Anyone else have this difficulty?
I can make friends easily. I'm very sociable, have many acquaintances from all across the spectrum. Most of my friends I've worked alongside at some point in my life, and I work with men and women from all sexualities.
What I've realized is that I cannot make a close gay male friend to save my life. The gay friends I have are fun to have when I want to go out drinking or if I want to hit up a gay bar, but 90% of the time, we have nothing in common outside of that.
When it comes to calling someone up simply to do nothing, to catch up, to chat about life, etc... it almost always comes down to my straight friends and my one lesbian friend.
Now I am fortunate enough to have great friends. My closest friends (who are straight and male) have never been put off about hearing about what's going on in my life, the guys I'm crushing on, etc., so it's not as if I need a gay friend to talk about certain things.
But sometimes I wonder with all the gay men I've come across, why it's always a matter of either it being a sexual thing or a bar-hopping buddy, never a strong, meaningful friendship.
Is it just me?