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    Straight but unsure...

    Hey guys...

    So... I'm kind of confused about everything. I made an account today just to post this cause its been eating at me lately, and I dunno what to do. I've actually been on here a few times lol. I've just never posted anything before cause I dont want it getting traced back... anyway,

    A bit about myself: I'm in college in the south (USA), graduating this year, 22 years old. Typical college guy. I love sports, I love working out, I love beer and partying, I'm in a frat, same old same old. But I'm not sure of myself... whether I like guys or girls. Yeah you'd think it be kind of obvious but hear me out.

    Growing up I'd always loved girls. In high school (and college) I went on dates, had multiple girlfriends, hooked up with girls, had sex, what have you.... but I've always had a thing for guys. I can't explain it. I used to never be able to see myself with a guy, but I'd watch... yknow certain movies and stuff that had dudes in them, and I'd think about guys, and I guess I always figured that it would go away after a while but it never did. Thing is, in those "movies" thered never be any explicitly gay stuff, i.e. I'd watch only solo videos and if a movie featured fucking I'd change it. Or... and this sounds really bad so I'm sorry if I offend anyone, if the guys looked too stereotypically "gay"... maybe a better word is feminine... I'd change it. I dont know I just never got into the gay sex / overtly gay thing. Thing is, I love straight porn and couples fucking, but I never watch solos with girls or lesbian porn... there always has to be a guy in it.

    I've dating this girl on and off for about a year now, and while its great (both the sex and the emotional part) and I really care about her, something's missing. Even when we're intimate, at first it starts off great and we're just really into each other, but after a while my mind trails off and I start thinking about guys. And then I have to start thinking about guys to keep my woody haha. Which just confuses the fuck out of me (and probably my dick too lol).

    Thing is, lately I've been talking with some people in the gay community online (not at my school I'm not ballsy enough to do that... and if any one in my frat found out, I dont know what Id do) and I'm getting more comfortable with things, but I still wont provide too many details about who I am or where I'm from. But the point is, the more I talk with these guys, the more I want to kind of experiment and see what its like. Is that wrong? I dont even know how I'd go about doing that, and besides I'd feel wrong cause its like cheating on my girl you know?

    I dont know if I could ever see myself in a relationship with a guy, but lately I've been thinking about it and actually... i dunno, considering the possibility i guess. But I still identify as straight, I still love girls, I want to marry a girl and have kids with a girl but... all these emotions are so weird and I dont know what to do. Maybe I'm bi?

    Sorry, I know this seems like a long winded rant. But if anyone has any advice... I'd like to hear it. Or just have someone to talk to. I dunno.

    P.S. one last thing which has no relevance at all.. I've checked out some of the posts on here aimed at "straight guys", or even responded to by "straight guys"... bros there is no way anyone on this website is 100% straight haha. The top of the forum says "gay porn forum", any straight man who isnt struggling with an issue like me would high tail it out of here as soon as he saw that.

    Also some of the posts about seducing a straight friend etc are... really creepy, regardless of orientation or gender so... cut that shit out. Dont mean to offend anyone by that, but thats how it comes off.

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    Re: Straight but unsure...

    At 22 nobody knows his future. That makes it harder to have a relationship even when both people are decent folks.

    Bottom line is if you decide to experiment, it's doesn't "feel like" cheating on your girlfriend, it is cheating on your girlfriend.

    If you were single, it would be harmless to find out. You could ask a guy out and see where things went, or at least say yes if you caught some guy's eye.

    But you're not. And I assume you signed up for a monogamous relationship. Can you truly say you don't need to know the answer "what if being with a guy was great?"

    If it doesn't matter to you, there is no law against noticing hot guys. Enjoy it. But if you know that you'll need to find out for yourself one day, then I think you have a conversation ahead of you that goes something like "It's not you, it's me..."

    Chances are if the fantasy is what keeps you going, you should probably let her go her own way. For her sake, so she can know what it's like to be with a guy who gets harder the more he thinks about her. And for your sake, so you can be with the kind of guy you think about.

    In any relationship any two people look around. I do. My guy does too. But there is nobody else that I'd rather be fucking, and I recommend that feeling. I'd never fake it for him. It's beneath us both.

    Oh! Small tiny chance that your girlfriend is just as open and curious about sexuality as you are. Maybe she's even more comfortable with it than you are. Has she ever felt comfortable opening up to you about her experiences or her fantasies? Maybe she's already been there done that? Maybe she always wanted a bisexual boyfriend. Stranger things have happened. When my guy and I finally opened up about our fantasies it was amazing because had even more in common. We were too shy to admit it to each other at first but life's too short for that. (nothing weird - we know our limits, but still there was no reason to keep secrets from each other about what makes us curious or turns us on. That's part of a good relationship, gay, straight, or bi.)
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    Re: Straight but unsure...

