I AM In Love with my neighbour! and i need some help

[hal_964]

hi ya all,

i m 24 and kinda new to this forum infact this is my first post i want some suggestion u see that i have a crush on my neighbour .i dont know his name , he is married and he is so masculine that a single sight of him sends me shivers. i think that he is bi and i may be able to get his attention but i think that he is afraid to show his eagerness. i have a low profile among my neighbours and i dont wanna spoil my reputaion but i also wanna spend a night with this man.plz ane1 give me suggestion. i thought of slipping an anonymous letter under his door but i may get caught other thing that i tried is put a note on his car's windshield but i believe that he didnt notice.plz help me hunting don this gorgeous man.http://www.justusboys.com/forum/imag...s/confused.gif
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[_INeedADad_]

lmao that is so odd cause i too am in love with mine, gd he is so furry and in shape he is an electrician and was married cpl times but they end up leaving...so that leads me to believe he might be bi or gay..but i too am scared to do anything cause it would cause panic in the town if there was a confirmed gay resident...lol and with the notes wow you are more ballzy than me. well i would gladly suck him off in his garag3 if he wants i dont have to spend the night, but if he wanted me too i would do that too....few times i have seen some people there late one time was cpl 18-20 yr olds, and the other time it was the cop that lives in town he was there for 2 days!! That really got me all confused if we were to throw a cop in the whole thing OMFG i would be in fantasy heaven...lol

[CallMeHTD]

Proceed with great caution since he's your neighbor!

Perhaps you should casually get to know him first, before making any advances. If you feel like he's 100% straight after getting to know him a bit, you can know that acting on your desires would have been a bad idea. The problem with just leaving a note is that if he reacts badly, he's gonna tell his wife AND your neighbors- which will make your personal life in that neighborhood VERY akward.

[hermanding]

the above is excellent advice. you live in that neighborhood. it could go wrong and could become intolerable
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[jimbill]

You are both 24 so your hormones are raging. I can remember obsessing over my neighbor also.

And when I was younger, I would ride my bike past my teacher's house at night. One night I went into his back yard to look through his window. Thank God I didn't get caught.

My point is, sometime we obsess over what is near. Look at that female astronaut who was going to kill another astronaut's girlfriend because of a real or perceived returned attraction. Yeah, I've obsessed over unavailable coworkers also. But at no time did I do anything about it. And you know what? I don't even know today what was so damn hot about any of them to begin with. I'm with someone and very happy now, but I still fixate on others sometime, including my neighbor. This too shall pass.

[jergens]

God this is a hot post

[LoveSweatandTears]

hi ya all,

i m 24 and kinda new to this forum infact this is my first post i want some suggestion u see that i have a crush on my neighbour .i dont know his name , he is married and he is so masculine that a single sight of him sends me shivers. i think that he is bi and i may be able to get his attention but i think that he is afraid to show his eagerness. i have a low profile among my neighbours and i dont wanna spoil my reputaion but i also wanna spend a night with this man.plz ane1 give me suggestion. i thought of slipping an anonymous letter under his door but i may get caught other thing that i tried is put a note on his car's windshield but i believe that he didnt notice.plz help me hunting don this gorgeous man.http://www.justusboys.com/forum/imag...s/confused.gif
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/images/smilie/bang.gif

You already did put a note on his car? What did it say?

I can relate to what you are dealing with. I nearly lost my mind over some guys that I couldn't have when I was in my early 20s. You need to keep your head together because sometimes when you want someone so bad you can really misinterpret their actions.

[Themastercorey]

Why are you acting so sneaky. If you wanna tell him just do so imo. But do it subtile, like has been said, ge to know him a little better. And later tell him how you feel. Putting little notes under his car might just creep him out, especially when he's not gay at all.

[animalitos]

get to know him a little better.

That's the key. If u dont wanna spoil your reputaion, try to learn his thoughts about gays. If you find out that he doesn't like them at all and maybe try to do you harm by telling others, just stop there. If he's cool with the subject, talk to him -moderately- about your thoughts. That's the way i do it, and it has worked well so far.

[Storybook_Man]

Hey Hal, what I would do is just talk to him at first. Try and make a time to have some drinks or get something to eat sometime, get to know him before even trying anything.

Don't leave notes since he is married.

[LoveSweatandTears]

I agree with the suggestion that you should try to get to know him.

Put yourself in his position. If he really has an interest in actually doing something with you he's going to be very very receptive to meeting/talking with you. If not he'll probably just be normal and nonchalant around you.

I also agree that leaving notes is not really a good move, especially if he's married.

[IGiveInToSin]

He's Married!!!!!!!!

[fuzzy4fuzzy]

you may be very much attracted to him, or
you may very much lust for him,
but you couldn't be in love with him (yet).

Use caution, get to know him.

Good luck!

[DC00777]

Get to know the guy before you make an ass of yourself! You're feeling lust, once you meet him you'll probably feel infatuation and then after a few weeks you'll probably be over him. Think with the right head when dealing with guys like him.

[raiden]

i was in love with my neighbour, but i got over him now i think back and say to myself, damn what was I thinking, he is not my type :S

[jwinterj]

<3 my neighbor.

[Midnight-Blue]

Speaking as someone who has had a thing for married men, I would say that you do need to be careful. I never actively go after a married man myself. I let them come to me. I will let them know that I am receptive to it in subtle ways. But that doesn't involve leaving notes on their car. I would do what others have said and talk to this person some first, just casually. Like about the weather or something. And don't go by what you think you know, go by only what you do know. If you're this attracted to him, chances are you'll misinterpret things that he does. I mean, for example, I wouldn't assume he's bisexual. I would want to know it for sure.

I once had someone who usedto be married who came back home to live with his parents after his divorce come on to me. I had no idea that he would even have been into doing things with men but sure enough he was. I would never have come on to him in a million years. He worked in his father's home repair business. They would paint houses/fix stuff - that kind of thing. Well, he helped with painting the house and considering I don't hide things in my room that give away that I'm gay I guess he had no problems figuring out that I am. Anyways, you can imagine my surprise later on when I hear someone whispering my name outside my window in the middle of a hot summer night. (I was up watching the Braves on t.v. in my bedroom.) So I get up and look outside and find him standing out under the street light in nothing but a pair of cut-off blue jean shorts. And playing with himself! I couldn't believe my eyes, but there he was. I didn't know it was him for sure at first but I couldn't think of who else it could have been that lived around here so I was wondering for some time but to make a long story not sooo long we ended up becoming fuck buddies for like 4 years or so. (I don't really like that term. I tried to come up with something better but I never could.) Man, he sure was hot. He was an ex-Navy pilot and I often thought he looked similar to Tim McGraw in shape and size and such. He was certainly as hot to me as Tim is. Well, I didn't mean to go on about that and I tend to rant on too much so I'll go back to your question...

I would just take it slow, be careful, and let him make the first move sexually. And even then I would be careful about what goes on and where. (The garage is not a good idea in my opinion. His or yours. I mean, you don't want his wife coming after you to "get you"or something if she sees you do you?)

Also, I did think of one other thing. What if he comes on to you and says yes to sex but only if his wife can participate too? Just a thought I had. Me being such a gay guy myself I'm not sure I could "do it". Well, you've gotten lots of advice so the only other thing I have is I wondered what he did with the note you left on his car? You say you think he ignored it. Does that mean you think he just threw it away? Just wondering. If he really wants something to happen, I think he'll let you know somehow.