if you ask me, you just sound depressed and this is a byproduct of it. if you weren't so down, you wouldn't be looking at yourself so negatively. you have a lot of positive and good things going for you BUT obviously, you're not going to think about that if you're depressed.
have you sought help for this though? the last thing you need to do is get surgery for your dick. the only thing you'll be masking is your REAL problem.
I don't have a large dick either and I'm not happy with the size.
However, I have had pleasing results with the way I use it(With girls). But sometimes I just feel like that too, where I feel pretty small. I too have been looking for a way to improve girth, I just don't think there are any real ways out there...
They say that body modification is somewhat addictive. The reason being that if it doesn't make you feel better about your looks, you'll feel that it's because you didn't change enough (or in the right direction)...and if it does make you feel better, you'll rationalze that you'll feel even better after some more (especially once the buzz/euphoria of the first maneuver wears off).
It's not necessarily about you getting a surgery for something else. Once you go under the knife to fix your penis you might want to do it again if you aren't happy with the results. And believe me it's very common for guys to be unhappy after a penis enlargement since it is a very complex and risky procedure.
I know you are doing this for yourself but I still wanna point out that a lot of people are more turned off by a surgically altered penis than a small one. They often end up looking weird and functioning worse.
Congrats on your 8000th post!
You still have a small penis though!
Since he's just slightly under the average it should be much thicker than a finger.
and isn't it really about how your able to work your dick NOT how huge it is? that's what i hear people saying though. they say that you could be whatever size BUT if you know how to move your dick up in and out, you should be able to satisfy whoever you're fucking. is it true?
if you had no complaints about your performance, then does it really matter how big it is though?
(*8*) if you can go through all that to achieve what you want to achieve, then much power to you.
The average is around 5... so you aren't THAT much below.
Sorry, I can't identify. My cock is great - longer than most white guys, and pleasingly plump, and a nice fat mushroom head.
I don't usually tell people, though - I'm kind of self-conscious about it. I actually tell people it's not that impressive. And, despite being only 47, I'm having some erectile issues, so that's at least partly true. Nothing winds me up more than scoring with a hot butch beefy secretly bottom boy (ok, even this was like two decades ago) and not being able to get this fat dick up enough to give the guy what he's begging for.
When I was younger and had all that pretty curly blonde hair and was disturbingly skinny, a lot of people found me hot. A lot of people wanted to use my body who didn't really care how I felt. I had lots of great sex with lots of hot guys, but... sometimes it just felt so empty.
So, now, when people look right past me because I've got that slowed-metabolism potgut, I'm actually a little more comfortable.
And if they don't look right past me, and eye me up in a way that flares my trust issues, I let them know I have dentures and no upper teeth. I pull out my lip to show them how few lowers I have left, and how rotten those few are. Or I tell them about the antipsychotic medication I take at night to level out my wild mood swings, or how I've been poor all my life and probably always will be.
Somebody's got to try REAL hard to get to know the TRULY awesome bits of me, to get past all the disagreeable stuff I put out to keep me safe and alone.
Despite all that, though - I wouldn't trade any of it. I love myself. And my Big Cock.
So, sorry, if you're looking for coping strategies from people who can relate - I'm not one of them, and neither is my
Awesome Big Cock.
lol is this guy for real?
Hmm.. You know what guy! I seriously read this status, and I could relate to you. You're very self conscious about not having a big dick? To be honest, I have a big dick.. It's not so great as you think, in fact it gets very distasteful when people constantly makes comments on your penis size, or are only interested into you for that. Having a big dick is just annoying, and eventually when you get older, a person's dick is going to shrivel up, and look disgusting afterwards. lol. OKAY ANYWAYS!! I take it that you're not really happy or pleasant with your penis. Hell, I too am unhappy with my body biologically. I'm black, dark skinned, and have nappy hair. I don't like it either too. IN FACT, I HATE IT! I prefer death than being black! At times, I feel suicidal like you. I feel unattractive, and rejected. I don't want to feel or look black. lol The point is, you have to work with ya got! I'm not saying you have to get over it, but you have to get use to it. The disliking of our own body, and looks is just plain evil and unhealthy for you. You can't let your possessions posse you. Hell, you just gotta work with your "flaws". Maybe me being black, or you having a small penis is not such of a big deal as we think. ;) What you have others, others don't, and maybe they'd want it.
don't even worry about the problems in the gay community, worry about yourself, breh.
