Plus le change. Waffles will be Waffles.
I've put myself to bed trying to get on top of a cold, but my friend got out of prison today, so it's a good day all around.
Lex
Cerebral Note to self...
G-Lex may be the bastard adopted G-dad of Waffles- SLIH
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Some Like it Hot Hot.
Some like it Hot Not
When it is Jubberville Lefty does Stroll,
Fast past 'Some Like it Hot' he'll have to SCROLL.
Not adopted nor related, but I probably wouldn't mind putting the syrup on the waffles. Not my first choice nor my last.
Lex
I sat at our large christmas dinner thinking about which guy i would be able to stomach giving head to.
I wish the conversations were more stimulating so I didn't have to do this because it can get gross.
I must admit, I never knew what everyone's problem was with Enchanted/Sex Kitten. But I see it now.
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On a completely unrelated note, I think I've met my man![]()
Author of Lost in a Dream. If you want to make me smile, read it and tell me what you think.
Guess what I found in the the bird while carving it up at the Christmas table? A bag full of giblits.![]()
Inspired - but too tired.
The last few weeks have been tough. I had a feeling a friend of 12 years was slowly ending her friendship with my friend and I. It was made clear today. She has become so self-centered. Completely failed to recognize the sacrifices we had made for her. It's 3:16 am, I can't sleep. Too busy crying. I really want to rant about her and she has been my ranting buddy so I am here at JUB.
I don't normally air my problems at JUB but right now I am a mess. Breaking up with a friend is way more painful than breaking up with a date or a partner.
Let it out, Ram. That's part of the reason we're here.
Lex
^Yeah, I thought it was a little unusual seeing you post such a thing here. I'm really sorry to hear of this. I know it's tough having a long friendship fade away. I've been there, and lost two at one time. PM me if you need to.
I think the way you're feeling is normal, and it may take some time--but you will heal.![]()
Last edited by Huntneo(PT); December 27th, 2012 at 12:36 PM.
Thanks Lex and Hunt. It's probably why I have been crabby at JUB. I am writing this with tear-filled eyes at 3 in the morning so do ignore the many mistakes you will probably find in my post.
There are -- or were -- 3 of us. Good friends since high school. We are suppose to go to Thailand in Jan and have fun. But things have changed. I can sense that she is no longer the person she is. She is very weird now. I tried talking to her about "her" being "her". I got answers but deep down I know something is wrong. I sensed she was not being truthful. I know that deep down the high school bonds we had are deteriorating. We are far too different and self-realized to have common grounds anymore. So yeah, this trip... things were moving slowly. We were still deciding about departure timing and all the other flight details. We decide to leave on Friday. I have classes on Friday but I am willing to skip them. I mean, a trip with friends to Thailand is way more important to me. We could have gone during my term break but we wanted to coincide it with the other friend's birthday. The one who is apparently no longer my friend has French classes every Friday. She loves French. It's like an outside hobby kinda thing unlike mine where I have to be in an actual school.
We only got to know that she was taking such classes recently. In fact when we came out with the dates and days, she didn't even mention it. She was making comments on FB on missing her classes and how she will never sacrifice the things she loves for some trip. She was starting to be a little nasty in our group chat. Today, she had a total meltdown. Texted in capital letters responding to the other friend. And she literally spammed the whole chat with the same text. It was very childish. She ended off my saying that if we can't book it early we shouldn't even go.
That really upset me. The trip was important to me because I felt that it can be a chance to rekindle our friendship. I knew immediately that she was unhappy about the trip not because of the booking issue. And who the fuck wants to start the trip with her biting our heads off on such a small issue? It really pissed me off. Long story short, texts were exchanged. What really hurt me was that she did not even want to apologize for the way she acted. And the best of part of all was that she kept denying the reasons. I know it had to do with us existing and the fact that we are distracting her from the things she loved. So I texted a long message which could have been shortened to "go fuck yourself, you self-centered bitch". No reply, nothing.
The funny thing was that I had asked her before about how comfortable she was with the plans. And in fact try to get her to understand that I am missing my own classes too. Lies, lies and more lies were told.
