Being called "son" or "boy"

[INtrospective1]

Do you daddy chasers like being called "son" or "boy" by the older guys you date/fuck? I HATE THAT!!!! If I am a boy, then that makes you a child molester....that's how i feel. I never say that to the older guys cause I don't want to offend them back(two wrongs don't make a right), but that is how I feel.

Another rant: I don't understand why older men make fun of us young guys and expect us to want to date them. Thats very unfair. Don't get me wrong, I do find older guys very attractive. Alot of older guys give me a hard time because I am only 24. They assume that just because they know my age, that they know who I am. Not every 24 year old is uncapable of being monogamous, immature, or only about sex/drugs/drinking. I feel like I can't win because I fit into all these minority groups..I am black, gay,a daddy/chub/bear chaser, an introvert, mature for my age, etc. , etc....and I always seem to catch crap about one or all of those on a regular basis....Sorry guys, i just needed to vent

[Huntneo(PT)]

I really don't have a problem being called "son" or "boy" by older men, but I guess it could be because it's never really happened to me. I don't think it would bother me though. Depends on how it's said...

One of my friends doesn't like it though. He just said it's somewhat patronizing in a way. I guess some people just don't like to feel that way...


The only problem i've ever had with an older man was this one guy I was with who used to constantly talk to me like he was SO MUCH more smarter than me just because he was older (probably was...but that's beyond the point). It's the principle of the thing. I just don't want to be looked at as young and naive.

That was an individual incident though.


Other than that, my experiences with older men have been awesome! They rock!


btw...i'm black, gay, and introverted as well.

[getstoseven]

Some dudes get off on being called "son" or "boy" (maybe not in the literal sense......but then again who knows..... ) .........but I would ask as to how a dude wishes to be addressed and what gets him going.
And if one DOESN'T ask........TELL him up front.
If the guys you've been interacting with have been making fun of you I'd hit the X button.......
One can't "play the game" if one doesn't know the rules.......

[shakeupme]

I think being called "son" can be really sexy. Especially if it's from a guy who's really in control and rugged. When I was a teenager, I worked for a transport company for awhile and I got called "son" all the time. They also called me "little buddy" and, of course, "mate" (this being Australia). It was hot...and so were a lot of the guys!

And INtrospective1, I think you're really cool. Just be yourself and enjoy life. And your avatars of Alec Baldwin are superhot!!!

[CallMeHTD]

Be upfront and tell them you don't care to be called "boy" or "son". If they have a problem with that, then that tells you what the rest of your date/relationship will be like.

When you are first meeting up and chatting with a date, and your age comes up you could say something like "I'm 24, and love learning all about life. I dig guys who are patient and have experience to share, but aren't condensending and cool with the fact I'm still learning stuff and finding my own way." This might help set expectations about what you'd like to experience with your older gents up front.

I've been there too, once. Hope this helps.

[wethole44]

Be upfront and tell them you don't care to be called "boy" or "son". If they have a problem with that, then that tells you what the rest of your date/relationship will be like.

When you are first meeting up and chatting with a date, and your age comes up you could say something like "I'm 24, and love learning all about life. I dig guys who are patient and have experience to share, but aren't condensending and cool with the fact I'm still learning stuff and finding my own way." This might help set expectations about what you'd like to experience with your older gents up front.

I've been there too, once. Hope this helps.

Mate, they are really wise words!!!!!

[lazenbear]

I feel you INtrospective1. The other thing that shits me is the fact that just cos I am the young one then I should be up for sex no matter what day, time or place, just cos they are. I'm sorry but there are times I just don't fee like it.

[Horschallen]

I never knew my oldest brother (9 years older than me) referred to me as his "little brother" until one Christmas event when he laughingly explained to the family about how he went to this big n tall store looking for a gift for me. When asked what he was looking for, he told the store salesperson that he was looking for something for his "Little brother." When he mentioned my size, they were amused by how a big guy like me is referred to as a "little brother." I thought that was funny.

[KinkyCub]

Sorry guys, i just needed to vent

It's always good to vent it out
My best hint for you it to be clear when you communicate about those things. Telling it up front might be the only thing that works.

[BigBoss]

Well the problem is not only with the old guys but also with us, the young chaps...

Being Young we want to prove them that we are mature enough to be with them ,,we are smart ...and we have been exposed to things that the old guys had not been exposed to in their days,,,

Anyhow what i did with many old guys who dared to address me with nicks embed with humiliating intentions was to take them to the peak of desire and then simply kick them....Lols....its works,,,just make them horny as hell and torture them

[INtrospective1]

I think being called "son" can be really sexy. Especially if it's from a guy who's really in control and rugged. When I was a teenager, I worked for a transport company for awhile and I got called "son" all the time. They also called me "little buddy" and, of course, "mate" (this being Australia). It was hot...and so were a lot of the guys!

And INtrospective1, I think you're really cool. Just be yourself and enjoy life. And your avatars of Alec Baldwin are superhot!!!

haha Thanks, shakeup! Glad you like! I always enjoy reading your posts, too.

"I'm 24, and love learning all about life. I dig guys who are patient and have experience to share, but aren't condensending and cool with the fact I'm still learning stuff and finding my own way."

Thanks, CallMe, This is excellent advice. I will definitely try this

It's always good to vent it out
My best hint for you it to be clear when you communicate about those things. Telling it up front might be the only thing that works.

Yeah, I vent on here cause there are alot folks on here who can relate,as not many of my gay friends like daddies. I guess I just need to be upfront and not worry about it

[Harke the Heretic]

I'd like it. It's not so common with us.

[Pyscean]

I don't mind "son". I have a slight issue with the "boy" only because I haven't been a boy in a long, long time.

[hubertbet66]

my bf(49) calls me "son" and I realy enjoy it.... for me it's a matter of safety and protection....

[silverfoxbear]

Great post, INtrospective1.

I used to hate it, but now it secretly really gets me hard and horny. I don't know why? I kind of don't want to like it, but I do!

[Quick - somebody call me son!]

[QuietChivalry]

Uh...I like when people call me "sir".

....Yeah I don't know. Maybe I have some random underlying domination habits, lol.

[Neji]

Wouldn't mind it either

[LoveSweatandTears]

I don't really like it. I'm not into any kind of role playing or having relationships where one person is dominant.

[INtrospective1]

Great post, INtrospective1.

I used to hate it, but now it secretly really gets me hard and horny. I don't know why? I kind of don't want to like it, but I do!

[Quick - somebody call me son!]

Haha...its ok if you like it..alot of older guys would love to have a young guy they can dominate..

ok , "son"? see there I said it

[BeardedWoof]

I don't mind being called "boy" if I'm in that sort of boyish state but I don't like the "son" thing since I'm not into the whole Dad/son incest type role play at all.

But if "son" is used as a term of affection I'm ok with that, same thing with "sir" being used as a term of affection even though lots of people think that because I do BDSM that I am a Master/Sir when I'm not.