I thought he was full of hyperbole and sarcasm as a way of holding up a dark mirror for the OP...
Yeh think he meant all that?
I don't identify with that, either.
cuz I love me. even the effedup bits rock.
Look sweetheart, if there were actual surgical procedures that REALLY DID WORK 100%, I'd run myself and spend $30,000 to have it stretched to 8 inches, but NO such procedure exists yet. You have a better chance of having your small dick turned into a nice looking pussy. But stretching penises surgically is not viable option. At best you will get a funky looking pencil that you will have to constantly stretch for life and it still won't look as big to your liking. There are Hundreds of million of men on the planet who have an average to below average penis and they continue to function in society, have love life and even reproduce like everyone else. Get your mind fixed and you will be fine.
Is that the best he's got....
Okay, a real man is not determined by his genitals but his geniality..
Your Todger will look gi-normous in their child sized hands.
Yeah, I was laying it on about the
Awesome Big Cock
A bit (no pun intended) thick, and, yeah, it does seem a bit mean-spirited.
I know at times my posting style might seem enigmatic and (as if there were such a word) obfuscatory. But like I said above, it IS all true. Okay, I'm exaggerating a little (pun intended) about the dick part for the sake of emphasis.
I had hoped that you would be able to parse through to the intent of my post, which wasn't really mean-spirited at all. It's only that I'd read through four pages of posts that attempted to address your issue directly and were met with what we called in crisis-intervention parlance "yes, but"s. Not very helpful, those four pages, and neither was my indirect approach. Let me try for a little more clarity.
When I was younger, and people saw my cock, they might imagine all sorts of scenarios by which I pleased them. Often, due to the fact I didn't find them appealing, I was - despite my handy-dandy tool - ill-equipped to so please. Translation: I got a lot of unwanted attention because of my dick; people would overlook deeper aspects of me that I was proud of, because they were actually things I worked on and could affect, and instead focused on and admired arbitrary and superficial bits of me, such as my youth, my cock size or shape, my curly blonde hair, my etiolated physique.
I stepped away from our local "gay scene" for quite a few years, and am only recently rejoining it. One refreshing change that I've noticed is that guys that used to paw at me and make me uncomfortable are still focused on young skinny pretty boys with big dicks, and just look at me and talk to me as if I were an old friend - which I am. We have actual conversations now that aren't centered around them trying to sleep with me. And if they are, I'm more mature and equipped to deal with it, more equipped to recognize and respect flattery, and in some cases maybe even rethink my position.
This is my way of trying to show you the true color of the grass on the other side.
Also, my post was a little contrarian because I said I couldn't relate - obviously an untruth, because while I might be comfortable with my dick, I DO know what it is like to harbor insecurities about superficial things (my false teeth and hair loss) I cannot change. ALSO, I DO know what it feels like when people say "you shouldn't worry about X" and all I can think in response is, "well, I DO worry about X; it's part of who I am. It doesn't matter if nobody else cares about X - I care about X."
So how do I cope with that? Loving my insecurities as being a necessary part of the diversity of all human beings by virtue of being aspects of My Unique Self allows me to also love the things I'm insecure about - which allows me to joke with my barber and do fun and creepy things with my dentures on Halloween. I might worry that I freak out my date when I take my teeth out to suck his dick, but it doesn't stop me from poking fun at myself, if only to bring a goofy smile to someone else.
Thanks for hanging with me; I'm nearly done. I wish I could share with you an essay my friend showed me, once, that she wrote on the eve of her surgery to remove her breast implants. I never knew she had them; they weren't that big -apparently she was quite flat-chested. When she was younger, she had this dream of what her life might be like if only she had a little more boob. Well, life happens, as I'm sure you know. Don't get me wrong - she never regretted her augmentation surgery. She just aged, and the things that concerned her when she was younger became less of an issue as she got older, and she had an opportunity to have the implants removed before their age could give rise to complications. She wasn't able to decide, at the end of it all, if her implants bestowed any more confidence, though, than maturation and experience did - but she was careful to harbor no regrets. I hope you'll do the same.
Finally, one of my insecurities is that I don't want people to think I'm an asshole. I admire people who never apologize, who say what they want without caring what other people think. People tell me not to worry what anyone else thinks, to just be myself.
