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    Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    We were hanging out with some friends and we ended up getting drunk. Now keep in mind that we were not wasted. I was drunk from beer and liquor, but I KNOW that 4 or 5 beers did not mess him up that badly...We always hang out and party and he always stays over so I didn't think anything of it. I recall a few times in the past when we would get home that he'd be like "wtf im horny hahaha" but i thought he was always joking around. First we end up in my room drunk and I'm just sitting here on the computer. For some reason he goes on with this ordeal on whether or not to sleep with his boxers under his gym shorts. At the time I just laughed it off and went about my own business. I have one of those tall fans and he stood behind it and dropped his shorts and laughed and told me to do the same. I was like uhh wtf..ok...Finally after all the laughing and stuff we decide to go to sleep. Next thing you know we're in my bed and bam...things start getting somewhere. I'll say it straight up. I jacked him off and then he INSISTED that I put it in him. He seemed to want it BADLY. I was shocked and I didn't want to because anal always seemed like a turn off. However, he kept on grabbing me and kept trying to get me to put it in him. So I decided there was a first time for everything and proceeded...but he made me stop because I guess it hurt. Then after he finishes he gets up and puts his clothes on and falls asleep. We wake up the next morning and he acts like nothing happened. It almost felt like a dream or something. I took him home and on the way I was quiet. He was all "damn I slept so good blah blah blah" I couldn't believe what happened. I was always bicurious but this was my first time doing anything. Idk if i even liked it...but now Idk what to do. Its been 4 days and we haven't talked or anything. I swore he was straight but now that I think about it I'm not sure. What straight guy wants to take it up the ass?! I don't even wanna do that! So I'm here on this forum clueless on what to do next and I thought maybe someone could help. Messing around with him again is the last thing I want to do...i dont wanna lose my best friend you know...

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Well, if you're not interested in a repeat performance, and you want to keep him as a friend, just don't bring it up. Literally pretend it never happened. And if some miracle occurs and you find yourself back in the same position - friend "drunk", naked, and begging for it - just say "You remember how this went down last time - let's not go there again".

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    yep, g/l is right, sometimes the river in egypt is the best place to just wash away this memory..................

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Quote Originally Posted by fff1234 View Post
    ....So I'm here on this forum clueless on what to do next and I thought maybe someone could help. Messing around with him again is the last thing I want to do...i dont wanna lose my best friend you know...
    Based upon his morning-after behavior, one of two things will happen:
    1. He'll drift away slowly because he's embarassed and uncomfortable about his behavior while drunk. Or...
    2. The whole matter will remain un-discussed until the next time he's drunk- or at least drunk enough to repeat the whole thing again- because now he knows you'll go along with sloppy bad sex when you're drunk, too.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    What's the old saying?.....the difference between a straight guy and a gay guy is a six-pack (well, in your friend's case, only 4-5).

    Anyway, my personality would not let it ride...I'd be too curious to see what was in his head and, when we were both alone, mellow, and sober, I'd bring it up and discuss it (or try to).

    If you do that, have a clear plan in mind as to what you want to accomplish in such a conversation...clear the air? do it again? have him admit he has curiosities like you do?

    If you don't want to do that, then you don't have to--it doesn't appear as if he's going to bring it up anytime soon. However, there will always be this lingering mystery or wedge. You can bet 1) he remembers it and 2) has feelings about it, pro or con. I fear that if it's not brought up--if it's allowed to fester--the wedge will cool the friendship. That would be a shame, and totally unnecessary.

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    I'm in agreement with Eagle.

    Since you don't want to do it again...simply just let him know it was fun and you have no regrets, but that your friendship is too important to you to mess it up with drunken casual sex.
    Bad decisions make good stories.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    I'd leave it alone unless he brings it up, friendship is more valuable, and unless it happens again then be more prepared and have lube/condoms.

    And go with the flow, but be on notice that it could turn on you..
    You cant change the way the wind blow's, but you can change the angle of your sail to take you somewhere else!!

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    You aren't comfortable with it.

    Don't repeat it.

    There's nothing more pitiful than a 3 beer queer.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    So should I just let it fly by and act like nothing happened in hopes that me and my friend stay close?

    Or should I bring it up and try and figure out what is really going on with the both of us? I don't mean relationship wise. Just friendship wise.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Did you even read the responses?

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    yes i read them..

    but i already texted him casually. he wrote back and then never kept texting me after that. i texted again asking if he worked and then i didnt get a text back. i called twice the next day but it was late. i assumed he was asleep but then the next day i still didn't hear a word from him. he's avoiding me obviously. so i dont know where to go from here...:/

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    so i dont know where to go from here...:/
    Well, for one thing, throw away your txtythingy. We're all totally numb from all these sterile, frantic stabs at developing an actual relationship based on badly spelled short form messages that convey nothing of substance.

