Have You Paid Or Considered Paying An Escort For Ongoing Sexual Relations?

[TheFallenAsexual]

So I've gotten to a point in life where I'm sick of the chase, sick of finding new sex partners. Yet fuck buddies are a no-go because I don't have many gay friends I'm attracted to and the few I do are a risk to develop feelings and I'm not up for that awkwardness. Relationships aren't an option either, and I'd see looking for one for the sole purpose of getting laid to be shallow and manipulative anyway.

Dealing with this, I've pretty much accepted celibacy is all I got for 2012. Then the other day, I randomly picked up Next Magazine (one of the free gay mags that you find in bars and clubs). I rarely read these and go for actual newspapers, but randomly it caught my attention and I suddenly realized the escort section in the back.

Some of these guys are hot. They offer the types of sex they like, what they're into, rates, etc. I briefly (well maybe not-so-briefly since I'm posting here) humored the notion of getting one guy to see maybe twice a month (settling on solo jack-off sessions between those intervals).



PROS:

-I'd be able to get someone in amazing shape (usually out of my league)

-I'd be able to get my specific needs and my most superficial physical desires met

-Safe zone where no feelings are made/hurt

-Knowing that at the end of a stressful two weeks, I have a nice ass to fuck/cock to suck on

-The possibility of having an amazing lover despite maybe not being that amazing myself

CONS:

-Money (though I could afford twice a month if it meant not going out as much)

-Shame. (I actually don't think this would be a problem, but maybe it would get to me if I knew this guy wouldn't touch me if I wasn't paying him? On the other hand, my esteem is up because I'm much slimmer...paying to get with a '10' won't exactly make me feel like chopped liver)



I've honestly been considering it. A while ago, I had a lapdances by a breathtaking gogo boy. The sensations I felt looking at/feeling his perfect ass and beautiful smile were unreal. This kind of guy would be so out of my league no matter what I do. But if I could have sex with him (or someone like him) regularly for a fee, would that be wrong?

At this point, I'm probably gonna try it once anyway. But had anyone else done or thought about this?

[MoufOfKhaos]

Nope. I can still have sex for free and since I rarely jack off, I have that option to "get it over with". I decided a long time ago that paying for sex is useless in my opinion, so I won't.

[hylas]

not entirely sure about your motivations here, but i leave that to your shrink ^^

if you can afford it, why not?
ive read (on blogs that seemed genuine to me) that one can have good relationships with escorts, not just sexually but also personally.

[Mr-Pickles]

Personally, I wouldn't do it- but each to their own.

[fuck-you]

I'd do it if it was with some porn stars (for the kick).

[TheFallenAsexual]

Hylas, my motivation is to stop my dick from shrivelling off due to lack of use. I have sexual desires and this seems to be the most reasonable way to get them filled.

[JP.]

If I rich, I have no problem and inhibition to undergo this lifestyle but as a starving college student of course, dont have budget for $200 an hour-date.

I'd say go for it you want and I think male hookers (the expensive one) usually are clean and free std's

[theReckless]

I've been paid before for regular sex. It's a good way to make sure you're getting exactly what you're looking for, some friendly company, and no awkwardness afterwards.

The guy I was meeting wasn't really my type and I wouldn't really have gone their otherwise, but at the same time I didn't think badly of him or anything. He was nice enough, and we were both getting something out of it.

[ibill1]

I have not, but I would, it just hasn't crossed my mind or come to that. I could certainly afford it. Afterall, I had sex with the same guy for over 33yrs., the variety could be exciting.

After his passing, and now, slowly, getting back into the game, I find myself mostly attracted to guys in their 20's, 30's and 40's. I haven't had much difficulty finding someone who wants to fool around with a guy in his 50's but an escort could be an alternative.

[xRemyx]

I don't I could do it, but if it works for you then have at it. I want someone to spend time with me because they genuinely like me, not because I'm paying them.

[hylas]

Hylas, my motivation is to stop my dick from shrivelling off due to lack of use. I have sexual desires and this seems to be the most reasonable way to get them filled.

i guess what i meant was that i dont understand your reasoning why one-night stands and fuck-buddies are out of the question. they are for free and they arent that hard to come by, right? one of the few areas where we have a leg up on the straightboys.

