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    My penis is too big

    Help! This is something that has been making me feel anxious and a little hopeless. The story pretty much goes like this:
    A) My penis is a little larger than average, 8.5" and pretty thick
    B) I'm skinny as can be no matter what I eat or do, my metabolism is just like that, so it makes things worse when men see me hard
    C) Almost every gay man I've met say how much they'd like to have sex with someone with a big penis, but the truth is when they get to see it, they panick. It's the same experience over and over, "I don't think You will be able to put that in my ass" "I don't think I can fit that in there" "I can't even fit it in my mouth, there's no way you'll ever be able to put it in there" "I'm willing to do it, but it will be a process" "your dick is huge" "where do you hide that thing?" "i wonder if one day it will start talking to me".... then they just give up trying, I feel anxious, then I'm afraid I will hurt someone, it makes me feel very depressed... This is an awful feeling, it really bothers me, I wish I could just have a normal size penis, and a normal sex life, but it always seems to be a struggle, I'm about to give up on trying to penetrate someone, I could really use some advice, I'm sure I can't be the only one out there experiencing this!

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    Re: My penis is too big

    Can you post a pic?

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    Re: My penis is too big

    Can you explain how posting a pic of it would help? I'm looking for a little bit of sympathy here, not to expose what makes me feel like a freak, I'm not looking for approval, I'm looking for some advice...

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    Re: My penis is too big

    Your asking for help, and then you shut the door...pic give us a idea of what your issue is, some look at it for fun and some to try to give a opinion of the issue. So by pic's we can then see for our self's either it is/is not big, average, or your bullshitting us, hense the not wanting to post a pic.

    Now you don't have to, which will get you nothing, or you'll get opinions as to what you are going through. The mind works with images, then it can process the visual in words you may/may not like.

    You posted here asking for help/advise we are tring to give to you, and your not willing/open to posting a pic of just ur cock not your face, so that we can then give you the advice YOU ARE ASKING FOR.

    If you wanted sympathy, your in the wrong line, I don't believe you'll find sympathy for having a big dick at least not here. But you may find opinions to help you ease the thought that you are afreak or something.. which you are not. You were born with a large (if it is large) blame your dad's gene pool, so you can't change it, why let it bring you down when it should make you feel better about what you were given and who you are.

    So either it is big or it's not..

    And finally if people are telling you or making you feel like a freak,, you need to find new people....

    PS.. ifyou do post a pic of your cock, just make sure it really is your cock....
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    Re: My penis is too big

    Quote Originally Posted by Willouth View Post
    Can you explain how posting a pic of it would help? I'm looking for a little bit of sympathy here, not to expose what makes me feel like a freak, I'm not looking for approval, I'm looking for some advice...
    I'm with you on this. I may be a horrible judge of size, but I think we all know perspective and the angle the photo was taken can mess with our impressions of things, so him posting a picture might not be the pancea that some seem to think it might be.

    Regardless, I think the more practice you get with sex, the better you will be able to alleviate your fears about sex. Just because you have a big dick, it doesn't mean that you can't learn to use it in a way that guys will be able to enjoy. You just need to find the right guy, who will be patient with you and then you'll be able to feel more comfortable with sex and figuring out the ways you can use what oyu have for maximum pleasure on both sides of the equation.

    Good luck and feel free to PM me if you'd like.

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    Re: My penis is too big

    Willouth, I agree with what altlover85 has posted. You can and will give a lot of guys out there "pleasure" while you learn how to use your "yummy" love muscle the lucky dude that is with you will learn to satisfy you as well, all by learning - together

    If I lived near you I would be more than happy to be your "practice buddy"

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    Re: My penis is too big

    Lengthwise I don't think it's that unusual. I'm just a little bit shorter than you and yes, some guys have complained that they don't want to get fucked by me, but then I'm usually not into fucking, so no big deal for me. Others have taken it without any complains. As for thickness I don't know, I wouldn't call myself as exceptional thick, but I'm not thin either. Getting my dick into any mouth was never a problem and there was always room for much more thickness. However, I'm also no fan of pushing in my dick as far as possible or deep-throating. I prefer a leisurely suck on the head and lots of licking action. If you're really into the more extreme forms of penetration you need to find guys who can and will go along with it. And they a

    Anyway, there are lots of guys who will love and appreciate your dick as it is. Be proud of it and just don't think you have to make everyone happy. It might take a moment or two to find the right guy, but coming up with strange ideas about you being a freak is stupid. You're just a bit bigger than the average, but most of all you're unique and you should be proud of yourself.
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    My guy worried about hurting me because of his size. I'm happy to say it is not an issue. It's just a question of lube, patience and practice.

