Pictures vs. No Pictures.

[Nightmare]

Which type of user do you think gets paid attention to more?

[Andreus]

you know the answer to that

it may not be fair, but its the way men are

did yu get more attention when you used to post your pictures?

[Nightmare]

Yeah. when I posted my cock pictures, people I didn't even know were users, acknowledged who I was. I felt weird and didn't like that I got attention for that, instead of the things I said.

When I took them down, some of those people don't say a word to me anymore.

It just bothers me that it seems to be that way on here, that's all. Just another one of my 'subjects of annoyance' threads.

[Andreus]

I know what you mean

thats why i post mine occasionally, but i dont keep them up

I want people to know me and who they are talking about, but i dont want to be known only for my looks or whatever. it seems to belittle my thoughts.

My looks are part of me though, just not the whole thing

I try to find a ballance.

[Nightmare]

I still have a picture in my Gallery of me. And not even just pictures, because people can have pictures and hardly get paid attention to, it just depends how much you whore them out and stuff.

[van-ee]

I do OK...in the popularity field....and I have never posted a picture here.If I posted a few pictures...I would be receiving a lot of attention I don't want.I might give my picture to a few trusty jubbers....not sure.

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

The more senses you appeal to the more attention you'll get ultimately. Words, commas and punctuation can't really compete with a photo!

I don't post my picture cos I don't have a camera, or at least one that doesn't work, and even if I had one, I'm very uncomfortable over broadcasting my pic to loads of strangers and I'm not even out to my parents or people at school.

[CTF]

Well look at it from this perspective. When you're carrying on a good conversation on the phone isn't it nice to who what the other person looks like?

All of my friends are beautiful to me!

So TheBled it wouldn't matter to me if you had four eyes and a horn growing out of your head, you're still a nice guy to me!

[Crashdown]

Awake21 has no pictures in his profile, but gets 150% of my attention!

[elvin1]

I have my pics up so that people can see who they are talking to. If I make a friend here I always ask them for a pic. It just makes it easier for me to communicate. To see that there is a real person I'm talking to.
I know, I'm weird....

[FirePhoenix]

Which type of user do you think gets paid attention to more?

What did you say? i wasn't paying attention......



Of course its the ones with pictures, but really i like the ones without pictures since you get to know them based of just what they say.

[Nightmare]

It definitely nice to see who some of the people are. Everybody has something to say,though.

[Lube]

Interesting you mention this, TheBled, as a fellow JUBber and I were just PMing about this last night.

In terms of photos, I tend to be very conservative. I'll probably never post a public pic. If it hurts my popularity, so what? The people I'd be more popular with are people I probably wouldn't care about being popular with.

If I develop a "LTR" by PMing back and forth with someone, I'll eventually send a pic. It's a trust issue. Call me Paranoid with a capital P.

If I were a teenager or college student, I'd probably be a lot more casual with my identity and photo. But as a successful businessman, I don't want my identity associated with my posts. Not so much because I fear JUBbers as much as I fear Google. But I've posted about that already.

And it's not that I don't want my identity associated with being gay--that's not it at all. It's that I don't want my identity associated with my relatively frank discussions of sexual issues here with my identity. Even if I were straight, I wouldn't want my identity associated with frank hetero discussions of sex wants, desires, toys, and fantasies.

As a consultant/contractor, I don't want my sexual fantasies broadcast over the Internet.

Contrast that with someone like Soilwork, whose job it is to broadcast sex, and it's understandable why he shows his photo and gallery and I don't.

[Lube]

In other words, posting my photo would mean I'd be less frank in my discussions here, and it would make it a far more boring place to me.

[tbonez]

And it's not that I don't want my identity associated with being gay--that's not it at all. It's that I don't want my identity associated with my relatively frank discussions of sexual issues here with my identity. Even if I were straight, I wouldn't want my identity associated with frank hetero discussions of sex wants, desires, toys, and fantasies.

