not cloudy outside or whatever and i get people coming at me like i fucked their girlfriend or boyfriend. then they have the nerve to wonder why i get defensive and offended. for real.

[elGeniuoso1721]

you must not come to message boards often because anybody that has racked up a good amount of time on message boards knows that what's on the internet doesn't always translate in real life.

for example, the person that you might think is the coolest, smartest person on this website might actually be a douchebagish asshole or even an alias that's created by someone who wants to just fuck with you. i've seen it ALL and that comes with spending time on message boards. so do you think it really matters what i post as long as i'm a real person behind this shit? i can present myself anyway i want to, say whatever i want as long as it doesn't violate the community guidelines of the message board because that's what the message board designated purpose is. it is not a job where i have to present myself like how i do around my friends, my family, at my job and etc because it's supposed to be a place where you're free to express yourself in whichever way you feel like doing. it's not like anybody knows me offline on here and if they do, they probably will tell you differently about how i am on in real life than on this site. i can assure you that. the internet gives me more freedom than in real life where i can say things that i wouldn't say in person.

the problem that some of you people have is that you forget that you never know who you're dealing with on the internet. for all you know, i could be your boss and you would have no way of knowing it. you have NO idea of knowing so keep an open mind and don't judge people. you can assume that i'm such and such but the truth is YOU DO NOT KNOW so it would be stupid to go like "refujiunderground is an asshole in real life where he mistreats people." you don't know me.

This is definitely intriguing...because you're coming at several people for judging you....yet you just judged me, saying that I "must not come onto message boards often." For all you know, I could be on several boards. Because you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT and I AGREE with you..."what's on the internet doesn't always translate in real life." You are right. But you are a tad hypocritical based off of this post.

Also I didn't judge you at all in my post. I'm not taking sides in this "Refuji vs. GiancarloC" argument, both of you need to get a grip honestly...but I was pointing out that your previous statement was objectively inaccurate because communication communicates. I did not "assume that you are such and such," because....again....YOU ARE RIGHT. I don't know you. But when you say "i didn't know you can tell how somebody is in real life off of what they say on a message board".....then it seems as though you are missing something. But I never called you "an asshole who mistreats people." Or any derogatory terms. Wasn't me.

Also to quote you again: "it's not like anybody knows me offline on here and if they do, they probably will tell you differently about how i am on in real life than on this site. i can assure you that. the internet gives me more freedom than in real life where i can say things that i wouldn't say in person."

^^^a question based off this: Are you fake? This statement kinda implies that....but correct me if I'm wrong because I don't want to judge you.

[fetaby]

let's get this straight. i stated an opinion, you disagreed with it and decided to attack my character as if you have a personal issue with me. it's one thing if you had a problem with what i said, you could have just left it at that but to go into this whole "you're closeted, you're putting on a facade, and all this other bullshit". you're looking for something and then you have the nerve to try to push it on me like i'm the one with the problem.

Bitch please, go back to page one. Read your posts, read my post. It's #48.

I didn't disagree with you about shit. I asked you a question. But you're too busy playing martyr to bother with actually trying to have a discussion on a message board.

Now if you'd like to try again...

You said:

i'm not going to fit into a certain mold just because i'm gay or because i'm black. i never let a characteristic define me and it should never be like that.

Which is a very reasonable and respectable approach to living, one I don't have any problem agreeing with whatsoever.
But this quote coming from the same person who types this:

go ahead and call me girl and see if i don't bite your finger off. fuck it, i'll take the whole hand then. i was born with a dick. don't get cute with me because i'm gay.

Makes me want to ask this:

then why do you let what is stereotypically considered male aggression define your persona here at JustUsBoys, and here in this particular post?....

Why is it so important to you not let being gay or black define you, but so easily let being born with a dick define you? Asshole.

[refujiunderground]

This is definitely intriguing...because you're coming at several people for judging you....yet you just judged me, saying that I "must not come onto message boards often." For all you know, I could be on several boards. Because you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT and I AGREE with you..."what's on the internet doesn't always translate in real life." You are right. But you are a tad hypocritical based off of this post.