    Two things to remember:
    It's a hell of a lot more fun to practice this than it was to learn ukelele at school.
    And...
    Every guy should worry about hurting the guy he's fucking, no matter what his dick size. It is important to do it right so you don't hurt someone. Maybe not worry but care and concern.
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    Re: My penis is too big

    Quote Originally Posted by Willouth View Post
    8.5" and pretty thick
    I've taken one bigger than this, so yeah not every guy is limited in this way.

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    i used to date a 9.5-10 inch black man whos dick was as thick as my wrist and I can promise you that size is not your problem its the guys you are with.. It will fit fine with enough paitence and lube trust me and once you have found that bottom that is willing to take on your impressive stature both of you will have a good time..
    take your time and good luck..
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    Re: My penis is too big

    You should register on LPSG or large penis support group, (not joking it's an online forum for guys like you.) Yes, your size will be a form of an obstacle with a lot of guys, but there are also guys out there who can bottom for someone like you and still complain that it's not big enough. A dick size will only be an "issue" in hook-ups, but it should never be a problem in a true loving-relationship as there are other forms of intimacy that both of you can appreciate and share. Look at the bright side, if you ever strapped for cash, you have the assets to audition in porn or find lots of fans on cam4.

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    Re: My penis is too big

    Dude, I can empathize with you. If you're over twice the smaller end of the average range for dick, it is an issue. I think you are hanging (LOL) with the wrong peeps. Personally, my very first cock up my virgin ass was a thick 10" and it was no problem. Like a duck to water, so to speak. I have known really HUNG guys who have a following...groupies who are size queens and can accommodate large cocks in either hole. See the vids with dudes getting fisted, taking parking cones up their butts, etc. These are men who really need and appreciate a big thick fuckstick with a pulse. Since you say you are pretty slender, I am thinkin you are also young...no worries, we were all young once, and some of us were skinny then, too. Experience within a perhaps larger community will give you a better perspective and you will come to appreciate that you have been endowed by your Creator. Don't dispair...you are going to be a star. The chances of you not having a date ANY nite of the week are pretty low. Trust me, it seems like a curse now, but soon you will appreciate your penis as the gift that it is.

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    Re: My penis is too big

    well, if they say it will take patience/time, do they have that patience?
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    Re: My penis is too big

    Being in a similar circumstance but with many more years of experience this is my advice that I've learned over time.

    First don't post a picture unless you want to be on tumblr tomorrow.

    To start, the thing you need to do is make your partner feel comfortable. Assure him that you are well aware of your potential to inflict pain and even cause damage. Assume him that you have no intention of doing so and that you will stop immediately if he requests. Keep that promise. Be kind and gentle. Assure him that you want him to have a great time. Take a little time to gain his trust and then live up to it. He needs to feel like he has some control. He needs to feel like you want it to be a mutually shared experience.

    Second thing is take some time to learn how to do it right. You can't just slam it in particularly if he is not very experienced. You need lots and lots of lube. You need to push in slowly and as soon as you feel resistance or he says something, pull out. Give it a few seconds and then push in a little farther. You will have to repeat this several times or maybe a dozen or more times until he opens up and feels ready. Be gentle and patient and slow as he learns to trust you. By the time you are all way in he will have melted in ecstasy and you won't be far behind. Then....have fun!

    Another thing is learn some anatomy. Learn the angles of the way the rectum and colon is positioned and go directly in at a straight angle. It will be far less painful and feel oh so much better if you push in straight and you're only stretching the sphincter rather than pushing against the sides of the rectum at the same time.

    You have a wonderful gift. But, remember with great power comes great responsibility. If learn how to use it right, you will be able to send both yourself and your partner into the sexual stratosphere and the experiences will be unforgettable.