    You've worked your little thumbs to the bone trying to make him pay attention. He isn't. give up. Move on.

    Develop friendships and relationships with people in real space and real time. You'll be amazed at how it all works.

    And leave him alone.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    and i can't believe a friendship would be done with over something stupid like this...i honestly thought i had a true friend..maybe he's just embarrassed and needs some space? idk...i haven't seen him since so I dont even know how i would feel around him now. I don't wanna make things awkward...but when you feel like you're losing someone it kinda hurts you know. if he was curious like i was, then i see no reason why he should just stop talking to me. it was HE who started the whole thing that night. i remember that. i'll just leave it up to him to get a hold of me. maybe he just needs his space or something... im not confused. i got my curiosities settled and I think i know where I am going from here. thanks for the help. any other advise is well appreciated.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    It's a shame the only way you can contact people is by text. If only there was some way you could put yourself in their physical presence and communicate. Maybe Steve Jobs could get on that...

    The main issue I'm seeing post-orgasm is your insistence that he keep talking to you. Which runs counter to what we've been suggesting. Mr Straight got drunk and insisted his gay friend fuck him in the ass. And said gay friend fucked him in the ass. This is probably not something he was expecting. He crossed a line he probably didn't think he was going to. He needs time to get his brain back into place. But there's gay friend texting yet again.

    What you should have done is not bothered sending him any text at all. If several days went by without hearing from him, you could've contacted him and said "Perhaps we need to talk". Preferably face-to-face. And once you had him in front of you, you could have said something along these lines:

    "Look, something happened several nights back. Something I don't think either of us were expecting to happen. But whatever you think of it, I still want to be your friend. If you want to talk about it, we can talk about it. If you want to bury it, I say it never happened. But don't shut me out here."

    You might still do that last bit. But I'd give him a bit more time first.

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    yea i understand now...if anything I'll wait to see him in person and talk from there. We go to school together. So I will just talk to him there first. If he acts like nothing happened, then I will do the same. If he acts differently, then I will decide whether to ask him if he wants to talk or leave well enough alone. I look back at that night and a part of me regrets it, but then a part of me is glad that it happened. It sucks that it happened with this friend, but then again everything happens for a reason. He obviously wanted something to happen by his actions, and so did I because I went along with it. It was my 1st time with another guy, and I was curious. I don't really have these curiosities towards guys anymore though. I was just curious to how different it would be compared to a woman. I want to let my friend know all of this but like you said, I will just give it more time. I wont push him to talk to me. I wont text or call. Face to face is better than any text or call. And if he pretends like nothing happened, I will do the same. It isn't worth losing a friendship..but it isn't worth me stressing over so much.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Dude i tottalty get where your coming from it seems you already have a plan thought up in your head, n it sounds like a good one. My question tho is if this was your first guy was he aware of your curiosity? If

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Quote Originally Posted by fff1234 View Post
    and i can't believe a friendship would be done with over something stupid like this...i honestly thought i had a true friend..maybe he's just embarrassed and needs some space? ,,.
    See #1 above.

    This forum gets a lot of these scenarios. And the older members try to warn gay guys that sex with their confused or straight friends will change the relationship- and usually not for the better.

    Think about this: you're a guy whose world is centered around being straight and "normal". You get drunk and not only flirt with a gay guy, you end up begging him to fuck you in the ass. And then, while you're trying to work through this mess (or you are just trying to forget it ever happened), the gay guy is calling and texting you which just brings the whole mess up again.

    He's telling you he needs space. Give it to him. And accept that you might not be able to go back to the way things used to be.

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    This is so similar to my tread, how weird!! Except mine had no anal, lol.

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    no he didn't know of my curiosities. i always just wondered, i never pushed anything to happen with anyone. my main focus was with the ladies. i always thought of doing something with a guy as just experimenting. i didnt even know my friend was curioustoo. i always just thought he was joking when he would act gay whenever we would hang out. as i recall he would actually flirt when we would be f**ked up in the past but this night was the first time i ever let something happen. i never really gave him reason to think i was curious. i always just laughed him off each time. this time it just happened. seriously. sooo it makes sense if he needs time. he is probably shocked that i actually was curious and shocked at what HE did as well. so yea me trying to talk to him would probably make it uncomfortable. i get it now..