    Hey man, welcome to the forums!

    Or... and this sounds really bad so I'm sorry if I offend anyone, if the guys looked too stereotypically "gay"... maybe a better word is feminine... I'd change it.
    I'm gay and exactly the same - I really don't get turned on by feminine guys. If they've got an itty bitty waist and a thick-lipped pout - no. I like dudes, not chicks. Msculine guys turn me on, not twinks.

    Even when we're intimate, at first it starts off great and we're just really into each other, but after a while my mind trails off and I start thinking about guys. And then I have to start thinking about guys to keep my woody haha.
    To me, it sounds like one of two things:

    a) You're gay. If you're not getting hard with a chick and having to think about dudes, that sounds gay to me. There's nothing /wrong/ with it, but you have to admit it to yourself in order to be comfortable with yourself. Last thing you want to do when you're sixty is look back and think "fuck, I could have had so much fun, if only I'd just embraced it."

    b) You're bi, but you're so worried about this possibility that it's effecting how you fuck your girlfriend. I mean, it says you've fucked girls in high school and college before - could you keep a hard on without thinking of dudes then? If so, then I think this realisation that you're bi is messing with your head, and affecting your performance.

    My advice would be to chat to some kind of college councillor about it - someone who will keep this perfectly confidential.

    THe reason being is that I reckon you need someone official and authoratitive to tell you that it's absolutely normal to be bi, and let's face it - getting the "OK" from us lot won't do jack for you, considering you think we're all creepy what with seducing our straight mates =P

    (But yeah, while I crush on some of my fit straight mates, I don't quite go to these epic lengths that some guys on here do of "I SAW HIS COCK TODAY WHEN HE WAS PASSED OUT ON MY SOFA" etc.)

    But the point is, the more I talk with these guys, the more I want to kind of experiment and see what its like. Is that wrong? I dont even know how I'd go about doing that, and besides I'd feel wrong cause its like cheating on my girl you know?
    I'll be honest, from what you're saying, whether you're straight, bi, or gay, there is definitely something amiss with your relationship with this chick. I don't know you from adam, so I can only go by what you've written, but you said yourself that something's missing, and that you've been dating her on and off.

    Maybe call a break with her, experiment with a couple of dudes, see how you like it. If you like it, awesome, you're bi. If you don't, awesome, you're straight. Just don't take this too seriously, k man? At the end of the day, this is just sexual orientation. Private thoughts that no-one's going to judge you on. Don't beat yourself up just because you get a hard on over guys as well as lasses - it's not like you can help it! =P

    Hope I helped dude.

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    Here's what you do...find yourself a gay therapist (no, he's not going to come on to you). Shop around if you need to, build up some trust in him. Then tell him what's on your mind and I am sure he will be helpful, confidential and help you learn about who you really are and what you want from life. Best of luck. Happy landings!

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    [QUOTE=southernnfratty;7993309]
    P.S. one last thing which has no relevance at all.. I've checked out some of the posts on here aimed at "straight guys", or even responded to by "straight guys"... bros there is no way anyone on this website is 100% straight haha. The top of the forum says "gay porn forum", any straight man who isnt struggling with an issue like me would high tail it out of here as soon as he saw that.
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    ^^^ This

    The first step is in admitting that you are bi. That doesn't mean anything other than you have a physical and or emotional attraction towards men. You may prefer women much more than men, but that doesn't change the fact that you are bi. You may now search for someone with whom you can experiment now. That doesn't make you gay.... That doesn't mean anybody has got to know about it. If you're curious, you're curious, who gives a fuck. If I were curious about the vag, I would try it out. You gotta worry about you right now. I always tell people it's better to live your life with the regret of having done something you didn't like than living the rest of your life never trying something you would have taken advantage of.

    As a 23 year old college student, I can tell you that you're not alone. While I know that I am gay, I know many who are in your same situation. Just go with the flow and don't be a homophobe if you revert back to your heterosexuality . Also, which state are you in?

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    I agree with both of your comments about the site..
    And I think that there is a couple of things that you need to understand. There are many straight looking or masculine guys out there. Also getting married and having kids isn't impossible to do with a another guy as your husband. Granted it is more difficult, but there are guys out there who will want to try.
    I think you are doing the right thing with getting more comfortable about it all and easing into it.

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    Wow... thanks for responding everyone. I didn't think there'd be so many people willing to help me out. All of yall gave good advice and I think I need to find someone authoritative to talk about it...

