letters To Your Younger Self.

[CupidBoy]

To my childhood and teenage self -

You are much more valuable than you realize. Bullies are cowards, their judgments cannot define who you are. Keep your head held high, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Just because you aren't the same as everyone else doesn't mean you're a freak. Stay sweet, and go easy on the junk food. You'll find yourself someday.

To myself now -

You've made it into adulthood, you stayed strong, sweet and laid off the junk food. Hew the fuck else?

Edit: this should be a hit thread, imo.

[refujiunderground]

to my teenage self.

you're angry and upset about a whole bunch of things for a reason because you feel like no one understands you or what you're going through. your parents may not get you, your peers may not get you, and etc BUT i know what you're going through. even though you may not think you're doing a good job managing your feelings, you're doing a good job. it's a lot productive than doing drugs or running around doing crime, making other people's lives miserable because you're upset. whatever's bothering you, don't be afraid to tell it even if it hurts you. i know you're holding a lot inside because you feel that you have no one around you to tell it. i think the reason why you're not doing whatever you're supposed to do and are blaming moving to a new town, blaming your new school, and basically looking for a bunch of excuses is that you're hiding something and you don't know or want to tell it to anybody. it's okay to admit that you're afraid and are hurt. just know that i'm always there for you and you can tell me anything. i promise to never tell anyone.

me

[timboy]

Mine would be , say yes cos you,re gonna regret not saying it for an awful long time

[CottonBolus]

Dear your younger self,
Everything you've ever been told, do the opposite. Because nobody knows anything and you are better off just not taking anyone's advice.

Cotton

[alister]

Mine would be "stay away from the whiskey, and stay away from Bi-guys"

[USEDCAR]

Be a better friend, Make more real friends,Be more social instead of staying in the house all the time
Stop the Class clowning
Play Sports or Join Clubs
Go to College right after High School
Lose Weight

[ronboy]

To my pre-1985 self.....

-punch Cary in the face when he calls you a "fuckin' living abortion."
-don't let the bastards get you down
-cherish each moment with Vincent. DON'T let him go out alone!
-keep your eyes in your own head when you are with Clancy. He may have the most beautiful blue eyes on the planet, and be built like a god, but you are Vincent's...and he is yours...totally and completely...
-stay away from Bill Wahl's homemade milkshakes.....they are delicious but fattening!

[Hard-up1]

Don't teach.

Your heart is in the right place, but teaching is changing and isn't what you think.

Run, do not walk, from your home. Find an urban area, come out, and make your life new.

Don't look back.

[mikey3000]

Mine would go something like this...

"Boy, shut your eyes and hold on tight; you're in for one hell of a bumpy ride. And don't try to change a thing, just roll with it. You won't believe where you end up. "

[RaKroma]

I would make myself come out by 15, not be a pussy that I was always fearing change in my life and actually change high schools for better opportunities. I would also make myself start using SPF daily at 12 so I could look more youthful and purty today.

[Lord Booticus]

"Stop that."

[JockBoy87]

Dear 15-year old Jockboy, liking guys means you're gay and it's not a secret to take to the grave. Get with Jeff in the lockerroom because it will be the only time you can ever act out that fantasy for real. Come out and start a GSA, people will respect you and pay attention to you, and it will look great on a resume. Don't fall hard for your first boyfriend; he'll only fuck up your precious early life. Run on internal motivations, not what people want you to do or tell you that you will probably be good at this or that. For heaven's sake don't get a credit card. Get a job or internship right out of high school that you can build a career on, so you are independent by the time you leave college. And STAY in college for Pete's sake.

Oh, and when you turn 18, join JUB as soon as you possibly can! As in, hover the cursor over the register button so you're ready to go at the stroke of midnight Then post a thread that you literally just turned 18 and watch the vultures circle.

[Ryuukie]

Dear Tony,

Buy Apple stock.

Love,

Tony

[HunterM]

Fuck more

[bw92116]

Don't chase men.

Be happy within yourself.

Take time each day to just enjoy the day.

[bw92116]

Oh yeah, and this...

Never, ever, lend money to anyone.

[bw92116]

P.S.

When a guy makes a pass at you, or drops hints, and you're interested...

DON'T hesitate. Go for it immediately. Say yes.

