No matter how much foreplay I do, how many fingers I build up to, my anus always rips in the same spot every time I slide a dick in. It's so annoying. It's like I can't go rough or else it rips (and I really need to get really rough in order to get off). What am I supposed to do? I even tried abstaining for a while to let it fully heal but it ALWAYS rips in the same spot.