    To answer some questions, in high school or earlier in college when I'd dated girls, I thought about dudes during sex but it was always kind of fleeting. Not until I got with this girl that it became a real... issue, I guess. Its strange because this is the longest relationship Ive ever been in (yea thats sad I know).

    Also I think someone asked but Im in the south, so things are a bit more conservative down here. That might play a role too heh.

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    i think you should stop giving yourself such a hard time, man. i'm know it's worrying to be having this kind of uncertainty, especially when your friends may or may not be comfortable with it, but in the end, regardless of what anyone thinks, it's just a question of who turns you on. it's not the end of the world, and it's nothing to feel guilty about or be scared of. questioning or exploring your sexuality doesn't have to mean stripping down and jumping on the nearest Pride Parade float (though there's nothing wrong with that), and it's not going to change the important things about you as a person, besides maybe opening up your mind about yourself and the people around you, which all of us could use now and again, and which is something to be welcomed!

    i'm sure none of that helps too much with what you're feeling, but you should know i've been there, and while at one point in my life i was terrified about how different than my friends my uncertainty seemingly made me, once i stopped worrying about being different and just accepted what was going on inside, i realized i was basically the same, except infinitely happier. i know that's coming for you, too, and i hope in the interim between now and then, you don't let it get to you as much as it seems to be doing at the moment.

    as for your uncertainty, i will say that i now acknowledge the fact that i'm completely gay, even though i hooked up and dated girls, liked straight-guy things, and only allowed myself to watch straight porn or solo-guy stuff. my experience with girls felt empty in a way, like you described, and all of my assurances to myself that i could never date a guy - along with my disdain for effeminate men - turned out to just be self-consciousness and denial (i still don't go too much for the fem guys sexually, but the disdain thing had so much more to do with self-loathing than anything they chose to do themselves, and now that the self-loathing as it applies to my sexuality is gone, i realize that in fact, queens are like the most awesome ever).

    i'm not saying any of that has to be the case with you. we're totally different people, and you could be a straight or bi guy who's just working out his issues. i just wanted to give you my story in the hopes that it might shed a little light on yours. even if it doesn't, i hope things will turn out okay for you, and i'm sure they will if you just don't stress about it so much. discover what you need to discover (though hopefully not at the expense of your girlfriend's trust) and cut yourself a little slack.

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    Re: Straight but unsure...

    My two cents...

    Having identified as bi for many years, I only ever had a physical thing for guys but both physical and emotional things for girls. It was during my last relationship with a girl that I really began to consider what having a boyfriend might be like. Things weren't going well between her and me at that point anyway - it was my longest relationship too. but on my side it had been on life-support for a while - and when the thoughts of being with a guy long-term began to pervade I realised it was time to call it off with her. Where you and I differ, though, is that I had already had sex with a few guys at that stage and was really more interested in trying for something emotional with one.

    Your situation - if I'm honest, if it is at the point where it bothers you this much it might be time to have a rethink about it all, for both your sakes. Your girl deserves someone who really desires her, and you need to really want what you're having and not just settle because it might be easier. Given what you've said, I don't think you really want to cheat on her, either; in my opinion it's critical that you don't.

    Good luck - you're in the right place! A lot of us are in, or have been in, your situation. I hope you stick around with us for a while. It's not always easy letting yourself make these decisions - but, as others have said, don't beat yourself up because you're wired a little differently to the way you thought you were!

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    I think you owe it to yourself to "explore" a little before you wind up in an unhappy marriage and hooking up with guys on the side. There is nothing wrong with making some new friends that happen to be gay. The first step is to go to a gay bar just for one beer. You can go with your girlfriend, or a group of friends, and come across as an open minded straight guy who doesn't judge and just wants to have a fun time. You can also go alone, have a beer, check out the scene and leave. No big deal. Chances are you may bump into someone on the football team or that super straight guy who you never suspected could be into guys. If that happens you could always say you were supposed to meet some friends but they never showed up and your just having a beer. Life is short. live a little. Always use a condom.
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    Be honest with yourself. Are you fine with your girlfriend, or do you feel like you need to experiment? There's no shame in being confused. I've been in a very similar boat for a while, and it can be confusing. I've always wanted a emotional relationship with girls but found sex with them unthinkable. If you want to experiment, then do it. There's no time like the present. Make a decision you know you can deal with.

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    Great responses! I am often amazed by the frequency of thoughtful and caring advice JUBers offer to questions like the one asked here. Awesome site!

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    I would have to search long and hard before I found such a perfect thread from today. Great job guys.