Otherwise you will regret having missed the opportunity, for years afterwards.

You usually only get ONE chance with any one guy, and if you turn him down, you won't get another chance.

[LatimerRd]

Don't stop practicing the piano an hour each day because you're exhausted from swimming three. You can do both. You're never going to be either Aldo Ciccolino or Matt Biondi and you're not going to make either Carnegie Hall or the Olympics, but playing an instrument for the rest of your life will bring you greater pleasure than seeing a few trophies sitting in your old room at your parents' house.

Forget being embarrassed. Speak French and Italian every opportunity you get, and continue the Brazilian Portuguese class that you're going to drop after two months. For that matter, vow to learn a new language every five years and do it!

Don't wait so long to get to Hawaii. Be serious about surfing for six months, but six months only.

Make as much money as you can as quickly as you can. Hire an accountant you trust the first time you get a serious job.

Don't do favors for rich people unless you're certain of the reward.

Contain your anger at your parents, brothers and your (eventual) partner. It rarely makes anything better and is a waste of precious time.

You prefer men. Admit it to yourself. You may not know it now, but soon enough you'll be happy you prefer men.

Buy Apple when it first occurs to you. Forget what your (eventual) partner thinks.

[ronboy]

I already wrote a note to my pre-1985 self, covering the years of high school and undergraduate.

To my post-1985 self...
-Vincent is gone, but it's not your fault. You tried to tell him to stay home that night. Fuckin' icy curve in the road...
-Do anything but don't go into teaching. It's fun now, but there are dangerous curves in the road ahead...
-Don't start hanging out at adult book stores and being a total cum slut for any half-way decent looking guy who smiles at you. -Don't turn yourself into a sex pig.
-Don't get involved with Gary from Virginia. he may be handsome, and have a huge cock, but it's not worth it....

[LatimerRd]

Additionally:

Don't ever get fucked without a condom, no matter that you think he's the hottest guy you've ever met. There will always be other "hottest guys you've ever met", and in the meantime you'll have saved yourself a lot of anxiety.

Go ahead and do the porno you'll be thinking about doing in a few years, when you're in your early twenties. You have no idea how much the world will change by time you're in your thirties. No one will really care, and if they do, they'll write it off as a youthful indiscretion.

[ibill1]

Dear Young Bill,

You did good my friend. You left that small town and went to college clear across the country all by yourself at only 17. You weren't away from home 2 days that you met the man of your dreams and pursued him at all cost to make him yours for life and succeeded. You should have gone a little easier on the drugs and partying but you grew out of it and moved on with your man. You will find the two of you have a great life ahead of you filled with the love of each other and that of family and friends. Be prepared, you are going to see alot of this world by the time your 50, enjoy the travels. If I could tell you what to change that would be easy, nothing.

[roadtripboy]

Dear younger self: Try to put yourself first a little more often. I know you feel like you're supposed to help everyone. But, sadly you won't receive the same support that you've given so freely. Just try to be a bit more assertive and take care of yourself a bit more.

[BrianPGH]

Dear 13-year old Brian,

No matter what they say to you or about you, no matter what they do to you -- believe in YOURSELF. Speak up for yourself. FIGHT for yourself. Let your voice be heard. There's no need to be afraid of them or their threats -- they have no power over you. Tell your parents what they're doing to you. Tell your teachers. Tell anyone who will listen. You have nothing to be ashamed of. "Faggot" is just a word, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with you for being gay. There's something wrong with them for treating another human being so horribly. Your life has value and you have a lot to offer the world.

There's no need to isolate yourself out of fear. Go out & have fun. Socialize. Be a teenager.
Don't keep potential guy friends at arms length, because of what other kids might say about them for hanging around you. You don't have to try to protect them.

And, whatever you do, when J.B. tries to get closer to you -- LET HIM!!! That boy has a secret you don't know yet. Otherwise, when you're 40, you'll still deeply regret that you missed your chance with him.

Love,
Yourself in 27 years

[BrianPGH]

(Thank you for this thread, BENDERBOY. Writing that was very cathartic.)

[refujiunderground]

dear 14 year old self

what the fuck are you thinking talking about quitting masturbation for? ARE YOU CRAZY? you better fuck that bed like there's no tomorrow or i'll fuck you up. there's way too much porn material to say you quit. you may feel dirty but something so wrong feels SO right because it is right and was never wrong to begin with.