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    don't bring it up again it will piss him off just play it off like nothing happened i know thats hard cuz it did happen but just let it be natural but don't let him use u for just that cuz it'll make u feel like shit and than cause problems....trust me

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Hmm well two things in my opinion here may be happening. Saying neither one of you knew about each others curios states, he may be in ""shock"" or what ever you want to call it about the fact he found out you were down to do it with a guy, whether good or bad. Which kinda goes off of the second one take into consideration just as you have your curiousness, maybe this might have been his first time as well idk about everyone else but the first time i "messed around and bottomed with a dude" i did nothing but dwell on it for a while, and so he may be discovering more about his sexuality which for some people is a little nerve wrecking with thinking about how they will bw viewed by others, and one of those others might be you. You kno since its more demeaning to "homophobic society" to take the dick rather dish out (hince the "dont drop the soap joke", the guy who gets it in prison is usually the one ridiculed) even tho thats not what happen...well i feel like im ranting now but would like to know if you feel where im coming from?

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    i got in a similar situation in college. I was the one freaking out the next day about whether he would think I was gay (I know, I know, oy). after a few weeks of awkwardly not discussing it even though we would see each other around a lot, he cornered me and said, "look. that was really intense the other night. i'm glad it happened, but don't really think anything of it." then he said something like, "if you can't mess around with your friends, who CAN you mess around with." and he totally let me off the hook, much to my relief, and we stayed pretty good friends. me lurching in and out of the closet for a few more years, but that's a different story.

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    i get where youre coming from des...and it makes sense. when i saw him today at school...my stomach just turned and i just saw him differently. not in a bad way, but just different you know? i was nervous as soon as i saw him but i worked up the courage to give a friendly hand shake like i do with all the bros. but still, i understand now..

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    i'll just take it one day at a time. hopefully after some time passes he will feel more comfortable around me again and so will i. im a good friend to all my friends and to him as well and he knows it. he even told me that i was a true friend. i can tell he is too so i believe that this whole thing will blow over soon and if we end up talking about it one day then hopefully it will be fully resolved. i dont like leaving things unsaid or undone but this time i think it's for the best for now. a part of me wants to let it all out and just straighten it out but when i put myself in his shoes i understand that this is all nerve racking.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    glad to hear that i hope all does go well with it, sometimes putting things on the back burner is a good idea, (just don't leave it on there too long it might burn lol) but yeah in situations like this try to put yourself in there shoes and think about how they might be feeling it can save some unwanted drama and your friendship

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    >>>i dont like leaving things unsaid or undone but this time i think it's for the best for now. a part of me wants to let it all out and just straighten it out but when i put myself in his shoes i understand that this is all nerve racking.

    Good call. I think it's best that he set the pace for when (or even if) this ever gets discussed. Just act like it never happened, and I think he'll be grateful for that.

    Lex

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    i can act like it never happened but i just hope that after i do so, we go back to hanging out like we used to. i know better now and when we are both ready to address what happened then it will go from there. i want to know what he thinks and feels about the situation but when i turn it around, i dont even think i am comfortable saying what i think and feel. maybe that discussion will come up when we are drunk. haha jk hopefully sober more than anything.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Perhaps you can reach out to him and do something that you both enjoy doing together that could restore the fun you had in your friendship.

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    the problem at the moment is actually talking to each other. its still a fresh situation its only been a week. we used to talk every day so you can see why it is awkward/uncomfortable for him and a little for me too. the fact that my stomach sunk the first time i saw him since that night is proof to me that even I am not fully ready to take on and handle the situation. but i do know the first step and that is to give it time and just think positive.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Quote Originally Posted by ericwhitney View Post
    i got in a similar situation in college. I was the one freaking out the next day about whether he would think I was gay (I know, I know, oy). after a few weeks of awkwardly not discussing it even though we would see each other around a lot, he cornered me and said, "look. that was really intense the other night. i'm glad it happened, but don't really think anything of it." then he said something like, "if you can't mess around with your friends, who CAN you mess around with." and he totally let me off the hook, much to my relief, and we stayed pretty good friends. me lurching in and out of the closet for a few more years, but that's a different story.
    I think this is what you should do, fff1234. Letting it fester in silence is not a good long term plan. Even if he seems like he doesn't want to talk about it, he needs reassurance from you that it's your secret and you're ok with him being curious.

    Btw, I guess you weren't so good at hiding your interest in men.
    The world never changes if you're forever "minding my own business".
    The mindset that no one knows you're gay because you haven't told them,
    is like the dog that thinks you don't see him stealing the steak because he avoids your glance.
    Staying in the closet is like continuing to sit in the back of the bus.
    It's accepting that it's wrong to be who you are.

