Am I being taken advantage of?

May I recommend changing your number? I've done it once before and it is one of the better decisions I've made.

FUCK the ex just texted me saying he wants to kill himself. He wont pick up my calls or reply to texts.

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Originally Posted by animalius

It's an ongoing drama in my life. Read the following thread, or at least the OP, to get a little background.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/thre...ting-and-lying

Basically speaking, he's now my ex. When we were dating, he was having some financial problems, being a student and all. So, I put him in my phone plan (unlimited everything including 4G data for $30). I even paid for the monthly bill. After we broke up, I kinda left it alone and continued to pay for his portion.

Been dating this wonderful young man. In an effort to put everything behind me, last month I told the ex I was giving him a month notice to find another phone plan before I cancel his line. Got a call from him and... more drama. Anyway, somewhere in there he asked if he could keep the plan and then pay me $200 in January when he gets his student loan refund. After thinking about it for a couple days, I just texted him I'm extending it for another month and that I didn't care about the money.

Am I being taken advantage of? A lot of people in my life... actually everyone in my life has told me they would have canceled the line right away as soon as I found out he cheated on me and knowingly exposed me to an std. I considered doing it, but it just seemed too heartless.

Should I man up a little? What's the right course of action here? I don't want to be taken advantage of, but I don't want to be an ass either.

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Why did you say you didn't care about the money?
Big mistake !!!

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Originally Posted by animalius

FUCK the ex just texted me saying he wants to kill himself. He wont pick up my calls or reply to texts.

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Here's what you do: if you think it's a credible threat, you call the police and let them sort it out. He's trying to keep himself ingrained in you life; you can't let him.

Ok, now that I'm home safe and sound, here's what happened.

He texted me saying he was depressed and he misses me. I asked him about the guy he was dating. Then he just texted "I want to kill myself". Then he went quiet on me. Wouldn't pick up phone or return text.

So, I called the police on his ass. They got to him. He is now home safe and sound. We'll see what happens next.

You did the right thing. I think what should happen next is increasing distance between you. That kind of remark could be a call for help, in which case he has it now. Or it could be a rather twisted way to manipulate you and, knowing you would naturally be concerned, to torment you with no reply while you struggled to reach him. I think that's more than a little shitty, and you need to at least consider that's the kind of game he was playing.

This guy is 10 kinds of bad news. I think you need to make yourself more available for the decent guy who is in your life now, and to accomplish that by continuing to make yourself less available to your ex.

If you know he is now okay safe and sound, what condition was he in when the police got there? I'm guessing if they felt he was in any way a risk to himself, he would be in a hospital right now. That leads me to fear he really was being a manipulative bastard.

If you have to ask, the answer is more than likely yes and dating someone that you have to constantly need to support financially, and take care of, is not a relationship.

Judging from the other thread, sounds like he's a manipulative disease bag with borderline personality disorder. Get him out of your life regardless of how much you might be attracted to him. He's not a keeper in any shape or form.

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Originally Posted by looseliam

May I recommend changing your number? I've done it once before and it is one of the better decisions I've made.

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Now...follow his advice. He could call you again to tell you he's going to kill himself...again.

I despise people who are SO utterly selfish and cruel that, as a last resort, they will threaten suicide JUST so they can get back to their neverending mind-games of emotional manipulation and exploitation of people like the OP. It's the lowest of the low.

I'm no expert but they must be sociopaths or something - the deep psychological need to control and use other people more caring/naive/vulnerable than them, for their own gratification.

Hopefully this will be the last you hear from him - now he knows that you'll get the police involved he has no cards left to play. But if he persists, sever ALL contact with NO exception.

I'm glad you've moved on with your life. (*8*)

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Originally Posted by animalius

FUCK the ex just texted me saying he wants to kill himself. He wont pick up my calls or reply to texts.

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Tell the police or the local suicide line. It's their problem, not yours.

Call his friends if you know he's just down. The cheap bitch just needs a shoulder to cry on.

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FUCK the ex just texted me saying he wants to kill himself. He wont pick up my calls or reply to texts.

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Definitely time to change your number.

Don't inconvienience yourself and change your number because of him. Rather, cut off all contact with him, block his number and don't answer private calls or numbers you don't recognize.

So last night I told my bf what happened and he said he could only hope one day I have as much feeling for him as my ex. We then snuggled...

Oh gosh it feels so great dating someone normal. You guys should try it. It's better than cocaine.

Entertaining story.

Can you see that your normal boyfriend is hoping you'll stop taking up so much space in your head with this ex, and so much time in your day?

As for your ex, you're not responsible for his health, his finances or even his life. He is a troubled adult who is not ready for a relationship, and not ready for a friendship with you. I think you need to sincerely wish him well and not permit any future contact. I think you should apologise to the guy you are snuggling with for all the time it has taken (not to apologise for trying to do the right thing, but for how distracting it is to tie up all the loose ends with your ex) and then follow through by leaving your ex to figure out his life on his own.

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Can you see that your normal boyfriend is hoping you'll stop taking up so much space in your head with this ex, and so much time in your day?

As for your ex, you're not responsible for his health, his finances or even his life. He is a troubled adult who is not ready for a relationship, and not ready for a friendship with you. I think you need to sincerely wish him well and not permit any future contact. I think you should apologise to the guy you are snuggling with for all the time it has taken (not to apologise for trying to do the right thing, but for how distracting it is to tie up all the loose ends with your ex) and then follow through by leaving your ex to figure out his life on his own.

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You are absolutely right. My bf is kinda annoyed that cutting the phone line didn't end my relationship with the ex. But it's ok. I have a feeling nothing else will happen. There's really nothing else holding us together.

BF and I have a movie date tonight. I'm definitely gonna pay more attention to the bf and move on.

So which one is hotter? the ex bf or the current ? :lol:

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So which one is hotter? the ex bf or the current ? :lol:

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The ex has a muscular body type. Very muscular a actually. The current bf is a twink... hairless and skinny.... and talks and acts like a twink even though he denies it. Two completely different animals.

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The ex has a muscular body type. Very muscular a actually. The current bf is a twink... hairless and skinny.... and talks and acts like a twink even though he denies it. Two completely different animals.

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I guess he goes to gym alot ...

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Originally Posted by Telstra

I guess he goes to gym alot ...

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Here's a video of the ex. He's the guy on the right. If you wanna get together with him, I say go for it.



Here's the current.



See? 2 completely different animals.

LOL, dancers don't make money. Money talks too. :)
Your current bf looks cool, probably has a nice cock.

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LOL, dancers don't make money. Money talks too. :)
Your current bf looks cool, probably has a nice cock.

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You've no idea :p

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Originally Posted by animalius

Here's a video of the ex. He's the guy on the right. If you wanna get together with him, I say go for it.



Here's the current.



See? 2 completely different animals.

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man, no offense but i see no difference. :rotflmao: @ your ex boyfriend. he was killing those moves.

you know, i don't know how old your ex is but it sounds like you like dating younger guys and a lot of younger guys don't have their shit straight.

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You've no idea :p

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Yes i do, according to porn,
Your current bf looks like he got a big cock. :)

But young guys are so... tasty.

I just got a text message from the ex. It says "I love you". How would you interpret this message? Is he really not over me yet?

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Originally Posted by animalius

I just got a text message from the ex. It says "I love you". How would you interpret this message? Is he really not over me yet?

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He needs his phone bill paid before service is cut off...

^ lol.

My thoughts exactly.