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    Re: Straight but unsure...

    that's a lot of words. However, when you look at this image, what do you see? The answer might help you decide...
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    Re: Straight but unsure...

    I am in the same situation. Im straight and recently single from my girlfriend of 8 years. It was off and on. You know how it is when you that one that is exactly like you? ha we argued all the time...but our arguments were so damn funny we would just end up laughing at each other. I had to call it quits when she developed a love for pills.

    Very Similar situation though.I'm from the south, I'm in a frat and i think about the idea of maybe messing around with a guy. Nothing has ever happened. To tell you the truth, the thought never even crossed my mind until college. One of my frat bros came out to me as being bi. Being the cool guy i am, i wasn't about to give him a hard time about it. I mean I accept all people, I mean hell I never cared what people do in the bedroom, as long as it didn't involve animals or children..You're cool with me.

    That might have been why he felt comfortable telling me. Who knows. He then told me he wanted to know if he could ever "help me out" and that no one would ever know. That's when things got weird. I wasn't mad or anything, I was I suppose just shocked. i wont lie...I thought about it for a couple minutes and some very awkward silence passed. I told him that I appreciated the thought and i was very flattered, but there was just no way we could do something like that. we have to many friends in common being frat bros and all. Plus...knowing what kind of he way.. .the guy liked to party! Weed and booze all the time! So that played a huge factor into my decision as well. The last thing i needed was him getting fucked up and letting some shit slip. Even though it would have been my word against his. but he said he understood and he looked angry. I told him not to be stupid about this. there was no reason why we couldnt still be friends. but that was the last time he really spoke to me. So im not sure If I handled it wrong or what.. i have no idea. but it still bothers me to this day that i lost a friend over something so stupid.

    So that was my one and only "close call" as far as messing around with guys goes. but since then...i have had thoughts about what it might be like. and since im recently single like i mentioned above, leaves a lot of lonely nights for your mind to roam. I dont know if I'll ever do anything i might i might not. Even if it did happen. im not sure if it should be a stranger, someone who doesnt know me or anyone else I know... or if it should someone I know and trust.... i have no clue. even then they would have to be as masculine as me otherwise i dont see the point. no disrespect, people are who they are, but i would never be able to get it up with a dude who acts feminine. Thats just the way it is.

    So I'm just as confused.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by PepaeMango View Post
    that's a lot of words. However, when you look at this image, what do you see? The answer might help you decide...
    Damn! I see them both. Guess I am clearly bi.

    Seriously, if you know you have made a turn toward another sexual preference and are sure that is the way you are happiest, it is not fair to you or your female partner to continue the masquerade. It will make you both miserable and the pain will be greater in the end.

    I am fortunate. I get turned on by either sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PepaeMango View Post
    that's a lot of words. However, when you look at this image, what do you see? The answer might help you decide...
    I see ugly shower curtains.








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    What is clear here is that the OP is not "straight" as he called himself in the post title. Sorry but straight guys dont have to think about other guys to get off with the gf so that's pretty clear.

    Now if Bi or gay is really the question here. That he's gotta figure out on his own. As others have said better to figure that out now then end up in bad marriages and/or cheating on gf's to go hook up with guys.

    The best advice i can give is dont seriously date women for now and go explore the guy side and still hook up wth women if you want. It's fine to hook up as no expectation of monogamy etc.

    Stop the denial is another key piece of advice.. You're not st8 face that..now bi or gay that you can sort threw. But just admit your into guys.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Markscott84 View Post
    but he said he understood and he looked angry. I told him not to be stupid about this. there was no reason why we couldnt still be friends. but that was the last time he really spoke to me. So im not sure If I handled it wrong or what.. i have no idea. but it still bothers me to this day that i lost a friend over something so stupid.
    That's a sad story. How recent was this? Have you tried to reconnect since?

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    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    I see ugly shower curtains.








    KIDDING!!!!!
    Missed the shower curtains. My straight side must dominate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    I see ugly shower curtains.








    KIDDING!!!!!
    I was wondering what she was using on her face

    And yes I saw the penis, and her body, so what. I'm so over picture related erotica to be honest, and without a good mental boost through a story or a personality I have no desire. (ye gads im turning into a woman!)

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    All I ever see is a hard cock in desperate need of some good fellatio.

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    what about this, what do you see here?
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    I see a big chupa chups ! Slllllurrrrrp
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    Chances are if you found your way on JUB, there's a gay demon within. Haha

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    Quote Originally Posted by PepaeMango View Post
    what about this, what do you see here?
    What an oversized headboard

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    Quote Originally Posted by PepaeMango View Post
    what about this, what do you see here?
    Best photoshop ever. Just click "EditůMake realů"

    And then I see the dumbest pair of shoes ever. I swear I could be bisexual if only women didn't wear stupid shoes like that to bed.
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    I'm glad I have a copy of "Sex, Lies & Videotape" to get me thru some of this Tumblr stuff.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blackbeltninja View Post
    That's a sad story. How recent was this? Have you tried to reconnect since?