It's kinda my first fight with her but it pretty much spelled the end. The whole incident is rather anti-climatic and boring. But it fucking hurts.
I gave some reminiscence to 'hole confusion's idea.
Fortunately for my clothing Lex,
I did this on an empty stomach.
I will need a totally different set of diners at my table
before I entertain that thought again.
Keeping that in mind,
Now, remember the season...and the maxim...
Tis more blessed to give than receive
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I've learned that people enter out lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. when it's time to part ways, smile and be glad that you met, then part friends before things turn toxic.
Inspired - but too tired.
I'm sorry if I am ruining this page a little. It's ok, Left.
She was the first person I came out to. The first person to accept me for who I am. Mikey, yeah I agree. But I don't know...
I keep thinking I am strong but I am not. Such change is inevitable. It's like I have lost a limb.
I have this basic idea that I've had to pull out every once in awhile. Sometimes, a favorite restaurant ends up "under new management". And sometimes when that happens, it goes downhill. It's still in the same place, it's still called the same thing, it may look the same, and often there's still the same stuff on the menu. But it's not the same. The food doesn't have the appeal that drew you in over and over again. And sometimes it takes several visits before you really realize that, despite the same name, it isn't the same restaurant anymore. And it sucks, because you loved that restaurant. But it's best to just let it be whatever it is now, and look elsewhere for what you really want and need.
It's funny, but friends sometimes end up "under new management". They have the same names, they look the same, they may even sound the same. But there's something fundamentally different. They're not the same people they once were. And even though you stick with them, hoping that that which drew you to them is still there, you just don't find it anymore. And it sucks, because you loved that person. But it's best to just let it be whatever it is now, and look elsewhere for what you really want and need.
Lex
Boy do I know how you feel. I had a female friend that we've been friends with since I was 13, and she too was the first person I came out too. She was like my sister. But when I came out to her three years ago she changed. I ended up being the target of her homophobic jokes, even though she herself had a couple same sex flings. Apparently she thinks it's ok for women but not for men. Well, our friendship has turned toxic and I am trying to cut her out, but every few months she tried to come back. She has even blackmailed me, threatens to out me to my remaining family and friends. It even affects me dreams. I was so hurt, and still am I guess, so, really, I do understand. I was devastated.
Inspired - but too tired.
I am very sorry to hear that Mikey. It must have hurt. After all, you have been friends with her for so long.
I don't know whether I should apologize, forgive, ignore, move on. I think you had a harder time.
I understand Lex's posts. It's the mature way to understand the situation but it is also one that is the most difficult.
Thank you for sharing. Currently, breaking the Xmas lights is helping me.
I think I'll spare you another TL;DR message for the day. One was probably enough so I'll keep this short. lol
But sometimes friendships just fade and it's better to let go before the bad ending retroactively ruins all your good memories about that person.
It's easier to handle when friendships gradually fade away in a peaceful, amicable fashion. It is bittersweet but a part of life, that's pretty much what happens with most friendships from high school (and in general). The alternative is what you're dealing with when simply falling out of touch isn't enough for some people. It sounds like your friend is just blowing things up in order to distance herself from this friendship that she feels she's outgrown. If you can't salvage it, it's because she has decided to move on. So it's best to move on as well as best as you can. Anything else will only make it more painful. Just remember, after hardship comes ease. Good luck, Ram.![]()
Sorry to hear that Ram, of my friends, the few good friends I had in high school drifted from me eventually as well. I wish you all the best.![]()
"...foolin' myself feels so sweet, reality looks black and white." - Everything Is Beautiful
This Christmas season has made me rather reflective. I'm trying to figure out my life; my marriage, my career, my future. I really don't know how my life went south so fast. Sometimes I still think God is punishing me for being attracted to men and I just can't shake that feeling. I'm terrified of what my future holds because I'm no longer in control of it. I know I should be happy but I can't. I cry every day. That's why I was hoping for the end of the world, but even that was a let down and I don't even know what to do or think anymore. I just have this song running through my head 24/7.