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    haha idk maybe he suspected that i was curious cuz i never really reacted badly to him acting gay when he would play around. but a lot of guys do that and it doesn't make them gay or curious. but i honestly dont think i ever gave him a reason to suspect it until that night. ha if we end up partying together again ill make sure i crash somewhere by myself. haha

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Good idea haha.

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    haha yea. oh and after i got out of work tonight he texted me. it was just a normal text like how we used to text eachother. we had a short conversation but thats a good step right? i don't wanna get my hopes up that all will be normal again but im just asking. im just glad that its apparent that i still have a friend in the kid.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Getting things back to normal is getting engage in conversation. The quickest way to get over the awkwardness is just to get together like you used to.

    How old are you guys?

    Also - you might be ready with an answer of some sort if things come up or he wants to talk about things....even as unlikely as that may seem. Something like "you are always going to be a good friend of mine no matter what" can go a long way in securing his friendship and giving him the comfort of knowing that you are not freaking out on him. Even if you add something like "I am not really ready to talk about it - I just want us to be friends no matter what.".

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    yea i will be ready if the conversation ever comes up. today his brother asked for a ride and he came along too. it was the three of us so that helped break the awkwardness. we talked for a little while but i didnt stay with them. i dont get that nervous feeling anymore and i know that soon i wont feel uncomfortable around him. so its true that time does make everything better and i know for a fact that soon we will be bros like before.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    i have to say i am jealous of u lol i was in a similar situation and me and my best friend are now worse enemies.......and it sucks because now in the back of my mind i now what we did and if he ever got really mad at me he could out me whenever he wants

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    wow. so i see i am lucky to have my friend still and i just hope that nothing like this ever happens again with him or any of my close friends. even my close girl friends because it is still basically along the lines of the same situation. lesson learned: control my alcohol and my actions under the influence.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Quote Originally Posted by latinheat View Post
    i have to say i am jealous of u lol i was in a similar situation and me and my best friend are now worse enemies.......and it sucks because now in the back of my mind i now what we did and if he ever got really mad at me he could out me whenever he wants
    But he won't because then he'd be outing himself.
    Quote Originally Posted by fff1234 View Post
    wow. so i see i am lucky to have my friend still and i just hope that nothing like this ever happens again with him or any of my close friends. even my close girl friends because it is still basically along the lines of the same situation. lesson learned: control my alcohol and my actions under the influence.
    That's a good lesson for you.

    Hopefully your friend will get over his fears and come out to himself, if not the world.
    The world never changes if you're forever "minding my own business".
    The mindset that no one knows you're gay because you haven't told them,
    is like the dog that thinks you don't see him stealing the steak because he avoids your glance.
    Staying in the closet is like continuing to sit in the back of the bus.
    It's accepting that it's wrong to be who you are.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    alright so its already going on 3 weeks since the incident, and we're back to talking in a way. We haven't hung out one on one like old times though. I went to school yesterday and my friends were sitting down and he was there with them. we all began to joke around and laugh as usual. then, me and my friend and another friend left the school to go eat. it wasn't really awkward and it seemed like nothing happened 3 weeks ago. i was the only one with money and my 2nd friend didnt eat so i offered to pay for the other one. he just looked at me and smiled and i knew that was a "hell yea please pay" haha so i bought the guy food. it wouldnt be the first time ive paid but yea. was that ok or did i do something that he might trip on? and i invited him to go party with me and some friends sometime soon. was that good or bad? idk i just wanted to know if i was giving off any wrong signals. im trying to make this friendship like it used to be WITHOUT any incidents happening like the last one ever again. i just don't want any mixed signals.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    I think you're doing the right thing. Actions speaker far louder than words, so just continue to show him that nothing about your friendship has changed. Don't treat him any differently than you would have a month ago.

    I don't see any reason why he would trip off of you if you're not doing anything weird.

    So just keep on doing what you're doing and thanks for keeping us updated on how things are going with you.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    i think your handling it well just don't over think everything u do around him lol other than that good job and good luck

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Your paranoia is eating you alive. If you can just keep in mind that he's as uncomfortable as you are. The quicker you stop considering your actions and reconsidering your actions, the quicker this will return to normal.

    Also, make no mistake, I can tell that when you two boys get drunk this shit is going to come out. I keep hearing, "I need to control my actions", but I also get a sense that if you both get drunk again, pants will be flying. You need to be HONEST with yourself about this because your true intentions will come out on this eventually.

    Be prepared or you will be contemplating "losing your best friend" again because of another incident.