    -d-
    this was abot 2004/2005. I tried numerous times to get him to come and hang out with the boys, but he wont do it. still has me as a friend on facebook but everytime we are online at the same time, he wont speak to me. Soo.. All well.

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    You could be bi... Just don't experiment while you have a girlfriend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlmondMilk View Post
    You could be bi... Just don't experiment while you have a girlfriend.
    Amen to that.

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    Again thanks for all the support guys. And to all the picture responses... bro I see both haha how can you not see both. One has a dick staring you straight in the face, but admittedly I paid more attention to the girl.

    Also just to clarify things, its not like I'm not turned on by girls. I am haha. A lot. I guess I'm turned on by guys too, though. But I don't think I could ever see myself in a relationship with one.

    Anyway you all have been great. But also can you guys stop messaging me about pics and stuff? I should probably get that out there, I'm here for real advice, not a fuck buddy. ha

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    Quote Originally Posted by southernnfratty View Post
    I'm here for real advice, not a fuck buddy. ha
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    Quote Originally Posted by PepaeMango View Post
    that's a lot of words. However, when you look at this image, what do you see? The answer might help you decide...
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    Quote Originally Posted by PepaeMango View Post
    what about this, what do you see here?
    Wondering how it would feel being in that woman's place, though that is either photo-shopped or ridiculously large, it would go up past her bellybutton!

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    Two things:
    1. Don't call your fraternity a frat. You couldn't call your country your cunt would you?

    2. You need to find someone you trust to try and figure out these feelings. If nothing else then you gave it the "Ol' College Try!"

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    I would like to be ur friend buddy cause i have been there myself. But i have figured everything out now. I'd be glad to help...

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    Many guys are like you, and they marry, have a family BUT a few years into the marriage when the sex drive is less, they find themselves less able to perform with a woman and see themselves as gay. It is not fair to the girl to lead her into such a marriage. You need to resolve your sexuality now. You are not cheating on her, you are doing her a big favor.
    Few if any are bi. But many young gays can perform with girls and vice versa. THE TEST for gay v. straight is what you are attracted to. What turns you on visually. I suggest that you do rent a lesbian video (no guys) and a gay one (no girls). See which turns you on. It should resolve the question for you better than any counselor can.

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    I know where you're coming from. I had the same thing. I have a friend I've known for a long time who is gay. We don't hook up for real. Cant dont live near each other, but we get busy online.

    I still get hard quite easily with women, but wow our online hook ups are amazing.

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    Dude, you're a dude. That's who you are, what you are. You've got a cock, you want to stick it in people and do things until it feels really good.... and it doesn't really matter what their gender is. Just do it. If you don't find yourself attracted to certain types of guys, or girls, then stay away from them. Follow what makes you happy and what gets you off.

    I'm the same as you. I like guys who are more like myself, a little more athletic, a little more masculine, guys that share the same likes as I do. I play sports, I work on cars, I've spent months on a fishing boat at sea with some of the hardest, roughest men I've ever known. I also like nice things and can appreciate art and culture, etc. I'm a plethora of types. But I don't let any of that "make me". I am who *I* want to be, not who others want or expect me to be based on "societal" rules. Fuck what society dictates as to who people "should" be or do. It's YOUR life. You have to live with it and your choices, not "society".

    Do I think I have to apologize to guys or girls of certain types or physical make-up because I am not attracted to them? NO. Do I dislike them or "hate" on them because of that? NO. Live and let live. I just choose to live with those I want to live with..... You can do the same. Let your mind guide you and don't feel like you need to make excuses or hide things, otherwise doing that will keep you in the hole you're in now, forever. And as long as you have an attraction to guys, living in a predominantly heterosexual environment, i.e. super hetero fraternities, college athletics, etc. you are going to have a hard time being who you really are inside. And that is not healthy. I know, I did it too. I would do it differently if I had the opportunity again.

    I think it's a lot of trouble about "labels". People seem to think they have to have a label or a name to accompany their sexuality. Thing is, I went there with that demon, and aside for the sake of things like posting in forums or identifying to others for specific reasons, I don't call myself out to anyone as straight or gay or bisexual. I'm just who I am.

