Men concealing their age

[freefall]

I've had the opposite problem. I usually have to convince people I'm older than I look or come across. It's not that I'm immature or anything but the majority of company I keep is older and I have to fight against being discounted for always being the younger one. Incidentally I'm 27.

One of my lecturer has the same problem. Currently he's in his late 40s but people always assume he's a bit older than 30. To many people, this wouldn't be a problem. but usually younger doctors or lecturers are underestimated, so he doesn't like it. He usually wears a blank spectacles to create the impression he's old.

[papipaco]

I've had the opposite problem. I usually have to convince people I'm older than I look or come across. It's not that I'm immature or anything but the majority of company I keep is older and I have to fight against being discounted for always being the younger one. Incidentally I'm 27.

I've got the same problem. Being a twenty year old chef is not easy in a field where a common misconception is that more years make you a better cook. So not true!

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

when u walk in a club does everyone have their age tattooed on their forehead? wouldnt it be horrific if someone actually found someone attractive outside of their concrete age of acceptable dating potentials - omg what if they were actually 10 years older than you could possible fathom and yet you couldnt take your eyes off of them - shoot yourself - go ahead just kill yourself - you actually judged someone on their attractiveness as oppossed to your preconcieved foolish little notions...

[animalius]

A lot of men in the gay world conceal their age because age bias is so rampant in the gay world...like it's some badge of honor to be under 30 and a badge of disdain to be over 30. Nowhere, except in the gay world, is the first thing said after "Hello" is "how old are you?". No group of people are as hung up about age as gays and that's a sad testimony to a group that cries for tolerance and equality.

I actually agree with this. Back when I was 24 or so, I dated a man that was in his 60's. All my friends were like "OMG, you're sleeping with an old guy!"

I am now 30 dating a 21 soon to be 22 guy and people are giving us weird looks. One guy (b/f's friend) has even expressed his discomfort to me verbally.

[HoodedRat]

I don't care who knows my age ... 52.

I expect some people think I am a few years younger and some people think I am several years older ... so I guess I look about 52.

Age is one of the least bothersome life-issues for me.

[tombastep]

No group of people are as hung up about age as gays and that's a sad testimony to a group that cries for tolerance and equality.

I don't think being hung up on age is that exclusive to gays. I have friends of mine around my age who get hung up on it. My best friends g/f tends to comment on age difference, even when it comes to a difference that I tend to think is relatively small. Like 20-30.

[Scealle]

I really don't get it if anyone wants to conceal their age. For girls they tend to mind a lot when they don't look their age or get told they look old. But I thought that for guys it was the other way round? The older the guy the hotter Some of my friends always gets so sensitive when we talk about age + dating.

It's kinda annoying when they can only see themselves dating someone their age or just one year of difference. then they judge you when you don't feel the same way.

This is why you have so many silly high school dramas when you only limit yourself to dating someone your age

[xbuzzerx]

I don't think being hung up on age is that exclusive to gays. I have friends of mine around my age who get hung up on it. My best friends g/f tends to comment on age difference, even when it comes to a difference that I tend to think is relatively small. Like 20-30.

It most certainly isn't limited to gays, for sure. Has no one heard of a midlife crisis? Has no one SEEN a midlife crisis? When your overweight 54 year old boss starts gelling his hair and gets a ferrari and starts going on joyrides? It's embarrassing. But it's normal.

[sixthson]

It most certainly isn't limited to gays, for sure. Has no one heard of a midlife crisis? Has no one SEEN a midlife crisis? When your overweight 54 year old boss starts gelling his hair and gets a ferrari and starts going on joyrides? It's embarrassing. But it's normal.

May I have a ride in your ferrari?

[xbuzzerx]

May I have a ride in your ferrari?

In 20 years sure.

[eastofeden]

I am proud of my age...55...no effort at all to conceal a thing. I earned it.

One more thing...I hear alot of people say that life is over after 30 when you are gay and someone needs to call that what it is...a complete load of crap.

[xbuzzerx]

I am proud of my age...55...no effort at all to conceal a thing. I earned it.

One more thing...I hear alot of people say that life is over after 30 when you are gay and someone needs to call that what it is...a complete load of crap.

I know it can't be true for me because I didn't have a life before 30 either!

[Scealle]

I know it can't be true for me because I didn't have a life before 30 either!

Me too haha and I am 22. My friends are telling me to get laid now/ go to a random gay club and pick a guy or I will be single for eternity.

[birddog7]

I have no problem telling my age, though I do have a problem being my age. As for life being over at 30, I have no idea how that works out for most people. Never had a life before 30, and haven't had one since either...