    After things return to normal and you guys can have a beer or two (not shit-faced), you might try to have a conversation about this and be willing to be honest and risk a little of yourself into the conversation (telling him that your friendship is important and that if something does happen again, you want to work through it - if you mean it). Remember, if he let you fuck him in the ass, he's got more to lose than you do - so you should put yourself out there some for him.

    Good luck and don't be so afraid of the unknown - cuz it's unknown to everyone, not just you!

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    hmm idk if i ever do choose to experiment again then it wont be with the same kid. of course it would have to be with someone i trust. plus, i thought about it long and hard and hey i experimented. big deal. maybe not the best choice of person to try it with, but it happened. it doesn't make me gay and it doesn't make me bi and im not 100% straight if i was curious. if i try and label myself then it will drive me insane. its better to just leave it as it is and move on. i hate labels and there are many different people in this world to meet so why try and label myself when i haven't even really gone out to see the world and meet all the different types of ppl in it. and it also goes back to the fact that i need to control my drinking habits. its a bad habit to get that drunk and it brings nothing good. ive learned that now. from now on i need to set limits on my alcohol intake. oh and thanks for all the great advise everyone !

    p.s.
    it's funny. because he has a brother and im good friends with him too. everyone thinks the brother is the gay one and he isn't. ha or so i think. we've had drunken times and nothing happened. so its pretty funny that not everyone is what they seem. that's a trip...

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Love yourself for who you are. You're gay or bi--so what? It's not the end of the world. And your friend and his brother might both be gay. There are plenty of families with 2 gay brothers.
    The world never changes if you're forever "minding my own business".
    The mindset that no one knows you're gay because you haven't told them,
    is like the dog that thinks you don't see him stealing the steak because he avoids your glance.
    Staying in the closet is like continuing to sit in the back of the bus.
    It's accepting that it's wrong to be who you are.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    and it also goes back to the fact that i need to control my drinking habits. its a bad habit to get that drunk and it brings nothing good. ive learned that now.
    I love a good epiphany.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    alright so not much to update on its been a while since ive posted. i just wanted to bring something to attention and see if i handled this the right way. lately me and my friend have been cool i mean its not nearly the same as old times but things change as we all know and as time passes the friendship is coming back together.

    However, i ran into one of his really good friends and they asked me something that kind of caught me off guard. they asked "hey i think so and so is gay what do you think?" all i said was "yo idk i dont think so i never really thought about it" he replied "no really i really do think he is blah blah blah" then he had the nerve to ask two people around him to see what they would think. i told him "dont be asking people all crazy like that why dont you just ask him yourself if you really care. what youre doing right now is basically how rumours are started. a good friend doesn't do that"
    i pretty much just said that i dont think so and so is gay and that he should ask the guy instead of asking other people if it's that important. i know the answer i had in my head was different, but i was just trying to be considerate of my friend. im not trippin right now, i just thought i would ask people on here because i came here the last time with questions related to the original situation.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    Your answer was good. Probably the only thing I would have added is, "...and if you're really a friend, then it doesn't matter, does it?".

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    wow. update. i think i am already for sure on how things really are now. me and my friend finally got back on the same terms as before. it is no longer awkward. but last night when he and a friend crashed at my place after a long night of partying, things started happening again. when one of my friends fell asleep, he kept trying to make moves on me. now, we weren't even buzzing at all ! we were a little high of marijuana (please no bashing on that part i know what i am doing) and i know for a FACT that he remembers this all. first, he kept trying to get me to grab a hold of his boner. i said nah im good. basically, i was rejecting him kindly but not awkwardly, you know? then he decided to go take a shower. (in the middle of the night weird i know) while he was in there he told me that he needed help making the water hotter. i went in the restroom and checked the shower head and temperature and there he was naked with a boner and everything. i ignored it and went back to my bed and he called me back in AGAIN saying something about how the water keeps going hot and cold. I know my shower doesn't do that at all. I know what he was trying to do. Since we didn't mess around yet I know that's EXACTLY what he wanted, where do I go from here? I feel like he wants me in that way...

    The next morning we acted like nothing happened and he wants to hang out again and I mean I missed our friendship I really did but does this mean he's bi for sure and not just "experimenting" like the 1st time? this is all too confusing. I don't want to confront the situation and make things awkward so maybe I shouldn't let him crash at my place anymore? Idk...last time i learned that it wasn't the greatest idea to choose him to experiment with and I

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    You need to talk to your friend one-on-one and talk about what happened. If you don't, he's just going to think you don't mind. Mind you, he might get awkward again.

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    Re: Drunk with "straight" best friend, something happened!

    maybe he wants the friends with benefits thing.
    surely wouldn't you wouldn't deny him the comfort of a friend who also comes with benefits would you?

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