    I think if left alone I'd fuck everyone in the world, whoever, whatever. I'm just a horny guy, a sexual guy and I go with what is turning my crank at the moment. If it's a dude my own age, a more mature man, a hot chick at the bar, a hot married guy with his wife and family out in public somewhere, a hot older woman, married or single, -- whatever. If it makes my dick hard, then so be it. I don't let it define me. Keep in mind, I won't allow my attraction to the world to cause damage or harm to innocent others, but if there's no harm, no foul, then hey, I'M IN! HELL YEAH!

    I am SEXUAL. That is what I am. That is WHO I am. Sure that's just looking at the sexual, physical side of it. There's the relationship side of it too -- and again, I don't go with anything that pigeon-holes me into a title or a label. I don't need or believe in that anymore. And I learned that once I removed from the mix all the stigmas and "types" that society seems to deem necessary, everything got MUCH easier.

    When I began acting on my sexual attractions to guys, I was having a hard time dealing with it as far as wanting to be in a relationship with a guy. I just didn't think I could be in a gay relationship. I didn't think a guy would or could give me the things I needed, at least not based on my experiences up to that point in my life that I had had with girls. The whole family thing, wanting kids, being seen out in public as "together", etc. I knew it would be hard to do that with guys, but I really needed that in my life. So, I just thought guys would be for sex and women would be for sex and love.

    NOT SO!!

    I have found BOTH, great sex and awesome love, with males and females. I learned that it is possible for me to love a guy and want to be with a guy long-term, I just had to make it happen. No I'm not gonna say it was real easy to get through it all, but I did and I'm happy with it.

    I was in a great relationship with a girl for a few years, but we parted ways, and it had NOTHING to do with my attraction to guys. It was just a relationship that didn't work out. I didn't end that relationship and go looking for a guy only, either. I was playing the field, dating around with guys and girls and not looking for anyone in particular. I figured when the next "right person" came around, I would know who they were because it would click, just like it always does when you "know" you've found the right person.

    And I did. And he's a dude, and we're in love with each other and he's the greatest thing to happen to me yet. We don't hide who we are, we live our life just like everyone else does. We have the right to happiness, just like men and women do, just like women and women do.

    To sum it up bro, I guess you just need to think things through, share and experience with others, stop hiding who you are or who you think you are. The world you're in right now is making you suppress what you feel inside, and that is never going to work out for you to allow you to BE.

    No, you may not be able to change that right now, but try if you can. I did. I told my closest buds and my family that I did have an attraction to guys, as well as girls. I told them I didn't have a greater feel for one than the other, just whatever clicked for me. It wasn't easy, and not everyone was OK with it. I lost one friend over it, but then, if he was going to judge me on something as trivial as who I sleep with, I don't really think he was a friend to begin with, right?

    Looking at pictures and seeing what gets you off is NOT going to determine your sexuality. YOU know who you are. You decide. Again, labels SUCK and labels are for the weak, in my opinion. Not knocking anyone who identifies as gay or straight or bisexual, not at all...... but the only reason we have labels is because that is what society makes us do. Imagine what a great world it would be WITHOUT LABELS?!! Imagine if everyone could just be who they are and be with who they want to?

    And yes I have been called out by assholes who told me that I can't be just "sexual", I have to be one or the other - called out by gay people, straight people, etc. and ya know, fuck them. Who needs that shit? I feel sorry for those people who feel they have to worry about how I see myself and how I go about my life. Haters suck, but they hate because they're missing something and they're bitter -- so that's their problem to figure out. Not a weight on my shoulders.

    So don't let people define you. YOU define you. Keep talking, keep the lines of communication open and find yourself. You can do it, and you'll be glad you did. Good luck to you brother, good luck!
    Last edited by MattClaimer; April 29th, 2012 at 04:07 AM.

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    ** because of this kind of stupid time limit on editing a post, I was not able to make some changes at the end that I wanted to. So, this is the last few paragraphs, edited with what I wanted different. Mods can do whatever they need to do with it.
    ** Starting at third paragraph from the bottom of OP.

    Looking at pictures and seeing what gets you off at that moment is NOT going to determine your sexuality. I have times when I am not attracted to women, times when I am not attracted to men. One switch is on, the other is off. I look at a hot guy with a hot bod and cock and it might not do a thing. Look at a hot chick, and INSTANT HARD ON. And vice versa. YOU know who you are, so YOU decide who you're going to be, not whether a picture or video gives you an erection. That's sort of labeling things again, in my opinion.

    Labels SUCK and labels are for the weak, in my opinion. Not knocking anyone who identifies as gay or straight or bisexual, not at all...... The only reason we have labels is because that is what society makes us do. Imagine what a great world it would be WITHOUT LABELS?!! Imagine if everyone could just be who they are and be with who they want to without have to profess to being a certain "type". Would be a way cool world!