My Self has insecurities.
Can you relate?
"I have a large cock."
asshole it is then.
*points and laughs*
Exactly. I'm well-aware that well-hung people, rich people, and attractive people have their own set of problems. But that doesn't mean that small-dicked people, poor people, and ugly people wouldn't absolutely love the chance to experience those problems.
But who really wants the problem of weak teeth, to the point they rot out at a young age despite meticulous care, forcing one to a set of dentures? The difference is that while the OP may have augmentation surgery, I'll never have my original teeth back and there's nothing left on which to graft implants, even if I could afford it. That's one coping strategy lost to me.
It's hysterical how readily that my bragging about my "big dick" is so readily believed and accepted at face value - because of both the content (everyone lies about their dick) and context (everyone lies on the internet). My exaggerated "bragging" was certainly insensitive.
I suspect, TheFallenAsexual, you will discover that you will feel that pain until you do something about it (surgery) or until you decide you are tired of feeling that particular pain and thereby experience some sort of internal growth that allows you to move beyond it. Part of my intent was to add a little pain, I admit - but for a good cause.
Honestly, it breaks my heart that you would allow surgeons to slice open your otherwise perfectly healthy dick just because you are in a state of mind that may be more transitory than the effects of the surgery, for better or worse.
I'm sorry I couldn't bring you any more peace and that it appears I've done more damage than good here.
Best of luck with whatever you decide.
You are stuck with the penis you have.
The added size from surgery won't be real penis... it's fake.
Many guys will be turned off by it... and you might end up making it function worse or even not at all.
Surgery is simply not a good option.
You have DECIDED this is something you will never get over... which is the main problem.
Again... your negative mindset is your biggest problem. That you have managed to deal with some other issues does not change this.
And given the fact that he's made the decision that this is the problem, what is his next move forward? I can say with much certainty it isn't "unmaking the decision".
The small penis question was referred to the Cosmos
The response identified no one inquirer
but the advisement was clear
Less Attention to that Small Penis of Yours.
Redirect to your Small Mind and exercise both more.
TFA,my post was not directed at you. Use your 'many things' mind and READ the post.
At risk of being censured from the tower , my response to your rude remark to me (#231) and
the final part of that post directed to M10000, it is strictly and only my considered opinion that
being far thinner than a vast majority of men I encounter is not "perfectly fine." It fucking sucks.
Could not possibly suck as much as being you does...
Hasn't this thread shriveled up yet?
A penis is just a receptacle.
Do you meet gay men going around boasting about the size of their mighty bladder or the huge capacity of their appendix?
Fallen have you put me on ignore or are you just unhappy with my comments? :)
Penis size is important, but if it keeps you from being happy in life then the main problem is in your head not your body.
I'd understand it if you had a dysfunctional micro-penis. But being somewhat under average would not keep someone who is mentally healthy from having a happy life.
Admitting this to yourself is the first step to recovery.
Give it time, you'll start to worry less about it. I have dealt with having one and it only bothers me when others start complaining about their 8 inch cocks being microscopic.
It's funny Brandon,
When I was still 'growing' I had that young guy angst about size.
My friend 'instructor' (a bit older) back then said something like
baby, as long as that cock is as big as your tongue and half as agile...
nobody is ever gonna complain.
Sure I had that space in my speedo paranoia and them big swinging dicks
in the shower...but I got as much or more than they did.
A good mechanic can use a good tool...
A great mechanic can use any tool.
I'm pretty sure it's not the case. Which is why your problem is in your head and should be fixed there.
Come on Brandon...
The only reason they are complaining is so people will know they have larger than average cocks.
Talk about insecurity...to have to be known for the size of your cock. Not for your good deeds or
your artistry or your wit or anything you actually have done. The person with the big cock didn't
accomplish that, they were GIVEN that. BFD. WOW, I like to look at the big ones, and I would love
to have the country club committee tell me my speedo is inadequate for wearing in public.
Lets get real, in a 24/7 world how much of that time is tid up with cocks once you get your ashes
Just a note, lots of those 8-14 inch cocks are all talk no proof, EH?Some of them
clubs swung big but who's dick is harder?
I much prefer a small hot strong cup of coffee over a large diluted and luke-warm one. And I remember
eyes above a lot longer than the cock below. /sorry I rambled a bit.