[Ram]

Dear Ram,

There is this website called JUB. Don't join it.

Regards
Ram

P.S. there is a creature called Lil Bit. Learn to hate it.

[vvaamim]

I wish the me at the time could read what I'm going to write, but oh well.

Dear younger Guy,

Don't start fooling around the neighbor boy and don't treat him life shit. He could've grown up to be one of your best friends but you're just interested in the sex.

Don't be afraid to be yourself; when you get older you'll get tired of pleasing everyone and you'll blow up a couple of unnecessary times. SPEAK YOUR MIND.

Don't stop learning Korean. It was the best choice of your life and you were really good at it. Don't let those twats make you give up.

Don't hate your mom for what happened; everyone makes mistakes and you might just have to forgive her.

Don't date your friend's godfather; it turns out bad.

Don't talk to the Mexican at the gym; turns out bad.

Don't go to the gym; turns out bad.

Study more.

Love yourself a LOT more. If you don't love yourself you're gonna find yourself feeling really alone, unattractive, stupid, inculte, inferior, etc. But the reality is that you're really attractive no matter what anyone tells you and you don't have to use sex as a way to validate your existence; you're much more than you dick, ass, and body, mon chéri. Sparkle despite everything else 'cause you really deserve it.

Don't go on that trip to SoCal if you didn't take the above advice; you'll feel really used and dirty after. No money's worth it.

GO TO F@$#$# UCB. Don't think you can't and when you get that acceptance letter, show the fag hag 'cause she'll convince you to go.

I hope you follow the advice I give you. It'll come in handy.

From you to you,

Older Guy B.

p.s., the windows are ALWAYS open, never sleep outside on the couches or the benches.

[BENDERBOY]

Shameless bump.

[Telstra]

This topic has probably been done before, but then what hasn't.

What advice would you give to your younger self if you could from the age you are now. my advice to my younger self, even though i'm only 21 now would have been don't waste the beginning of your teenage years anguishing over what peoples reactions to you being gay would be, because your true friends stay your true friends and your parents, always suspected and were ultimately happy that you were happy with who you were. now what about you guys.

You are only 21?
wow, i thought you are much more mature than that.

[BENDERBOY]

It's an old thread Telly.

[justanothershyguy]

You are only 21?
wow, i thought you are much more mature than that.

1st, read the date
2nd, age and maturity have no relation

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Dear younger self;

Don't change the way you are because of what other people or society think. Be who you are and love the fuck out of it.

Signed,
a happy Matt

[CupidBoy]

To my childhood and teenage self -

You are much more valuable than you realize. Bullies are cowards, their judgments cannot define who you are. Keep your head held high, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Just because you aren't the same as everyone else doesn't mean you're a freak. Stay sweet, and go easy on the junk food. You'll find yourself someday.

To myself now -

You've made it into adulthood, you stayed strong, sweet and laid off the junk food. Hew the fuck else?

Edit: this should be a hit thread, imo.

Aw.....reflections, tbh.

Can someone explain to me why this isn't this a hit thread again?

[derelictdarrel]

Dear eight year old self.

Take dad's gun, kill your parents and siblings. Go live with the wolves.

[borg69unimatrix]

82 posts isn't bad.

[CupidBoy]

82 posts isn't bad.

I'm finna get it to three pages.

[bradlee119]

He really did love you,and you should have realized it before he died.It will be so hard to love another.

[BrianPGH]

Can someone explain to me why this isn't this a hit thread again?

Maybe some were afraid to get too deep by replying. But I think it was a brilliant idea for a topic. Thanks again, Bendy!

[CupidBoy]

Maybe some were afraid to get too deep by replying. But I think it was a brilliant idea for a topic. Thanks again, Bendy!

He really is lovely.

[xbuzzerx]

Dear younger self,

Stop being Republican.

kthxbye,

Current Self.

[CupidBoy]

Young self,

I love you, you are loved.

[mrbeebs]

Just come out of the closet.

Put yourself out there some, when you do come out of the closet.

Don't go to Syracuse... go to Ole Miss.

Stop pining after straight boys.

