INTERVIEW: Cody from Louisiana (Joe of Sean Cody)
We’ve been granted an interview with Cody — a guy we’ve featured on SexFlexible.com before and who has appeared in a solo video for Sean Cody. He’s no stranger to showing off or getting off on being watched, so we tracked him down and twisted his arm until he agreed to answer a few questions. (It didn’t take much twisting. Not too much at least.)
SEX FLEXIBLE: Hey Cody, thanks for talking to us and letting us share it with the whole entire world.
CODY: No prob. I mean, my pics and vids are out there. So why not?
SF: Exactly! Why not? So, first things first, tell us a little bit about yourself.
CODY: Ugh, I knew that part was coming. I hate trying to answer that. I guess I just go with what I think people want to know or what they’ll think is hot?
CODY: Ok. I’m from Louisiana, I’m an ex-marine, I workout like there’s no tomorrow, and I beat my dick like it owes my mom money. I’m 5’8 175. I have an 8 inch dick.
SF: Is that real inches or internet inches?
CODY: That’s real inches and I can prove it. Actually, the proof is out there. It is 8 though.
SF: Fair enough. Speaking of real, Cody is your real name?
CODY: Yeah, it is. I don’t mind using it. I think some people know my last name but I took it off Twitter so I won’t get stalked when you post this. I’d rather not have people contacting me out of the blue. I’ve had people hunt me down on Facebook and write me on there. I don’t want that kind of stuff.
SF: That’s understandable. So, you did one scene for Sean Cody, but before we get to that, you’ve been “around” for a while. Your pics have floated around.
CODY: Yeah, I guess you could say I’ve been around. I used to cam on Yahoo back when the chatrooms were awesome. I think they shut them down because underage kids were getting naked on camera and advertisers started going crazy. But, back when they had chatrooms like “Rate My Dick” or “Str8 Guy Jacking Off On Cam,” that kind of stuff. I was doing that. Come to think of it, I might’ve been underage at first. Uh oh. But yeah, I’ve been around. Some of my pics ended up on GuysWithiPhones but it wasn’t me who put them on there. I’m not saying I wouldn’t have done it, but I didn’t post them. I have no idea who did, which is creepy.
SF: So you’re naturally a showoff and exhibitionist?
CODY: Oh God yeah. I love showing off and getting attention. I think “attention whore” is a new sexual preference these days. Lots of people love attention and they don’t care who it’s from — guys, girls, whatever. That’s not being totally straight but it’s not being gay either. It’s just being an attention whore.
SF: How would you label yourself sexually?
CODY: Out of convenience and when dealing with friends/family/girls, I say I’m straight. I think most people label themselves out of convenience based on what they prefer the most. Do I have a side to me that most people wouldn’t consider straight? Yeah. The majority of guys do I’ve learned. But that’s not my main side and my knee-jerk reaction to someone asking me my preference is “straight.”
SF: Guys also get a reward out of labeling themselves as straight or viewing themselves as straight. It’s like a badge of honor.
CODY: Yeah. I get that. But what goes on in my head is really no one’s business unless I decide it’s their business. And guys are guys. When you get them alone and one-on-one they will tell you a lot more than any other time. I’ve had guys tell me stuff I don’t think they have told anyone else. And I don’t think guys admit a lot of stuff even in their own head.
SF: You seem to have atypical insight for a “straight” guy. About sexuality, at least.
CODY: I’ve been dealing with things since I was like 14 or something so I’ve had a long time to think about shit.
SF: Dealing with things?
CODY: Being an exhibitionist. Admiring guys’ bodies. I’m big into fitness and working out. It’s impossible to be into that and not admire guys who have nice bodies. There’s a level of attraction to it. It’s weird because if you go on Bodybuilding.com or a well-known fitness guy’s profile, you have guys calling each other faggot, gay, all that. It’s 2013 and that’s still the main way they try to bring each other down. But they’re all there to admire another guy’s body. It’s so fucking stupid. Even if there isn’t a sexual part to it, there’s still attraction. I’m not the type of guy who has to compensate for that.
SF: Hmmmm…I see. I got the feeling that when you said you’d been “dealing with things,” you meant other things.
CODY: Well yeah, I just stopped there. I had already said a lot and I don’t know how long this is supposed to be.
SF: As long as we want. Trust me, when you stop saying anything of interest, I’ll let you know.
CODY: Ha. Ok. Well, I’ve always been a bit submissive. So, there’s that.
SF: You do strike a “submissive” pose in some of the pics that are floating around.
CODY: Hahaha. Yeah…
SF: So, you’re a bottom? Is that what we’re to infer from the pics?
CODY: I’m submissive. I think that goes hand in hand with what you’re asking.
SF: So, you’re a submissive straight guy?