[Seghers]

I don't have any moral objections, but if I were single I still wouldn't do it because just finding someone to have sex with seems pretty easy these days with all the hookup sites and grindr, etc.

[MoufOfKhaos]

I've been paid before for regular sex. It's a good way to make sure you're getting exactly what you're looking for, some friendly company, and no awkwardness afterwards.

The guy I was meeting wasn't really my type and I wouldn't really have gone their otherwise, but at the same time I didn't think badly of him or anything. He was nice enough, and we were both getting something out of it.

Didn't consider this angle.

I'd be willing to be paid for sex(when enough people see your dick picture and say "you should get money with that", sometimes it swells the other head too). Have even thought about escorting. The one thing stopping me is I don't really have sex that often, most of the guys willing to pay me are married or super-dl and like one night stands even less. Okay, so I guess that's three things.

[Zaphod]

If I could afford it and could be sure of no legal entanglements, I would. I have a job and a professional license I would lose if I were convicted of this, so it is not worth it.

[loki81]

when I was a virgin, I thought about getting a hotel room out of town and hiring a prostitute just to do the deed.

ended up not doing it (and lost my virginity a few months later to a guy who would become a regular fuck buddy that entire fall/winter before we had a falling out), but I don't see anything wrong with hiring a sex worker as long as you're safe and clean.

I don't see anything wrong with prostitution on a moral level as long as all parties involved are consenting of their own free will.

[TheFallenAsexual]

i guess what i meant was that i dont understand your reasoning why one-night stands and fuck-buddies are out of the question. they are for free and they arent that hard to come by, right? one of the few areas where we have a leg up on the straightboys.

I don't have any moral objections, but if I were single I still wouldn't do it because just finding someone to have sex with seems pretty easy these days with all the hookup sites and grindr, etc.

Fuck buddies are NOT easy to come by for me. Usually, with me and guys, I'm one and done. The hunt (going out to bars I don't want to hang out at, in noisy crowds I don't want to be a part of) gets old with me. Grindr, etc.? Too much talking about fucking, not enough fucking. There's a million homosexuals where I live. People have short attention spans and I'm not carrying nine inches like every other minority in town, so I'm at a disadvantage. (And on that note, I have to lol at the timing of Kaos' post... THIS is what I compete with, day in and day out).

And yes, I can get laid for free, but I can only get other average attractive guys go sleep with me, not a total ten to do all the things I want because he's under contract. The difference in how intense the sex could be... my oh my.

[LatimerRd]

When I was escorting I saw four or five of my clients regularly. One of them I would see three to four times a month for a couple of hours, always on a Saturday afternoon. I was in my late twenties at the time, he in his early fifties, not great looking nor in great shape, but he really knew how to fuck me! Some of the best sex I've had was with him. Seriously great sex, as good or even better than the sex I'd have later that evening with my partner, who is great looking and in great shape. I really enjoyed this guy both in and out of bed, and would have continued to see him even without the money, although I think the exchange of cash added to the excitement for both of us. Another guy would travel into town on business once a month and we'd get together to fuck and then have dinner together afterwards. Forties, handsome and the sex was always sweet...come to think of it, I miss these guys and those years.

[JayHawk]

Well NA I havent considered it yet. I am 40 and for a time with my ex i thought i was unable to rope me a cowboy but then after we broke up and I went my separate way i found the gym again and the boys started lining up.

During that time I did consider renting a boy to satisfy my needs and to be sure as I get older if I don't have a constant in my life then i will consider it again.

I also look at it from a different angle. I have always been attracted to smaller and typically younger guys than myself. That usually means the guys I date are a lot less mature in their professional lives than I am in mine. So typically I have more money and I am more generous buying dinner, getting drinks and paying covers..etc etc. Hell I even put one most the way through college and another all the way through. However I didn't do it explicitly for sex.

I have never really thought much of it but in reflection that could easily be seen as paying for affection. Although that was not what we had discussed or anything. I just think a whole helluva lot about family and I have tried to be family to those I love in my life. In most cases where they have no family to speak of... EDIT: I should note that i have done so with tens of military guys who have worked for me with no expectation of anything ever. To me it often just feels good to do good.

So what is the harm? If you get what you desire and he gets what he desires then it is a good thing for both of you. I would caution you against two things though. If he isnt what you expected then dont go through with it. I apply that mostly to internet dating but this is very anonymously similar. Two convince yourself before hand that you will not have buyers remorse afterwards.