Also I didn't judge you at all in my post. I'm not taking sides in this "Refuji vs. GiancarloC" argument, both of you need to get a grip honestly...but I was pointing out that your previous statement was objectively inaccurate because communication communicates. I did not "assume that you are such and such," because....again....YOU ARE RIGHT. I don't know you. But when you say "i didn't know you can tell how somebody is in real life off of what they say on a message board".....then it seems as though you are missing something. But I never called you "an asshole who mistreats people." Or any derogatory terms. Wasn't me.

Also to quote you again: "it's not like anybody knows me offline on here and if they do, they probably will tell you differently about how i am on in real life than on this site. i can assure you that. the internet gives me more freedom than in real life where i can say things that i wouldn't say in person."

^^^a question based off this: Are you fake? This statement kinda implies that....but correct me if I'm wrong because I don't want to judge you.

i think you're reading into too much of what i'm saying. my simple point is this. this is just a web forum. i'm a real person. i do not feel obligated to be a certain way over the computer for anybody especially on a web forum. this is not a job, it's a hobby. i do not feel like having to follow certain guidelines a stranger makes if it serves me no purpose.

and i think you asking if i'm fake is just you reading way too much into what i'm saying. my point is why can't i just do what i want to do on here without people stepping into my business questioning every single thing. i don't come around telling people to make these threads or to say this or that. nor do i go as far as to wonder how they are offline because it's none of my business. i try to fall back away from that because i don't know who i'm dealing with. i can only assume. so i think it's out of your domain to even ask that because the truth is you will never know. i can tell you that i'm real or that i'm fake but how would you know? just leave it alone. i don't think you need an explanation for every single post i make or my reasons behind it or etc. that's just ridiculous. i mean dayum, do you really have to know every single thing about me or the working of my mind or whatever?

[elGeniuoso1721]

i think you're reading into too much of what i'm saying. my simple point is this. this is just a web forum. i'm a real person. i do not feel obligated to be a certain way over the computer for anybody especially on a web forum. this is not a job, it's a hobby. i do not feel like having to follow certain guidelines a stranger makes if it serves me no purpose.

and i think you asking if i'm fake is just you reading way too much into what i'm saying. my point is why can't i just do what i want to do on here without such people trying to dictate who i should be. i don't come around telling people to make these threads or to say this or that. nor do i go as far as to wonder how they are offline because it's none of my business. so i think it's out of your domain to even ask that because the truth is you will never know. i can tell you that i'm real or that i'm fake but how would you know? just leave it alone.

I was curious, so I asked. There's lots of irony here though. Meh. You have made a good point though also. Meh. I'll leave it alone since you asked. I think I got the answers I was looking for though, hahahaa

[jmadaf]

No, but I prefer Bitch when I'm getting fucked.

[refujiunderground]

Bitch please, go back to page one. Read your posts, read my post. It's #48.

I didn't disagree with you about shit. I asked you a question. But you're too busy playing martyr to bother with actually trying to have a discussion on a message board.

Now if you'd like to try again...

You said:

Which is a very reasonable and respectable approach to living, one I don't have any problem agreeing with whatsoever.
But this quote coming from the same person who types this:


Makes me want to ask this:



Why is it so important to you not let being gay or black define you, but so easily let being born with a dick define you? Asshole.

i don't like to be called girl because it plays into a stereotype of what a homosexual male is. like just because i'm black doesn't mean i like to be called the n-word or be called the n-word. just because i'm a gay guy doesn't mean i like to be called girl. i also mentioned that because i'm a man doesn't mean that you can call me bro or give me a 6 pack of beer for my birthday. wasn't really giving much emphasis with the whole "i was born with a dick" in my statement.

[refujiunderground]

I was curious, so I asked. There's lots of irony here though. Meh. You have made a good point though also. Meh. I'll leave it alone since you asked. I think I got the answers I was looking for though, hahahaa

i'm a real life person if that's what you're asking. am i fake as a person as in i'm a phony? depends on what i'm doing or who i'm around. of course, i'm not going to keep it real if it could get me in trouble. that would be stupid. sometimes, i lie because the truth can get my ass into some shit such as coming out the closet. at this point, i think that coming out wouldn't be the best thing to do because i could get kicked out where i live or could lose my job until i find one better which is what i'm doing now. but for the most part, i keep it real to myself and that's what counts.

and as for me asking you to mind your business. that was me pretty much telling you to stop trying to figure me out, my intentions and everything else because i can't explain to you every single thing i do or the threads i make or whatever. sometimes, i feel like doing it because i feel like doing it. i don't feel the need to explain everything.

okay now i'm done.

