I don't think I would have a problem with it, like Vanman said, love is love whoever it's with.
I don't think I would have a problem with it, like Vanman said, love is love whoever it's with.
What they said David
Laying in the gutter but looking at the stars
All depends on the type of person he is. If he is fun, out going, lovable.... no poblem.
What A Superb Thread and Posting, David. Just Outstanding.
It wouldn't make any difference to me.
Simply said, I would
i know the cutest straight guy in a chair. I'd hit that. lol
Hi David. Most people post their self pics in the Amateur Self Pics section. Often a lot of dicks (no, not the people, I mean their pp's! ) but some just face and body shots also. Or in your gallery.
And yea, I'd go out with a guy in a wheelchair. Its hard enough to find a gay guy around here and so I certainly wouldn't limit myself when it comes to falling in love.
Anyone ever see the movie Saved? It's got Macaulay Culkin in a wheelchair. Instead of playing "footsie" under the table, he says he gives "wheelies".
I'd love to get some wheelies. Where do I sign up?
I WOULD. Without a doubt!
There was a basketball tournament near me where every guy was in a chair. I got such a crush on this one player. His face drove me crazy.
I remember thinking that I wouldn't care even if he couldn't get an erection. That didn't matter. I wanted to get to know that dude.
But he wasn't gay I don't think. And I found another guy and fell in love.
Can I also add that I am considered very handsome and masculine. Women chase me a lot.
If I weren't attached right now, we could meet up for coffee or something.
Now don't be discouraged, big guy. That chair means nothing in terms of your fulfilment and happiness. You'll be okay.
I don't think that's a problem, actually I'd love to be with a guy like that.
I wouldn't have any problem with dating or being the lover of a guy in a chair. Or someone blind or deaf. If they we shared interests and there was "chemistry" then I'd definatly go for it. Looks are sort of important but personality is much more important 'cause we all look the same in the dark
And I would not count "being in a wheelchair" as a negative, especially if the guy made me laugh and took my breath away. Please post your pics so we can check you out! and I'd be honored to be put on your friend list.
PS. The pic to the left and under my "call name"... That is NOT what I look like
Not because he's in a chair, exactly, but becuase what I love more than anything is motorcycle riding, and I would want a partner who was also a rider so we could share that together.
I spend many of my weekends riding, and I spend most of my time with other riders.
For a relationship to work with me, you have to love to ride too.
Unless a man in a wheel chair could ride a motorcycle, our relationship would be doombed from the beginning.
Gentlemen.... Thank you.
David, you are a brave soul who deserves happiness just like every other person out there!
To show you just how difficult it is for David, just think of ALL the so-called "normal" people on here who are NOT in wheel-chairs; but would give anything to have a great guy in a relationship!
See the point?
David is in a particular difficult situation, being wheel-chair bound; and NOT for his looks or anything else....
Surely, there's some special board out there where disabled people "can" meet others who do NOT mind others who are disabled or care NOT if the guy is wheel-chair bound????
David, please do NOT give up hope my friend, where there's a will, there certainly is a way!!
One day Gay people WILL have the same Civil Rights once granted to all peoples regardless of the color of their skin, sex or sexual orientation....Shall we wait or should we demand those rights?
David you are a handsome looking guy
Without a doubt I would go out with someone who uses a wheel-chair - for me it's the person who matters, and having PM'd with you a few times I know you have the personality, and now I see you have the looks to match.
Don't ever give up hope - I strongly believe that there is someone for everybody in this world.
I wouldn't mind someone in a wheelchair being my boyfriend, however, I can't help but think that in relationships between the wheelchair bound and non-paraplegics can have many emotional, physical, and psycho-sexual difficulties that can make such a relationship have less stamina than a common one.
I would definitely date a guy in a chair.
My grandfather was badly injured in an auto accident when I was young, and I remember him better after he was chair-bound. It was part of him, and we all loved him.
Love is the key, here, not the chair.
you are a great guy, david
I'm so glad you have become a part of our family
I once had the biggest crush on a guy who walked with two canes but also had a wheelchair for covering greater distances. He was sharp as a tack, wicked sense of humour and sexy as hell. The boi had a half-sly smile that would give the Pope a chub.
