Risky Sex

[Merqutio]

I got fucked for the first time last night. I have a few questions though... The top that fucked me kept trying to bareback me when he was on top of me. There were about three or four times when he took the tip of his penis and pressed it against my anus while my legs were wrapped around him. Each time I firmly told him no because I do not bareback. He never entered me without a condom. There were only three or four times when his bare erect penis touched my anus, but did not enter. How much was I at risk for contracting HIV or any other STDs?

[KaraBulut]

Frottage is considered a low risk, safe activity.

The risk for HIV transmission is extremely low- almost non-existent.

There are other risks - like HPV, gonorrhea, etc but these are also very low because of the short duration of the contact and the lack of exchange of body fluids (i.e he didn't come on your ass).

Good for you for setting limits with this guy. Next time I guy persists like that, just say, "Either you put a condom on that now or you're gonna be jacking off alone because I'm leaving".

[lurchinurchin]

Yes I had a similar experience at a sauna - there were condoms available right in the room but he didn't put one on right away. He acted surprised when I told him "no" to fucking my ass without one. I said "no condom no fuck ok?" Don't take chances....just not worth it...but just rubbing outside is minimal/no risk.

[KaraBulut]

Some other comments on bottoming and condoms:

1. When possible, bring your own condoms. Never trust a stranger to have an intact and fresh condom. And make sure that your condoms have not expired and have not been exposed to conditions that cause them to deterioriate (e.g. heat).
   
2. Before the guy's cock goes in your ass, make sure you see that the condom is on it. There are shady tops who will open the condom package but will not apply the condom.
   
3. If you are too fucked up to follow rules #1 and #2, then you're too fucked up to be having sex.

[bankside]

Some other comments on bottoming and condoms:

1. When possible, bring your own condoms. Never trust a stranger to have an intact and fresh condom. And make sure that your condoms have not expired and have not been exposed to conditions that cause them to deterioriate (e.g. heat).
   
2. Before the guy's cock goes in your ass, make sure you see that the condom is on it. There are shady tops who will open the condom package but will not apply the condom.
   
3. If you are too fucked up to follow rules #1 and #2, then you're too fucked up to be having sex.

Can I add the most important thing at the start of that list for avoiding risky sex?

• When possible, bring your own fuck buddy, boyfriend, husband, or sexy friend-with-benefits. Never trust a stranger, period.

There are so many ways to get sex on tap when you want it, when you need it, from people you have a chance to know, people you have learned about, people who you have had completely open talks with about each other's sexual history, people who know what is going on and make sure to treat each other with respect when it comes to reducing risk.

That is probably the most important thing anyone can do for their health, because as some of these posts show, there is no reason to believe a stranger cares about your health.

[DeMan06]

I agree with KaraBulut. When I was having a lot of random sex I would always.

Either put the condom on the top or watch them do it

AND

Always help "guide" him in, not because I didn't think he could find the hole, but because I wanted to feel the condom on his cock before he entered me.

And as said, the bottom should ALWAYS supply the condoms. I've seen to many stories of condoms breaking either accidentally from being to old/exposure, or worse from sabatoge (IE poking holes in the condom ect).

BTW, don't think you would likely notice a sabatoged condom. I once did an experiment where I poked holes in the condom and then jacked off with it to see if I could see anything or if the holes would get bigger or anything... they didn't, but it did def leak.

[Críostóir]

I got fucked for the first time last night. I have a few questions though... The top that fucked me kept trying to bareback me when he was on top of me. There were about three or four times when he took the tip of his penis and pressed it against my anus while my legs were wrapped around him. Each time I firmly told him no because I do not bareback. He never entered me without a condom. There were only three or four times when his bare erect penis touched my anus, but did not enter. How much was I at risk for contracting HIV or any other STDs?

You should be fine with regard to HIV. Your risk of other diseases is low.

Honestly, the first priority should be to answer the question asked by a distressed person.