[fetaby]

i don't like to be called girl because it plays into a stereotype of what a homosexual male is. like just because i'm black doesn't mean i like to be called the n-word or be called the n-word. just because i'm a gay guy doesn't mean i like to be called girl. i also mentioned that because i'm a man doesn't mean that you can call me bro or give me a 6 pack of beer for my birthday. wasn't really giving much emphasis with the whole "i was born with a dick" in my statement.

Now I will have to disagree. And here's why...

All the things that I bolded are outside of your control. Sure, you don't have to like any of it. But you do understand that it is not your decision on how others choose to treat you based on their prejudices and stereotypes. It happens. Whatever...

But you didn't answer my question...

My question was, how a person who says they don't like for a characteristic that is outside of their control to define them, in turn chooses to define themselves in a stereotypical way?

You don't have to answer the question if you don't want to, that's your choice. You could keep it movin'....

[dancub]

Again, just a saying. I don't see why people are getting so angry about it. Don't like it? Ignore it. Why is it low? Are women bad? Bit misogynist I think.

This is what I think too.

[mitchymo]

Call me 'girl'.......sure fire way to make me hate you.

[CupidBoy]

I remember this thread, y'all get upset over the dumbest shit.

[gsdx]

I mind it very much. I bear no resemblance whatsoever to a female. I don't look like one. I don't sound like one. I don't wear makeup like one. I don't dress like one.

Nothing misogynistic about it. I have nothing against females. I don't hate them let alone dislike them. I just don't want to be called one. As mentioned above, it does nothing more than promote a stereotype to which I do not ascribe.

[xbuzzerx]

I do not conceive of myself as a woman in any way. I do not like being called girl. Lots of gay guys do it and if it's friends just teasing me, it doesn't bother me as much, but when guys I don't know as well do it I'm always cringing really hard behind my fake smile. I definitely don't like it. I'm sure there's people who feel no harm in it but I can't help but think of using female terminology for ourselves as kind of step backwards.. rather than being gay men we're identifying more like straight women. Whether that is intentional or unintentional.

[BreakTheIce]

My boyfriend calls me bitch more than gurl, and I don't mind.

[HunterM]

[EuroSoccer]

Hey guuuuurrrrlllllllllll.......................

[bobobo]

I don't offend easily, but I don't like it myself. I remarked in another thread that I had a high school Latin teacher, Father Gilbert, who insisted on being called Mother Gilbert and being referred to in the feminine.

[Scealle]

I usually don't mind too much and actually I called my str8 guy friends gurl all the time lol but only because they called me fag all the time lol. I don't get offended easily and I know that they are not really meant what they say.

[MarkDW]

Along with a few others here, Im a guy, not a girl, don't call me one. Also, in the same vain....I have an asshole, not a manpussy. HATE that term, and don't know why gay men use it.

[Huntneo(PT)]

LOL I love you guys. I have some of my best laughs on JUB.

[EuroSoccer]

Along with a few others here, Im a guy, not a girl, don't call me one. Also, in the same vain....I have an asshole, not a manpussy. HATE that term, and don't know why gay men use it.

[mitchymo]

Let me elaborate a little as to why being called 'girl/gurl' would seriously bother me.

During the years of coming to terms with my sexuality, it felt to me that simply by being gay, my masculinity was called into question, you know, like i can't be a real man because i'm different. I resented that, becuase i know that i am no different at all, as men go. There is nothing that any straight men can do that gay men can't (bring themselves to do, now that is a different matter, but even that is on par with straight guys).
I don't like ANYTHING which makes me feel demasculinised. That is how i've grew up as a gay guy. I don't tell any gay guys NOT to use the term girl or gurl in reference to those who are cool with it, but it shouldn't be bandied about in reference to anyone who happens to be gay because its insensitive.
I get that some guys rationalise that 'i am the way that i am, so nothing else matters', but not all gays are like that. I'm a 'being gay has little to do with who i am' kind of a guy. Not to say that it isn't an immensely important part, just that it only is because of the shitty age of oppression that the world is still in.