CODY: I mean, I don’t 100% label myself as straight. It’s just like a “real life” thing. I know a lot of guys who do gay porn also label themselves as straight and I think it’s like that for me. They’re not 100% straight, I’m not 100% straight. They know it, I know it. But I’m not bisexual or gay. So, if someone asks what I am, I say I’m straight. It’s just more convenient that way. If a stranger asked me I would say “straight.” Every time.
SF: I’d say you’re “heteroflexible.”
CODY: Yeah. I like that. That would work. But I wouldn’t use it with someone I don’t know or that I don’t want to know that side of me.
SF: I’d like to see “Sex Flexible” become a commonly used sexual preference one day. Then maybe guys like you wouldn’t feel so judged and unable to be open or honest. There’s so much stigma to “gay” or “bi” or even to “straight” in some circles. Anyway, speaking of porn, you’ve already done one scene. A solo. Do you think there will be more?
CODY: You know, I don’t know really. I did that mostly for financial reasons but obviously I like being in front of a camera. They were great to work with and made me totally comfortable. It was weird seeing what porn is really like but it’s also not as fake as I thought it was
SF: How so?
CODY: They didn’t feed me a bunch of stuff to say and give me this fake identity, other than a name. I think for the most part the descriptions they use of us guys are pretty honest. At least, it was for me. I can see how a lot of guys would go into that situation thinking that they were 100% straight without being told to lie and say they were.
SF: We’ve heard rumors of things behind the scenes being pretty homophobic, at least subtly so. Did you see any of that?
CODY: No. I mean, look, I was there to do a solo, so my exposure was pretty limited. But, I think people have to keep in mind the nature of those kinds of sites. I mean, they are trying to draw in guys who think they are 100% straight and make them comfortable. You do that by making the environment as similar to theirs as possible. Then when they see other guys who they identify with doing “gay” stuff, they start to think that maybe it’s not as bad of a thing after all. The typical straight guy’s environment is going to seem homophobic to the typical gay guy. Because well, honestly, it usually is.
SF: For only doing a solo, you seem to have a lot of insight into that aspect of it.
CODY: I did my research. And I was in the marines. I know all about those kinds of environments.
SF: So you looked into other studios before you went with SC?
CODY: Oh yeah.
SF: What made you choose them?
CODY: Well haha they responded to my application. And they have the best looking guys for the most part. So I wanted to see if I could “make it.”
SF: Were you honest about your sexuality during the process?
CODY: Not as honest as I’m being here, but it also wasn’t something I was quizzed on. It was a getting-my-feet-wet kind of thing, you know?
SF: Ok. So, I guess the big question is–since you are pretty sexually flexible–will you be going back for another scene? More than just a solo.
CODY: Well, I don’t know what all I’m allowed to say and not say. When it comes to that. I didn’t ask them about doing an interview and run it by them first. But, I will say that I’m on the fence about some stuff. It’s one thing to talk about stuff or take pics of myself. It’s one thing to jerk off in a video. It’s another thing to have sex with a dude on camera and have it out there forever. I don’t know about that. I might have kids one day. Do I want that hanging over my shoulder? Do I want to be paranoid about that for the rest of my life?
SF: I don’t think that’s a question a lot of guys who do porn ask themselves.
CODY: I don’t know. Maybe they do. Maybe they come up with a different answer than me. I haven’t really come up with an answer yet. Not fully. I guess that kinda answers your question though.
SF: It does. It sounds like overall your experience with them was a positive one.
CODY: Very positive. They were great to work with and I don’t regret it at all.
SF: I think a lot of people will side-eye me if I don’t ask about being in the marines. What it was like. Especially you being so submissive and sexually flexible.
CODY: Hahaha, I knew that was coming.
CODY: Unfortunately, it was pretty uneventful for me, so I can’t share any personal stories. Nothing that exciting at least or worth mentioning. I know about other things and other people though. I’m not sure if that’s what you want to hear about though.
SF: Spill it. Spill it all.
CODY: Hahaha. Well, I was in and out before DADT was repealed. But, that didn’t really matter. One thing you don’t hear about in the media is that for the most part a lot of guys in the service don’t really give a shit about gays. Sure, “faggot” gets tossed around a lot, but it’s an insult that doesn’t always mean “gay.” It means weak, feminine, annoying, a punk, a bitch. But, honestly, it doesn’t really mean “gay” all the time. A lot of attitudes have changed about that shit. Now, I know hearing it and being in that environment makes it hard for guys who are gay to be comfortable. But, a lot of times, straight guys have more respect for gay guys when they are open about who they are and stand up for themselves. In fact, a lot of times guys already know about gay guys and are just waiting for the dude to say something about it. Then they are like, “it’s about fucking time!”
SF: Funny, because you said you aren’t open about yourself.