Inspired - but too tired.
First world problems but I cant wait to get out of this dinner party.
Prescribed usage: One per day (or, if needed, two per day), with meals.
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As sad as these things are, they're inevitable. People change...even consider how many marriages dissolve, and I believe that most marriages are even nowadays formed on the premise-and-promise that the union will exist until death. Marriages are much more carefully considered than most friendships, and even those are far from failproof.
"[I shall strive to attain] [God, grant me] the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things that I can change, and the WISDOM to know the difference."
Knowing that you're not alone, doesn't help either - because, this time, it happened to you. It's usually one of those "things that happen to somebody else."
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Please capitalize where needed. Did you help your Uncle Jack off a horse, or help your uncle jack off a horse?
"If someone's words and actions don't match, their actions speak the truth" -- TX-Beau, from thi site.
Live your life, so that the Westboro Baptist Church will want to protest at your funeral.
DEFINITION: "EXHAUSTIPATED" - too tired to give a shit.
AMY'S BOSS: Sorry, I will need to lay you and Jack off. AMY: Can you just jack off? I feel like shit today.
i bursted out loud laughing @ this thread.
http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room/...-off-week.html
it's just fucking hilarious.
Sears jus hired me Full-Time as a Carpet Tech. last wednesday now im on temporary lay off "until further notice"
how is this shit possible brehs
one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry![]()
Considering how well X-mas week is going so far, a bit of paranoia has set in that something bad will happen before New Years.
I think what I do to get away from spiders qualifies as parkour.
After my 18yo son got drunk and passed out, I undressed him and sucked his dick and rimmed his ass.
Elroy, line two.
Lex
Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.
I think you're just having one of those ruts, we all have them. It's like out of nowhere, a bunch of things seem unrecognizable and different in your life and as you work on trying to get a grip on everything a lot of stuff just keeps throwing you off balance. But instead of interpreting it as God punishing you, see it as a chance to grow. It's like life has shaken things up for you a bit, forcing you to get out of your comfort zone so you can evolve on a personal level. It's like doing a bit of renovating-- it will take a lot of time and effort but it will be worth it in the end. Just be really introspective and work on being confident that you are capable of making the right life decisions and changes to get yourself out of feeling this way.![]()
I think some people look god only in profile.Today while I walked around with a friend of mine,I saw a cute guy but when I saw him frontal,he wasn't that cute anymore.Also,I won't reveal the name,but there's also one Jubber who looks good in profile,but when I saw his whole face,ewww.
^Can we have a man-to-man talk? I come at you from a paternal point of view--nothing salacious.
Trolls gonna troll, pathetic.
"...foolin' myself feels so sweet, reality looks black and white." - Everything Is Beautiful
I am occasionally debilitated by the fear that an insect has taken up residence in my ear.
* Question the Dominant Paradigm *
Please capitalize where needed. Did you help your Uncle Jack off a horse, or help your uncle jack off a horse?
"If someone's words and actions don't match, their actions speak the truth" -- TX-Beau, from thi site.
Live your life, so that the Westboro Baptist Church will want to protest at your funeral.
DEFINITION: "EXHAUSTIPATED" - too tired to give a shit.
AMY'S BOSS: Sorry, I will need to lay you and Jack off. AMY: Can you just jack off? I feel like shit today.
I was born without a spine so I can eat my own asshole.![]()
I think the only healthy sexual relationship I've had was with a sex addict.![]()
"killing a man should take long enough for one's conscience to get in the way."
I got a Christmas card photo today of my next-door neighbor's family and wow. The middle girl got huge headlights and the eldest son's (my age) face looks so drug ridden. We all knew he was a pill popper but yeah. My receding hairline may age me but my face isn't sunk in.
I've been there Ram. About 7 years ago. I can't tell you what tomorrow will bring you, but I can tell you in time it won't hurt this much. I totally agree though, losing a friend is at times worse than losing a partner.
My only advice is take it a day at a time and don't get the booze involved, that will only make it worse trust me on that one.