Oh and one last thing that came to me. Don't fall into love just into lust.

[MiamiHorror]

No, but I have hired an escort twice when I was younger. I enjoyed the ability to pay for sex and picking out my escort like browsing through a magazine for furniture. They really should have been paying me but I did enjoy them both thoroughly so no complaints. I find that the idea of paying for sex really turns me on even though I would never really need to.

[TheFallenAsexual]

Lol at "Buyer's Remorse." What an appropriate term!

Oh and one last thing that came to me. Don't fall into love

You know who you're talking to, right?









Maybe I should mention I kinda lost my virginity to an escort at age 22. I wanted to know what sex was like, so I got a female escort when my family was out of town. But that was nine whole years ago.

[mbamike]

If you can afford it and won't have any guilt feelings for buying some ass, then go for it. I have not done it myself.

[CowboyBob]

No, never have hired a rental. Never had to. I had a companion of 20 years and before and after had several fuck buddies. I get hit on enough when I go out so the thought never crossed my mind.

A friend of mine hires rentals all the time and enjoys it but it's an expensive habit.

[oakpope]

and the few I do are a risk to develop feelings and I'm not up for that awkwardness. Relationships aren't an option either

If I may ask you, why are relationships not a possibility for you ?

Otherwise, being 42, gay and never even kissed a man, I am often tempted by escorts. But, if I could overcome my, hum, mental problem, shyness and probable nervous breakdown, and I could have sex with him, I picture myself afterwards : ashamed, having sex with someone who did it for money and no concern at all about what a human being I am, and surely the feeling of loneliness more acute than ever. So for me, an hour of pleasure (and I think superficial, for example, how to kiss someone you have no feeling for ?) doesn't seem worth the down low of afterwards. But it's just me.

You don't seem to be in a particularly happy place at the moment and I wish you to go and find joy and happiness and fulfillment as soon as possible.

[refujiunderground]

HELL NO! i think you should beat your dick a lot more often, bro. you must have a lot of money to even consider buying sex. myself, i'm too comfortable masturbating and i most definitely do not see sex as a priority. i don't see what's the huge deal over sex when masturbation is there too. for the most part, most people that think about sex a lot don't jerk off enough.

[TheFallenAsexual]

I jerk off. I like sex, though.

[loki81]

HELL NO! i think you should beat your dick a lot more often, bro. you must have a lot of money to even consider buying sex. myself, i'm too comfortable masturbating and i most definitely do not see sex as a priority. i don't see what's the huge deal over sex when masturbation is there too. for the most part, most people that think about sex a lot don't jerk off enough.

are you speaking from experience?

sometimes a guy just craves another naked warm body next to him.

[MiamiHorror]

People who hire escorts are job creators. Prostitution is the oldest profession known to man, nothing wrong with that. I'v thought about becoming an escort but I just can't bring myself to have sex with strangers without my prior approval.

[TheFallenAsexual]

If I may ask you, why are relationships not a possibility for you ?

Otherwise, being 42, gay and never even kissed a man, I am often tempted by escorts. But, if I could overcome my, hum, mental problem, shyness and probable nervous breakdown, and I could have sex with him, I picture myself afterwards : ashamed, having sex with someone who did it for money and no concern at all about what a human being I am, and surely the feeling of loneliness more acute than ever. So for me, an hour of pleasure (and I think superficial, for example, how to kiss someone you have no feeling for ?) doesn't seem worth the down low of afterwards. But it's just me.

You don't seem to be in a particularly happy place at the moment and I wish you to go and find joy and happiness and fulfillment as soon as possible.

Eh, I'm happy enough. I don't have any qualms on the relationship front, but I've been down for other reasons (not knowing my purpose, frustration with career, etc.)

I've posted in other threads about inability to really feel like I click with anyone I meet on a non-platonic level. I'm just a weirdo in that regard. I don't expect a relationship tobhappen in my lifetime and expecting it to happen would only lead to misery.

As for kissing...I've never kissed anyoneI loved. But I've made out with hot strangers and friends over the years. Tons of fun.

[paulo999]

I've considered it and the idea is hot, and I could afford it, in moderation. I just never take the plunge, and probably won't.