Man can I relate!

I decided to take the middle ground. I posted my pic but it's 'masked' (Barley). I'm happy to share my face with people IF I feel there is bit of mutual trust. For me it has noting to do with being gay. I don't post my picture in the F1 news group I belong to either and there is nothing controversial about that group let alone even mildly sexual.

For me it's a question of what is to be gained by posting my mug on the net...Nothing as near as I can tell. I'm not here looking for a hook-up. As it is, I have already had a fellow JUBBER recognise me on the street. To be honest it isn't something I'm too keen on.

As for pix of my junk, I don't think so. I have posted some pretty revealing pix that leave little to the imagination but no full-on, hard-up boner shots. I'm plenty proud of my cock but that doesn't mean I'm obsessed with it or I want someone identify me as a particular piece of meat (literally).

I'm not sure if I buy the argument that not posting your pic effects weather or not people will "pay attention to you". I'm a perfectly average looking and as I'd expect people still talk to me. Generally it's about ideas, opinions and observations...None of which has to do with my appearance or the size of my cock.

[demsducks]

I don't think that's weird at all. I, too, like to see who it is I'm talking to. If they don't have one, or don't want to show it, then that's fine. I respect their privacy. Having a picture doesn't necessarily make it easier for me to talk to the person. It just satisfies my curiousity as to who I'm talking to.

I have my pics up so that people can see who they are talking to. If I make a friend here I always ask them for a pic. It just makes it easier for me to communicate. To see that there is a real person I'm talking to.
I know, I'm weird....

[ross_1986]

Man can I relate!

I decided to take the middle ground. I posted my pic but it's 'masked' (Barley). I'm happy to share my face with people IF I feel there is bit of mutual trust. For me it has noting to do with being gay. I don't post my picture in the F1 news group I belong to either and there is nothing controversial about that group let alone even mildly sexual.

For me it's a question of what is to be gained by posting my mug on the net...Nothing as near as I can tell. I'm not here looking for a hook-up. As it is, I have already had a fellow JUBBER recognise me on the street. To be honest it isn't something I'm too keen on.

As for pix of my junk, I don't think so. I have posted some pretty revealing pix that leave little to the imagination but no full-on, hard-up boner shots. I'm plenty proud of my cock but that doesn't mean I'm obsessed with it or I want someone identify me as a particular piece of meat (literally).

I'm not sure if I buy the argument that not posting your pic effects weather or not people will "pay attention to you". I'm a perfectly average looking and as I'd expect people still talk to me. Generally it's about ideas, opinions and observations...None of which has to do with my appearance or the size of my cock.

OMG, r u serious?

[MidnightPrism]

I did post my pictures but I want people to like me for me. I have since deleted all the pics I had saved of me. I don't want my looks to influence what my online friends feel toward me

[alister9669]

I think that my avatar gives people more insight into my life than a photo of me does. I agree with Midnight I would rather have my fellow jubbers respond to me because of my personality and not my picture. I do share my picture after I have developed a friendship with someone here. If I have less interest in me because of it, I would rather not have the interest a picture would provide.

[HoodedRat]

I think the first pic I ever posted here was in the 'What Did You Used To Look Like Thread' years ago; I posted a pic of me pushing 30. Afterwards I thought that I ought to post a few up to date pics to show what I look like now.

I just ditched my avatar pic because I got sick of it, but I might put another one up sometime. At the moment, I don't think there's any pics of me on JUB, but as I can't seem to get to my gallery, I don't know.

It's nice to be able to put faces to the names; but it makes little difference as to how I feel about the various guys here.

[StLHotBoi21]

I don't see any reason to post pics (other than the ones i have posted in the current pics thread) if someone wants to see more pics I would have no problem showing them, i'm not saying i'd send them something that i'm not comfortable with, but i'd share pics of myself. I personally prefer to know what the person i'm talking to looks like, i don't know why that's just the way i've always been.

