Here's the thing..if you're fine with simply being used for sex, then go right ahead on fooling around with.
But if you're looking for something more,you aren't going to get it from,you've even said so yourself.
so as a mostly straight guy, I gotta tell you, if you actually love this guy, then you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. i could have sex with a guy and not feel anything for him other than gratitude, and maybe a close companionship. if you are cool with just sex, then keep on keeping on. if you need someone to love you back, then, uh, don't fool around with straight dudes. personally, I'd give my left nut to have a gay friend to fool around with, but i would never be anything less that 100% honest with him about whats going on in my head, and what the sex means to me.
Everything you said was On-point...........I had a long-term Sexual relationship with my Bi-Bud before he moved out of state. At first we started out as Fuck-Buddies then it grew into a good friendship..We hung out and traveled and enjoyed each other's company. There was never any "commitment or strings". We never sat by the phone waiting for one to call the other. We were friends that enjoyed being with each other Sexually and Socially with NO drama in the mix...
Straight, Bisexual or Gay...."Friends with benefits" only becomes a problem if you allow yourself to believe your Bud wants more than your Mouth wrapped around his Dick...
LOL, when I wrote last year "I wouldn't be surprised if he came back for another blow," I didn't think it would be this good!
Enjoy it. Get all you can. Like others have said, Don't think he's going to fall in love with you but do enjoy yourself together.
I'd not let him cum in my ass though. That's reckless. Insist he use a condom. You're a bit crazy for taking that chance.
Lately, we see less of each other since he's always with his fiancÚ. I'm so jealous that she will get to be with him in the future. Do you think it would be wrong if I waited until a few months after his wedding and then came on to him again? I know he said he wasn't going to do anything with me once he got married, but maybe he was just saying that. I know that he likes fucking me, he gets really into it and the sex is just so hot. If he was 100% happy with his future wife, then why would he come to me for sex & BJ's? I just don't want to lose him forever.
Not if you get his wife's permission beforehand. Otherwise, YES it would be wrong. Not the answer you want to hear, I realize, but at some point you've got to stop deluding yourself about this situation.Do you think it would be wrong if I waited until a few months after his wedding and then came on to him again?
yeah it would be wrong...but i bet if u just sit tight he'll come sniffin' around again after a couple months
As for your friend...well leave him alone. If he trully is gay, than that marriage isn't going to last, it will only be a question a time before it crumbles and falls appart. But you won't be the one having caused it.
There's probably little i could add to this thread in terms of insight, but essentially you got what you paid for. You have to stop! You have to stop now! He's giving his heart to someone else and you're contemplating throwing yourself to him?!? You're falling more and more for him everytime his dick is in your mouth and ass, thinking on some level you're wearing him down, and he refers to it as 'this shit'?!? You need someone who can love and value you. You CAN HAVE someone who can love and value you, but you won't even be open to it if you keep trying to win over someone who has demonstrated to you time and time again that you have no real importance to him. It's basically him using your mouth and ass to masturbate.
Cut your losses man and move on because he is. Feel the hurt and shame and LEARN FROM IT. You can do a lot better if you really want to man. I wish you the best.
Oh Romalotti, its a hot story indeed but the reality is you will either get your heart broken when you realize that you are just being used for sex or you end up ruining his relationships with his wife and you over meaningless NSA sex.. We all like to think we can somehow make a str8 guy turn but seriously, leave those emotions out the door. And yes, he is married, it is so wrong.
You are lucky, I wish I could be your friend. I wish you would suck me off I want to experience that Can you help me! Please respond to me on this board I drive a truck for a living...
It always amazes me that some people have so little self respect and are willing to be doormats. There is an element of self-delusion, too. You have feelings for him knowing he does not reciprocate, but you continue to live in hope. Now you are paying the price. Worse yet, you are willing to sabotage his marriage and your friendship with him. However, there is no real friendship there.
Why are so many guys who give this advice to just enjoy yourself and live in the moment not recognizing all the time wasted on a deadend relationship when he could be persuing something worthwhile? Not only was time wasted, but the OP will spend years, if not the rest of his life, lamenting the loss of a guy he never, ever had in the first place. He is already showing the signs of desperation.
Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.
I am generally a "enjoy it for what it is" kinda guy. But this one has gone on way too long.
You will never have to get in touch with him again. After he is married, he will come back eventually. JUST FOR THE SEX! NOT FOR YOU!! If you were to tell him that you won't have sex with him again unless he is willing to make it a proper relationship, he'll keep trying to get you to change your mind. When you don't change your mind, he'll find another guy willing to suck his dick.
Stop wasting your life.
I know that a relationship with him is out of the question. All of the sex with him just makes me feel connected to him in some way. I just don't want to lose that. I'm perfectly fine with him using me, I am not deluding myself anymore that he would ever have feelings for me. I really should try to find someone else so I can have a healthy relationship, but it's difficult to meet people where I live.
I'm in full agreement with the guys here. You're just a glorified sex toy to this dude, nothing more. Now that he's marrying someone else, it's time to start looking for a guy who will give you both sex AND love.
Last night, I met up with him again. I sucked him and he fucked me hard. He shot his hot load in my ass and it felt amazing (as usual), and afterwards he told me that it was our last time together. He's getting married in two weeks. After he left, I felt so fucking sad. I miss him already. I will leave him alone while he's married, but if he ever tries to get with me again, I would be there in a second.
If you wanted things to stay like before, putting his cock in your mouth probably wasn't the best idea. Don't let hormones get in the way of your brain.
well i'm not sure if the story is true but if it is true i have mixed feelings for it. first of all you're so lucky you got to have sex with your str8 friend but on the other hand it's so pathetic you agree to be used as a sex toy. and the fact that he is getting married soon, wtf? on his side now, he sounds so much more pathetic than you, i mean he says he's str8 and getting married but keeps having sex with you and in the end he says this is the last time we're doing that? wtf? and i'm sure this is not gonna be the last time, after a while when all the sweet marriage things are gone and he starts getting bored his wife he's so coming back for more. plus, how str8 is he when he has had sex with his gay friend multiple times?has he ever considered being bi? and why does he keep cheating on a woman he is getting married with soon? the story is wrong in so many ways...
and i'm not judging you, i'm kinda jealous you got to have sex with your str8 friend, now the rest of the story is a mistake
The only person I feel sorry for in this sordid tale is the wife-to-be of the "straight" guy. He obviously doesn't have any reservations about fucking dudes without protection on the down low, and chances are he's going to give her a STD with her being none the wiser. If the OP is smart (and not making this up), then it would be best to cut things off with this "straight" guy, lest he shoot a DANGEROUSLY hot load up your ass.
If he is fucking you while engaged, he'll be fucking you while married.
This is really happening, I assure you of that. And I don't think I'm a 'lost cause'. I'm realistic about the situation, I'm just really hung up on this guy.
Wow I'm so shocked at all of the people who said to keep going for it while he even had a girlfriend... like seriously? How would you feel if you boyfriend/girlfriend was off fucking one of their friends behind your back? Yet you tell someone to keep doing it because they are living the stereotypical "straight guy lets me suck him/fucks me" fantasy? He ain't straight, maybe bi. Who know's at this point. But just wow, sorry for sounding harsh but that is the worst advice ever to give someone, and the poor girl is the only one anyone should feel sorry for at in this mess. And you being the "guy on the side" just shows you have no care for anyone's feeling in the situation. You should have said no, or "break it off with the girl before I do anything with you" And I'm sorry but if you get hurt I couldn't say I'd feel bad for you. You kinda deserve it, because if the girls ever find out, they would feel way worse than what you feel. You need to step back and STOP. If he even begs you still need to say no. I'm not trying to bash you, but I'm giving you REAL advice. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. You may be jealous of her, but how can you be jealous of anyone who is being played even more than you are. She is obviously in love with him too, but he actually says he's in love with her too and wants to spend his life with her, so he says. She is being assured she has met the one and he feels the same. And he is going behind her back with you. And you know he doesn't feel that way about you and he probably never will. So in reality she should be jealous of you because you are going to be the one less hurt in this situation. Her trust will be destroyed, she'll always wonder if her other boyfriends are gay/bi, cheating. And what if they have kids? You would be the helping hand in ruining at least 2 people's lives. You need to end it for good. Step back and give yourself distance, because you will start to see he is playing you and you are honestly an idiot for allowing it. If you don't think you deserve at least more than what you are having with him then good luck. I think its messed up, and sorry for being harsh, but it needs to be said. If this is true, which I hope its not, think of the wife. She's already with someone who's living a lie. And he isn't ready to stop living that lie. And I suggest not letting him fuck you raw because who know's who else he's fucking and who those people are fucking. You don't want to ruin your life for anyone, let alone this guy. I predict if this is true, you will continue doing you, but you need to realize this is no longer two adults having casual sex, in this case one adult using an easy fuck, you. And both of you betraying that girl who is probably the happiest person right now, and walking into a situation where her heart will most likely get demolished. This isn't how it started, and you know what it is. Walk away, if not, you will not be allowed to cry when a guy tells you he loves you but is cheating on you. Again, sorry for being harsh, but it needed to be said years ago. Good luck in life, and i hope you don't end up with any STDs.