CODY: Well, I see myself differently. And maybe I’m wrong. But, I’m not gay. I’m not highly sexually attracted to guys, and I’m definitely not romantically attracted to them. So, I might be wrong, but my sexual tastes are a little more complicated and I just prefer not to get into it with friends especially. Besides, guys like me–heteroflexible you said?–we don’t talk about it. We just do it. That’s the thing. We don’t talk about it.
SF: Yes, we are all aware of that. The love that dare not speak its name.
SF: Anyway, you said you knew about “stuff”?
CODY: Oh yeah. Well, I was stationed in San Diego for a while and then in Japan. Things were pretty normal in SD because we had access to all the usual stuff. But, when we were in Japan, guys kind of became a little looser I guess you could say.
CODY: Yeah. It’s like being in jail. You kinda rely on what you can get. I mean, a lot of us got on webcams over there. There’s a video of me floating around out there and you can tell I’m in my room in Japan. Well, I knew that other guys would get on cam too and we would tell each other what sites were good, stuff like that. I never got on cam with another guy, but I know some who did. Or they’d get on in a group. There was one time that I was watching some guys I knew and they didn’t realize I was in the chatroom and they started messing around with each other. The people in the room were egging them on and some girl was on cam for them so I guess they decided to do stuff. Like give each other head and stuff like that. It was weird because I knew for sure they were all straight. But, you know, when you’re over there and you’re horny, and you’re with guys who are all similar to you. Shit happens.
SF: Shit never happened with you, though?
CODY: Not really. Nothing major. There was one guy, who was “out,” you know. And I heard stuff about him, so I knew he was doing stuff with guys. Like he would blow them when they wanted. That kind of shit. Well, after I did the SC scene he got in touch with me and asked why I never came to him and used him like that because he would’ve done it. So, no, I didn’t really do anything. I could’ve. But didn’t.
SF: What did you say to him? Did you answer him?
CODY: Yeah. I did. I was honest. I told him that I’m submissive so I wouldn’t have been into dominating him. I told him if anything I was a little jealous because from what I heard he got dominated by some pretty rough, intense guys when we were stationed there and if I wasn’t such a pussy I would’ve liked to have had experiences like that. So I asked him for some stories about things that happened. With certain guys in particular.
CODY: And I have a saved folder in my email with stories and pics from him if I ever need jackoff material. That’s all I’ll say.
SF: DAMN YOU! You’re sitting on a goldmine.
CODY: Yeah. Probably.
SF: So, do you have limited experience overall? Sexually, with men.
CODY: Pretty limited. But I’ve done stuff. The craziest thing was kind of “escorting” a little when I was stationed in SD.
SF: Escorting. Really?
CODY: I mean, kind of. It was pretty innocent. I thought I was doing it for the money at the time, because the USMC really doesn’t pay you shit. Seriously they don’t. But now I think I was doing it for the experience as well.
SF: You weren’t worried about getting caught? Considering your situation that sounds risky.
CODY: Eh, not really. A lot of guys were actually doing it. A lot of things are a lot more prevalent and common than most people know. I guess what a lot of people don’t understand is that marines (and most guys in the military, I guess, but marines are the best) are not your typical guys. We all have a wild streak and we all like being adventurous and doing stuff that is taboo. To be blunt (and a little vulgar), I think a lot of guys I knew would have gotten a kick out of putting another guy “on his knees.” The power and domination in there is really high.
SF: So you were in heaven it sounds like?
CODY: Hahaha. You’d think so. But no. I really closed off and didn’t think about it.
SF: Looking back, would you have done the same thing again? Or would you have been more…”adventurous”?
CODY: Hmmm…well, I think there were two or three guys that if I had known they were doing the things they were doing, I would’ve found a way to drop some hints. And then see what happened. But, at the time, I had NO idea they would’ve been cool with that kind of stuff.
SF: Ahhhh, isn’t that too often the case?
CODY: I suppose so. Is it?
SF: Very much so. Well Cody, I hate to cut it short, but I’m afraid we’re not cutting it short at all and that this is maybe far too long. It’s our first interview for the new site and although I’d love to keep going and picking your brain, I’m not sure how realistic it is to post such a loooooooooong interview. Maybe if we get a really positive response to this we can do a follow-up. Would that be all right with you?
CODY: Definitely. I actually enjoyed this. It wasn’t what I was expecting.
SF: Well that’s good. I know you said you don’t want people randomly hitting you up, but the way stalkers work is that they will do so if they are already inclined to do so. Is there a way for people to contact you if they feel they absolutely must?
CODY: Yeah…I’m @CodyLSU on Twitter, or they can email me.
SF: I’d rather not put your email on the site, so they can contact you on Twitter and you can give it to them there if that’s appropriate.
CODY: Sounds good.
SF: Well, thank you again. You were great.
CODY: Thanks. I enjoyed it.
So…what did y’all think about our first interview with Cody? That is, if any of you made it this far. Anything you feel we missed out on or would like to see him talk about in a follow-up interview?