[tbonez]

OMG, r u serious?

Um, ya. Dead serious.

Bound to happen I suppose. About five million souls within an hours drive...a disproportionate number of them JUBBERS I think.

I also live about 1 km from the gaybourhood in Toronto. It was a bit...weird. The guy had checked out my gallery on JUB and recognised me as someone he had seen around. I had no clue who he was but that was cool. Nice guy actually.

That said there are a few JUBBERS I'd just as soon not meet in person.

[Rafik]

I hadn't anything against posting photographies of me, but....

...full frontal and nude - face and cock together? I do not like to have them around in the world wide web. I am too bashful to do so. Even I use to go to nudist beaches - is there another way to enjoy the summer?

...a non-nude face pic? Sorry guys, ist's difficult to understand, but I got enough! stalked and bashed by sanctimonius hypocrites. I do not suffer persecution mania, but I am sure there are a..h.... behind the veils here, not these posting and expressing their opinions frankly.

Well, I think the hundreds of personal pics in my galleries tell enough about my life without being on them.

BTW, I would never post a pic of someone when I had the impression that the person did not like it or was shy when I shot the pic. It's a matter of respect.

...I want people to know me and who they are talking about, but i dont want to be known only for my looks or whatever. It seems to belittle my thoughts.

My looks are part of me though, just not the whole thing...

That's it!



When I was new on the board I published some pics of me - also full frontal. Take this one (I think about 9 years ago and about 9 kg less of weight...)
So you have an imagination about who you are talking to....

[herry]

Pictures all the way.

But I have the responses from people that I hoped to have when I first joined LMAO. And you can't say fairer than that.

[Rafik]

When I was new on the board I published some pics of me - also full frontal. Take this one (I think about 9 years ago and about 9 kg less of weight...)
So you have an imagination about who you are talking to....

Well, the attachment did not work...

Next personal pic in 9 years....

While looking at it LOL. Talk to my ... I've got headaches...

[tbonez]

Even I use to go to nudist beaches - is there another way to enjoy the summer?

I have no problem with nudity. Just spent over a week in the land of the dangling penises and titties.

Some yob decided to show up with his wife (fully dressed) and take pictures. As always happens, one of the locals calmly walked over and took his camera and threw it into the sea.

It's about context for me. Nude on a beach is perfectly natural and not 'sexual'. Nude in a library or grocery store is exhibitionism.

[NickCole]

People respond to me because of my looks and other external elements all the time. I like it but I also like that, here, people who respond to me do it totally because of what I write, what's in my head, my heart, my experience.

I've always had mixed feelings about being paid attention to because of my looks and, for me, being physically invisible is a fun departure.

We can be anything we want on the Internet, and one thing I've always wanted is to know what people would really think of me, what sort of person would pay attention to me and how would they respond to me, if they couldn't see certain external components that I'm well aware are part of what attracts some people to me.

I'm sure users with pictures get more attention, and definitely a user who posts a picture of himself as a good looking guy gets a lot more attention. People, especially today, are very visually oriented.

[Lube]

This is related, in a weird sense.

Even though I don't post photos of me, I do keep the same avatar. (Well, I've been meaning to change mine 'cause it's too dark, but I've been busy.)

Most people are visually oriented, and will "remember" you by your avatar. So if you change it all the time, they may forget who they're talking to.

I realized how important it is today, when I read something by Christopher-something. He suddenly changed his avatar to a photo of (presumably) himself (and a nice one, I might add!) but it totally threw me until I noticed his siggies was the same. And then it's like...ooohhhhh, now I know who that is.

It was a really strange sensation.

[ross_1986]

Um, ya. Dead serious.

Bound to happen I suppose. About five million souls within an hours drive...a disproportionate number of them JUBBERS I think.

I also live about 1 km from the gaybourhood in Toronto. It was a bit...weird. The guy had checked out my gallery on JUB and recognised me as someone he had seen around. I had no clue who he was but that was cool. Nice guy actually.