[oakpope]

Each human being may be wired differently I guess, and whatever makes someone happy (with usual caveat about other's happiness not infrinched) should be acceptable even if not in the "norm" of society.

But to be able to separate completely sex from real deep emotions is so strange for me. I can't fathom how the most intimate and precious gift a man can give to another can be done out of a relationship, whatever the level of it.

I'm being candid, it's a real mystery to me. What pleasure is it in a kiss with a stranger who 30 minutes later you will never see again ?

Don't you need some humans connections ? Why do you feel you can't find one, even if you haven't yet ? Sentiments, love don't follow a precise calendar. There's no telling what may happen in the future.

"I'm just a weirdo in that regard" : we are all weirdo you know, it's just the degree of estrangement from the society "norm" that changes from one to another. Have you analyze why you don't click with another man ? Physically, emotionally ? You're waiting for the perfect image you have in your mind, or the least imperfection sets you off ? I don't know.

If you're perfectly happy without a relationship, great for you, but I wish it's not a deception from you at you to be able to tolerate present condition of living as bearable.

(sorry, I think I ramble too much )

[TheFallenAsexual]

I was introduced to sex in a very negative way (not the virginity loss story above, but waaaaaay earlier in life). I've often thought that if I loved someone, I likely WOULDN'T wanna have sex with them.

[oakpope]

I was introduced to sex in a very negative way (not the virginity loss story above, but waaaaaay earlier in life). I've often thought that if I loved someone, I likely WOULDN'T wanna have sex with them.

Do you wish to talk about it ? Were you abused as a child ? (stop me if I'm too indiscreet)

[AlmondMilk]

I wouldn't. If I had the money, I might. But then again, I'd probably be too lazy to deal with the whole thing...and I can be a bit cheap I have a friend who does this occasionally, though.

[paatreides]

Oh...the thought has certainly crossed my mind, but I've never hired anyone. I don't see anything wrong with it at all - and for the life of me, can't understand why prostitution is illegal - it's consentual activity between two adults.
I fully understand how a guy can get tired of jerking off all the time...once in a while he craves a warm body and someone else's hand(s) or lips wrapped around his cock. Makes complete sense.
I'd say you should go for it - Mainly because you've admitted it would be a boost to your self-esteem and it seems as if you really need to build that. But, understand, we all know there are damn few "10"s in this world so of course it's what we all want and fantatsize about, isn't it?
Go get your 10 and enjoy him. Then, I hope you realize you may be someone else's idea of a 10 and they're afraid to approach you for the same reasons you avoid guys whom you view to be 10's.

[birddog7]

No, I've never seriously considered paying for sex. If I have to pay for it, what good is it? I can jack off at no cost...

[SonOfSlobone]

I did it a couple of times years ago, but I don't think I would do it again. The problem for me is that I only get turned on when the other guy is also turned on by me, and that's the one thing you can't have with a pro.

[mitchymo]

I wouldn't do it. Sex is not that important that i feel i must do it with just anyone, and i wouldn't pay just to get someone 'hot'. But, i don't see any moral issue so long as you go about it the right way, and an escort ad is much more preferable to picking up off the street.
If it is sex with a guy who is out of your league that you really want, and there are guys willing to oblige, live your fantasy i guess, your life.

[bankside]

My theory is, if you can't get mind-blowing sex for free, you won't be able to get mind-blowing sex because you pay for it. The missing ingredient in whether two people click that awesomely or not, is not a receipt.

[MiamiHorror]

The problem for me is that I only get turned on when the other guy is also turned on by me, and that's the one thing you can't have with a pro.

That sounds like a personal problem.

[thatgirl]

Have You Paid Or Considered Paying An Escort For Ongoing Sexual Relations?

Never. Hell no.

IMO, the only thing worse than having meaningless sex with strangers is probably paying for meaningless sex with strangers. Nothing against people who do, just me personally that is not something I believe I'd appreciate.

But if you think it'll make you happy/become satisfied, go for it. Give it a try for a few months and if it's not your thing, stop.

[Jayden]

No. No need to pay for it.

[youngnihilist]

Well, there's about 500 guys advertising online in my city for paid m4m sex. Of them, 470 would have to pay ME for sex, and about the other 30 I'd have sex with for free, but not pay them. So I guess the answer right now is no. Have I ever? Yes.