Stop listening to Travis. Their music sucks bro.

Don't buy any more cargo shorts, beanies, or walmart shirts.

Don't get so concerned with achieving what your family wants for you.

Start drinkin' some.

Ger more iron in your diet.

Start drawing more.

Keep playing sports.

DON'T EVER FUCKING TOUCH A CIGARETTE

[looseliam]

Dearest Liam,

Don't start smoking. Aside from that, do it all; do everything; do everyone. Enjoy. I'll see you in a few years.

All the best,
Liam

[CupidBoy]

Younger self,

Don't be so trusting, you can't trust everyone who acts nice to you. Be cautious with your heart too.

[cgymike]

EXP=10 ten

[sixthson]

Hi Danny,
I know you hate being called that, it makes you feel like a little boy, but one day you are going to fall in love and he is going to call you Danny. You're going to love it.
I wish I could tell you that your fears won't be realized, but some of them will, sadly. I wish I could tell you to take down those walls you put up between yourself and others, but I think you needed them at that time.
You know how your spine always turns rigid when someone yells at you? Or how you refuse to let anyone see you cry when they hit you? I wish you could know that is just you being strong the only way you know how.
Do you remember when the neighbor, old Mrs. Jacobson, asked you why you were always singing? She told you that you had no reason to be happy because of the kind of people you came from. I've got news for you, little one, one day you are going to sing to your own babies. Can you believe it??
Though you may not understand this now, I would not change anything about your life and growing up. I know it is hard and painful,
but stay strong and hold on until you get away from home and you will find out that you don't need those walls anymore with the real friends in your life and that you won't need to hide those tears because those friends will share them with you as you will share theirs. And remember that anyone can sing when the sun's shining bright, but you need a song in your heart at night.

One more thing, my little hormone soaked young self---you know how when you try to imagine sex with a boy, you think it is just two guys getting together and jacking off, and that's it? Boy, have you got a lot to learn! One day, when you are 19, and so in love with this exotic Greek boy, instead of humping your pillow, you are going to lie naked on him, hardness against hardness, and experience something beyond imagining...and all because of love.

I know you often hate yourself now, but that will soon change. Trust me.

I love you. Dan

[Telstra]

1st, read the date
2nd, age and maturity have no relation

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Dear younger self;

Don't change the way you are because of what other people or society think. Be who you are and love the fuck out of it.

Signed,
a happy Matt

umm young play stupid games.
Mature age doesn't play much games anymore ...

[blackbeltninja]

Hey there Big D

So...

Listen, kid, if you don't even back yourself to get it done, there's no way you'll convince anyone else to back you. But that ties in with actually getting it done, so quit fucking around and finish the sodding thing already. And then, when you start doubting yourself down the line with other things, you can look back at it and say "but I got that one done and done well, so I can do this one too. And I can do it even better." But you've got to get the first one done, and properly, so get to it.

While I'm at it, you'll regret not travelling. Sure, you can do it later. But you can do it now and do it again later and see what's changed, or you could do it now and do somewhere else later. Trust me on this, take a year out and see something else of the world and learn about yourself the way that a change of circumstances will bring about. You're strong enough to get yourself back into things if you take a bit of time out, so take the time out. You won't be able to later, because circumstances will change and you'll have other duties which you need to honour.

And lastly, kid, do us both a favour and get into shape. No, it's not bad at the moment, but it's not great. And it's much easier to stay the same shape than change it. Believe me, you'll look the same in 20 years' time if you don't get on your bike and sort this out for us.

One more thing - it'll all turn out okay in the end, okay? So start living already.

cheers
-d-

[Taz]

umm young play stupid games.
Mature age doesn't play much games anymore ...

I play stupid games. And I would put it to you that you sir, play stupid games.

And just to stay on topic.

Youger self, I know you don't really care what people think of you so... Good guns mate, it's serving us well

[M10000]

Kristin shot JR

[LemonMonk]

I'd want to give a letter to myself and my father. Me to not give up going to the swimming lessons three times a week to play sodding video games, I won a Junior Olympics freestyle event once, if I stuck with it who knows where I could be now, I'd give one to my father to make sure he'd never let me play computer games. That does counterbalance though, as without the video games I'd have never gone into the area of experise I am in.