your right but i can stoll hope i find the right guy soon
your right but i can stoll hope i find the right guy soon
Rumour has it that as you go about your daily day-to-day, in the community and out of it, the possibility exists that when LEAST expected or looked for (I'm currently invovled in a flurry of PM's with a JUBBER about this VERY topic) someone could suddenly appear in your life.
You're also right about an earlier observation about people seeing the chair over the occupant but there is ALso rumour, that there are SOME men out there who ARE capable of looking past the external trappings of the man, and actually taking the time to explore that which lies on the inward side.
From one 'Someonewhowouldn'tmindfindingsomeonesubstantial' to another, hang thou in there.
i do just go through my daily life the best and i just try to meet new friends and keep bust so i don't get lonely. i do wish that some of the jubbers i would like to meet weren't so far away
i will just keep doing the best i can thanks for all the posts and support love to all dw
My partner is in a wheelchair. Has been for the last 3 years.
............if there was that connection between the two of us it would not make any difference if he were wheelchair bound at the time we met or if it happened later after we met and fell in love.........to me a commitment is a commitment and you take what life throws at you........don't ever give up hope as you never know what will come your way next.........thanks for starting this thread.........
thanks guys for all the encougement
I would have a problem dating someone in a wheelchair. Fortunately many guys who posted doesn't. Have fun dating... by the way have you been dating recently?
I would definitely consider retlations with a person in a wheelchair. If the person was a person that holds my ideals. I would not exactly know until I was in the situation. There are many different situations in which to consider. Are you willing to change a colostomy bag, are you willing to scrub them, are you willing to do range of motion excercises to keep their body from constricting? It is not a Lifetime Movie. I know that if this happened to my husband I would do it until I couldn't.
your right each situation is different that would need some help with some thing and finding the guy to want to do that would be hard.
David, yes I have. He was intelligent, hilariously funny, a hottie by any standard. We went on a few dates and then he met someone closer to where he was living (about 70 miles away from here) and they hit it off right away. The last I knew they were still together and that would mean they have been together for the past 6 years. I think he may have been the one that got away.
I want you to remember something too. I, as are many in this board, are not in wheelchairs or have any type of physical limitations. And there are many in here that are in wheelchairs and have other types of physical or medical limitations. We all have the same problems of loneliness at one time or another. Lord knows, as well as half of JUB, that I have been having mine as of late.
Be well and look forward to more posts from you.....
But would a guy in a wheelchair want to go out with a manic-depressive, paranoid, agoraphobic such as myself?
I use the term 'go out' with in a purely poetic sense here, there isn't much 'out' for me at the moment.
1) i think that love just happens, so as someone said the first thing is that we shoul click
2) i don't have any problems with people who has problems... as someone is in a weelchair, I have to wear contacts to see... anyone is perfect as he is.
3) BUT i have to admit that i am not very good in relating with disabled people... at elementary school i was friend with a boy on weelchair and i had no problem.. but sometimes i do not know how to behave, because i tend to offer help anytime and that is not good for some people who rightily don't want someone to help anytime...
so i would go out with someone, just i should learn how to be natural ;-)
i am weird? :-(
I'll be honest, i wouldn't date someone in a wheer chair mostly because i'm a EXTREMELY active individual. I go hiking, running, swimming, dancing and atleast in this point in my life, i wouldn't give that up for anyone.
"Maybe we're not supposed to be happy. Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy. Maybe being grateful means recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciating small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes to simply be human. Maybe, we're thankful for the familiar things we know. And maybe we're thankful for the things we'll never know. At the end of the day, the fact that we have the courage to still be standing is reason enough to celebrate." -Grey's Anatomy
tthanks to all of you for being honest and keep the thoughts coming. for being in a chair i consider myself as active as i can be. i might more active depending on the guys u would meet.
So many responses of how I wish I could be. But the truth is, no I would not date someone in a wheel chair. It has nothing to do with me being active or not active, it has nothing to do with the person in the chair. It is me. I am not the type of person who handles limitations in any way well.
Just ask anyone around me how I am when they get sick or hurt. I once made my partner climb three flights of stairs after falling while we were roller blading. I thought he was just over reacting when he said he broke something. Then once I was done, mind you I did climb the stairs with him, I had him walking all over the place getting me coffee and what have you. By 2 in the morning, it was obviouse that something was wrong, so I made him climb down three flights of stairs to the car, drove him to the hospital, refused to get a wheel chair for him and made him walk in, only to find out that he did in fact break something.
This is just who I am. One can not expect me to take care of them when the have a cold and flu, let alone anything else that may come along. I just pray that nothing actually bad really happens to him cause I really dont know how I would handle it. I guess after 11 years, I might learn to be a better care giver, but it is just not in me. ( And no, I am not one of those people who expects others to take care of me when I am sick or hurt either. I have a hard time with me being that way just as much as I do with others.)
I know I am horrible, start throwing stones my way.
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I'm also disabled - part time on wheelchair. I think disabled seek disabled are too stress. Huge burden. I have decide to stay as single. I find pretty much comfortable. You can go for like one night stand and friends but together for life I don't think so. IMO
for me it would depend on who i met.
I would definitely date a guy in a wheelchair. Why not? Most are amazing at everything I love. Books, video games, poetry, music, and so much more. Dating someone in a wheelchair wouldn't bother me at all. I'd offer to get them whatever they needed and I could even imagine taking a bath with a guy like that. Grab him up and lay em on me in the hot water.
Oh yes. I could definitely date someone in a wheelchair. He's just as sexy with legs as he is without them or without working ones.
There is nothing wrong with being you. Love is love, and that is all there is to it.