    And just to add, yes, I have been called out by assholes who told me that I can't be just "sexual", I have to be one label or the other - Been called out by gay people, straight people, etc. and ya know what? FUCK THEM. Who needs that shit? I feel sorry for people who feel they have to worry about how I see myself in terms of sexuality and being, about how I go about my life. Haters suck, but they hate because they're missing something and they're bitter -- so that's their problem to figure out. Not a weight on my shoulders.

    So don't let people define you. YOU define you. Keep talking, keep asking questions, find a support group that you're comfortable with, here, in the real world, etc. just keep the lines of communication open and find yourself. You can do it, and you'll be glad you did. Good luck to you brother, good luck!
    Last edited by MattClaimer; April 29th, 2012 at 04:20 AM.

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    w/e u will have way more fun w another man n when you do tell us about it =D
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    Hey guys

    So it's been a while but I figure telling yall about what's been going on the last few months would... I dunno, help?

    So there's this guy who knows about me. I guess I'm going by the whole "bi" thing now, even though what Matt said about labels had some great points (thanks for the long response bud I sure did appreciate it); I guess it's just a way to "order things", I dunno. But long story short he's a good friend and I told him I'm bi and he was perfectly okay with it. And the reason is...

    ...he... kinda came out to me that he's bi too. The same night that I told him and everything. I guess it was nice to have someone to talk about it with. The hardest part is that well I've kinda had a thing for this guy for a long time lol. And I think hes had something for me too, he's sure acted like it in the past, what with choice comments and even some of his actions (which i wont bore you guys with).

    But thing is I think we're too close friends to end up doing anything. That sounds dumb and its eating away at me but I can't change that. Sucks cause like... I dunno I figure it'd be cool to have someone to explore things with. I broke up with my girl at the beginning of this past summer but we hooked up on and off and then got back together in July and I dont wanna cheat on her or nothing. I feel guilty talkin about this and being in a relationship with a girl (hell talking like this and being in a relationship with anyone is wrong in my opinion) but what can you do I guess.

    Sorry to seem like im ranting. I guess all I wanted to say is thanks to everyone for helping me figure all this stuff out. im pretty comfortable with identifying as bi now and maybe ill start being more open about it with some of my closer friends. so yeah... thanks guys!

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    Quote Originally Posted by southernnfratty View Post
    Hey guys

    So it's been a while but I figure telling yall about what's been going on the last few months would... I dunno, help?

    So there's this guy who knows about me. I guess I'm going by the whole "bi" thing now, even though what Matt said about labels had some great points (thanks for the long response bud I sure did appreciate it); I guess it's just a way to "order things", I dunno. But long story short he's a good friend and I told him I'm bi and he was perfectly okay with it. And the reason is...

    ...he... kinda came out to me that he's bi too. The same night that I told him and everything. I guess it was nice to have someone to talk about it with. The hardest part is that well I've kinda had a thing for this guy for a long time lol. And I think hes had something for me too, he's sure acted like it in the past, what with choice comments and even some of his actions (which i wont bore you guys with).

    But thing is I think we're too close friends to end up doing anything. That sounds dumb and its eating away at me but I can't change that. Sucks cause like... I dunno I figure it'd be cool to have someone to explore things with. I broke up with my girl at the beginning of this past summer but we hooked up on and off and then got back together in July and I dont wanna cheat on her or nothing. I feel guilty talkin about this and being in a relationship with a girl (hell talking like this and being in a relationship with anyone is wrong in my opinion) but what can you do I guess.

    Sorry to seem like im ranting. I guess all I wanted to say is thanks to everyone for helping me figure all this stuff out. im pretty comfortable with identifying as bi now and maybe ill start being more open about it with some of my closer friends. so yeah... thanks guys!
    Look at it this way: You have a friend that you can confide and talk with now who understands your situation. You may find him attractive, but that doesn't mean you can't still hang out and do what you've always done. You can still respect your gf and maintain a friendship with your bud.

    I think its a great opportunity for both of you to get comfortable with yourselves. He just came out, so did you. I imagine there is a lot to chat about, finally, after all that time of keeping it inside. Its an exhilarating feeling to be able to share what you've kept a secret for so many years, to speak it out loud to someone and not fear ridicule. I think you need a friend you can do that with more than you need a quick romp in the hay with guilt afterwards.

    Also, to play devil's advocate..