Will be checking this post for updates! I bet this guy will be back after he's married. Don't condone this but hey we all do shit we're not proud of.
Feel sad for the wife. Both guys are fucked up.
Also, I am not a troll or a loser. This isn't the only 'slightly unusual' sexual situation I've been in, and it's nowhere close to as being as outrageous as some of the posts on here.
Romalotti, First, please have him wear a condom. You two are not an exclusive couple. Please be good to yourself in that respect. Second, he's "straight", has a relationship with a female, and doesn't date you or treat you like a boyfriend. This drama you have continued is not healthy. You seem to be miserable except for the sex. It's irrelevant whether you like his girlfriend, etc. That's his life. You said there is no one else around for you. MOVE. Find a GAY man and make your life with someone who wants you, wholly and entirely. This man is not good for you; he even has unprotected sex with you while having another relationship. So very selfish. Be selfish for your self. Get what you want and need. Good luck!
but to continuall engage in this risky behavior and be a negative steretype to gay men sleeping with anything that walks is a shame
dont you have any decency or respect for yourself and others. You are willfully seducing whether you realise it or not even if he is coming ton to you a man that is engaged. he has a girlfreind, you are barebacking???? ethics???
do not bring any stds home to his innocent woman.
the more i see you coming back on here without showung remorse for you hoeish and disgusting behaviour sickens me. How dare you put another persons life at risks just because he is a STR* man.
this is why so many str8 guys are quick to THINK WE WANT THEM ALL.
i am pissssseddddddd
For one thing, I had no idea he was seeing this girl at all until he just surprised me and told me that he got engaged. I know that I don't have any STD's, so if she gets anything, it won't be from me.
I admit that I've been kinda depressed lately and I know that my obsession with this guy reflects that. I never intended for my post to be anything but a way for me to have someone to talk to about this. Throughout my life, I've always had a thing for 'straight' guys I can't have. Being able to talk about it on this site used to make me feel better, but now it's just adding to my depression. I won't be posting on this site anymore, so you don't have to worry about condemning me. Thanks, it's been fun.
From someone who has sucked off many straight guys, give him time and space and be cool. Don't try to force any awkward conversation or to ask him any questions. If you keep your space from him .. he'll come back eventually... The key is to just be cool.... and go about your business and don't weird the guy out. There is a chance he may be back for more!
Amusing quotes from this thread:
...tell him that your ass is closed for business.You're just a cum dumpster...I can actually see somebody whacking another person on the wrist and saying, "Bad gay! Bad gay!"...this poor example of a GAY.
That shit is funny! Although, I don't mean to offend anybody (especially if the O.P. is being honest about all of this).
Seriously, though, I do believe that I've accepted the fact that I'll never fathom some gay guys' obsession with STR8 dudes.
Damn he won't update anymore? We won't hear about the friend's marriage deterioate as soon as the wife catches his hubby's cock in some gay's assmouth?
Romalotti, I'm curious.
Aside from the sex, would you consider yourself friends? Once the sex started, did you ever do anything else together?
"Do what you love."
I sucked a gay friend, now he acts even stranger