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Don't feel like paying money to stick my cock into a heroin or gambling addicted homophobe, but who am I to judge you if you do?

[MiamiHorror]

My theory is, if you can't get mind-blowing sex for free, you won't be able to get mind-blowing sex because you pay for it. The missing ingredient in whether two people click that awesomely or not, is not a receipt.

Your theory is null. There exists a type of sexuality that doesn't concern itself with wether the other person is enjoying the fuck or not.

People confuse emotions with sex too often and don't see that when it all boils down it's about busting a nut. If you decide to hire a prostitute you aren't hiring them to be your boyfriend, you are hiring them to fuck your brains out like a machine because you don't want to go through the motions of hooking up/cruising for dick. It's just like ordering take-out but instead of hot food it's hot cock.

[LatimerRd]

I did it a couple of times years ago, but I don't think I would do it again. The problem for me is that I only get turned on when the other guy is also turned on by me, and that's the one thing you can't have with a pro.

Absolutely not always the case. When I was a pro I was generally turned on to the guys who hired me, and even if I wasn't I was excited by the whole scene of turning another guy on and by the adventure of it all. Sounds to me as if you hired the wrong guys. A good escort will make his client feel desired.

Read my preceding post. I had a lot of sex with many men and it was never just about the money.

[Travisevian]

No, I'd rather buy clothing.

[Huntneo(PT)]

Nope. I'm in with the camp that says it's way too easy to get it for free.

I don't even have the finances to pay anyone for anything. And if I did, I still wouldn't.

My standards aren't really that high...so while you're wanting to pay "10"s for sex, Naughty--I'm jerking off and having fantasies about "5"s. lol

[72-Jay]

I would never pay for sex (even if I had the money to be able to afford it).

A big part to the reason would be because I don't believe in meaningless hookups. Pretty much the only way I'd have sex is if i was in a meaningfull relationship beforehand (basically my feeling is 'first love then sex')

[Dduder]

So I've gotten to a point in life where I'm sick of the chase, sick of finding new sex partners. Yet fuck buddies are a no-go because I don't have many gay friends I'm attracted to and the few I do are a risk to develop feelings and I'm not up for that awkwardness. Relationships aren't an option either, and I'd see looking for one for the sole purpose of getting laid to be shallow and manipulative anyway.

Dealing with this, I've pretty much accepted celibacy is all I got for 2012. Then the other day, I randomly picked up Next Magazine (one of the free gay mags that you find in bars and clubs). I rarely read these and go for actual newspapers, but randomly it caught my attention and I suddenly realized the escort section in the back.

Some of these guys are hot. They offer the types of sex they like, what they're into, rates, etc. I briefly (well maybe not-so-briefly since I'm posting here) humored the notion of getting one guy to see maybe twice a month (settling on solo jack-off sessions between those intervals).



PROS:

-I'd be able to get someone in amazing shape (usually out of my league)

-I'd be able to get my specific needs and my most superficial physical desires met

-Safe zone where no feelings are made/hurt

-Knowing that at the end of a stressful two weeks, I have a nice ass to fuck/cock to suck on

-The possibility of having an amazing lover despite maybe not being that amazing myself

CONS:

-Money (though I could afford twice a month if it meant not going out as much)

-Shame. (I actually don't think this would be a problem, but maybe it would get to me if I knew this guy wouldn't touch me if I wasn't paying him? On the other hand, my esteem is up because I'm much slimmer...paying to get with a '10' won't exactly make me feel like chopped liver)



I've honestly been considering it. A while ago, I had a lapdances by a breathtaking gogo boy. The sensations I felt looking at/feeling his perfect ass and beautiful smile were unreal. This kind of guy would be so out of my league no matter what I do. But if I could have sex with him (or someone like him) regularly for a fee, would that be wrong?

At this point, I'm probably gonna try it once anyway. But had anyone else done or thought about this?

Yes, this is all true. I have decided to become an escort because I need money just like some people need sex. And no one can call me indolent because I am in medical school and work a real job as well. I just really need the money.

[Huntneo(PT)]

btw, Naughty---the pros on your list outnumber the cons by three. I guess that means it's about time you started shopping for ass.

Let us know how your transactions go. I wouldn't do it myself, but I would love to hear the stories. I'd like to see the receipt--primarily for what you order...not how much he costs.