That said there are a few JUBBERS I'd just as soon not meet in person.

Well I guess it makes sense if you live near the 'gaybourhood' in Toronto.
I jsut find it weird b/c I haven't found anyone on here who lives where I live, so that owuld be weird for me.

[Rafik]

It's about context for me. Nude on a beach is perfectly natural and not 'sexual'. Nude in a library or grocery store is exhibitionism.

That's right!

This is related, in a weird sense.

Even though I don't post photos of me, I do keep the same avatar. (Well, I've been meaning to change mine 'cause it's too dark, but I've been busy.)

Here you have got your enlightened avatar! Better?

Tried to make it brighter, but than it is too red.

[tonyboy]

This is a very interesting thread. I asked the question here once if an avatar photo influenced the likeliness of a reply by jubbers to a thread. The response was overwhelmingly yes. Most of those added the caveat that the avatar shouldn't be a reason for responding, but guys being guys, that is how it is.
I must admit that I probably do the same think.

That being said, I think that Andreus, Midnight, and Tbonez are correct. Although I may not have been intitally drawn the the original posts of each without the avatar or the posting of pics, once I began reading the various posts/threads over a period of time I found the writing and the their thoughts to be the draw.

Lot's of handsome guys post photos here, avatar or galleries. Fun to look at that's for sure. But the true measure of the person is based on their continued posts.

I like to look at pictures of a good looking dude just as the rest of you do. Pics of guys add to the pleasure add to the fun off course.

But as Midnight said, if you want to get to know someone here the best thing is to read what they write, decide from those writings if the guy is someone you would choose as a friend.

Handsome guys really are a all over the place. Very few combine the good looks with a true and genuine soul. I think that the three jubbers I've mentioned here have that combination. I'm sure there are many others..... just haven't met you guys yet! lol

[Nightmare]

To be honest, most likely, if you've never posted your picture in your Avatar or your Signature, I most likely don't know what you look like. I never really dwell into other peoples galleries, if anything, it's just certain peoples blogs.

Although, Lube brings up a good thing with Avatars. I spot a lot of users like that, just by their Avatars, if I am just skimming through a certain thread.

[tbonez]

It's about context for me. Nude on a beach is perfectly natural and not 'sexual'. Nude in a library or grocery store is exhibitionism.

That's right!

In so many ways we NA's are so uncool. Women's breasts are no more 'sex organs' than the nape of my neck or an earlobe...Just very sensitive tissue. Even the 'non nude' beaches have scores of topless women bouncing about and lathering up their fun-bags.

Women breast feeding in public is another common sight. No one seems to bat an eye.

[Cuddly Bear]

Hmmm its hard to say. Since I no longer have pictures, a lot of JUB members are smart to know where to find pictures of me. But it seems when I did have pictures I didn't get a whole lot of attention. So I guess some people have it good when posting pictures and some have it bad, I had it bad.

[jzero]

I don't think you have to post your pics in order to be especially popular. Look at GL. Everyone loves him and I don't think he's ever put a single picture of his in his gallery.

[Cuddly Bear]

I don't think you have to post your pics in order to be especially popular. Look at GL. Everyone loves him and I don't think he's ever put a single picture of his in his gallery.

Well one can be really active throughout the board and gain a great amount of popularity. Ronboy is another example.

[Andreus]

yeah

rafik and I had begun a polite friendship for a few months before we traded pictures, if I remember correctly.

of course, I was really awestruck by how sexy rafik is, but It wasnt the reason he and I began sending PM's to each other. We traded PMs because we had quite a few things in common and we enjoyed each others posts in threads.

thats the best way, I think.

[The_Reaper]

Depends on the type of pictures.....

Or at least I haven't noticed a great deal of influx of people trying to talk to me just because I have a few self pictures in the old gallery.


Although, I do know it's nice to place a face with a name.