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    I have the same problem lol I'm only 19, I'm skinny as well no matter what or how much I eat I never seem to gain weight it's the opposite actually I lose weight pretty fast even when am eating good. anyways now to my penis, almost all the guys I cam with online (since I didn't have much experience in real life) say that I have a HUGE penis and am really self conscious about its size because it's really thick and has a curve to it which is what I'm mostly insecure about even though am mostly a bottom, I wish I was actually average sized.

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    OH, i just thought of something that helped my guy....he bought a dildo that looked a lot like his dick and same size/thickness too. With a little practice on himself he figured out how to make it comfortable.

    Even though I never really had any doubts, it gave him more confidence that he could fuck without hurting me. With him, thickness is definitely the issue. With me it's more depth. The position he's in makes a big difference whether he can take me all the way without it feeling weird so sometimes we have to adjust.
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    Isn't it more to do with width rather than length? You can control how far the length goes it; but you cannot control the width.

    If they complain about length just explain you will go slowly and certainly within their comfort-zone. If that is not good enough to satisfy their worry then allow them to control the situation - they can go on top and decide how far it goes in.

    It sounds as if the width is only a bit above average with "pretty thick", so that should not be a problem? A width measurement might help.

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    Re: My penis is too big

    To the guys that said your dick is too big: grow a spine and man up to a challenge.

    To the OP: My boyfriend is similar to you, except he has a bit of a belly (he's working on that part). At his hardest, he's 9" long and about 1.5 to 2" thick (diameter). When I first saw it I thought "shit, I'm going to enjoy this." And I have ever since.

    PS: If my boyfriend were to see you, I'm positive he would jump your bones; skinny guys with big dicks is his type and personal wet dream (which begs the question of how we're still together. Oh well )

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    Re: My penis is too big

    ummmm i wish i was worried about my 8.5 inch penis hahaha I'm 7 and wish i was bigger.... you just need to find someone who can handle it/...shouldnt be that hard to fine..... are you near seattle..cause I'm willing to help lol

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    Re: My penis is too big

    I thought bigger was good. I wish I could trade with you guys who want to be smaller. I certainly want to be bigger...

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    umm, 8.5 isn't much, I can throat a thick 12" to the base like it is nothing... not to be a pig or anything and the bigger ones stimulate prostate orgasms better than pencil dicks.

    maybe you are 12 or something... mine is average but I am the bottom so it doesn't matter to me when something like that can make me have multiple orgasms every 5-10 minutes.

    maybe it is that the people your age are not developed enough yet...

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    Re: My penis is too big

    Just be patient and keep trying. I have taken cocks bigger than your cock and enjoyed every minute of it. I will let them fuck me again if the opportunity presents itself.

    It sounds like you should try hooking up with more mature/experienced guys also . Best of luck!

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    Re: My penis is too big

    I sympathize. The ruler says I'm 7.5" (about 7-8" around) but everyone has said it looks like at least 8 or more like 9-9.5. My boyfriend I should look into reduction so I could fit it in (jokingly, but I seriously can't get in him). Only two guys has taken me all the way and they only last about one minute at a time before making me stop. Everyone else can't take the tip.

    Sometimes I start to feel bad and then I realize, "I have a big dick!". It's one of those grass is greener scenarios. I know someone will be able to take my dick eventually, and if I actually put work into a relationship they will cum sooner than later. You don't always have to penetrate, although it's really tempting when in the mood. Grinding, mutual jo, bj, hj, lube between their thighs and pumping there all works.

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    Re: My penis is too big

    How old are you? I'm asking because I'd experience the same, on occasion. Bit it seems now that I'm older, there's a few more that welcomes the challenge...or to give it a shot (I honestly never thought it THAT big before!)
    I wouldn't sweat it too much. What will happen is that you're going to learn techniques that will get people to relax and 'open up' ...try rimming them for a while...a finger in (try out slow fun techniques...not shoving it in and out!) And find that prostate to play with a bit before....learn to get them HUNGRY for it..relaxed...and open...take your time, but hell that's the best part!
    What can start as a simple blow job can end in them begging to be plowed like a field! If you take the time to learn what makes your partner tick....you'll know you're there when you have a 'strict top' begging for your dick that an hour ago was 'too big'
    Relax learn and enjoy...

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