I was much more into him than he was interested in me. He made it quite clear what he was interested in and it wasn't matrimony. This guy has since moved to Vancouver as he found getting around in Toronto in the winter too much of a hassle. We still exchange letters from time to time and I still have the tiniest bit of a crush on him.
Even if we are just worm food then we are also the stuff stars are made of... I can live with that.
A wheelchair would not be an issue for me. Might take some time to get used to it. If he was worth it , why not.
A lot of former motorcycle riders are now in wheelchairs.
My partner is in a wheelchair. Has been for the last 3 years.
............if there was that connection between the two of us it would not make any difference if he were wheelchair bound at the time we met or if it happened later after we met and fell in love.........to me a commitment is a commitment and you take what life throws at you........don't ever give up hope as you never know what will come your way next.........thanks for starting this thread.........
I would definitely consider retlations with a person in a wheelchair. If the person was a person that holds my ideals. I would not exactly know until I was in the situation. There are many different situations in which to consider. Are you willing to change a colostomy bag, are you willing to scrub them, are you willing to do range of motion excercises to keep their body from constricting? It is not a Lifetime Movie. I know that if this happened to my husband I would do it until I couldn't.
David, yes I have. He was intelligent, hilariously funny, a hottie by any standard. We went on a few dates and then he met someone closer to where he was living (about 70 miles away from here) and they hit it off right away. The last I knew they were still together and that would mean they have been together for the past 6 years. I think he may have been the one that got away.
I want you to remember something too. I, as are many in this board, are not in wheelchairs or have any type of physical limitations. And there are many in here that are in wheelchairs and have other types of physical or medical limitations. We all have the same problems of loneliness at one time or another. Lord knows, as well as half of JUB, that I have been having mine as of late.
Be well and look forward to more posts from you.....
1) i think that love just happens, so as someone said the first thing is that we shoul click
2) i don't have any problems with people who has problems... as someone is in a weelchair, I have to wear contacts to see... anyone is perfect as he is.
3) BUT i have to admit that i am not very good in relating with disabled people... at elementary school i was friend with a boy on weelchair and i had no problem.. but sometimes i do not know how to behave, because i tend to offer help anytime and that is not good for some people who rightily don't want someone to help anytime...
so i would go out with someone, just i should learn how to be natural ;-)
i am weird? :-(
I'll be honest, i wouldn't date someone in a wheer chair mostly because i'm a EXTREMELY active individual. I go hiking, running, swimming, dancing and atleast in this point in my life, i wouldn't give that up for anyone.
"Maybe we're not supposed to be happy. Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy. Maybe being grateful means recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciating small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes to simply be human. Maybe, we're thankful for the familiar things we know. And maybe we're thankful for the things we'll never know. At the end of the day, the fact that we have the courage to still be standing is reason enough to celebrate." -Grey's Anatomy
So many responses of how I wish I could be. But the truth is, no I would not date someone in a wheel chair. It has nothing to do with me being active or not active, it has nothing to do with the person in the chair. It is me. I am not the type of person who handles limitations in any way well.
Just ask anyone around me how I am when they get sick or hurt. I once made my partner climb three flights of stairs after falling while we were roller blading. I thought he was just over reacting when he said he broke something. Then once I was done, mind you I did climb the stairs with him, I had him walking all over the place getting me coffee and what have you. By 2 in the morning, it was obviouse that something was wrong, so I made him climb down three flights of stairs to the car, drove him to the hospital, refused to get a wheel chair for him and made him walk in, only to find out that he did in fact break something.
This is just who I am. One can not expect me to take care of them when the have a cold and flu, let alone anything else that may come along. I just pray that nothing actually bad really happens to him cause I really dont know how I would handle it. I guess after 11 years, I might learn to be a better care giver, but it is just not in me. ( And no, I am not one of those people who expects others to take care of me when I am sick or hurt either. I have a hard time with me being that way just as much as I do with others.)
I know I am horrible, start throwing stones my way.
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I would definitely date a guy in a wheelchair. Why not? Most are amazing at everything I love. Books, video games, poetry, music, and so much more. Dating someone in a wheelchair wouldn't bother me at all. I'd offer to get them whatever they needed and I could even imagine taking a bath with a guy like that. Grab him up and lay em on me in the hot water.
Oh yes. I could definitely date someone in a wheelchair. He's just as sexy with legs as he is without them or without working ones.
There is nothing wrong with being you. Love is love, and that is all there is to it.