    You and your gf broke up, then were on and off, and now you are on. How is that going? Sometimes when a relationship breaks up, then it gets rocky, the reasons for getting together seem to be for sex (because its easy and familiar) and habit. By habit, I mean, when people have been together for a while, and the relationship erodes to the point where you break up, some people stay together just because its easier to keep doing what they've been doing for a while rather than parting ways. Is that where you are at now? If it is like that, then you may want to think about what is best for you and your gf. I know its an entirely other issue aside from your main point of your blooming sexuality, but it is something you should look at honestly.

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    Wow..Mattclaimer summed things up very well. I totally identified with a lot of what he said. I am bi. I lead a very straight lifestyle. Married and love my wife and straight lifestyle very much. Can get my dick hard with any woman in nanno second. I also enjoy sucking a masculine guys cock too. Being bi, every once in a while I have to secretly get it out of my system . I do it and then it is back to reality for me. I am a good husband and provider for our lifestyle. I regret that I am secretly bi, but that's who I am. I don't ever want to hurt anyone ever and I play safe. I am good for a long while until the urge occurs again. I cannot ever see myself in a gay relationship. I am turned off by effeminent men too. When I was in high school a good male friend confided in me that he was gay. I secretly was bi too ,but couldn't admit this to him. I wish I had. I lost touch with him. Thank god for jub...sometimes all my postings take care of my urges and it prolongs the actual need to have a cock in my mouth...I can honestly say I make the best of both worlds work....
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    I feel a lot like you OP. I had a girlfriend all summer and we just broke up. We had amazing sex and I love getting with girls but sometimes I check guys out (only masculine guys) and I would feel really guilty about it. I'm a college guy too and have never experimented with a guy but have looked at pics/vids online even though I'd consider myself for the most part straight. It's confusing for sure good luck man! If you wanna talk shoot me a pm

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    Quote Originally Posted by southernnfratty View Post
    Growing up I'd always loved girls. In high school (and college) I went on dates, had multiple girlfriends, hooked up with girls, had sex, what have you.... but I've always had a thing for guys. I can't explain it. I used to never be able to see myself with a guy, but I'd watch... yknow certain movies and stuff that had dudes in them, and I'd think about guys, and I guess I always figured that it would go away after a while but it never did. Thing is, in those "movies" thered never be any explicitly gay stuff, i.e. I'd watch only solo videos and if a movie featured fucking I'd change it. Or... and this sounds really bad so I'm sorry if I offend anyone, if the guys looked too stereotypically "gay"... maybe a better word is feminine... I'd change it. I dont know I just never got into the gay sex / overtly gay thing. Thing is, I love straight porn and couples fucking, but I never watch solos with girls or lesbian porn... there always has to be a guy in it.

    I've dating this girl on and off for about a year now, and while its great (both the sex and the emotional part) and I really care about her, something's missing. Even when we're intimate, at first it starts off great and we're just really into each other, but after a while my mind trails off and I start thinking about guys. And then I have to start thinking about guys to keep my woody haha. Which just confuses the fuck out of me (and probably my dick too lol).

    Dude you're not alone out there. I'm the EXACT same way (like 99.8%) except my girl happens to be 600 miles away and the whole long distance thing fizzled out at the end of the summer because I didn't want to tie her down when I moved back to campus. (I'm out in Texas so living in the central part of the state and home being far west texas it really does tear at you a bit). The best thing to do is take it on a day by day basis and not label yourself at all (as already pointed out earlier). The bad thing is, here I play on an athletics team for my University so anything that isn't straight is strictly frowned upon. The guys on my team are homophobes so I'm stuck having to joke along with them to fit in. But the important thing is, is find a good friend to talk about all this stuff with and maybe experiment (which you may have according to the earlier post) but be careful who you trust. Cause there's always that slight chance of y'all getting in a fight and he spreads stuff about you (which has happened to me). If you ever need to talk or anything PM me man, it really can get pretty hectic out there.
    Last edited by TXSunsetEagle; October 2nd, 2012 at 12:45 PM.

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    I SEE 3-SOME!!!! (White bread and dark meat filling...yummmm!)

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    I completely understand where southernnfratty is coming from. I grew up in the south, and it was really hard for me to truly accept who I was for a while. Things started to get easier after I broke down that mental barrier. I tried my hardest to like girls in college, but I always ended up thinking about dudes when I was horny.

    In my opinion, you need to take a long break from dating girls. Just let it all play out and see what happens.

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    Quote Originally Posted by justanegg View Post
    Here's what you do...find yourself a gay therapist (no, he's not going to come on to you). Shop around if you need to, build up some trust in him. Then tell him what's on your mind and I am sure he will be helpful, confidential and help you learn about who you really are and what you want from life. Best of luck. Happy landings!
    That is such a great idea. I never thought of that.

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