[Beachguyj]

I find it really weird for men not to tell their age. Not accusing women to be not confident about aging, but it's just that women usually conceal their age, not men.

But two weeks ago, when I was interviewing a man whose mother was a patient, it became a strange experience.

Me: "Your age, Sir?"
Him: "I'm old."
Me: "How old?"
Him: *chuckles* "You need not know."
Me: "I have to. I need to make a pedigree."
Him: *chuckles again* "All you need to know is I'm definitely older than you."
Me: *frowns*

For me it's weird. A man, afraid to let people know him age? Puzzling

How about you? Do you know any man or guy who refuses to disclose their actual age?

What's a pedigree?

[dereperez]

I find it really weird for men not to tell their age. Not accusing women to be not confident about aging, but it's just that women usually conceal their age, not men.

But two weeks ago, when I was interviewing a man whose mother was a patient, it became a strange experience.

Me: "Your age, Sir?"
Him: "I'm old."
Me: "How old?"
Him: *chuckles* "You need not know."
Me: "I have to. I need to make a pedigree."
Him: *chuckles again* "All you need to know is I'm definitely older than you."
Me: *frowns*

For me it's weird. A man, afraid to let people know him age? Puzzling

How about you? Do you know any man or guy who refuses to disclose their actual age?

Seems like he's not even willing to tell his age for the benefit of his mom (if that was the case)?

And pardon my ignorance, but why do you need to know the exact age to do a pedigree? Isn't it just a family tree?

[Benvolio]

The easiest thing you can do to look younger is keep your hair colored. Grecian formula will keep out the flecks of gray then one of the shampoo in colors.

[freefall]

^It relates to the family cycle and possible health problems etc etc family medicine thing anyway I have been lashed multiple times by my supervisor(s) for either not including the age OR the age when someone died in a pedigree that I stopped being disobedient.

Anyway, beachguy, you have your answer.

I hear alot of people say that life is over after 30 when you are gay and someone needs to call that what it is...a complete load of crap.

This reminds me of an episode of Queer as Folk when Brian reached 30 and the gang made a birthday surprise in a form of funeral procession - wreaths, black clothes, and a tombstone-shaped cake

[sixthson]

What's a pedigree?

He's taking a medical history of the patient and her family.

[freefall]

^Actually, pedigree is [roughly] a family tree complete with the disease and deaths and any blood/marriage relationships. Taking medical history is called taking an anamnesis.

[freefall]

Now that I think about it, I should've said genogram instead of a pedigree. It's a more appropriate term

[dereperez]

^Actually, pedigree is [roughly] a family tree complete with the disease and deaths and any blood/marriage relationships. Taking medical history is called taking an anamnesis.

I know...which is why I asked, why would you need to know the age of the son? I mean you don't need that to formulate a family tree...

[dereperez]

^ ok nevermind, i just read your post about your supervisors being on you for not including the age lol

[Pianist]

I'm 57. Whaddya gonna do about it?

...

Yeah, thought so.

[freefall]

Can I do you, Daddy?

[cgymike]

I think over 50 very few conceal age because what difference does it make...to young people they are "obviously ancient" 45 65 85 ...same thing to a 21 year old...you might as well be 140. But under 40? HUGE concealment and 39 is about the peak....SO many guys 39...39 ...39....39....(but they are 45)....29 is another peak...sometimes even more desperate....but 49...nah...who cares?

[andyspete]

I'm one of those insecure people who hides my real age. It seems that once you hit 35, you're a has been in the gay community. So I try to hold on to it as long as I can. Fortunately, I've been blessed with good genes and could actually pass for younger than 35. I know it won't last forever though. I'll deal with it in time.

[Pianist]

Can I do you, Daddy?

The only people that get to call me daddy are my kids... and at this point in time, it's dad. Everyone else calls me Gery.

[Kahaih]

I don’t give out my age because I’m well past ‘old enough to know better’ and don’t want to give good reason to be judged for not acting it.

[ParisZ]

When age suddenly becomes a "private" matter for a man... Uhm, well, I'm sorry... No thanks.

[G-Lexington]

I figure if they won't tell me, I'll look at them, make an educated guess, then add seven years.

Lex (43)

[ParisZ]

I figure if they won't tell me, I'll look at them, make an educated guess, then add seven years.

Lex (43)

Hahaha good one, Lex!

[Kahaih]

I figure if they won't tell me, I'll look at them, make an educated guess, then add seven years.

Lex (43)

Why?

Do you have a set of rules or ideas that you have to apply - as to what a particular age looks like?




What is 43 supposed to look like?

[Beachguyj]

Vanity, insecurity